Ikar's Diary

[Ikar]

19 Oct - 24 Oct:

I attended a birthday party at the weekend. I had a good time at the beginning, bad time in the middle and good time at the end. I had a good chat with one/two of the guys at the beginning, then had to overhear a bunch of (group!) gossip about a guy who was about to come to the party. I mean, get real. It was just cringe for half of the people there too. We had a fun quiz at the end though. I felt much more comfortable when my girlfriend's sister and her boyfriend came over to visit me when I was home alone. I guess it just depends on the people. It's quite paradoxical that I often feel better on lessons with my students than with acquaintances in my off time. Even though there are of course some conventions and limits, I think I the personalities shine through over time during the lessons.

My girlfriend came back on 19th from the holiday with her friend. The last two weeks, we've been working on the exercises in "7 Principles for Making Marriage Work" by Gottman. It includes writing a "Mission Statement", perhaps akin to the one @D_Cozy is working on now. I tried getting myself to work on this exercise, but it is rather hard. My girlfriend feels the same. I felt a bit ashamed of not having overarching goals and dreams 'for life'. I already have a great job/business, a great girlfriend, a great friend and a great financial cushion and a few other things. I 'just' want to expand/maintain that. At the moment, I am only (again) feeling the need to distance myself from porn once again. I don't want to force some imaginary 'nice to have' goals that I have no attachment to.

I started looking after my health more too. I went to the doctor. I'm gonna get blood and urine samples, as well as an examination at cardiology. In the meanwhile, my father got me a new blood pressure monitor. I bought special tea to help me lower my blood pressure and I started doing more exercise than before. I went for a hike at the weekend, worked out on Tuesday and went for a run with a friend on Wednesday. I made a note in my calendar to start all of my online lessons standing, as I can adjust the height of my table just by pressing a button.

I also visited financial Reddit for a periodical monthly update on the financial world. I also organized a shooting range visit with a few friends at the weekend.

[wheatbiscuit]

1 hour ago, Ikar said:

19 Oct - 24 Oct:

I had to overhear a bunch of (group!) gossip about a guy who was about to come to the party.

My girlfriend came back on 19th from the holiday with her friend. The last two weeks, we've been working on the exercises in "7 Principles for Making Marriage Work" by Gottman. It includes writing a "Mission Statement", perhaps akin to the one @D_Cozy is working on now. I tried getting myself to work on this exercise, but it is rather hard. My girlfriend feels the same. I felt a bit ashamed of not having overarching goals and dreams 'for life'. I already have a great job/business, a great girlfriend, a great friend and a great financial cushion and a few other things. I 'just' want to expand/maintain that. At the moment, I am only (again) feeling the need to distance myself from porn once again. I don't want to force some imaginary 'nice to have' goals that I have no attachment to.

Oh geez, I hope that doesn't happen too much at a reunion early next year. There's potential that it could. >.>

I think it's really cool to examine life guides as a team. If my ex never had serious trauma and things, we could have done a lot better naturally. That might be why the exercises might be difficult - having a naturally good thing going already. Idk 🙂 

Funny you mention it too now. I could try to say that erotica has its last gasp as people become more social, but like with my current RPG-free streak, it's 1 day at a time saying 'I won't game now, maybe tomorrow' as opposed to 'I will pursue romantic interest today alone, then deal with the next day.' I might be twisting logic a bit there but romance to me is like a way of life, a mandatory alternative to merely comfortably assuring sexual 'health'. Gaming could be described as more of a (but long in some cases) step in a person's journey. 

I tried truly opening up for a solid year, before becoming unwell as no one quite knew how to work with me, combined with my gaming. Learning to self-soothe was costly in a way. I'm unlikely to forget the highs/possibilities of my late teens/early twenties easily so that I can stop measuring things now against them. S'why we're here, so we can inspire each other with our learnings, isn't it? 

Edit: This has been probably my first successful game-free real early morning here, without an alarm. Forgiveness please!

Edited October 24, 2024 by wheatbiscuit
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[D_Cozy]

21 hours ago, Ikar said:

The last two weeks, we've been working on the exercises in "7 Principles for Making Marriage Work" by Gottman. It includes writing a "Mission Statement", perhaps akin to the one @D_Cozy is working on now. I tried getting myself to work on this exercise, but it is rather hard. My girlfriend feels the same.

Yeah, Mission Statements are hard to write. I'm not familiar with that book, the one I'm reading is from Stephen R. Covey on "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People." But the idea sounds similar; you want to create a base, a foundation that is built on correct principles like honesty, integrity, fairness, quality, and accountability (these are the ones I'm remembering atm). Covey also states in the book I'm reading that it isn't just a once-and-done kinda thing to write a Mission Statement, it can take several weeks or months before we feel comfortable with it, and even after that it's something we want to keep reviewing to align it as our understanding of principles evolves.

As my signature says, one day at a time. I'm not rushing the process; it's certainly hard to find time some days with 3 kids, but it's been worth it for me to carve out the time to do the work. Mission Statements can be written to be personal, for a family, for a community, and for a business. I'm starting with writing my own mission statement, but at some point I would like to write one with my wife for our family. We have a whiteboard that I think would make a good drawing board for it.

[Ikar]

On 10/24/2024 at 11:00 PM, wheatbiscuit said:

Oh geez, I hope that doesn't happen too much at a reunion early next year. There's potential that it could. >.>

I think it's really cool to examine life guides as a team. If my ex never had serious trauma and things, we could have done a lot better naturally. That might be why the exercises might be difficult - having a naturally good thing going already. Idk 🙂 

Funny you mention it too now. I could try to say that erotica has its last gasp as people become more social, but like with my current RPG-free streak, it's 1 day at a time saying 'I won't game now, maybe tomorrow' as opposed to 'I will pursue romantic interest today alone, then deal with the next day.' I might be twisting logic a bit there but romance to me is like a way of life, a mandatory alternative to merely comfortably assuring sexual 'health'. Gaming could be described as more of a (but long in some cases) step in a person's journey. 

