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You just falling back in your habits now that the first excitement of quitting is gone. This is known as the two weeks hurdle. You did it long enough that it isn't new and exciting but not long enouhg to see much effects of it. If you look back at your first entry that is exactly yout pattern. Now is the time to break this pattern. Will it be hard? Sure. Can you do it? Ofcourse you can. It won't be comfortable or easy but it will get easier if you stick with. Why do you want to quit gaming? What did you want to achieve with it? These questions are important. Because it isn't about quitting games. It is about getting a better live. If you go back to gaming I won't be angry. I know how it can be. But I would seriously wish you that you make it this time. Please think about what I wrote and answer this questions for yourself or here on the Forum. That's all I ask. Best of luck mate!

Bad days jsut happen. I think you planning the right steps to get out of the funk. I try to never enter a Supermarket without a list of groceries I want to buy. Whats not on the list doesn't get bought. In the beginning you will forget things you feed to buy. But if you adjust to it shopping gets easier and faster. Also ignoring the intricate design of supermarkets gets easier. Gj on the morning routine and not drinking Soda!

I always had problems with cleaning and houskeeping etc. It is getting better though. I think the key is not to think about the whole package you got to do but instead put it inot small achievable Goals. If cleaning up your desk is something you dread maybe just plan on doing smth smaller. Like organizing your papers for 15min. pr putting These 5 empty Cups of coffee away. I like to think of these things as minichallenges. The same thing could work wiht the car issue.´Google Workshops in your area. First task done. Call a car-Workshop and ask how much it would cost o repair it and how long you had to wait to get appointment. Etc. Breaking these thigns down seems often Kind of pointless because in the end you have to do the same amount of things. But what we forget if we think that way is that the hard things we dread to do are only a sum of easy things we could easily do. We just don't because the whole big task makes us feel uncomfortable. To apply this sort of fragmental thinking helps me personally alot. Maybe it could help you too.

I personally ofte find myself having thoughts while meditating wiht ehadspace. But sometimes I jsut drift a bti away (like if you are nearly dreaming) and don't focus on ym breathing. If you are able to Focus on your breathing your doing everythign right Sounds like a good Little projekt. I personally struggle a Little with finding time for programming and focussign on a good understanding of C because I want to work in embedded Systems. Hope it works out like you evnision it

Hey about your online teaching idea: In reasearched Abit and there are some sites where you could teach personally to students and get payed fo it. There is upwork for example. I personally would advice you to think about creating a blod where you teach things you can do well. If you manage to get some frequent Readers it can helpa lot of People. You could also make YouTube Videos and link them there. You can monetize These things with ads for example. Or you write a Little ebook/course and sell it over the page. This is the way Cam makes money for example. The important aspect on this is to find a niche. If your interested in this I am sure cam could give you some pointers. Another possibility is to creat a udemy course Also good job on staying strong. These urges usuall are the worst in the beginning of the detox.

Quite possible that you have a Little detox from sugar. Stay sure that you take enouh kalories in at your main meals and your body will adjust to it. Evading sweets and sugar can ahve an quite strong effect on your brain. Also it takes away willpower not to eat these things until it became a habit or smth you just not do. A thing to evade willpower erosion is to limit the accesibility of sweets in your home. I personally just don't buy sweet sutff anymore and it seems to work quite well.

Hey sorry to hear that you struggling. Remember that you made a commitment to yourself to do 90days. Everytime we break a promise to ourselves our self-esteem is lowered another Inch. Sticking to this detox helped me alot to be more confident in myself. Don't lie to yourself and do Keep gong. After the detox there is enough time to think about going back to gaming

Hey and welcome. I think it would be a solid plan to make the 90days detox and then think if you really want to try out the game. This way you leave all Options open but commit to a goal. That's the idea behind this 90day Thing anyway. Just get some distance from gaming to enable you to evalulate your own Situation wihtout too much urges. Also it is a reachable goal( in opposition too I Enver Play again). If you decide to do this I would dare you to commit here in a (semi-)public space to do the 90 days and make it reality. Writing ehre regulary about your Feelings and experiences in teh detox may help a lot to Keep the commitment you made to yourself and to this community. Also we are able this way to support you. Best of luck!

I am glad if I coudl help a bit with constructive feedback

Die Seite sieht super aus und mir gefällt die 80er Jahre Optik auch wenn das pink nicht unbedingt mein style ist Deine Stimme ist auch ziemlich cool für Hörbucher. Klingt super. Ich würde aber an deiner Stelle deine Bücher nicht Schundbücher und Krempel nennen. Lass doch die Leute die sich auf die Seite verirren die Qualität der Bücher beurteilen anstatt die Erwartung im Voraus herab zu setzen. Das macht es nicht gerade attraktiv sie sich tatsächlich anzuschauen. Du musst sie ja auch nicht anwerben aber einfach neutral beschreiben scheint mir sinniger.

I I personally struggled with this too. People especially my Family always told me that I was so brigth, talented and intelligent. While Support is great it can be crippling trying to live up to a Version of yourself that was created by such compliments. I actually never believed it on a deeper level and this hurt my confidence. Because I neve dared to test if this assumptions about me were right. I did never go in the Arena and actually tried my hardest with the risk of failing. I more or the less jsut did what live demanded from me (finish School with an average which woudl allow me to go to University,play a Instrument aslong my parents insisted on it, etc.). This is one of the main things I learned from commiting to not gaming. Even if you fail it is always better if you seriously tried as if you never put you heart into it. If you fail you can learn from it or get atleast a better insight about where you stand right now. This failures are the Fundament to any improvement. If you jsut train your skills without testing them seriously you evolve on a pretty superficial Level. Nearly every great success is build on a dozen failures. That's why I try to actually chase failures right now. I try to do things which seems to be in reach or only a little out of reach, do my best and still fail. So my conclusion was it doesn't matter if I am talented or not. I have the obligation to do the best I can at things that matter to me. This is the important part. The bad/good results are only a guidepost towards my goals.

