James Good

I took a bit of time away from the forum for 2 reasons: I was on holiday in the South of Thailand I was moving house Both perfectly valid reasons in my eyes 😉 I also have a ridiculous amount of things that I want to talk about on here, that choosing a topic to write about today was quite difficult. I eventually settled on something that I see many people talking about and that is cravings. I'll also talk about why doing a detox or moderating makes cravings much worse. Cravings are the number one cause of relapsing back into video games. Period. Wheneve

That's huge! Congrats 😄 What caused you to open the game in the first place?

I used to tell myself that I wanted to moderate my gaming use. It wasn't until 5 or 6 years into my journey that I realized it was impossible for me to become who I wanted to be if I was still gaming. To get to this point you have to evaluate a few things: are you addicted? what benefits you're getting from gaming, if any where do you want to be in 3 years and is gaming a part of that? how much of a negative impact gaming is having on your life right now? I'd also recommend watching the video I posted recently about moderating, it might help clarify a few t

Not sure there's a lot I can help with this, I'm sorry. Is there no one you can talk to about changing it? Or even figuring out what the next steps would be to getting it sorted out? This has been tricky for a lot of people, and depending on the severity of the lockdown it can be tough. I'd recommend reading my reply to royal panda below about values, and then trying to structure your time accordingly. Get creative, and be imaginative with what you have availability. It's difficult but try to think about how a kid would react. They wouldn't get bored, there's so much opportunity

Yeah, I love the idea of Ikigai. It sums up a lot of my beliefs in a way that's so beautifully Japanese. Eternal resting sounds like a great plan! The closest thing I've found to my Ikigai is teaching. I've dabbled in a number of different things in the past to do with teaching, but this time, with the gaming addiction stuff, it feels different. I feel purposeful, guided, passionate. Maybe this is my Ikigai after all... 🤔 Honestly? No idea. I know that a lot of types of psychology get reworked and adapted into a number of self-improvement resources, so maybe I just picked i

This cracked me up 🤣 A+ journal.

Recently I've found myself struggling with one very important thing - clarity. It's natural to feel some doubt about what you're doing when you take on a new project or try to accomplish something big. Ultimately, it comes down to fear. You're afraid that you'll be stuck in the same place in 1 year as you are now, and should never have bothered trying in the first place. This is exactly how I've felt once or twice this week. So, if it's a natural part of growth is there anything you can do stop it? Not really... In the past, when I first started my journey of self-improveme

Thanks for the support!

Good to hear you're still staying strong after so long - I'm impressed at the sheer length of this journal haha. Fun fact, you started it on my birthday 😄 Sounds like you had a productive week, it's only natural that your weekends will be more relaxed. Often times giving ourselves some mental space is the most productive thing we can do. +1 for self-love, too. I remember reading your journal in the past, it was always a sticking point and I love seeing the shift in energy from now since then. Such a genuinely inspirational journey. The diary should be mandatory reading haha. Kee

Hey everyone! I'm looking for some ways that I can better serve this community, and I thought what greater way than to find out what you're struggling with right now and seeing if I can help. If it's more personal you can send me a DM, and feel free to contribute to other comments in the discussion! Looking forward to hearing from you all.

Love the energy haha! Keep it up.

Not an uncommon problem for people just starting out on the forum. What are you hoping to get from checking the forum all the time? Try to find ways for you to solve these needs and desires in other ways such as hobbies, learning skills, finding a passion or helping other people. I'd also recommend looking into detoxing from technology, it seems like you're wired to react to every urge you get and lack the discipline to stay away. Not a big problem right now as you're still young, but it's something you can work on over time.

Sure! I'll DM you tomorrow morning. Just about to go to sleep here 🙂

How have you been doing since this?

To chime into this a bit: As a gamer I was low energy, undisciplined, lacking relationships, always depressed, angry, bitter, and stuck working as a waiter for 5 years. I was gaming since 3 years old, and reached some lows during my life that I never thought possible - mostly back when I wanted to be a Twitch streamer or when I failed university. Fast forward to now and I'm working online from Thailand, I have an incredibly girlfriend, I wake up every single day with a fire in my stomach and a clear mission in my head. I know which option I'd take haha.