I tried truly opening up for a solid year, before becoming unwell as no one quite knew how to work with me, combined with my gaming. Learning to self-soothe was costly in a way. I'm unlikely to forget the highs/possibilities of my late teens/early twenties easily so that I can stop measuring things now against them. S'why we're here, so we can inspire each other with our learnings, isn't it? 

Edit: This has been probably my first successful game-free real early morning here, without an alarm. Forgiveness please!

Thanks for your post! I don't worry about the birthday party too much. My two biggest friends are my friend and my girlfriend anyway. The rest is kinda "optional" - acquaintances and students. I meet quite a lot of people, but I have to admit it's not easy to make friends now. Maybe it's because I prefer quality over quantity 😄

Traumas are definitely a thing, although I feel like "trauma" is a too strong word for me to use. I mostly worry about how to best overcome these problems now; I think it's good to at least be aware of them and how they influence me.

Yes, I do think being in a relationship is/has a lifestyle of its own. I think my girlfriend and I have made good work on working together as a team in a relationship, especially over the last 3 months. We both put some effort in and the relationship seems to be on the up, though I still worry a little about a few explosive problems. The book has some advice on that, so I hope to use it well.

Good luck with your journey! 🙂 

On 10/25/2024 at 6:37 PM, D_Cozy said:

Yeah, Mission Statements are hard to write. I'm not familiar with that book, the one I'm reading is from Stephen R. Covey on "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People." But the idea sounds similar; you want to create a base, a foundation that is built on correct principles like honesty, integrity, fairness, quality, and accountability (these are the ones I'm remembering atm). Covey also states in the book I'm reading that it isn't just a once-and-done kinda thing to write a Mission Statement, it can take several weeks or months before we feel comfortable with it, and even after that it's something we want to keep reviewing to align it as our understanding of principles evolves.

As my signature says, one day at a time. I'm not rushing the process; it's certainly hard to find time some days with 3 kids, but it's been worth it for me to carve out the time to do the work. Mission Statements can be written to be personal, for a family, for a community, and for a business. I'm starting with writing my own mission statement, but at some point I would like to write one with my wife for our family. We have a whiteboard that I think would make a good drawing board for it.

I remember reading "7 Habits" a few (or perhaps several) years ago, so it struck me to see it again in a very similar format in the "7 Principles" book in combination with you working on what seems to be a very similar exercise too. It sounds like a great idea to do it for your family later! I've never been big on these things (maybe because they are hard 😄 ) , but I'll write about some of the positive traits you mentioned below and what they mean to me, at least as an intellectual exercise:

Honesty: I strongly prefer to be honest. I'm nearly 100% honest in my speech and I often avoid even "white lies". I squirm if I lie and avoid eye contact; I have to say I am very bad at lying.

Integrity: I think my integrity was heavily compromised when gaming. I broke promises and made up excuses; not only to others but to myself as well. I effectively "lied" in my actions. I now know it's much better, but still I think I sometimes "nod away" an issue or avoid doing things (mainly at the request of others) when I feel it's not important/worth my attention. At the same time, when I truly decide for something, I can be sure I give it my 100% and take it seriously for everyone's benefit.

Fairness: I generally don't like to keep scores, but I think I am fair to others and myself. Being self-employed is basically all about managing good relationships and treating others fairly and equally.

I think not saying something at a certain can be a lie as well. That said, I suppose this is an area where people differ. I consider not being transparent/withholding information about e.g. fee structure a lie. Case in point: financial advisors. It's perfectly OK to have one, but I also think it's perfectly OK to know how much they are charging. Are they honest in what they are charging and how? Did they wave it off as an irrelevant concern? Did they find the numbers straight up? Investments are numbers on a paper and should be judged by their advantages and disadvantages; much like cars. It's not smart to buy the car just because the man looks nice and tells nice stories.

Thanks for your comment!

[Ikar]

25 Oct - 2 Nov:

My girlfriend and I went for a short trip to Italy for four days until 28 Oct. It was nice to spend time together and to see a new country after a while. We also worked on some of the exercises from the "7 Principles" book for relationship.

I went to the doctor's and my blood samples and urine are OK. I'm going to visit cardiology next week just to be sure. As for my health, I went running this week and tomorrow I'm gonna change the wheels/tires tomorrow to get some lifting.

My father, my friend and I did some work on grandma's kitchen again. It went fine and we got the water pipes changed/remade.

[BooksandTrees]

On 11/2/2024 at 2:43 PM, Ikar said:

25 Oct - 2 Nov:

My girlfriend and I went for a short trip to Italy for four days until 28 Oct. It was nice to spend time together and to see a new country after a while. We also worked on some of the exercises from the "7 Principles" book for relationship.

I went to the doctor's and my blood samples and urine are OK. I'm going to visit cardiology next week just to be sure. As for my health, I went running this week and tomorrow I'm gonna change the wheels/tires tomorrow to get some lifting.

My father, my friend and I did some work on grandma's kitchen again. It went fine and we got the water pipes changed/remade.

Good to hear about your health. I'm curious if you've considered self a nutritionist too? I've gotten a lot of help from mine. 

[Ikar]

10 hours ago, BooksandTrees said:

Good to hear about your health. I'm curious if you've considered self a nutritionist too? I've gotten a lot of help from mine. 