Awesome. thanks for sharing. I all ready of do many things described at the website but I like it very much. I will check it out from time to time.

Good job! Not sure how long I can keep up the excuses. Don't use excuses, set boundaries. Just gonna stay it stone-faced then: "Game free for the year and the next and the next one and the next one" I would more say smth. like that you palyed too much Videogames in the past and no want to Focus more on other things and thats why you take a break/vacation fo games.

Go go go! Can you believe that after five years of daily cold showers I still have to push through a half-second of hesitation, even though I know I'm going to feel great afterward? It's my daily "flinch fighting" ritual with which I build mental and physical strength. It all started from reading Julien Smith's The Flinch, which I highly recommend. +1 It is also free. Just Google the Flinch pdf.

Yeah really nice. I am glad that life is becomming better again for you. Congratulations on surviving. All these beliefs you have are really subjective. Nothing of this is true for sure. Most of it is obiously wrong. I can clearly state that without even knowing you on a personal level.

Hey awesome that you found someone who can teach you some stuff. i am sure this will be very worthwhile. Make sure to show him that you appreciate his help. Also a dinner with someone out of Beyond? You guys live in the same area? That's pretty cool.

Sure I keep you in mind. If I get some good suggestions I Keep you posted.

Maybe call it Push Zone ( or somnthing else relateted to comfortzone widening) isntead of Trump Zone to avoid beeing mistaken with a trump supporting program ( your political side doesn't really mattre it jsut should represents what it actually does). I read your Statement about it but I guess many People won't find it funny but get offended/confused by it or never even check it out because of that name. But maybe I undestimate today's youth. Just my humble opinion. I think one difficulty is to find the right measurment of difficulty for the challenges. What for one man is impossible is for another easy or comfortable. for example "speaking with a stranger". Some extrovert People do taht all teh tiem and ahve no Problem wiht it. Other more introvert People get sweaty Hand jsut thinking about that. Possible solution: I would let the Trumpers rate challenges out of a pool of challenges first and give them Labels while excluding things they can't imagine in their wildest dreams to fulfill (Maybe: give an impromptu theatrical Improvisation in a crowded bus). Maybe this should be supervisioned by the organizer so they could clear up challenges and challenge People to overthink their rating with some helpful questions. How do you feel imagine yourself doing that thing? etc..# I really like the idea of youthful People challenging each other out of their comfort zones. This is kind of the spirit off the starting days of PUA. Taking the great and leaving the questionable things out . Addition: You mentione that your twin brother doesn't liek the diea of you telling him what to do. I think ti could eb a great idea of having a rotational system so that the organisator is a trumper too. If you ge pushed out of your comfot Zone that can be fun. But ti will be infinetly more fun if the dude pushing you would also have to do such "strange" things and you can watch him doing it

I think it is great that you actually write stuff and not just plan(do some planning though). To be a perfectionist can really hurt you. I stumbled over a nice idea to overcome the part of procrastination were you think that it is jsut too hard. Or that your result will suck anyway and it is not worht it. It is a simple idea. Set failure as a Goal. A selling Person should for example make a daily goal of failed selling calls (while still trying to do their best). So a metric for a successful day would be to make 20 failed cold-calls (ofcourse there will be successes on the way). But this way you focus on the Progress and not on the results. Every real success is based on a big amounts of Little failures and lessons learned. So see that 500 words as a failure which is necessary to your seuccess! With software I'll try to adapt that idea with planning in a number of coding mistakes (I usually do that autoamtically but I still have to find them). With writing it is amybe a Little bit harder to measure something definit. But you could for example define a number of words which you'll have to delete because they would have no use in the endproduct.

Crazy effort man good job!

I am glad if i can help a bit. We are here to support each other.

Hey to do pomodoros works for me since I use kanbanflow The timer thing on my screen for the 5min breaks makes me feel bad if I start smth which will take longer so I mostly stretch a bit go to the toilet or get some new water in this little breaks Maybe this could work for you too. I wrote over my workflow here.

Hey Zane and welcome back. I think I read you old jounral at some point I am currently not as active as I was before but I'll be happy to check into your journal from time to time. Sounds like you did a lot of growing over the last year and liek having a job was really beneficial for you. Well done man! I also started the challenge some time ago and stopped as I had to made a photograph with a stranger. I'll maybestart again after I have finished my master thesis and found a job. This has top priority now and is also the reason why I cut doww on gamequitters . Nugh of me Good luck with the challenge. Prove yourself that you can do it!

Hey thanks for sharing your story and welcome to the forum. Some thing you could do on travels are to read/do excercise/ learn new things/ have skype calls with your family/ meditate/write. I am sure you know that that was just an excuse to dive back into gaming but I'll just wanted to make clear that their is a lot of things you can try now that you decided to stop gaming. It is indeed not only a decision against gaming but a decision for a lot of great new things you could do.

Welcome. Fitness is something which is giving you a lot of benefits like better mood, better bod and better health. But the main reason why people do it is that it make themself look awesome and sexy and this alone will improve your self-esteem. Also being able to stick to something on a regular base will prove yourself that you can do it. And if you can do it with one thing you can do ti with anything. That's the feeling I got after stopping to game and exercise regularly. If you want to read a good book about socializing I can recommend "Models" from Mark Manson. He is a straightforward guy who is having a lot of sense and likes to be very direct in his writing. I would delete your steam account. If you can't do that gift it to a good friend /family member and tell them that you'll want the chance to buy back the account after the end of detox for 100 Dollars.