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  1. Ikar

    Ikar's Diary

    Day 638: I studied, visited my family and then my grandma and played desktops in the evening. Day 639: I had English classes, washed the dishes, had the uni exam and spent the evening together with the Spanish girl. Day 640: I had English classes, I relaxed, did some minor things around, talked to a friend and played desktops, but went to bed very early. Day 641: I had English classes (8 hours) and played desktops in the evening. Day 642: I had English classes, wrote this and went shopping, walk with a friend. --- I'm starting to have mor
  2. @Amphibian220brings up some good points and questions. Your partner might be aware that there are some things that are "not going great", but that alone is apparently not enough incentive for him to change much. I also agree with the fact that this is a matter for couple's counseling and that all the people here can provide only layman's observations/suggestions about what worked for us in our specific situations. As his partner, and one who's been with him for 11 years, you should be a big part of his life and you likely know the most about him, besides himself. When/why did he start gam
  3. Ikar

    Ikar's Diary

    I did a recount of the days and I must have missed some in my calculations. Day 636: I had English classes, washed the dishes, read a bit on the NMMNG forum, went for a walk with the Spanish girl, played chess and spent the evening together and I went to bed early. Day 637: I studied, did the groceries, watched an interview with Peterson and McConaughey, did the laundry and got through some messages. --- I have an exam Monday, but I haven't seriously started studying for it yet. I today I got a day-long headache from ejaculating "too often" (I didn't ejaculate for
  4. Ikar

    Ikar's Diary

    Day 627: I studied in the morning, visited my brother and my grandma, went for a jog with friends, prepared for my English classes and watched "City of God" by Meirelles. Day 628: I had English classes, studied, cleaned my room, washed the dishes and played desktops in the evening. Day 629: I had English classes, had an interview, studied and played desktops in the evening. Day 630: I had English classes, studied and spent the night together with the Spanish girl. Day 631: I had English classes, wrote and exam and now I'm writing this. ---
  5. The answer to your question is to take action. Are you done with your assignments for the day too early? Think of the other stuff you can do and do it. Watch a film, play chess, do archery... whatever! Sometimes it's not a bad idea to just lounge about for half a day and do nothing in particular, as long as you don't do it every day. Friends are not organizing anything? Organize something yourself and invite them! It can be a BBQ, playing golf, going for a run... again, it's up to you. Want to have more relationship experience? Go somewhere, have fun, be yourself and talk to wom
  6. Ikar

    Ikar's Diary

    Day 626: I had an exam in the morning, had English classes, had an interview, went for a walk, made a few calls and played cards in the evening. Day 627: I got up late, studied for another upcoming exam, got through some newsletters in my mail, watched a Peterson lecture, checked out a few things that came into my mind during it, went for a run with a guy from the dorm and now I am writing this. --- I finished the first week out of three as a daily substitute teacher. I noticed I like to encourage and motivate the students and that I like to put some thought into the c
  7. I agree with @BooksandTrees. I don't have a record of how many times and when I tried to "curb" gaming by an hour or two to get some exercise or studying done, but it eventually came to the point where I had enough pain and quit cold turkey. I had to take responsibility for my life and I wanted to explore in more depth the things in life I got a glimpse of while still gaming. The progress of quitting is more continual than most people think. Maybe you cut your gaming time in half the last year. That's fair progress! Compare yourself to who you were before, not someone else.
  8. Ikar

    Ikar's Diary

    Day 621: I studied, visited my family, finished reading "Extreme Ownership", got through mails and spent the evening socially. Day 622: I had English classes, had the exam at the uni and spent the evening socially. Day 623: I studied, had English classes, did the groceries, worked out with a friend and spent the evening socially. Day 624: I had English classes, I studied, sang along with a few songs and spent the evening socially. Day 625: I had English classes, went for a walk, studied and now I am writing this. --- I think this week I'll
  9. If they are scared, then to just chat they can use 4chan or Reddit. Dating apps were invented to set up dates. End of story. Go shoot some photos where you look unbeatable, so they subconsciously feel that you can beat CV! 😄 I had goosebumps a few times this year, but all of it was rather momentary. I don't think I gravitate towards people who are overly scared. I'd live back home with my parents if that was the case, but I'd rather some social life and other things that stem from the more attractive position in the city (although currently limited). If they turn out to be flakes
  10. Good for you on hitting the gym! I wish they opened it here. I go for a walk frequently or do some exercise outside, but it's not the same. Then again, I am grateful that the dorms are open and that I can meet people normally and do some stuff together, even if it's just a fraction of what I used to meet a year ago. How are the dating apps working out for you?
  11. Ikar

    Ikar's Diary

    Yup, there is a lot of things we have to keep in balance, so that we do not go overboard with them and then feel bad about it. I think the ideal (end?) state for me in this is to have sex at will while trusting myself with those decisions. I think I built a solid foundation for that by not having sex with obviously drunk or obviously desperate women in the past. I think you are exactly right. My parents gave me just about no blueprints on how to run a relationship, let alone when/how to use the thing between my thighs and I had next to no friends on high school. No wonder my sex life w
  12. Ikar

    Ikar's Diary

    I think my attitude changed towards being more accepting of masturbation since I had sex three weeks ago. I started feeling more united and peaceful in that regard. It took a bit of time to assure and trust myself that I am not going to have sex at all costs. I think needed to prove to myself that I can do sex in a way that I can look at myself in the mirror. I am happy that I was able to do that. I also started noticing the abundance in this regard too. I think there are currently a few women that are showing me signs of attraction and that I could have sex with if I wanted to, but I thi
  13. Ikar

    Ikar's Diary

    Day 618: I studied, read, helped my friends to get some supplies for the new year's party and we organized a table of food and drinks for everyone. I had some good conversations too. Day 619: I got up somewhat late, but I got it together. I studied, read, went for a run with a friend and spent the evening socially again. Day 620: I got up on time, studied, read, went for a walk and now I am writing this. --- I sort of slipped on masturbation the past two days, but I didn't ejaculate for the past 11 days. Gratitude: I'm grateful for being proven time and
  14. Ikar

    Ikar's Diary

    Day 614: I studied, visited my family, went for a walk, read and installed the new headphones I got for Christmas from my brother. Day 615: I studied, went for a walk and watched "Black Hawk Down" in the evening. Day 616: I studied, went for a walk and shopping with a friend, had dinner with her and played desktops in the evening. Day 617: I studied, visited my grandma, read and now I am writing. --- These days have been tough. I consistently get up about an hour later than I'd like to. Once I get up I am fine, but December with it's bleak weather a
  15. @BooksandTrees I guess that's the pitfall of online dating, a lot of the people are there primarily for the attention. I call bullshit. I do not think she wanted to meet and just used CV as an excuse. I think it was even a bad excuse in your case, since you are so hardcore on isolation. My point is that online dating is meant to lead to sexual situations and if she isn't onboard with all the "current" risks (CV's been around for 9 months?), then she had plenty of time to get off of dating apps if she doesn't think it's safe. Good for you that you got rid of her.