What was the issue you solved together?

Thanks for the concern regarding my diet. I'm doing my best to avoid excess sodium, unhealthy fats and empty calories. I'm also even more vary of alcohol than I used to. I got a full blood and urine screening and all the values are OK, including sodium and cholesterol. My blood pressure is around 130 these days. I'm doing more exercise and I think it's starting to have an impact. I guess I should try to get a half-hour in every day though; I'm roughly at two times a week now.

[Ikar]

I'm using the template I used the last time. 8/10/24 - 6/11/24

"L" will stand for the (last) plan/notes for this term. "T" will stand for done this term.

I added "Future goals/direction" to better reflect on the things I am trying to do and to add specificity. I will copy it and stick it somewhere where I can see it to remind myself whenever I feel aimless. I will also use different colors: blue for newly added goals/habits, green for completed/successful, orange for ongoing/some progress and red for ones I haven't worked on in that period.

 

Books/Reading articles/Learning:

L: I didn't borrow any books this month, because unfortunately the library is in reconstruction. They should open it in a few weeks though.

I however do think I made good progress in educating myself through chats, meetings and Reddit with other English lecturers. I feel more confident at what I do and how I do it and that's a good feeling to have.

T: I went to a seminar about tech in education, met with my coursemate again and studied more about AI. Read up on my sub-reddits about finance again.

Possible direction/goals:

(Borrow) and read one book until the next monthly report.

 

Family:

L: My friend, my girlfriend and I made significant progress in the installation of the cabinets. The upper part is pretty much done and the lower cabinets are waiting to be installed. We're more than half-way through the project (including the planning - mostly done by my brother and father) and I'm very happy thanks to that. The installation of the lower cabinets will be more challenging, as we also need to deal with several pipes and the sink, but I'm confident we'll manage it.

T: Got some work done on the water pipes and electricity, mostly by my father. My girlfriend and my friend noticed he treats me quite harshly and that my reactions are quite harsh too; I'm really oblivious to that, because it's just how it's always been. We usually help out one another in need, so I guess that's OK. However, I'm working on having different relationship dynamics with others.

NOT: I don't want to get alienated from my family.

Possible direction/goals:

Work on getting the new kitchen for my grandma.

Continue work on maintaining the relationships with my family.

 

Business/English:

L: I started some important projects in August, among them are: setting higher prices, contacting old students with offers for re-engagement and the website improvement project. We'll see how they go.

From the numbers below, it's clear that I didn't have many language school courses during the summer. Many companies cut language school courses during the summer completely. For my financial stability over the summer, it is really better when I have my own courses, because individual people only cancel the lessons when they are on holiday (2 or 3 weeks, but not 2 or 3 whole months like companies). I even got a pay raise in one of the language schools, but the gap is just too big at this point. I can earn 20-35% more on my own even on their best paid courses.

I have the CELTA certificate at home now! I also improved my financial planning by implementing new tools. I also worked on writing some of my new website and worked with my web-designer. I wrote about the teaching-philosophy change above.

The good news also is that I won't need the numbers below from the next month. I now officially have only 2-3 hours of lessons for the language schools a week, meaning tracking this metric is has become redundant! It will come down to just 1 hour in November too.

T: I didn't get any leads from my old students, but that's OK. I made them aware and that's what counts. The website improvement project is still ongoing, though not much work was done in the last month.

Section with the split of lessons (my own/language school) deleted. Feels good! I've had this goal for the last two/three years and now it's reality. I had nearly 20 hours of lessons last week and just 1 for language schools. I'm happy 😄 

NOT: I don't want to have a job that I don't enjoy. I don't want to have a job that is not well paid.

Possible direction/goals:

With my job position and student demand secure, I'm more able and willing to reschedule or even cancel classes in case I want to do something, mainly in the evening and for holidays. I enjoy having this option thoroughly.

Keep classes at a stable 20-25 hours a week.

Keep asking for reviews or recommendations from students.

Look into strategies to become truly self-employed by skipping the agencies in between. - check university offers after CELTA

Create a learning plan for myself. - going to CELTA

Go through "lecturer academy" + CELTA materials.

Networking and business events.

Past projects:

Questionnaire - June 2023

Fixed logos on my website for better visuals.

Updated the pricing section of my website. Variable/tiered pricing (do in July/August).

Got minor pay raises from language schools. - summer 2023

Did evaluations/testing of my students, if required.

Attended one networking event and one marketing seminar.

Introduced "phone call" classes. Update website/business profiles with "phone calls".

Lecturer academy Brona. - fall 2023

Sample business contract on my website. - update the web with new ideas before July

Google sheets system for students. - update it

Questionnaire part 2 - January 2024

Canceled agency courses - March

Taxes - April/May

60/55 minutes online transition - April/May

Questionnaire part 3 - June

CELTA - July 2023

Contacted old students with offers - Aug/Sep 2024

Raised prices - from Sep

Website improvement project - from Aug

 

Exercise/Movement:

L: I visited the physiotherapist a month ago, but I still do the exercises from time to time, mainly the main three I got during our very first meeting. I can now also say that I exercise once a week, either running with my girlfriend or going to the workout playground with other guys. I also cycled and went for some trips.

T: I started being more conscious about my health after finding out about my high blood pressure. I'm gonna get a cardiological appointment soon. I also started being more intent on exercising semi-daily and standing/walking during the lessons rather than sitting. I went to a hike or two too.

NOT: I don't want to become fat.

Possible direction/goals:

I enjoy the fact I do not have to be "actively" dealing with this area of my life, as it's technically a part of my job. I just have to be on lookout if that was to change.

