Day 6!

[Onlysoul]

Good work!

 

On emotions: I learned that is good go through every emotion and observe them. I'm angry so i'm angry etc. I reveal my emotions. I feel better than.

 

[dirkj3]

Hello

I am having cravings to game because I looked on the Play store shit.

I want to keep away from triggers or any cues that lead me the way down to the addiction.

I have been reading the power of habit by Charles Duhigg

What I don't understand is:

1.How long does it take to create a passion for a new healthy habit?

 

[Mettermrck]

I wonder if the habit comes before the passion? I noticed that as I started exercising, I actually enjoy it now. It's maybe not a passion but I apply myself more. When I first started, it was more of a necessity, something I felt was important. You might need to try things first and then see if it ignites a passion.

[Onlysoul]

1.How long does it take to create a passion for a new healthy habit?

30-90 days :O)

[dirkj3]

Thank you guys for your help!

I don't really know on what day I am at but I can tell that if I wouldn't have a plan to what to do I would be close to a relapse.

It has been a tough time while I am striving against 3 addictions at the same time.

I have no desire to game but to fight against porn is a lot harder for me.

after reading in  the Power of habit I got that we as a community can work miracles by helping us out of uncomfortable situations and I don't know whether Gamequitters is also for people who struggle with porn.

I want to respond to your comments so that a real conversation is going.

 

[Mettermrck]

It's up to you, dirk, in how to fight. I had to quit several addictions at once (soda, gaming, porn) and I believe Moe did the same thing. If you can push through the withdrawal, it can be liberating. But it can also mean multiplied withdrawal symptoms. You might want to stay focused on one change at a time. Just plan your time well. And if you struggle with porn but avoid gaming, make that a victory in your mind.

[Tom2]

Yeah I saw a couple of people who decided to quit watching porn. You can find your companion easily if you check other's journals.

[dirkj3]

Thank you @Tom2 for your great advice!          Today is my day 18 on nogames and i don't feel different. the urges to game are there again.That is interesting!!!! Unfortunately, I had a porn relapse yesterday . Having my phone in my broom at 2 am jn the night is no fun! I watched a horror movie before so I think k that might have triggered me.Other than that I am currently out working in the garden which is awesome!!! I always hate to do things in the garden.            the issue is that I am not persistent enough to make small things like  make a daily structure a habit.I have been working at that but I don't know how to add a good reward for this.    Do you have any advice how I can tackle that the best?

[Tom2]

Why don't you use 'Habitica'? I began using this from yesterday and it seems to work well. You can reward yourself using this app, even at a small thing. It has a similar system as RPG so it makes your life more exciting. You can also find company who has the same goals through party and guild system.

[dirkj3]

I can try this out

 

[dirkj3]

Day 0 Nogames

I relapsed a couple days ago i deleted my google play account

i downloaded a game and gamed for comfort...I am tired

i wasnt aware of ´the knockback that gaming gives me I definiteky never want to experience that shitty experience of being exhausted again!

 

Edited July 9, 2017 by dirkj3
I did some watering the plants and i went with my dad and my brother to an car / mototcyle exhibition!

[Mettermrck]

That's what'll help you avoid relapsing in the future, being aware of the tired foggy feelings and the regret. You'll be stronger next time!

[Onlysoul]

It's okay my German friend. Rethink your attitude to life and set system for yourself (for me is perfect GTD- David Allen). Be good on yourself, love yourself and get up and move forward. Start believing that you can do it! You can do everything to be more complete person with a new way of thinking, working and living. I believe in you! We are here to support you! 

Edited July 9, 2017 by Onlysoul

[Onlysoul]

 

[dirkj3]

Thank you guys I feel refreshed by your encouragement!

[dirkj3]

I have been listening to the gamequitter podcast recently and i stumbled on the following statement: "living to the fullest"

i realized that I have some issues regarding the statement!

i dont feel like being able to be in that kind of lifestyle yet. i dont know whether the feeling to expand myself will come from itsef while goin through the detox.

I think that in order to fulfill the statement i gotta go to town every day make challenges that push my comfort zone.. i feel very overwhelmed by all that.. I dont know whether it should come from me to go to town or does the urge to go to the city comes from itself?

i am a little confused. the statement creates an immense pressure like what if i dont be like that?!

 

Thank you Mettermrck and onlysoul for your posts!

[dirkj3]

It's okay my German friend. Rethink your attitude to life and set system for yourself (for me is perfect GTD- David Allen). Be good on yourself, love yourself and get up and move forward. Start believing that you can do it! You can do everything to be more complete person with a new way of thinking, working and living. I believe in you! We are here to support you! 

I appreciate you reading the power of Habit!!!

Wè can help us out that way

 

[Mettermrck]

I think you should see it as a process and not an overnight flipping of the switch. Working on detoxing from gaming is just a step on that process. Don't overwhelm yourself by thinking too far ahead.

[dirkj3]

Thank you my friend !!

[dirkj3]

Hello

Sorry for the delay

I gotta put myself on track again after trying some things out that didn't work at all.

Yesterday I have been in Quedlinburg and o was gamin here and there for a little(great mistake)

I couldn't enjoy the town to the fullest( I have never been there before)

This morning I was getting up with 3 hours of sleep in it is raining quite heavy.

I noticed that when I do the detox I am not feeling too much but when I game I feel all the negative things from being a little anxious that u could get caught to having no motivation at all.

I know all the negative things toowell. It Sucks to go through the same crap over and over again.

But for me being on a detox I don't feel anything.

I understand  relapses but I have a had time getting back on track while the grip on gaming got right to me the longer I game, which I don't want to do.

 

[Mettermrck]

I call it "turbulence" when I dip back into old habits (eating, gaming) that make me anxious or fearful about going back to a bad place. If I experience this kind of turbulence, then I know it was right to move on from the habit.

Edited July 12, 2017 by Mettermrck

[dirkj3]

Hello people,

 

I'm Here I deleted my mobile game.

I did that because there is no way around I gotta make the decision. I am interested how I will feel in the darkest moments I wanna see myself being able to feel life not just numb it and take only the good stuff out of it.

I don't want to be apathetic  about going outside.

I am scared about making that decision because I feel like that the little off time frkm detox undid my entire process.

I am getting irritated of not looking at my phone

I don't want that I wanna level myself up going through the zones of life I wanna reverse the pull that gaming had jn me and use it to my advantage!!

[Mettermrck]

Glad to see you returning to the detox. Getting away from games is an excellent way to truly get in touch with how you're feeling about your life. You are awesome for detoxing! ?

[dirkj3]

I have deleted my Google account and all my gaming stats save games etc. are gone!

I don't know how to handle with it I dipped back into binge gaming to fill the void of the lost account. I feel like a part from me is vanished.

Yesterday there wasn't problem at all but today I have thought a long time about the process of quitting gaming.

Probably I wanted to see whether 90 days are cool and then go back to gaming. but t then I figured that I cannot detox when there is still some voices in my head that urge me to game.

 

[Mettermrck]

Just work through the 90 days and then decide. You're going to do great!