June 19, 20178 yr Hello,My suggest to you is trying meditation. Meditate only 10 min per day and you see soon results ! You become more aware of your feeling and emotions. Second advice: Past is past, you define yourself and your future. You are good enough ! You have wrong paradigm in your life. Try read books adout manliness. Last advice: Make strong commitment that you do everything to be better person. Dont be like these guys who make exceptions, play games and then cry on this forum!
June 20, 20178 yr Way of thinking: Paradigms are a multitude of habits that guide every move you make. They affect the way you eat, the way you walk, even the way you talk. They govern your communication, your work habits, your successes and your failures.
June 24, 20178 yr Author Way of thinking: Paradigms are a multitude of habits that guide every move you make. They affect the way you eat, the way you walk, even the way you talk. They govern your communication, your work habits, your successes and your failures.How can i get a better paradigm?Hey i am on my day 3 on nofap and day 5 on Gamingi couldnt sleep very well last night. I slept the day before for about 10hours.AnywaY, the newest podcast by Jason and Cam abozut commitment was a real eyeopener I always was not sure what they meant with the sio called flow state..Now i can say that it is something you really indulge in like for me it was gaming and fapping.since then i am trying to mnot worry about habbits that much rather than focus on a few things, activities that i try to create flow.For example i try to get my daily Russian on Duolingo done. Sometimes i go for a walk to the town.For today i ate at Ikea ibroke the diet to keep 2200 calories a day.. I would recommend wikifit for A good app to loose weight.One other thimgs that i like on my experiece so far is that iamm getting a little more happier than i used to be!!!
June 24, 20178 yr Good work! Keep going. You already changed you paradigm. Bad= spend time with gaming, porn etc Good= every day i will make some activities which leads me to better life. Ich wünsche dir viel Kraft !
June 24, 20178 yr Ich wünsche dir viel Kraft !I wish you much strength, onlysoul? Or great strength? Haha my German is rusty. I took many years of it in college and one of my new replacement activities is Duolingo with German
June 25, 20178 yr Author Good work! Keep going. You already changed you paradigm. Bad= spend time with gaming, porn etc Good= every day i will make some activities which leads me to better life. Ich wünsche dir viel Kraft !Ich wünsche dir viel Kraft !I wish you much strength, onlysoul? Or great strength? Haha my German is rusty. I took many years of it in college and one of my new replacement activities is Duolingo with German.DaDankeschön!!Es ist schön zu sehen, dass ihr versucht euer deutsch zu verbessern!!That is very encouraging!!
June 25, 20178 yr Author When I woke up i feel like i have less and less eneegy due to me bot able to sleep before 2 am.I don't know what else to do over night time.everything runs fine except for the sleep.Last night it was even more difficult. I described it one time when studying for an exam for 2 weeks... i was like Each day the nofap bites more and more energy.I failed multiple times to keep my diet..for me it is very difficult to say no to chocolate when having a hard time..
June 25, 20178 yr I recently overeat myself and its ok. Just go on. Focus on your habits, goals, follow your way. Stumble are okay. Edited June 26, 20178 yr by Onlysoul
June 26, 20178 yr I recently overeat myself and its ok. Just go on. Focus on your habits, goals, follow your way. Stumble are okay. Totally agree with him. Hang in there!
June 27, 20178 yr Author Hey guys i fapped yesterday oer night. i have don all the things that i wanna do but overnight the sleep got worse.i ws justifying to fap and that went downroad.I listened to some gQ podcast the second one where they talk about Jasons story from that on i figured that alternating activities may be good.I was doing all the time the same things . lfe became boring and stale. every day is awesome i can do whatever i want. but i hate those nights!!i figured i could make it the next day but it was all extremely stale. I was probably hitting withdrawals.I still dont game and i still have to cravings to it. but to fapping?!anyway after i fapped about 2 am i woke up at 5.30 ;6.40 and at 8 am. it sucked all.i could have stay awake throuhgh the night until i am so exhausted which will force myself to sleep!
June 27, 20178 yr Man stick to your goals, habits, new way of living and stop thinking about relapses etc. Its past. Even dont give attention on those things. Move on. Dont think about it on any way and for god sake no in negative way. If something have your attention and its mixed with strong emotions it will only strengthen. Don't fight with it and don't pay attention to it!
June 27, 20178 yr Author then what's the point of having a counter to see how many days you are of gaming?!
June 27, 20178 yr Don't beat yourself up, Dirk. It's a battle but you learn from each relapse, you learn more about yourself, the triggers, danger times, etc.
June 27, 20178 yr I just wanted to say: Be good on yourself! Counter is good tool to see your progress.
June 27, 20178 yr Author Excuse me Onlysoul I have misunderstood what you meant.Man stick to your goals, habits, new way of living and stop thinking about relapses etc. Its past. Even dont give attention on those things. Move on. Dont think about it on any way and for god sake no in negative way. If something have your attention and its mixed with strong emotions it will only strengthen. Don't fight with it and don't pay attention to it!What do you mean by that highlighted sentence?Do you mean that the cravings to game will get stronger or when I fight with cravings they will cone back even bigger?
June 28, 20178 yr Author Heyday 9 has arrived in No games.I had a weird dream about me gaming.I was in a game that was so crazy.. How are we able to deal with the increasingly difficult cravings.For sure I can ignore it when the crawling are not as strong.what about facing like 59 days... from that point the cravings may be enormous right?
June 28, 20178 yr First 2 weeks are bad, and then you would think that you are in control and you will think: its okay to play and you relapse. So be aware!
June 28, 20178 yr When I was at the first attempt which lasted 45 days, there were almost no craving until I reach 40-44 days. In my case, I missed my gamer friend once, when it was day 45, and that was the vulnerable time. I missed my gamer friend because there were huge amount of tasks to do. I got overwhelmed so that I became emotionally weak. That's why I tried to reach my friend again.Doing something else that drags your attention is the best way to deal with craving. Something that doesn't give you much stress. I hope you have a great day then!
June 28, 20178 yr Author Thank you very much for your amazing support!!I used to be at day 49 in nofap when gaming wasn't a real problem for me.I understand Tom2 is referring to.
July 1, 20178 yr Author DAY 13!!I have come to the point of my best streak this year and I feel like it could have been months earlier!After taking some time off time flies by!I haven't been noticing a negative attitude in myself which is extremely important.Unfortunately I have been watching porn yesterday when I was a little drunk it didn't feel like the best think to do.There are days where I am productive getting things done jn sn incredibly speed.and das where I think like: "Man c'mon there is more than just watching Let's plays!!one thing that is very important:if you don't make a structure for the next day you tend to let yourself go! through the day !!I am now feeling like that I am getting more of being the conductor of myself.Other than that I am currently reading the Power of Habit in German to even out some things that I didn't understand in english.Appealing for German quitters would probably be the link that I put down here: https://youtu.be/cVEOoenPaEUit is about how to increase willpower on a daily basis!How are you people would describe your emotions?
July 1, 20178 yr That's great Dirk! You're doing well keeping away from gaming and let's plays. I know the porn can be tough to battle but keep at it. It's worth the effort.
July 2, 20178 yr How are you people would describe your emotions?I don't usually reveal my emotions to others. I don't tell others how I'm feeling, but I can't prevent myself from showing my emotions unconsciously.
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