Keep in shape.

 

Blogging:

L: I had another burst of inspiration some day in the late evening and managed to push out an article in about an hour and something.

T: -

Possible direction/goals:

Find a suitable UI/web template.

Set up emailing for subs.

Post two articles a month.

Polish links in articles. Interlink new articles with old ones.

Finish articles in concepts.

 

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What to do if I am bored?

Replacement activities for 1 hour: reading books, cleaning, washing the dishes, reading newsletters

Replacement activities for 2 hours: going for a walk, work on my business, blogging

 

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Additional thoughts/activities:

I'm now more open to working abroad now after taking the CELTA. I also met many new and interesting people and managed to meet a few older friends.

 

My priorities for the next six weeks:

Prepare for the CELTA English teaching course that starts in six weeks. - done

I want to work on the questionnaire part 3 in May/June as well. - done

Reconstruct my grandma's kitchen.

 

My hobbies are: personal finance, graphs/projections/statistics, gunnery, GIS/statistics, reading/videos about (modern) history, English, working on my business, blogging/writing, geography.

This month, I did these cool activities: going to Italy, going to the shooting range with my friends, changing wheels on my car, working on my grandma's kitchen, visiting my friends, working on my relationship with my girlfriend (7 Principles), reading about finance.

 

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Goals/resolutions/aspirations for 2024:

Main must-have plans for 2024:

Prepare for (Feb-June) and successfully make (July-August) the CELTA certificate course.

Finish the university in January. In case something goes horribly wrong, then in May. I've got this.

Move in with my girlfriend in April.

Set up the new kitchen for my grandma.

Optional nice-to-have plans for 2024:

Re-start my financial blog in February.

Learn how to type with all ten fingers on the keyboard.

Habits:

Stop watching porn (again).

Start getting up when my alarm rings = Put my alarm across the room.

Establish flossing at least once a week.

Exercise regularly.

Continue: planning, walking/exercising, writing/journaling, reading, working on good life/work balance.

It's a short list, but if I manage all of it, I will be happy.

[Ikar]

7 Nov - 14 Nov:

I've been feeling up and down lately. I think I definitely spent less time on the computer and more time exercising or just being with my girlfriend. We also attended a wedding of her friend at the weekend.

I started to exercise more in order to lower my blood pressure. I also decided to join the army reserve, meaning I'll go to an exercise a few times a year for a week or two. It felt like the right thing to do. I'll have to pass the medical checks to be accepted. I started reading a new book about lecturing/business as well and I hope to get some good insights.

[D_Cozy]

Wanted to ask; how much time do you recommend practicing per day for language learning?

I've been rethinking my own long term goals, and I think learning French should be in there for me. Anything else you can recommend too in terms of practicing and scheduling out lessons, I'll take all the advice I can.

[Ikar]

17 hours ago, D_Cozy said:

Wanted to ask; how much time do you recommend practicing per day for language learning?

I've been rethinking my own long term goals, and I think learning French should be in there for me. Anything else you can recommend too in terms of practicing and scheduling out lessons, I'll take all the advice I can.

I'd definitely try to stay in contact with the language every day, or at least most of the days. Duolingo is OK for that if you don't have any other way that day.

The truth though is that "specific" materials, such as language learning apps or grammar exercises should be the minor way of keeping in contact with the language. The most important part is just to speak and listen, at least for most people. You get good at what you practice.

If you want have French lessons with a tutor, I'd definitely recommend finding someone who can facilitate discussion and correct your speaking in a reasonable way (and also amount). Grammar exercises are good for homework; there's no point in paying someone to watch you fill out worksheets you can download/correct yourself. And again, ideally the lessons should be just a complement, not the main way of learning. From my perspective, the best students actively set the topic, tell me stories from their lives and show me their homework and I'm just there being happy for them while looking at how much they've progressed.

All in all, you should have several sources of French surrounding you and expose yourself to them in any suitable situation. I know it doesn't answer the "how much time" question, but I'd argue the direct answer to this question is somewhat meaningless. Let me know if it makes sense and if you have anything else to discuss, I'll be happy to share my perspective 😄

[D_Cozy]

Thanks for your thoughts. I think it makes sense that the best way is unsurprisingly to just practice it and speak with others.

Duolingo is alright, but yeah by itself it's not enough. It gets really repetitive. So it does really help to have my wife around, who speaks the language herself fluently, that's been a positive. I try to make an effort to speak French when my kids get to daycare and school as well.

I have seen tutors that offer lessons online, but yeah I'd prefer something more in person. That's something I'll look into at the local level, something less classroom like as well.

I suppose it's not something that can be rigidly answered with a "how much time to practice per day" question, and I appreciate the candidacy around that. This still gives me good steps that I can fill into my "how" area of the goal planning I do.

Thank you again for your thoughts 🙂 Really appreciate them

[Ikar]

1 hour ago, D_Cozy said:

Thanks for your thoughts. I think it makes sense that the best way is unsurprisingly to just practice it and speak with others.

So it does really help to have my wife around, who speaks the language herself fluently, that's been a positive. I try to make an effort to speak French when my kids get to daycare and school as well.

Keep it up, it's really the only way forward!

1 hour ago, D_Cozy said:

I have seen tutors that offer lessons online, but yeah I'd prefer something more in person. That's something I'll look into at the local level, something less classroom like as well.

