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I started playing computer games at 12. The following took place between 12-19. I argued with my dad throughout puberty about playing computer-games. He installed Norton security to limit my time playing games. It did not work. We had screaming fits at one another, I hated him so much. It was really sad. I was super insecure and anxious at the time so I used computer games as a way to hide from my (normal teenage) problems. Neglecting issues such as these means they grow, mutate and solidify. I wish my parents had taken my computer away. But my dad said to me recently when I told him I'd never let my kids play computer games, 'everything must be done in moderation, if you stop them from playing they'll want to play more.' It can also create a permanent rift between you and your child. I am lucky that I realised how addicted I was half a year ago (with the help of Cam's videos on YouTube ((maybe show him one of these?)) Personally, I'd remove everything game-related from the house i.e. his computer, monitor, mouse mat, mouse, all games, cleanse the computer, sell it, tell him it's never coming back, he will be upset but will eventually forgive you. I don't know what the right thing to do is but that's because I'm 19 and and not a dad. My advice to you if the above seems too extreme; engage him in things outside the house. Take him to beautiful parks and ponds, join a fitness class together (?), make him join an art class, a karate class - anything to get him out the house. Something he must attend weekly, which is social, fun and educative. Then hopefully, he can naturally lose interest in games (albeit this is very hard). Computer games are partly responsible for my lack of cognitive skills. I played games for seven years straight and I thought about games all the time. I didn't experience a normal adolescence. Nor did I experience an abnormal one. Just nothing. So much time gone that I could have used to develop interests, intelligence and personality. I feel dead inside the whole time and all I think about (even after 6 months of not playing games) is how boring everything else is. That reminds me; if you remove everything, you must block sites like Twitch and YouTube. I may have managed not to relapse but I do watch the occasional video that renews that burning desire to play games. Do not let him watch videos (at least within your house). I became so accustomed to gaming life i.e. takeaways, lack of responsibilities - I now do not know how to operate in real life. A point that must be made; I have a loving family, my parents are together, I'm (luckily) privileged, I was privately educated, I had all the opportunities and options that one could hope for but even then, games took over. The main game I was/am in part addicted to is Fortnite. It's one of the worst in my opinion, evident in how many young people play it. They're all consumed (including me) by this idea of playing it competitively but you must communicate with your son that the likelihood of him becoming a professional player is equal to the odds of winning the lottery. I am assuming he plays competitively because he plays on a computer and as you've stated, he plays all the time. Epic Games have utilised the prospect of e-Sports to coerce (mostly) young boys into thinking they have a chance of playing competitively - this is untrue, corrupt and manipulative.

This post has helped me so much. I've been game-free for 5 months and only recently have I experienced the most intense cravings yet. What Cam said applies to my situation like a key slotting into a key-hole. I have an exam on the 14th May, a project due on the 7th, and I've written and directed a play about game addiction that is being performed on the 7th May. So applying Cam and James' logic, it is now clear to me that my cravings have appeared purely as a coping mechanism to the stress/pressure. So thank you. I was worried because I didn't think there was anyone else who had been game-free for as long as me, and suffering from a sudden ambush of life-debilitating cravings. I want to reemphasise a point I've made before because it is particularly poignant in cases such as these; Watching gaming-clips as a form of appeasement does not work. It is effective in the short-term (a couple of hours) but exacerbates the cravings 10 fold in the long-term. I was so fucking close to relapsing this week, but I persevered. My gaming-friend Jet epitomises the worst type of gaming-friend. He's highly manipulative and persuasive and I've experienced the full brunt of his attempts to woo me into relapsing. If you have someone trying their best to get you to play games with them, who is fully aware of how its ruining your life, remember that they're probably feeling sad that they don't have the strength to quit. Maybe this is a little extreme, but I'd suggest cutting them out for a while by blocking them on social media. It's so advanced these days you can block people without them having the faintest clue.

@James Good I needed someone who hadn't played games for a long time to relate to me, so thank you James. I'm having very strong cravings at the moment and it is very hard to think coherently. Therefore, I'm going back to university sooner than expected. I'll keep you guys updated if things get bad again. It's been up and down this past month but this forum has helped in preventing me from relapsing. Cheers, George

I've been watching Fortnite videos all day.

I'd like to volunteer as well.

@Splitstep How long has it been since you've played games? Update on me -> The cravings are coming and going but they are still very strong (?) I'm having vivid dreams of playing games and have watched one or two Fortnite YouTube videos to appease myself (I know this doesn't work, it only maintains the addiction). I want to play more than I ever have before. And it has been such a long time since I gave up so this is understandably demoralising. There are a few simple reasons as to why I'm having such strong cravings; - I'm currently at home which is where I used to play games, so my computer is a couple of feet away from me - I'm in a revision period for university exams so I am very bored - I don't have anything to consistently do, i.e. a job (because I am only at home for a few more days before I return to university) - The cravings have been very strong since I returned home (so for three weeks they've been addling me) I've creating a word document listing all the reasons why I gave up games. That has helped a little bit.

Thanks for the replies. I managed not to relapse. I'll revert to reading these replies if my cravings ever return (which I'm sure they will). To be honest (although I'm trying to remain optimistic), my cravings at the moment are constant i.e I am experiencing them right now. I think it comes from being bored, unoccupied and living at home where my computer is. @Catherine17 What good things come from gaming?

