dirkj3 Posted January 12, 2019 Author Posted January 12, 2019 Why did I quit playing games? I want to be a self-relianr person being in bondage to games. Hello Yesterday was pretty awesome felt no cravings and had some epic moments. I had a dream about gaming 2 specific games today but they semed more surreal than realistic. I woke with having some cravings That's why I wrote this post.cravings first weekend is coming 3
dirkj3 Posted January 14, 2019 Author Posted January 14, 2019 Hello! This night was extremely challenging! I couldnt sleep I had a PMO relapse after that I got a lot of things done I had cravings to play games in the night. The most important take away has been that you gotta be very intentional to make and take action on a daily agenda. One advice is to make that goal measurable. 1
Guest Posted January 15, 2019 Posted January 15, 2019 Be good on yourself. For me is PMO linked with games and internet overuse. Allow yourself M and O with your fantasy instead of artificial stimulation. Is worth it because you feel better about it. You are man and you have your own needs. Respect that. Forget video games. If you feel desperate or angry try to go out of the house. Its works for me. Mein freund Ich denke, du kannst damit umgehen. Versuchen Sie, diese schlechten Gewohnheiten zu ersetzen.
dirkj3 Posted January 17, 2019 Author Posted January 17, 2019 Ja das werde ich versuchen Dankeschön du sprichst ziemlich gut deutsch. Day 0 on all I don't know what to tell you I didn't wanted to quit games bad enough. I took my phone in my room listening to emotional tracks then I gamed and then I have been full of regret and shame and I watched porn and after that I was just escaping into yt vids until my mum came up telling me about my obligations. Today I woke up snoozed a little went up made a coffee wrote a gratitude list
Guest Posted January 17, 2019 Posted January 17, 2019 (edited) I want to say that I was there too! Gaming, porn and emotional music in the past a lot. But what helped me was changing my selftalk. You are good person. I'm proud of you. Theres no shame. And it works. I'm a long way from this way of life but still stumble. Some tips for you: Try checking some books about manliness : Iron John: A Book About Men, David Deida:The Way of the Superior Man Try checking this video: You not be disappointed! Former Navy Seal speaking. Then check some wisdom: Edited January 17, 2019 by Guest
dirkj3 Posted January 17, 2019 Author Posted January 17, 2019 Oh my God!! Thank you for that great videos!
Silverlining Posted January 17, 2019 Posted January 17, 2019 16 hours ago, katsudo19 said: Then check some wisdom: OMG I love this video (and need it). Thank you so much for sharing it!
dirkj3 Posted January 19, 2019 Author Posted January 19, 2019 I feel like a piece of shit. Yesterday was very hard I got a bad grade in chemistry and I haven't drawn 2 cells in histology... I have a negative attitude towards growing or learning in general and living in a fixed mindset for years. I can't see why repeating school material unless the exams are tearing me apart. because I'm reading or journaling while having a game running in the background. What da fucking hell am I doin? Do I have to get a near death experience to finally hit rock bottom!? I feel like my life is a rock bottom experience and I got numbed to the point where those experiences are not bothering me anymore. I see no need to change and I NEVER want to change but in myself I see that I m bored of the state to make my life extremely boring. I want to live a meaningful life but thast means to face life in all its forms. I'm aware that I got to face and life with the uncomfortable situations. I 1
Guest Posted January 20, 2019 Posted January 20, 2019 (edited) Some tips from personal experience: A. Change selftalk! I love you, You are good enough, You are perfectly imperfect etc! It's working! B. Visualise. Not to try hard visualisation on things you want or insignificant things. Start visualise how you love yourself, try see your soul laughing. C. Go in front of the mirror and say: I love you and I will do everything for you. I will fix what is need to be fixed. D. Try to change attitude to life. Love life. From every fucking thing that I have tried. This worked! I read your last post. Exactly my situation 2 years ago! Love is the answer. Edited January 20, 2019 by Guest grammar
dirkj3 Posted January 20, 2019 Author Posted January 20, 2019 1 hour ago, katsudo19 said: Some tips from personal experience: A. Change selftalk! I love you, You are good enough, You are perfectly imperfect etc! It's working! B. Visualise. Not to try hard visualisation on things you want or insignificant things. Start visualise how you love yourself, try see your soul laughing. C. Go in front of the mirror and say: I love you and I will do everything for you. I will fix what is need to be fixed. D. Try to change attitude to live. Love live. From every fucking thing that I have tried. This worked! I read your last post. Exactly my situation 2 years ago! Love is the answer. Thank you very much! I appreciate you reading my post!