I guess even group courses could be good, but you don't (and realistically can't) get a say in how they're run. Some might offer a free consultation/trial class, so I think it's correct to shop around. Good group tutors utilize pair-work a lot (because even speaking to a fellow student your level makes you get out of your head), use target language as much as possible (you're there to learn French, not English) and make you speak 1/3-1/2 of the lesson (mostly in pairs/trios). In individual lessons, the ratio of speaking (initiative) tutor/student should be as high as or over 70/30. Also look for any cringe/weird moments during the lesson - when there's too much silence, personal discussion bordering on arguments or students just being generally bored or absent-minded. I'm naturally biased, as I specialize in 1-to-1 (and 2, maaaybe 3) lessons, but I think it's really the most effective method in the ratio of time spent/language learnt. It's just costly 😄 

[Ikar]

15 Nov - 23 Nov:

I've been fairly busy these days. Again, I think I am spending less time on the computer overall and more time with other activities.

My girlfriend and I went to the theater and had a burger dinner to celebrate being together for two years! 😄

I'm still keeping up with the exercise. Maybe not as much as my girlfriend, but it's still about twice a week of direct exercise, plus fast walks, hikes and others. I also visited a laser game place on Thursday and my legs are still sore 😄 

Socially, I visited my girlfriend's family, attended a geography quiz and celebrated my friend's birthday.

[Ikar]

24 Nov - 27 Nov:

I made ginger tea and I'm currently chilling at home by myself. My girlfriend went to watch a debate on child-friendly cities.

I spent Sunday visiting my family, reading and working on chores.

On Monday, I went for the all-day army entry medical checks and it was all good. I just need to send them my results from the cardiology as soon as I get them. Went running with my girlfriend too.

I met my brother on Tuesday and had the first lesson with a new student.

I got my Holter monitor from a nurse today and it is monitoring my blood pressure during the course of my day. I should get a date of my appointment with the doctor tomorrow too. I just hope the gadget won't wake me too often at night 😄 

[Ikar]

28 Nov - 4 Dec:

I had the Holter monitor for the whole day and I averaged blood pressure of 132/75 and 56 BPM. I have a cardiology appointment on 19 Dec, but I think it'll be OK 🙂 

Spent some time reading financial and English teaching Reddit. Went to the shooting range with a group of friends, changed/charged my car battery. Spent a good deal of time reconstructing my grandma's kitchen with my friend on Saturday. Doing fine otherwise 😄

 

[Ikar]

5 Dec - 8 Dec:

Spent some time with my family and out with friends. Did some reading and kitchen reconstructing too. Nothing unusual otherwise.

[Ikar]

 I'm using the template I used the last time. 6/11/24 - 10/12/24

"L" will stand for the (last) plan/notes for this term. "T" will stand for done this term.

I added "Future goals/direction" to better reflect on the things I am trying to do and to add specificity. I will copy it and stick it somewhere where I can see it to remind myself whenever I feel aimless. I will also use different colors: blue for newly added goals/habits, green for completed/successful, orange for ongoing/some progress and red for ones I haven't worked on in that period.

 

Books/Reading articles/Learning:

L: I however do think I made good progress in educating myself through chats, meetings and Reddit with other English lecturers. I went to a seminar about tech in education, met with my coursemate again and studied more about AI. Read up on my sub-reddits about finance again.

T: More of the same really. I also read a short and a very insightful book about language lecturing. Gonna borrow a book about health today.

Possible direction/goals:

(Borrow) and read one book until the next monthly report.

 

Family:

L: Got some work done on the water pipes and electricity, mostly by my father. My girlfriend and my friend noticed he treats me quite harshly and that my reactions are quite harsh too; I'm really oblivious to that, because it's just how it's always been. We usually help out one another in need, so I guess that's OK. However, I'm working on having different relationship dynamics with others.

T: Managed to get to my grandma's kitchen twice with my friend and my father. Most of the old furniture has been eliminated. Now we just need to install the sink/sink cabinet and one more drawer cabinet. I also visited a Korean grill restaurant with my brother to try something new 🙂 

NOT: I don't want to get alienated from my family.

Possible direction/goals:

Work on getting the new kitchen for my grandma.

Continue work on maintaining the relationships with my family.

 

Business/English:

L: I have the CELTA certificate at home now! I also improved my financial planning by implementing new tools. I also worked on writing some of my new website and worked with my web-designer. I wrote about the teaching-philosophy change above.

 Section with the split of lessons (my own/language school) deleted. Feels good! I've had this goal for the last two/three years and now it's reality. I had nearly 20 hours of lessons last week and just 1 for language schools. I'm happy 😄 

T: The website improvement project is still ongoing, though not much work was done in the last month. The web-designer just asks me a thing or two every week; I assume he has enough work on other projects too. Truth be told, the ball was sometimes on my side and it took me a few days to supply something. It's OK though, because I know I'm doing something for my future career development. Other than that, it's standard Reddit reading about other teachers' experience, students finishing and starting, admin and preparation.

NOT: I don't want to have a job that I don't enjoy. I don't want to have a job that is not well paid.

Possible direction/goals:

With my job position and student demand secure, I'm more able and willing to reschedule or even cancel classes in case I want to do something, mainly in the evening and for holidays. I enjoy having this option thoroughly.

Keep classes at a stable 20-25 hours a week.

Keep asking for reviews or recommendations from students.

Look into strategies to become truly self-employed by skipping the agencies in between. - check university offers after CELTA

Create a learning plan for myself. - going to CELTA

Go through "lecturer academy" + CELTA materials.

Networking and business events.

Past projects:

Questionnaire - June 2023

Fixed logos on my website for better visuals.

Updated the pricing section of my website. Variable/tiered pricing (do in July/August).

Got minor pay raises from language schools. - summer 2023

Did evaluations/testing of my students, if required.