I didn't relapse. It's been four-five months since I gave up, and my brother said something worrying to me the other day. He's a clinical psychologist, 'there is a possibility that the cravings won't ever go away.' That is a good point - about feeling more empty once you've relapsed - I'll keep that in mind.

Hi, I haven't gamed or watched any game-related videos or adverts for FIVE months...I'm experiencing the worst of it right now. I just want to game so fucking badly. It's insane. I'm like moments away from touching my computer (although I sold my mouse, mouse mat and uninstalled/deleted games and computer accounts). I need some reassuring words or maybe some advice. I don't understand what is going on. I thought I was supposed to be over it by now. I have ADHD and some mental health issues so take that into consideration if you're planning on replying to this topic. I'm super frustrated, sexually, socially - I don't get the same feeling from ANYTHING that I did from games. I was so good at games as well (like semi-pro at Fortnite) and I played it with my best friend that doubled the fun.. I need to remember the shit bits of gaming - the lack of sleep, the unconscious regret, the lack of socialising, bad mental health, embarrassed, sad, addicted. Another thing you should take into consideration is I suffer from intrusive thoughts (psychological condition to do with OCD) so this emphasises why I played games so much and why I want to play them again because the thoughts are relentless and horrible to live through and like 50% of my thoughts are I.T. Please for the love of god, someone help.

I AM ON THE VERGE OF RELAPSING Guys...I haven't played a game in so long or watched ANYTHING game-related BUT i'm struggling, like HELLA struggling right now. I want to play a game so fucking bad. I want to feel that feeling again in my body, i want the dopamine rush i want to not give a shit about anything in the world but the game im playing, i want to forget everything that stresses me out and just plug in to Fortnite and fucking pwn everyone. I was so fucking good as well. I haven't played a game in like 120 days straight but i stilll want to fucking play so bad man. I hate how my dad makes me feel, i feel so stupid ive got ADHD so my head is SO painful to live in. Please someone help me. What do I do?

I got myself out of that hole ^^

I finished my detox today. Hooray. But...I'm panicking. I'm still dreaming of playing video games such as, PubG etc. I don't know why, it seems like it's gotten worse just after my 90 day-detox has ended. I won't relapse but I have very strong urges to do so. I'm so lost all the time, I don't know what I'm genuinely interested in. I try and do stuff creative but nothing is as rewarding as shooting someone on PubG lol. These urges are meaningless and ephemeral but even if you're aware/mindful of the chemicals and sensations in your body, it doesn't mean they're any less effective. I suffer from really bad thoughts so without video games, I'm not distracted and my brain implodes. All the thoughts come crashing down like a wave on a beach... Anyway, I know I've just gotta survive and not give in but it's so so hard. Especially when you just want to run away from everything in your head. I can almost feel an urge to play in my tongue. We're not addicted to video games, we're addicted to the feelings we experience when we play right? So that's why my tongue feels tingly when I think about shooting someone on pubg, I just want to feel alive/energised. I have such bad psychological problems and the one thing that'll convince me I don't is video games. Like if you had rly fucked up thoughts you'd just want to NOT have those thoughts right? Simples lol(?) I get it if you're addicted to video games and you stop and everything gets better but for me, I've stopped...and everything has gotten worse. That's not entirely true, things have gotten better but yesterday was super shit. I'm a coward, ashamed, sad and I just want to forget about all the stuff in my head. I'm too cowardly to kill myself and I don't want to make my mum sad. I'm too cowardly to self-harm or get addicted to heroine so I go for something that isn't physically demanding. Gaming could be the worst addiction out there. [email protected] HEeeeeeeeeeeeeeeelp meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Hi, In the past, I've chosen to comment on journals rather than write my own. However, I am nearing the end of my 90-day-detox and thought it fitting to write an entry. To quell curiosity, I will have succeeded in not playing a game or watching anything game-related come the 1st April. I'd like to direct my next point at people who have only just begun their 90-day-detox, and at those who are mid-way through, experiencing limited urges to relapse and generally feeling better. I found the beginning extremely hard, the urges in my hands and arms were almost tangible. However, as the days drawled by, my brain returned to a chemical equilibrium and the urges to game subsided. I experienced a period of moderate peace, internally and externally, in regards to gaming. Only in the last week, have I experienced vivid dreams of gaming and the return of those uncomfortable urges to relapse. But I persevered. I have jumped the last hurdle and I can see the finish line. The message I'm trying to convey, is that never give up, even if you start experiencing urges 80 days in to your detox. This forum has essentially saved my life. It might sound melodramatic but I am sure there are some forum users who will understand where I am coming from. If I never happened across Cam Adair's Tedx talk, I'd be stuck in that same loop. Although, I have invested many hours into therapy and re-organising my thinking patterns which has obviously helped a lot. I feel so hopeful and happy. In an effort to raise awareness of the effects computer-game addiction has on people, I've written and directed an original play that will be performed on the 7th May in Cardiff, Wales. So, if there are any users who'd like to come and see it, message me and I'll provide the details. Thanks, George

Good luck, Jacob. What university are you studying at? I'm studying ancient history at Cardiff University. Do not feel obliged to reply, I'm just curious! 🙂

Well done. A suggestion for next time, try and refrain from watching YouTube videos of Star Wars: The Old Republic. Through this, you're maintaining your addiction. The process of giving up games, will be far easier if you prevent yourself from watching and listening to anything game-related.