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  1. Good luck, Jacob. What university are you studying at? I'm studying ancient history at Cardiff University. Do not feel obliged to reply, I'm just curious! 🙂
  2. LordFederickRamsay

    Star Wars: The Old Republic

    Well done. A suggestion for next time, try and refrain from watching YouTube videos of Star Wars: The Old Republic. Through this, you're maintaining your addiction. The process of giving up games, will be far easier if you prevent yourself from watching and listening to anything game-related.
  3. LordFederickRamsay

    No gaming in the center of gaming.

    The relationship between you and Sophie seems to be very deep-routed and loving. I take back what I had originally proposed, she sounds like a sweet, loving and gentle person. It is understandable that she is conflicted within herself as to whether she should pursue a relationship with you. If you really love her enough (I don't doubt that you do), you will stay strong and eradicate your addiction like stamping on an ant. To repeat myself, your brain is currently trying to convince itself that playing games is the same as Netflix. I'm guessing you're thinking along the lines of, 'what's the difference between watching Netflix all day and playing games? I might as well just play games if I'm going to be addicted to something...' You must 'log in' to your rational mind which is saying, 'In truth, I don't find watching Netflix as stimulating as playing games and I'm actually quite bored...' In my opinion, I don't think one can become 'addicted' to Netflix because there is a time-cap on all the shows you are watching. I'll grant readers of this post that this may appear a little naive. However, you must stay away from YouTube and social media sites. You can fall down those whirlpools the same way we fall into the gaming whirlpool. I don't watch Netflix that much but I definitely remember, during my detox period, that I was watching it more than usual. However, I quickly became bored of this. You're looking for something that is equal to gaming in its mind-numbing capabilities. However, I strongly think that Netflix will be unable to stimulate you the same way games did. I am fully aware that the process of giving up games is different for all participators. As the days pass, you'll lose interest in Netflix. If this doesn't happen, then you need to be proactive and stay away from it as much as you can. Also, I'd urge you to sell all your gaming software. Cut the cancer out. Just cut it out. Not sure if you've already done that and mentioned it in the earlier entries of your journal but if you haven't, get rid of it as soon as possible. This whole thing may seem overwhelming, but you are doing the right thing. You're going to live a happy life, a stable life, full of adventure and fun, and free of the constraints that gaming imposes on you. I'm excited for you Montif.
  4. LordFederickRamsay

    No gaming in the center of gaming.

    Hey, I browsed through your journal and read your latest post. Try and remind yourself that you're currently going through a tough process. It appears, from what you've written, that your brain is reacting heavily to the absence of gaming. I know that physically and mentally it's tiring, but in actuality, your low mood is a good sign. It substantiates your decision to attempt the notorious 90-day-detox. In the recent past, your brain has been subject to an unhealthy intake of chemicals causing an imbalance in regards to your mental health. By removing gaming from the equation, your brain is being forced to acclimatise, and thus, amidst its confusion, you experience numerous 'bad' moods. Try to understand that you're experiencing the symptoms of detoxing and avoid being self-critical, compliment yourself at least once a day. Gaming addiction isn't taken very seriously, we all know that. So I'm presuming that you do not have anyone to support you during this time (?) If you have stated differently above, I apologise for my mistake. But even so, battling an addiction with support is hard, let alone without it. So take a deep breath and pat yourself on the back. The constant fluctuations with your mood will dissipate over time, but you are going to need to adopt a heart of iron in reference to relapse prevention. But I assure you, after surviving 90-days without games, coupled with adding some exercise to your weekly routine, you will feel normal. To repeat the words of others, try your best to avoid abusing technology. For example, browsing on YouTube or any social media outlets. For this action encapsulates the dreaded 'shifting of addiction' on to something else. Personally, I have banned myself from going on YouTube. I use social media sites for a limited amount of time, I deleted all of my social media apps on my I-Phone. It is liberating. You're doing a very brave thing Montif, and I commend you for it. In regards to your girlfriend, I do not mean to be overstepping, please tell me if I am, but she sounds a little narcissistic. I'll admit that I have never been in a relationship, therefore, I cannot relate to you fully. However, I was in love with a girl at school who would constantly push-and-pull me away. It made me feel so depressed and anxious that I was forced into therapy. I explained to my therapist how this girl made me feel, how she behaved and acted. My therapist introduced me to N.P.D (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and suggested that from my definition of how this girl treated me, she appeared somewhere along the N.P.D spectrum. I am hesitant to suggest narcissism because I feel like I have a personal vendetta against it and thus, whenever I hear or read of someone whom is suffering from being in a relationship with a narcissist, I seek to snuff it out. I might also be wrongfully diagnosing her. However, I remember feeling like it was always my fault whenever anything happened, experiencing extreme social anxiety, negative thoughts, cynicism etc. Elaborate on your relationship a little more, if you can, I'll be able to provide a comprehensive analysis and reliable diagnosis.
  5. LordFederickRamsay