Attended one networking event and one marketing seminar.

Introduced "phone call" classes. Update website/business profiles with "phone calls".

Lecturer academy Brona. - fall 2023

Sample business contract on my website. - update the web with new ideas before July

Google sheets system for students. - update it

Questionnaire part 2 - January 2024

Canceled agency courses - March

Taxes - April/May

60/55 minutes online transition - April/May

Questionnaire part 3 - June

CELTA - July 2024

Contacted old students with offers - Aug/Sep 2024

Raised prices - from Sep

Website improvement project - from Aug

 

Exercise/Movement:

L: I started being more conscious about my health after finding out about my high blood pressure. I'm gonna get a cardiological appointment soon. I also started being more intent on exercising semi-daily and standing/walking during the lessons rather than sitting. I went to a hike or two too.

T: These days, I normally manage 1-2x exercise sessions (or runs) and 1-2x stretching sessions. All that along with some hikes at the weekend and regular walks once or twice a day. My blood pressure is somewhat elevated, but not in need of medication. I have another appointment on the 19th to check up with the doctor.

NOT: I don't want to become fat.

Possible direction/goals:

I enjoy the fact I do not have to be "actively" dealing with this area of my life, as it's technically a part of my job. I just have to be on lookout if that was to change.

Keep in shape.

 

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My hobbies are: personal finance, graphs/projections/statistics, gunnery, GIS/statistics, reading/videos about (modern) history, English, working on my business, blogging/writing, geography.

This month, I did these cool activities: going to the shooting range with my friends, doing some minor fixes in my car, working on my grandma's kitchen, visiting my friends, working on my relationship with my girlfriend (7 Principles), reading about finance, reading about English, going to a wedding/hike/theater/debate with my girlfriend, going to a laser game with my friends. Spent less time at the computer too.

 

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Goals/resolutions/aspirations for 2024:

Main must-have plans for 2024:

Prepare for (Feb-June) and successfully make (July-August) the CELTA certificate course.

Finish the university in January. In case something goes horribly wrong, then in May. I've got this.

Move in with my girlfriend in April.

Set up the new kitchen for my grandma.

Optional nice-to-have plans for 2024:

Re-start my financial blog in February.

Learn how to type with all ten fingers on the keyboard.

Habits:

Stop watching porn (again).

Start getting up when my alarm rings = Put my alarm across the room.

Establish flossing at least once a week.

Exercise regularly.

Continue: planning, walking/exercising, writing/journaling, reading, working on good life/work balance.

It's a short list, but if I manage all of it, I will be happy.

[Ikar]

10 Dec - 16 Dec:

Got some work done on my website again and I think my web-designer is finishing his work slowly as well. My girlfriend and I made Christmas sweets together last week. We also did some exercise and went out a few times. I went out to the theater with my mom on Saturday and went shopping for new pants with my girlfriend on Sunday. The shopping turned out to be painful; I got a headache later during the day, maybe because of dehydration, not eating enough or just because of the environment in the shopping mall. I also started reading a new book called "Outlive" by Peter Attia, so I hope to take some insights from it for a healthier life.

[Yan]

On 12/17/2024 at 1:25 PM, Ikar said:

10 Dec - 16 Dec:

Got some work done on my website again and I think my web-designer is finishing his work slowly as well. My girlfriend and I made Christmas sweets together last week. We also did some exercise and went out a few times. I went out to the theater with my mom on Saturday and went shopping for new pants with my girlfriend on Sunday. The shopping turned out to be painful; I got a headache later during the day, maybe because of dehydration, not eating enough or just because of the environment in the shopping mall. I also started reading a new book called "Outlive" by Peter Attia, so I hope to take some insights from it for a healthier life.

Listened to that book, as far as I remember it was a beneficial experience from which i took away some health improvements (lifestyle) don't remember which though 🙂 

[Ikar]

On 12/22/2024 at 6:48 AM, Yan said:

Listened to that book, as far as I remember it was a beneficial experience from which i took away some health improvements (lifestyle) don't remember which though 🙂 

Yes, I'm about to finish it and after I'm done, I'll find out more, especially about exercising. I am still nowhere near the recommended amount/quality, but I'm trying to get there.

[Ikar]

17 Dec - 3 Jan:

I've had this recurring thought every now and then that I am often somehow prevented from what I want to do in my free time; basically whenever I am not with students or sleeping. I don't think the activities I'm missing are unimportant either. I'd like to read more, exercise more, work on my business more, floss more or journal more. I really miss doing the things, it's not about hitting some arbitrary benchmarks of hours exercised or money made. I can also say that I am better at the mentioned activities than I was a year ago - I'm more effective at work, I started exercising and I make time to read more often.

Distractions vary, but I ultimately believe I have the power to manage them in a way that makes sense. I just hate being distracted and not being able to focus. I feel like my day just wasted away if I don't have a regular dose of these sessions. Maybe I should just learn to plan better, though just the thought of having some hours of my day scheduled makes me cringe. Oddly enough, I don't get this feeling while planning lessons of my students, normally in bigger blocks. Maybe I should rethink that belief to make me happier.

As for the activities over the last two weeks: I did some reading, meeting with friends, went to cardiology, questionnaire, week-long trip to Mallorca with my girlfriend, got my financial spreadsheets updated, met my family, watched films and series with my girlfriend.

[Ikar]

 I'm using the template I used the last time. 10/12/24 - 7/1/25

"L" will stand for the (last) plan/notes for this term. "T" will stand for done this term.

