Tom2's 2nd attempt

[giblets]

Here to help brother!

[DeepSpaceAI]

Hey Tom! Glad to see you're moving forward in a positive way. I like your gratitude list! I think I might try making one as well.

[Tom2]

Day 10 was good

 

<Gratitude list>

1. I'm glad that I can take online lecture for civil engineering.

2. I'm grateful for the shower after exercising.

3. I'm grateful for the fact that I could deal with doubt in myself with more ease.

[Tom2]

Day 11 was great

- It was productive. I'm happy right now. I want to sleep as it's 12 am. 

 

<Gratitude>

1. I had pizza this evening.

2. I have 2 months of vacation.

3. I can drink water whenever I want. lol

[Onlysoul]

Be aware on point 2 because you dont want end up with laziness in all vacation! It's a friendly reminder because traps are everywhere! 

 

Edited June 30, 2017 by Onlysoul
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[Tom2]

Day 12

- It wasn't a productive day. I'll do better on Sunday.

- My mom got mad because I didn't do the dishes right after we had dinner. I was tired for some reason and it wasn't an important thing that has to be done right away. So It was irritating. She used some bad words to me. I just ignored because I wanted to get rest. (I did the dishes after getting rest. Can't understand why I have to do that 'right away'. Perhaps my perfectionism is influenced by my mom.)

 

<Gratitude>

1. Mom and I enjoyed watching <Dark knight rises> while having dinner.

2. I went back to English academy. It was good to meet instructor again.

3. I'm relieved because there's Sunday.

[Onlysoul]

Yeah I have exactly same experience with my mom and grandmother. Everything must be done now! Not later. This way I was manipulated when I was younger. These days I laughing at them and making things whenever I want.

Edited July 2, 2017 by Onlysoul
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[Tom2]

Day 13

- Quite good. I made a plan to finish the online lecture for civil engineer certificate, within 60 days. I want to finish 'surveying' part in 10 days. I'm not sure whether I can finish the whole lecture. However, it would be worthwhile if I finish 70-80% of the goal. No perfectionism. I split the big goal into small ones.

 

<Gratitude>

1. I didn't waste the whole day even if it wasn't perfect day.

2. Roasted beef that my mother made this evening was great.

3. Glad to read Onlysouls' reply.

[Onlysoul]

I like how much time you spend on learning. You inspired me to look out some online courses and pick up one! But i have my last 30 euro  so it's must be free.

[giblets]

How do you keep yourself motivated to study for so long during one day? I think you could teach me a few tricks! I get distracted too easily.

[Mettermrck]

I love roast beef....or roasted beef hehe. That's something to be grateful for!

[Tom2]

How do you keep yourself motivated to study for so long during one day? I think you could teach me a few tricks! I get distracted too easily.

I have three methods. I also get distracted easily when I study. I'm an amateur in learning something but I hope these tips could help you.

1. Making my own note : I make my own notes using Google Docs. Usually, studying was just consuming contents for me. I got bored quickly when I just read text and solve some questions. So I made my own note. It was very interesting and fun because it helped me to organize thoughts. Every textbooks are not perfect. I don't have to read the whole text in those so I can summarize the subject easily with Google Docs. It's very easy to edit the documents so it's more powerful than paper notes. And I can review the things that I've learned through this, anywhere because I don't have to carry bunch of papers. I only need a cellphone. Sometimes I can share my notes with my friend and it's also very joyful to work on it together. It's similar to wikipedia or open source things.

2. Studying with video courses : I can manage my time easily with video courses. When I watch something that I already know enough, I can skip the time. It's very flexible. It also helps me stay focused because I can skip when I get bored.

3. Studying with other people : It's more active than just studying alone as I and others can discuss when we have questions. It's specifically adaptable to learn something via team project. When I study with other people, I get more responsibility so I can focus more.

+ pomodoro technique is also a good trick to be productive.

 

 

[Tom2]

Day 14

- Today was quite ok, but I need to study more tomorrow. I must.

 

<Gratitude>

1. Fixed some electric stuff in my parent's apartment.

2. It rained cats and dogs.

3. There was a pair of sandals in the closet.

Edited July 4, 2017 by Tom2
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[Mettermrck]

Was there a pair of sandals or just one? ?

[Tom2]

Was there a pair of sandals or just one? ?

A pair of sandals .... lol

[Tom2]

Day 15

- It was a lazy day. I always think about the amount of works to do before I even start. And that makes me tired. That makes me seek something that entertains me. I should start studying right away when I sit on the chair, but it's not easy.

[Onlysoul]

I'm making that mistake a lot too. But its okay. We need just make things we want. Right now no tomorrow or next year. 

[Mettermrck]

I was watching a video with Cam today and he talked about the "one thing", figuring out what is the most important thing you want to do that day and focus on that.

[Tom2]

Day 16 was good.

- Started 'habitica' and set up a new goal. Studying 4 or 6 hours everyday. I really need to increase the time. I can study 4 hours a day without much effort but studying 6 hours is not easy for me yet. I want to make the blue line rise. The graph doesn't look good until now, but I will change it. The red graph is not that important because it also includes productive tasks. The important thing is the blue graph! Whoa there were a lot of days when I didn't study during the spring semester... I must change. The reason why I decided to use habitica is I found myself being lazy when I sit on a chair. I should start studying as soon as possible after I sit, but I feel always bored and lose momentum when I try to open a textbook. I should be 110% into civil engineering, but I keep looking back. I've already decided to keep studying but I sway too often.

 

- I joined a group where people who are interested in getting civil engineer certificate gather. I couldn't find any of my friends trying to get one, so I had no choice but to find similar people on the internet. I will talk to them more and ask some questions.

Edited July 5, 2017 by Tom2
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[Tom2]

Day 17

- Ok... I wasn't decisive today. I already made the choice, but I keep looking back. It's time to stop. I thought about gaming in moderation today, but I made the conclusion that I can't control myself. It's proven by my journals, relapse thread, and experience. It's time to let it go. I need to focus now. One good thing is that I made up my mind. Another good thing is that I didn't play video games even though I had craving and nostalgia. Nothing much to say. I didn't like to leave this post, but I think it's still part of my journey so I decided to leave the record.

[Mettermrck]

We all get those temptations to just moderate. But you thought about it calmly and realized it wouldn't stay moderate for long. That was a victory for today.

[Tom2]

@Mettermrck Thanks a lot! I'm very relieved now.

[Onlysoul]

Yesterday at my job interview we discussed about Counter Strike 1.6 and reawaken the memories on good old no stress days. But these days are gone! Now we are adults who must do what they like to do! 

[giblets]

As soon as I get those feelings or thoughts I now rip myself out of the environment. If I am at home, I go outside, and if I am at work I leave the office and go for a walk around to talk to people. Don't let it plant its roots!

[Tom2]

@giblets Yeah. Today is getting much better! I'm very excited and proud of myself.