    Am I addicted?

    Your post suggests your brain is currently trying to rationalise playing games, convincing itself that it is a hobby instead of an addiction. It's hard to become aware of this and admit to yourself that you're addicted to games. This forum is for a small minority of gamer's who have a desire to stop but don't know how. Ask yourself, do you feel a sense of guilt when playing? Do you feel ashamed? That you could be spending your time more productively? The fact that you complete your chores and work before playing can be interpreted in two different ways. Firstly, it could be a way that your unconscious brain is justifying the time you commit to playing games. On the other hand, it could be a sign that your addiction is at a premature stage. I believe that the former is more likely. The very reason you have found this forum and shown concern for your well-being implies that you're not happy with how much time you've put into games. And I completely understand the difference between watching a show and playing a game competitively. However, the down-side to gaming is that it unnaturally produces a constant flow of pleasant sensations throughout your brain and body. There are many productive activities that will elicit those sensations in moderation. So to answer your question, I think you have shown a desire to stop gaming by posting on this forum which convinces me that yes, you are addicted to games. However, I am undecided on whether the addiction is only just showing its colours or it has been tormenting you for a very long time.
  6. LordFederickRamsay

    JustTom's Journal 3

    In relation to your most recent post, the Buddhist view of happiness when referring to pleasant sensations in our brains (Dopamine-release from gaming) can be applied to your current situation. It states that pleasant sensations disappear as fast as they arise, and that as long as people crave pleasant sensations without actually experiencing them, they remain dissatisfied. However, this problem has two very different solutions. The biochemical solution is to develop products (games and gaming-consoles) and treatments that will provide humans with an unending stream of pleasant sensations, so we will never be without them (constantly playing an addictive game). Buddha's suggestion was to reduce our craving for pleasant sensations, and not allow them to control our lives. According to Buddha, we can train our minds to observe carefully how all sensations constantly arise and pass. When the mind learns to see our sensations for what they are - ephemeral and meaningless vibrations - we lose interest in pursuing them. For what is the point of running after something that disappears as fast as it arises? Apart from the bracketed parts, I copied that from Homo Deus: A Brief History of Tomorrow by Yuval Noah Harari. It's a really interesting book and although he is referring to the development of futuristic products and treatments that'll provide long-lasting pleasant sensations, contemporary products such as, gaming/drugs/alcohol are all examples of ways humans are trying to control their minds and ensure they experience only pleasant sensations in today's society. I've quoted this paragraph because I want to let you know that it is okay to feel shitty sometimes and that even if you don't have as productive day as yesterday, it is okay and that you'll feel and experience the great feelings of your 8th Detox Day again. Stay strong. Also, have you considered seeing a therapist? I have a therapist that I see weekly and it is highly beneficial. They teach you new ways of thinking and how to observe your thoughts from an objective perspective alongside a lot of other useful techniques and strategies.
  7. LordFederickRamsay

    21 Days In

    Well done Jon! In my experience, the early days were the easiest. My ma told me that giving up an addiction is like riding a wave, so don't be surprised if you start experiencing urges and low-moods.
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    Hardest but maybe the best thing in my life