I added "Future goals/direction" to better reflect on the things I am trying to do and to add specificity. I will copy it and stick it somewhere where I can see it to remind myself whenever I feel aimless. I will also use different colors: blue for newly added goals/habits, green for completed/successful, orange for ongoing/some progress and red for ones I haven't worked on in that period.

 

Books/Reading articles/Learning:

L: I however do think I made good progress in educating myself through chats, meetings and Reddit with other English lecturers. Read up on my sub-reddits about finance again. I also read a short and a very insightful book about language lecturing. Gonna borrow a book about health today.

T: Spent some time reading on Reddit again, scanning for any relevant information. I'm almost finished with "Outlive" by Attia. I can say it sparked more interest about health, exercise and fitness in general.

Possible direction/goals:

(Borrow) and read one book until the next monthly report.

 

Family:

L:  Managed to get to my grandma's kitchen twice with my friend and my father. Most of the old furniture has been eliminated. Now we just need to install the sink/sink cabinet and one more drawer cabinet. I also visited a Korean grill restaurant with my brother to try something new 🙂 

T: I went to the theater with my mom and made some family visits as usual. My father and my brother took turns to work on the grandma's kitchen and it seems like we're really nearing the end.

NOT: I don't want to get alienated from my family.

Possible direction/goals:

Work on getting the new kitchen for my grandma.

Continue work on maintaining the relationships with my family.

 

Business/English:

L: I have the CELTA certificate at home now! I also improved my financial planning by implementing new tools. I also worked on writing some of my new website and worked with my web-designer. Section with the split of lessons (my own/language school) deleted. Feels good! I've had this goal for the last two/three years and now it's reality. I had nearly 20 hours of lessons last week and just 1 for language schools. I'm happy 😄 

The website improvement project is still ongoing, though not much work was done in the last month. The web-designer just asks me a thing or two every week; I assume he has enough work on other projects too. Truth be told, the ball was sometimes on my side and it took me a few days to supply something. It's OK though, because I know I'm doing something for my future career development. Other than that, it's standard Reddit reading about other teachers' experience, students finishing and starting, admin and preparation.

T: Worked on the new website again with the web-designer. Sent out the bi-yearly questionnaires to my students.

After sending out the questionnaires, I went for a holiday to Balearic Islands with my girlfriend. After coming back, I felt very excited to work with my students again! I contacted some of my old students and I signed up for a course organized and run by a coach I cooperated with in the past at the university and that paid for by the government. I hope the application goes through 🙂 

NOT: I don't want to have a job that I don't enjoy. I don't want to have a job that is not well paid.

Possible direction/goals:

With my job position and student demand secure, I'm more able and willing to reschedule or even cancel classes in case I want to do something, mainly in the evening and for holidays. I enjoy having this option thoroughly.

Keep classes at a stable 20-25 hours a week.

Keep asking for reviews or recommendations from students.

Look into strategies to become truly self-employed by skipping the agencies in between. - check university offers after CELTA

Create a learning plan for myself. - going to CELTA

Go through "lecturer academy" + CELTA materials.

Networking and business events.

Past projects:

Questionnaire - June 2023

Fixed logos on my website for better visuals.

Updated the pricing section of my website. Variable/tiered pricing (do in July/August).

Got minor pay raises from language schools. - summer 2023

Did evaluations/testing of my students, if required.

Attended one networking event and one marketing seminar.

Introduced "phone call" classes. Update website/business profiles with "phone calls".

Lecturer academy Brona. - fall 2023

Sample business contract on my website. - update the web with new ideas before July

Google sheets system for students. - update it

Questionnaire part 2 - January 2024

Canceled agency courses - March

Taxes - April/May

60/55 minutes online transition - April/May

Questionnaire part 3 - June

CELTA - July 2024

Contacted old students with offers - Aug/Sep 2024

Raised prices - from Sep

Website improvement project - from Aug

reading business books - Vlach, Gramel

Questionnaire part 4 - Jan 25

 

Exercise/Movement:

L: These days, I normally manage 1-2x exercise sessions (or runs) and 1-2x stretching sessions. All that along with some hikes at the weekend and regular walks once or twice a day. My blood pressure is somewhat elevated, but not in need of medication. I have another appointment on the 19th to check up with the doctor.

T: Exercise is about the same as it was the last month. The appointment went alright, though I am going for another test later this month. Went to donate blood plasma twice as well, so I assume my health is alright, as they need to do checks.

NOT: I don't want to become fat.

Possible direction/goals:

I enjoy the fact I do not have to be "actively" dealing with this area of my life, as it's technically a part of my job. I just have to be on lookout if that was to change.

Keep in shape.

 

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My hobbies are: personal finance, graphs/projections/statistics, gunnery, GIS/statistics, reading/videos about (modern) history, English, working on my business, blogging/writing, geography.

This month, I did these cool activities: going for holiday with my girlfriend, baking christmas sweets with my girlfriend, visiting the theater with my mom, having a board-game night with friends, visiting my friends, working on my relationship with my girlfriend (7 Principles), reading about finance, reading about English. Spent less time at the computer too.

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For thought:

Maybe I should just learn to plan better, though just the thought of having some hours of my day scheduled makes me cringe. Oddly enough, I don't get this feeling while planning lessons of my students, normally in bigger blocks. Maybe I should rethink that belief to make me happier.

I've had this recurring thought every now and then that I am often somehow prevented from what I want to do in my free time; basically whenever I am not with students or sleeping.

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Goals/resolutions/aspirations for 2024:

Main must-have plans for 2024:

Prepare for (Feb-June) and successfully make (July-August) the CELTA certificate course.

Finish the university in January. In case something goes horribly wrong, then in May. I've got this.

Move in with my girlfriend in April.

