Daniel Posted August 19, 2016 Author Share Posted August 19, 2016 Day 36Yep, it's my morning routine and night routine. Today I masturbated again, missed my workout and had more intense videogame cravings. Almost played again.My food choices were worse as well.My girlfriend dropped by and cheered me up, it helped me a lot. It served as a wake up call.One of the habits I dropped this week was writting here as soon as I woke up. I felt it helped me a lot. My journal at my website hasn't been updated.Yesterday I spent some time longing for the past, reading the blogs I visited when I was younger and seeing old pictures.But I know I need to focus on the present. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marquess Posted August 19, 2016 Share Posted August 19, 2016 (edited) What helps me when it comes to writing is just writing perhaps 100-300 words on my random thoughts; it's a good way to warm up just like you would for any physical exercise. The other thing is, and idk if that's generally a good idea, is to go and spend about 20 minutes on social networks (while having green tea) to satisfy the curiosity, but then I block everything in Cold Turkey and get to work so to speak.It would probably make sense, if you have any further ambitions, to focus on writing in your native language. The only reason I don't is because Slovene is literally spoken by 2 million people, which is not exactly the case with Spanish :PP.(Also, and I may be completely wrong in this, it still somehow looks to me like you're trying to do too much at once. Addressed this in my other post, I'd just focus on not gaming and fap away, lol.) Edited August 19, 2016 by Marquess Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reno F Posted August 19, 2016 Share Posted August 19, 2016 Hey, Daniel mate. Just dropping by to mention that I was so close to uninstalling Whatsapp the other day. I mean, there is nothing to keep me in the app, it is only a huge distraction. While I didn't uninstall it, I turned off all the annoying notifications and deleted the shortcut.As for fapping, my opinion: should be fine as long as you don't waste 1+ hours watching porn. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Piotr Posted August 19, 2016 Share Posted August 19, 2016 We all know this hard time you getting through. Although, you had a relapse at masturbation, you still have that mindset which brought you to a month without porn and masturbation. It's very nice achievement which you can repeat and even stretch it for a longer period of time. Just remember about things which brought you this far.Greetings, Piotr. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daniel Posted August 19, 2016 Author Share Posted August 19, 2016 (edited) Day 37I feel like I went through some kind of reset. Now I understand than I can't let my down.While the first 30 days were hard I don't considered them a fierce battle.I feel moments like these when you have a slip, you start having thought about just giving this up, or just play a quick game of anything, feel some cravings, those are the hard days. Perhaps that what the "1 day at a time" saying means.Having fellow members, give you feedback and advice is very, very helpful.What helps me when it comes to writing is just writing perhaps 100-300 words on my random thoughts; it's a good way to warm up just like you would for any physical exercise. The other thing is, and idk if that's generally a good idea, is to go and spend about 20 minutes on social networks (while having green tea) to satisfy the curiosity, but then I block everything in Cold Turkey and get to work so to speak.It would probably make sense, if you have any further ambitions, to focus on writing in your native language. The only reason I don't is because Slovene is literally spoken by 2 million people, which is not exactly the case with Spanish :PP.Yea, I will keep up with the spanish journal. The journal at GameQuitters is like my AA reunion. As I said you write very well, even more impressive knowing that you ain't native english speaker. I like Fargus style as well.(Also, and I may be completely wrong in this, it still somehow looks to me like you're trying to do too much at once. Addressed this in my other post, I'd just focus on not gaming and fap away, lol.)Perhaps I'm spreading myself to thin by avoiding three activities at once, however in my case I feel they are connected. I will consider what you are saying and keep the priority on avoiding videogames. After all this is a forum for quitting videogames. Hey, Daniel mate. Just dropping by to mention that I was so close to uninstalling Whatsapp the other day. I mean, there is nothing to keep me in the app, it is only a huge distraction. While I didn't uninstall it, I turned off all the annoying notifications and deleted the shortcut.As for fapping, my opinion: should be fine as long as you don't waste 1+ hours watching porn.Lately I have been just using the phone instead of whatsapp. If someone is texting me something important I'd just call them. Rarely do I send an important message or picture throught whatsapp, I feel it's more of an entertainment app, rather than communication app.I'm getting plenty of feedback on not worrying too much about fapping and focus on avoiding videogames, thanks We all know this hard time you getting through. Although, you had a relapse at masturbation, you still have that mindset which brought you to a month without porn and masturbation. It's very nice achievement which you can repeat and even stretch it for a longer period of time. Just remember about things