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  1. What does everyone's morning routines look like? I listened to a recent podcast with Penn Juliette (from Penn & Teller fame) where he talks about extensive journalling and reflecting every day. The part that stood out to me the most was that he allocates time every morning to go back through his old journals - 1 week, 1 year and 10 years in the past - and reflects on how much he has grown, the issues he is still battling with and general grounding on himself before tackling the day. I forsee the biggest challenge for me doing this is finding the time to jam it in - especially in the mornings. I am really sluggish in the mornings and generally lose about 30-45 minutes after I wake up to get my body going. That time is usually spent arguing with myself over how much I want to go back to bed or trying to get my body going (mainly ready for a 10km+ run). This time would be the ideal time to claw back and use for this journalling/reflection. So, what do you do to get going quickly in the morning? I don't do caffeine anymore, but I drink a litre of water as soon as I wake up, and start moving around to get the blood flowing. I won't be able to read the responses for a few weeks but I am looking forward to the discussion.
  2. Yes - perfectly normal. Addiction is the inability for someone to self-regulate regardless of the outcomes/impacts/punishment. I am not so much a console gamer but a huge PC gamer. After spending so many years I have tried so many tricks to get games working or bypass rules etc. As I told @stablish once, "Give me enough time, I'll try to play games on a toaster." I got around it by downgrading. I packed up my PC, gave away my graphics card, and bought a $190 laptop and put linux on it. Now if I really want to play games there is extra steps between me and doing that - which usually ends up with me giving up or getting distracted by something else. You're not crazy mate, just feeling the symptoms of addiction. You will have a completely different perspective after 90 days.
  3. I feel you mate. This is a tough nut to crack - and why people then fall back into gaming as the easy option. I too go through some days where I wonder where am I going with my life because there feels like there is no enjoyment. From my experience, all I can say is you need to be more present in the moment. When I stop looking for something more, something to entertain me, and just take each moment or each environment for what it is, I feel a lot better. It's an easy thing to say but hard to really subscribe to, so will take some practice. A really good example of where it works for me quite well, is when you're in a queue. I always see people on their phones as the people who are getting agitated for having to wait so long. But standing there, without a phone, just taking in the moment and their environment, are the people who are calm with waiting. Rather than "trying to find something", you need to reframe what you are doing now. Yes of course have a hobby or two, but the thought of always having to find something enjoyable for you to recreate means that you will never be fulfilled with what you have.
  4. That's a good pace bro. You would achieve the dream of a marathon in less than 4 hours with that pace. Wrong mindset hombre, you didn't make time for your Spanish Lesson. A person who says they are too busy is a person with unclear priorities.
  5. giblets

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    When you get to the 20 day range, things become a lot easier because your new routine will have taken root. That's when you start getting a whole lot more clarity and begin making plans for post the detox. Be careful of having too much spare time - that's an opportunity for your brain to tell you that it's ok to game and you have nothing to lose - just like @EpicJ0J0 said. Until then, keep changing your environment!
  6. That's me bud! Feels like only yesterday. We double down on the "flashback" episode of Gaming the System, number 003 I think it was, where Jason gives me the opportunity to talk about how my life has changed since the detox.
  7. There is always room for improvement - it's when we think there is nothing else to learn that we stop growing as an individual. I seem to always get the same result from the MBTI - though that's probably a good thing. I always get the Defender - ISFJ. It's scarily accurate and tells me I have something in common with Vin Diesel (lol). Though the personality test that really made the lightbulb come on for me was the DISC analysis. Again, probably all the same stuff under different titles but wow, it really pierced the soul.
  8. In 3 more days you'll be up to episode 14, the detox toolbox! You must be so excited to listen to it that you can barely sleep ?
  9. G'day Rojo! I can say that gaming most likely directly contributed to you being socially awkward! You haven't given yourself time to work on those subtle social skills which makes conversations and introducing yourself so much easier. I've been there before (and probably am still there), and you've already made the hardest step by acknowledging and being aware of it - now the easy step is practicing or working on it. I look forward to being a part your journey!
  10. Feel free to favourite and relisten to episode 14 of the old series of the GameQuitters podcast and 003 of Gaming the System - both are highly recommended! I have also just started listening to "Dad Wrote a Porno", finished the first episode this morning. It's different! A female coworker recommended it to me (and I am quite older than her) so I was wondering what she was trying to tell me! But it seems like it could be good for a few laughs. I'll check out Slight Edge, what is it about?
  11. No worries - I will work on this in a different environment.
  12. Good work on changing your environment - I found that is the most effective way to defeat cravings, rather than trying to close tabs or block apps or whatever. I have extended it to other aspects of my life too - so I try to change my environment often if I am frustrated etc and I encourage my work mates to do the same. The podcasts are great and have a lot of useful information! Don't be afraid to listen to them more than once to get the message to stick in your head or remind yourself of why you are doing what you are doing. I recommend Episode 14 from the 2017 season and 003 from Gaming the System - they both have this very attractive charismatic guy on them who sounds like a dream ? How was your stomach after the birth video? I just about passed out when I saw it in our child education (or whatever you call it) class. I didn't manage to go to the second lesson as our son arrived so early but you pick it up as you go!
  13. Good work mate! I am glad what I said helped you. Running really helps you change your environment, reset, and get in the flow state that you would be used to with gaming.
  14. I have been doing great mate, and I am glad to see that your vibe in your journals is more upbeat and much more positive. Sounds like you have made some great mental decisions which has lifted a lot of pressure/concern for you. When I have a bit more spare time it would be great to chat more in detail.
  15. Welcome to the team! You will be surprised how much you enjoy being in the moment when you're not preoccupied with video games.