Set up the new kitchen for my grandma.

Optional nice-to-have plans for 2024:

Re-start my financial blog in February.

Learn how to type with all ten fingers on the keyboard.

Habits:

Stop watching porn (again).

Start getting up when my alarm rings = Put my alarm across the room.

Establish flossing at least once a week.

Exercise regularly.

Continue: planning, walking/exercising, writing/journaling, reading, working on good life/work balance.

It's a short list, but if I manage all of it, I will be happy.

 

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[Ikar]

2024 yearly report

I'll lump reading, learning and university into one chunk:

Facts: I finished the university. I read two business/lecturer books, a book about health and a book about relationships. I finished the CELTA course. I met with my CELTA course-mate online. I read up on Reddit about finance and English teaching. I added and removed newsletters.

Feelings: I realized going to courses and reading books is nice, however it's not of much use if one doesn't actually apply the advice. Therefore, I'm quite OK with having read 'only' three books during the year, because I made notes (photos) of the important parts, grasped important concepts from them and overall put the advice into practice. I also became much more intent with newsletters. Whenever I find something interesting, I usually sub for a few weeks, check out the basic concept, and then unsub. My email is now much less cluttered than it used to be.

Family:

Facts: I think 80-90% of the whole kitchen project is done, mostly done in the second part of the last year. I think that's the only fact I have worth mentioning.

Feelings: I guess my mom is slowly succumbing to dementia. It's been happening for a few years, but I think putting a label on it helps me cope with it. I also don't think my father has skill-set and toolbox to make the situation better. I think the kitchen project really stretched my family's ability to work together. There would be problems even if we worked smoothly though. I'll let that be my lesson for the future; to do something for somebody with extreme limitations in how I do it, worrying about getting something wrong (for somebody else) and having to take blame from somebody else when something ultimately does go wrong. Maybe I'll grow closer to my family when I have kids, I don't know.

Business/English:

Facts: My business/English teaching is trending upwards. I improved the lessons for my students (questionnaires, CELTA), improved my business education (business books), worked on the marketing (new website, pricing) and eliminated nearly all language school courses. I have less than 10% of reduction of profits compared to the last year, but I also worked about 25% less lessons.

Feelings: I made some pretty big one-off investments into my business this year: I got the CELTA, new computer/technology and I'm working on the new website with a few other people. I feel good about it though, as it was and is necessary. Getting the CELTA was very demanding, but I managed to do it. Eliminating language school courses was also a big confidence boost and it assured me in that what I'm doing is correct and in demand.

Exercise:

Facts: My efforts to do exercise and stretch have been going up since May. I found a workout group I went out with a few times. I also started working out with my girlfriend several weeks ago.

Feelings: I think I started exercising more due to my occasional headaches and higher blood pressure. I don't know whether they are related, but exercise yields more benefits besides perhaps solving these problems.

Relationship with my girlfriend:

I've been looking forward to living together and we moved in together in April. I can say it's much better than living with flatmates, though perhaps a bit more distracting at times. I like to spend time by myself (for example when I have a free morning and my girlfriend's at work), so that's sometimes a challenge. What's great is that I think we solved/managed the traveling issue as well. I also started to exercise more, so I think that brought us closer together than ever before. We also worked on the "Seven Principles" book by Gottman and took some techniques and exercises from it. We also try to spend at least a bit of time alone with each other every day and I can say we're quite successful with that.

Social:

I participated in multiple different events: organized my friends and went to the shooting range with them, played billiard, laser game or table football; all that with different people and friend groups. I meet my best friend a few times a month. Oddly enough, I can also say an important social aspect has been the work on my new website with the web designer (and possibly the same for the coder this year as well). I can also say I have a good time with my girlfriend's family whenever I visit them.

Writing/Blogging:

I wrote/rewrote a grand total of two articles this year. I still have a few half-written articles I could finish, but I can't be bothered. I can't say I missed it or that I had an urge to write more often than that. Maybe later.

Other hobbies/activities I worked on this year: modern history, politics (though mostly as fun or infotainment), personal finance/investing, theater/culture events, shooting range, billiard, table football, my business.

Plans for this year coming up below.

[Ikar]

Evaluation of this year's goals:

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Main must-have plans for 2024:

Prepare for (Feb-June) and successfully make (July-August) the CELTA certificate course. - finished in July

Finish the university in January. In case something goes horribly wrong, then in May. I've got this. - finished in January

Move in with my girlfriend in April. - finished in April

Set up the new kitchen for my grandma. - I now checked on my phone that the first furniture construction/replacement happened this mid-September. Most of the furniture is now changed/constructed, as well as most of the ancillary stuff like gas, walls etc.

Optional nice-to-have plans for 2024:

Re-start my financial blog in February. - I haven't really thought of it in the last few months. Optional.

Learn how to type with all ten fingers on the keyboard. - Optional. I don't even now know why it's here 🙂 

Habits:

Stop watching porn (again). - I had a run of three or four weeks without porn in June before CELTA. I entered "survival" mode during CELTA, as I just had no other way to relax and really even no time to relax. Holidays with my girlfriend usually give me time to stop, but it usually doesn't last long after. I just can't help but feel excited about it every now and then. And maybe that's it. I should just make my life more exciting and try new activities more often. I'll keep this in mind moving forward.

Start getting up when my alarm rings = Put my alarm across the room. - I put my phone in the living room, so that works.

Establish flossing at least once a week. - I usually establish flossing for about a week and then successfully forget about it.

Exercise regularly. - I exercise with my girlfriend and do stretching on my own, in gradual intensity since about May.

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Plans coming up below.