which brought you this far.Greetings, Piotr.That's my thought, I managed a month, I can repeat it and streatch it. I simply let my guard down. The awareness must be there, every single day. Edited August 19, 2016 by Daniel Added content Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daniel Posted August 19, 2016 Author Share Posted August 19, 2016 (edited) Day 38Some slight cravings and thoughts related to gaming. The good old "well if I was rich I could probably play videogames"I think my sex drive is a little higher since I started the detox. I still feel a little down but I am feeling better and I'm sure it will pass.Wondering if most gamers are depressive. Edited August 21, 2016 by Daniel Double post Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cam Adair Posted August 20, 2016 Share Posted August 20, 2016 The mysterious Day 38 post! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marquess Posted August 21, 2016 Share Posted August 21, 2016 Day 38Some slight cravings and thoughts related to gaming. The good old "well if I was rich I could probably play videogames"I think my sex drive is a little higher since I started the detox. I still feel a little down but I am feeling better and I'm sure it will pass.Wondering if most gamers are depressive.But at the same time, most people who are rich (and didn't inherit their wealth) think and live in a way that leaves no space for video games. I don't think most gamers suffer from actual clinical depression though, but one can still be very miserable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daniel Posted August 22, 2016 Author Share Posted August 22, 2016 Day 38Some slight cravings and thoughts related to gaming. The good old "well if I was rich I could probably play videogames"I think my sex drive is a little higher since I started the detox. I still feel a little down but I am feeling better and I'm sure it will pass.Wondering if most gamers are depressive.But at the same time, most people who are rich (and didn't inherit their wealth) think and live in a way that leaves no space for video games. I don't think most gamers suffer from actual clinical depression though, but one can still be very miserable.Yea, it's not an habit of succesful people. For some reason some rich and/or famous people end up with other types of drugs problems. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daniel Posted August 22, 2016 Author Share Posted August 22, 2016 Day 39I have been having memories of playing videogames when I was a kid. For example playing wrestling games at n64, creating characters, playing with my cousins and friends. So many hours spent there. This memories often come up when I am bored (at church for example, or while driving around)Also remembered when I started playing Vainglory, and all the effort I put to be more skilled at the game. I used to skip school, go to Starbucks and stay there all day playing.Most kids nowdays have plenty of free time, smarthphones and wifi at home, all the tools needed to become a videogame addict.Having trouble changing my avatar, woot Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marquess Posted August 22, 2016 Share Posted August 22, 2016 Yeah, kids nowadays. Back in my days, you had to get creative to play video games: wake up at 4 AM to occupy the computer in the dorm and play for 2-3 hours before class, etc, lol. Or find ways to get money to spend on arcade machines. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daniel Posted August 22, 2016 Author Share Posted August 22, 2016 (edited) Day 40I'm been staying like an hour in bed before getting up. Also I've been sleeping around 10 hours, not a good sign.I had a dream about Cam making a meet up at Europe.Clicked on discord chat menu at the forum and it opened my old discord account, with all my old videogame buddies and conversations. It failed (or I failed to find the GQ server).Perhaps it's a good idea for newcomers to transition their voice chat from videogames, to voice chat at GQ but to me it only caused cravings. Edited August 22, 2016 by Daniel added discord stuff Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cam Adair Posted August 23, 2016 Share Posted August 23, 2016 Ahhh sorry about the Discord chat. I wonder how I can change that up to avoid that happening again.Also, meetup in Europe is happening for sure. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daniel Posted August 23, 2016 Author Share Posted August 23, 2016 Day 41Still having memories of playing videogames when I was younger, not really cravings, but memories.I've been watching movies lately, delaying some of my obligations, I will take care of some of them today.Ways to tell yourself "I love you": Brush your teethGo to sleep on timeWake up on timeEat healthyWorkout Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reno F Posted August 24, 2016 Share Posted August 24, 2016 Hey, I really liked your last post! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cam Adair Posted August 24, 2016 Share Posted August 24, 2016 Nostalgia is normal, no worries on that. Keep doing the things aligned with your values and goals! Proud of you man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daniel Posted August 24, 2016 Author Share Posted August 24, 2016 (edited) Day 42Last week I missed some workouts, I'm making sure don't miss them this week.I remember a time when some guys at the gym were talking about the reasons of going to the gym.One of them said: I come here because when a girl rejects me I can channel my energy here.The other said: I train because a girl rejected me long ago so I can get really fit, and she see what she missed.When they asked me I told them that if I don't workout I get depressed. They looked perplexed at my answer.I think most people start working out to have an easier time attracting the opposite sex. Eventually the reasons to keep working out change a bit. For health, to fight off depression, to stay busy, etc.I still have been thinking about the days I used to play Vainglory. I'd rather watch a Vainglory match at a bar than a football match. Wondering if people are already doing this.Yep, it's called (trigger warning)........................................................................................................................................................................ Meltdown bars. Edited August 24, 2016 by Daniel added trigger warning Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daniel Posted August 25, 2016 Author Share Posted August 25, 2016 (edited) Day 43Found this so awesome that I couldn´t wait for tomorrow morning to write it here. Depressed people and drug addicts are liars.Have been thinking about gaming, twitch and Vainglory. I noticed that one of the weak links during days 30-40 was my sleep schedule.This is a tool that is probably overlooked. I know it sounds boring to sleep and wake up always at the same time but it's probably for the best.For me it works really well. ### Well played internet, well played. Edited August 25, 2016 by Daniel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cam Adair Posted August 25, 2016 Share Posted August 25, 2016 Sleep is essential for me. If I miss sleep within a day or two everything begins to crumble around me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daniel Posted August 27, 2016 Author Share Posted August 27, 2016 Day 44I feel the same, even changing my sleep routine affects me deeply. I've been procrastinating a lot.I've been having cravings with the following triggers, discord and facebook groups. Need to get rid of them.Need to stop making excuses. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cam Adair Posted August 27, 2016 Share Posted August 27, 2016 What can you do to help your cravings? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daniel Posted August 27, 2016 Author Share Posted August 27, 2016 (edited) Day 45What can you do to help your cravings?It has been mentioned in the forums the following. Being aware of the situations that leads you to craving and being aware of the situations that lead you to the opposite of craving.Once I'm aware of the those two things, to take aggresive steps to avoid the situations that lead me to craving. At the same time put myself in a position where I would lack any kind of craving.Situations that leads to cravings:Irregular sleep scheduleProcastinationSedentarismSituations that lead me to avoid craving:Regular sleep scheduleHaving short term goals that contribute to my long term goal.Active lifestyleThe lists are longer but that's a start.I have been having memories about my diet while I played videogames. I would buy fast food, cookies, ice cream, anything. Not proud about it.Yesterday my girlfriend gave me a lecture about discipline and motivation because she has seen me procrastinating and with a very messy sleep schedule. Normally I would have avoided the conversation but I bit my tongue listened to it all. During our talk I had some excuses to said but I abstained. I realized that the easy thing to do is to give excuses. The hard thing to do is to be responsible about your own life. That's why everyone has trouble achieving their goals and give excuses all the time. Edited August 27, 2016 by Daniel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cam Adair Posted August 27, 2016 Share Posted August 27, 2016 The hard thing to do is to be responsible about your own life.Yep! But this is also the best gift you can ever give yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daniel Posted August 28, 2016 Author Share Posted August 28, 2016 (edited) Day 46Saw Cam's video What If Gaming Is The Only Thing You're Good At?Excellent video, I truly recommend it.Quantity QualityMentorCommunityEducationSelf-analysisPerseveranceIn a way this reminded me of how I learned to play chess.Quantity: I played chess online and play at the chess club.Quality: I played focused and tried to win or learn something from my losses.Mentor: Got advice from former chess state champion. Community: The local chess club was the community, also founded a chess club at my school. Started going to tournaments.Education: I started buying chess books, bought Chessmaster engine, reviewed training software.Self-analysis: Started to anotate and review my chessgames (despite being make fun because of it)Perseverance: Tried three times until I finally won the school chess state championship.For the good or the worse I took a very similar approach for VaingloryQuantity: I played a ridiculous amount of games.Quality: I started playing ranked games only.Mentor: Humbly always asked for advice from better players and guild members. Community: Joined guilds, discord channels. Guild training.Education: Read articles, saw E-Sports Tournaments.Self-analysis: Reviewed final builds and saved them for later study.Perseverance: Tried to break my tier and rank each season. Edited August 29, 2016 by Daniel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cam Adair Posted August 29, 2016 Share Posted August 29, 2016 One of the classics! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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