Guest Posted January 21, 2019 Posted January 21, 2019 (edited) Check This: Edited January 21, 2019 by Guest
dirkj3 Posted January 21, 2019 Author Posted January 21, 2019 12 hours ago, katsudo19 said: Check This: This is a good video. I never focussed on my life but today I could myself admitting having a fixed mindset and that I am afraid of the future. Today is my second day without games 1
fawn_xoxo Posted January 22, 2019 Posted January 22, 2019 (edited) Hello. I feel like you could benefit from pausing, a lot. Whenever you get urges or feel lost and overwhelmed, remind yourself that you don't need to take action or a decision at that very moment. Take a pause, consider things. Write your thoughts down, extensively, until there's nothing left unexpressed and then try to understand yourself by reading what you wrote. Write down your ideal day, how you would love to be, if you could be the director in a movie about yourself, describe everything. Then compare what your urges are telling you with that you desire from your life, and if the urges are not helpful to you becoming closer to who you desire to be, then do an activity that is helpful instead. We are our actions, because actions involve choice. You do not choose your thoughts, your urges are a consequence of your past. But what you do today will have a direct result on who you are tomorrow and what urges you will or not have then. It's a tough thing to accept that this process hurts. But discipline hurts in the moment you do it, yes, it does. But if you say no to the urge today, tomorrow you will get to experience the pride and satisfaction for doing what is good for you. Otherwise you will experience another pain, harsher and heavier than discipline. That's the pain of regret. I ask myself, do I want to experience the pain of discipline now or the regret later? It helps me decide. Maybe it will help you too. Edited January 22, 2019 by fawn_xoxo 2
dirkj3 Posted January 22, 2019 Author Posted January 22, 2019 5 hours ago, fawn_xoxo said: It's a tough thing to accept that this process hurts. But discipline hurts in the moment you do it, yes, it does. But if you say no to the urge today, tomorrow you will get to experience the pride and satisfaction for doing what is good for you. Otherwise you will experience another pain, harsher and heavier than discipline. That's the pain of regret. I ask myself, do I want to experience the pain of discipline now or the regret later? It helps me decide. Maybe it will help you too. Yes have to pause sometimes but I sometimes am busy and I don't do it. Today I woke up at 6am but still got the things done though about 20 minutes later. There's a lot to the water analogy @katsudo19 posted earlier. Thank you for your comments!
Silverlining Posted January 22, 2019 Posted January 22, 2019 11 hours ago, fawn_xoxo said: do I want to experience the pain of discipline now or the regret later? That's a good line. I'm gonna write it down and stick it to my desktop monitor. 1
dirkj3 Posted February 12, 2019 Author Posted February 12, 2019 On 1/27/2019 at 8:14 PM, katsudo19 said: Hey! Are you okay man? No I AM a little better. I am on my day 1 I miss games and we are having exams in 69 days . I want to take the approach to make good habits easy and bad ones more difficult. I don't know how but that doesn't matter this time. I 'll start with putting my class folders on my desk wh3n I come home from school. 1
dirkj3 Posted February 12, 2019 Author Posted February 12, 2019 Hey I am prepping for my exams that will start end of April. 68 days left to push into 4 mayor subjects. I am typing one subject that includes 2 years of material. Pushed in 4000 words of pure typing with decent speed and decend accuracy. That's a mistake. Today I have 4 hours available which I want to put 2 h in typing and 2 in repeating Never have repeated anything corious how this will work out. Whether I can actually achieve that. 1
dirkj3 Posted February 13, 2019 Author Posted February 13, 2019 Hello Doing great no to little desire to play games. 2
dirkj3 Posted February 23, 2019 Author Posted February 23, 2019 Hello I dont want to game because they add more soup into my pain soup of discomfort. 1
Guest Posted February 23, 2019 Posted February 23, 2019 (edited) Man must develop mind, heart and willpower. How are you? Things going well or you fall repeatedly? You are Old Timer here. I know the struggle man. We both know. But you need to create new dirkj3 with certain vision and goals. I wish you much strong as you can possess. You are good person. I wish you my best bro. Maybe this interview give you more hope: Edited February 23, 2019 by Guest
dirkj3 Posted February 23, 2019 Author Posted February 23, 2019 26 minutes ago, katsudo19 said: Man must develop mind, heart and willpower. How are you? Things going well or you fall repeatedly? You are Old Timer here. I know the struggle man. Tbh. I don't have a specific goal.I want to face life in all its forms face especially the uncomfortable moments. The issue is I slack taking time for myself, building up habits, focussing on the important subjects. Before games I have reacted up to 100% to the day Now Sometimes when I am in the mood I am working but on the wrong things that take a lot if time and have little effect on success. Sometime I get up later and then I'm like you have fucked up the early morning having no time to do your gratitude list, not experiencing morning silence and calmness. Then the day has started pretty wasted and its a lot more difficult to get back on track with regaining purpose of the day. I guess I should use discipline to get up early writing a schedule prior to the day and focus on the most important steps that are listed for that day. Could someone tell me what I could optimise?
dirkj3 Posted February 24, 2019 Author Posted February 24, 2019 relapsed yesterday night after that porn relapse , Now I dwell on gaming to feel good after that relapse How can I change my attitude to being a game quite to an absolute retard so fast Is it my attitude to relapse? I thing I should have gone to bed earlier.(around 10pm not 12pm with chips and dip..
Guest Posted February 24, 2019 Posted February 24, 2019 Admit that you have problem, love yourself unconditionally and solve your problems. I give you truth. You are here so long and you only bitching. Get your ass up and do what you exactly need to do and you know it and you still procrastinate. Dont be like those people who trying to give up games but they never will. I have time man. Today I will play a little or PMO a little. It's okay its normal and you will be in same situation for next 10 years. Its scary AF. Keep in mind! After 5, 10, 15 years you want to be that guy who tell everybody excuses and still living in self destroying habit loop? Look at the mirror bro. I wish you much love and strength.
dirkj3 Posted April 27, 2019 Author Posted April 27, 2019 Hello It's been awhile Tomorrow I'll have my next big exam and I'm improving on time mangement and getting my morning routine together. Setting priorities before learning is a very hard thing to get into at least for the beginning. I noticed that I pull my eyebrows and cannot sleep well the last 2 weeks. Btw it's my day 4 on no pmo and games. Whereas games had been more like a after habit of a pmo relapse. I am feeling weird and had some headache today. Almost relapsed and went outside to have got up at 10(Wanted to get up at 5.30 as usual. Thanks for reading!
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