  16. There was a great line I saw when reading about "being in the moment", and that is Life isn't boring, you are. It's an adjustment phase for you to start getting used to being in the moment. There is so much going on in life and so much to do and so much happening around you, that the only reason one would get bored is if one is too lazy to grasp any of those.
  17. Hey mate, glad to hear you are still plugging along! You've got this.
  18. Don't focus on how many hours you have lost in the past, visualise the amount of hours you have got back from this point onwards! When I pulled the plug on WoW it was mind blowing how much spare time I had during the day. Having gone through this process because I became a Dad, I can say you will not regret it.
  19. I have been doing a lot of reflecting recently about the finite resource that we all have and what separates the people from repeating the cycle of non-improvement from those who never satisfy their appetite for getting better and achieving more. Let's face it - it could possibly be the same element that brought every member of the forums here in the first place. Anyway, the way I have been using it recently to discourage myself from returning to gaming is writing down how much time it would take to "achieve" things in games versus the time it would take to achieve bucket list items in life. You would be surprised how much extra time you can create for yourself in life to achieve your life goals by removing games. For example, using Cam's recent video on WoW: 168 hours to get to max level in Wow. Compared to: 56-130 hours to train for a Marathon. 170-182 hours to study at college per semester. You could use the same formula for consuming content. The original thought came from a podcast where someone compared: 71 hours to watch all Game of Thrones. Compared to: 60-80 hours to get a Pilot's licence. I am going to work on this post a little bit more to make a personal database to help me stay on the straight and narrow, but I thought I would put the idea here if anyone else thinks it might be of use for them.
  20. Regardless of what your beliefs and ethics are - nobody lies on their death bed and wishes they did less in their life. Use whatever drives you to ensure you don't waste the only non-renewable resource we have - time.
  21. That's a good idea with your jogging - don't try to follow the guidelines of distances. I have found people seem to get anxious when they read distances that they should/are recommended/want to run etc which causes them to stop exercising. They also compare themselves to elite or people who have been training for a long time as well, which I never understood either. Just run for yourself, and based on time is perfect. After all the time I have done running and training, I still mainly just base it on time (unless I am in a specific short-term training plan with a target). This is mainly because I am trying to do so much every day that shaping my mindset to allocating 1-2 hrs blocks makes it easier to prioritise running. It took me so long to be able to run 20 minutes constantly - I used an interval trainer to keep me 'honest' with the running/walking changing. I can't remember the app I used back in the day when training for my first marathon, but these days I use Intervaly. It sounds like you use your addictions as escapism, which is similar to my problem. I have a natural tendency to be pessimistic or grumpy (I am avoiding using the words depressed, as that's a whole another level) - so I always used addictions to disctract myself from the fact everyone around me seemed so much happier. When gaming its pleasure, which made me happier, and put me on the same level as everyone else, which is why I went so heavy into it. The traits or symptoms are still there with my running I realised in the last few weeks - I am addicted to the dopamine which makes me feel on an equal ground with those around me. If you can realise what the cause of your addiction is, then you can deal with the underlying issue rather than just the symptoms - the gaming. If you try to focus on just the symptoms, then you'll never be truly free of it. I am not sure if I am full of good advice! I would really like to use my experience to other people's advantage, that's all. I am not sure what 'degree of addiction' I was/am - I read about what other people have done to their lives and their families, or what they have not been able to achieve and I can't relate to a lot of it. Some people would describe it as a 'functioning addict' maybe. Maybe that is why I thought I was a little different. But I mega-relate to @Cam Adair 's recent video on Wow where he mentions that while it was a lot of fun and he has achieved a lot - he would give it all up in a second. I'm exactly the same. I would and will choose gaming over absolutely anything else - sleep, eating, drinking, running, family. And everytime I do - I feel guilty as fuck. I use the memories of guilt to keep me from going back to those 'good ole days'. Sorry a bit of a rant! Hope you're doing well buddy. Don't beat yourself up over having to reset the counter so often - you're not going to master anything overnight, this takes practice. I loved using a counter (and I still do - it's on my phone wallpaper) to remind myself of how well I am doing, rather than forcing myself to keep me accountable.
  22. How far have you been jogging in the morning? 0530 is a great time to be up, there is something about knowing you're up and getting after it while everyone else is still pushing up z's. Jocko Willink talks about this all the time. What is your intent about cutting screen time? Screen time can be productive, but you just need to harness it. Rather than cut down on screen time, I find if I am starting to lose my purpose/be distracted/etc I change my environment, like get away from the screen for a few minutes by making some tea or going for a stretch, before returning back to what I was doing (and making sure you close all your browsers when you do this!)
  23. Running. I know that might sound weird, but I have really found running to be a fantastic form of meditation for me. When I sit down and meditate I tend to fall asleep or can't get it to stick into my routine. But when I am running, it's just me and the road. There is something calming about focusing on your breathing, and the rhythm of left foot right foot left foot right foot, that suddenly I find myself in what I call my "happy place". It is sort of like a flow state but where I get crazy clarity on thinking about things. Sometimes I just enjoy the moment of pushing my body's endurance, sometimes I reflect on decisions or interactions I have made, and sometimes I create plans of what I want to do in the future. By having your whole body focused on a single task, with nobody around you, there is no way to get distracted. I can't shy away from whatever issue or feeling I am having - all I can do is embrace it. My mind always feel so sharp afterwards.
  24. Mate, I'm lonely AF most of the time, so more than happy to fire messages back and forth when I am on the forums!
  25. This. When after another gaming session where I was frustrated, I asked myself "I thought hobbies were supposed to make me happy and relaxed, not angry and resentful?" This only got worse when I had kids, and I was choosing playing games over spending time with them. It was a real WTF moment.
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