    Do you even read the introductions? I appreciate that this comment is a little unfair although, I received a similar response to my introductory post. You have changed my life Cam, I mean it! Inspirational. But to offer some constructive criticism, the activity of the forum is severely lacking. People's comments need to be reciprocated otherwise they'll convince themselves that joining the Game Quitter's community is pointless. To Lukas - I read the entirety of your post. You are not alone in your suffering. I have had a hard time adjusting to life after giving up games, it's been around 4 months. I'd strongly advise you to reconstruct and remould your interests on various social media sites to avoid adverts of games and game consoles. It is a tough road ahead, a cliched saying but it is true. You must regularly remind yourself that you were open minded enough to realise games were the route cause of your problems. Therefore, you are a person of significant value and you are making the right decision! I am proud of you Lukas! Keep us updated.
  9. Hi, A question that has been on my mind recently can be summarised in the following explanation; I spent 15,000 hours on computer-games, two in particular; Mount and Blade: Warband and Fortnite. When I was a child, I never had an urge to play console games but when I did, it'd be with my friends and the whole process was very casual. After I transitioned to playing computer games, I wrinkled my nose at console-players. Now that I've given up playing computer games for good, I'm rather sensitive about touching anything game-related. However, I was never remotely addicted to console games yet from giving up computer-games, I've developed this idea that if I were to play on a console, it'd detract majorly from the progress I've made in the recent months. In theory, it should not but I know it would. Therefore, should I abstain from playing the PS4 until the urges to play computer-games dissipate or can I allow myself to play thirty minutes of COD with my friend if he asks? Through writing this, I believe I've answered my own question. The very reason I'm bringing this up proves I should stay away from anything game-related until those urges are gone. Also, my mum got home from work last night and my friend and I were filling out an application on the computer that I used to use for gaming. She said wide-eyed, 'You're not gaming, are you?' which I found to be quite agitating as she's been at the helm of a cascade of compliments in the past month, i.e. 'Chris, you've made so much progress! I'm so proud of you.' She's made comments when noticing I hadn't been joining in with my brothers or cousins, when they're playing on our PS4. Although, I've never been addicted to console games. She views games as a whole thus clearly can not differentiate between a console and a computer which exacerbates my annoyance with her. I'd lose credibility in her eyes if she were to find me playing on a console with a friend, albeit lackadaisically and non-suggestively. Therefore, I'd adopt a cynical view of my progress and quite frankly, I'd feel like I'd corrupted the ground I'd covered up to this point.
  10. LordFederickRamsay

    My Introduction

    Hi, I wasn't aware that there was a forum, I've been trying to communicate through the YouTube comment section for far too long. I gave up games around mid-November, I uninstalled game-related downloads (i.e. Discord) from my computer(s) and successfully purged anything associated with games off my devices. I also remoulded my interests and suggestions on social media sites which proved to be an arduous task. I haven't looked at a video of someone playing a game etc. or anything of the sort since I gave up. However, I am struggling a lot. There have been many positive things that have happened to me since I quit although, the urge to relapse is growing within me. Games was an escape route for me and it was incomparably effective at doing so. I study History at the University of Cardiff. I sold all of my gaming equipment, including my computer. I am feeling stable at the moment but still have a desire to sink my teeth into that feeling that we're all so aware of. I have A.D.H.D so playing games was in-congruent with how my brain works, exacerbating the effects of gaming addiction(?) I interpret my self as someone who is sensitive in all aspects of the word. For example, when I am in love, I feel the full effects of it or when someone close to me passes away, I mourn to an extreme. Therefore, I feel as if I am particularly vulnerable to the effects of gaming and am suffering twice as hard as the usual games-quitter. I appreciate this is a gross assumption and I am open to all manners of being shut down. But it is an indisputable fact, that the urges in my hands are almost tangible and the feeling of boredom that circulates around my body daily, does not assimilate to the boredom of an average man. I am hungry to play games. I have an itch that needs to be scratched. My mind races with ideas of what I can substitute games for but it falls upon nothing nearly as enticing. Perhaps I am an adrenaline junk-y and the only thing that'll emulate that feeling of playing games is jumping out of planes and getting into fights...although, I don't want to do those things (ha). I love to read and write, a muscle that I now exercise daily. I manage to squeeze out a couple of squats and press-ups. I have only just been accepted into a play that I auditioned for...all of these things sound promising but none can successfully emulate the almost-orgasmic brain seducing sensation that you experience from playing games. So dear God (I'm not even vaguely religious...), deliver me from this evil because I'm sick of it. Yours truly, Lord F.R
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