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    Cooking and food prep can be a very rewarding, healthy, nourishing, and fun hobby! Be wary of doing it for others because they can and will shoot down your pride & enjoyment - not saying your mom will but my close and extended family try to every chance so they do not get my food
  2. It's okay to block the abuse Matt, if even for a little peace of mind. Finding that peace of mind is not so much a right but a responsibility only we can exercise in our own lives. Sorry to hear about narcissist family problems I identify with that strongly, I have information to help cope if you would like to DM. Holiday season is likely to exacerbate any tension that is there.
  3. Saw a Black Friday ad and decided worth shouting out to GQ family this is a great opportunity to build on existing hobbies or start new ones at affordable prices .. that have nothing to do with video games! So much good content published on this site about hobbies but bottom line they will teach your brain there is healthier and pleasurable activities that don't contribute to a hormone imbalance. Even if you can't afford to buy into a hobby there is always the free ones!! Holiday season approaching, best of luck everyone and stay grounded in good health :)
  4. Day 32 no gaming, Day 14 no PMO. Setting new goal to reach with calisthenics hobby - the one arm pullup! Right now impossible to complete a single rep, will be working progressions hard :D Gotten to where I just pump out reps of some kind every hour when wrist watch chimes, kind of addictive but in a healthy way. Sometimes go to failure, sometimes add weight, sometimes pushing myself to do something new. I really think home hobbies like this is a great assist to combating the easy access of pornography. Like training the brain there is a lot more that can be done within four walls. Creating new habits help train / rewire the brain.
  5. Hobbies https://gamequitters.com/hobby-tool/ Check out options Free and At-Home :) Great move putting the games out of sight it will help a lot it is up for you to decide how far you go, mine are in pieces =) Highly recommend 90 day detox and if this becomes your aim do whatever you need to make that happen, will change the way you see it all every bit.
  6. First ever patch of gray hair about an inch in diameter came to my attention today, the mighty gods have a sense of humor I am too young for this!
  7. Keep up the great work Inugami *fist-bump* Can't get gaming off the mind a sign possibly addicted, GQ has a good checklist here. https://gamequitters.com/video-game-addiction-test-for-gamers/ Lots of us here also struggle with spending too much time on the internet I think I may be managing that better these days. Social media is pretty bad for me even forums and Youtube comments can vaporize my time. For here I recommend starting an accountability journal this is a great first step taking your time back from video games just be mindful how much time you spend on the GQ forums :) One post per week is still an accountability bonus for you!
  8. Psychiatrists have been a big help to me in the past when I have had issues come to surface and I recommend it to anyone. Without intervention of some kind it is sometimes impossible to recognize the unaddressed issues we drag around with us everywhere. Back in 2017 or so after being inspired by Gamequitters I scheduled an appointment at a local pro who specialized with addiction treatment and I asked her for some strategies on putting down the controller because it felt like an addiction. She said she did not understand the video game addiction but "as a good rule of thumb, anything you don't want an addiction to - get it out of the house." She also explained how like with cigarettes you can wean yourself off by buying a single pack to smoke one and throw the rest away, that maybe I could do something like that with the games.
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    Apologies for double post but would but realized did not put out a calisthenic program recommendation, OfficialThenx on youtube is a huge motivation for me.
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    Welcome back start doing calisthenics at home no need to save it all for gym! :p Are you getting into web development because I was just looking at this last night for myself https://www.whatsdev.com/ Dairy does have addictive properties, makes sense from that perspective. Ever try going without? That is the tough part.
  11. Day 31 no gaming, Day 13 No PMO. I do intend to stop in at least once a week to journal here and aim to hold myself to that. What Color is Your Parachute is really great at explaining what is effective for job hunters and makes you to look within a lot for what your goals are. Still only 50 pages complete for all my note-taking and priority-graph making. Reflected on my childhood trauma bonds being addicted to emotional abuse, my addictive personality, along with past & lingering issues with codependency today. This article here broke down a lot of terminology I had not read in awhile, the writer went into a lot of detail about how abused hormones play their part. No one has to agree with it, just an experience I identify with and wanted to share it makes a lot of sense to me. Cortisol regulation is the big offender lately, glad I have been making a lot of lifestyle habits that promote low cortisol I would otherwise be living numb with addiction I have no doubt.
  12. We are sometimes reactors rather than actors and some jerks will drive all over the road for your attention - ignorance can be bliss if it keeps you calm & steady in your own lane. Sometimes things people say do hurt yet the source of pain can be from something else all together. High five on exercising social skills I have much need to put that into practice.
  13. Day 16 moving right along! Everything going smooth today, tire had blown out last week when coming home from work had been rocking the mini spare since (too long, I know!) Just bought used tire + shop installed to rim & balanced for $35. Walmart was going to charge 70 for a new tire and 20 install to rim & balance. I like saving where I can especially when needed , will do additional maintenance soon :) Started reading What Color is Your Parachute 2019 edition from library yesterday, amazing first chapter and no wonder was ranked #1 on amazon.com book list for Job Resumes. This book has been around since the 70's and keeps getting updated every year. Already seeing job hunting & hiring procedure much differently. Tomorrow apply for more work.
  14. Today will run combined with rest. Tomorrow a full body calisthenic workout. Martial arts sparring may do good to let go of extra tension. If parents causing extra stress let them do their thing awhile while you do yours. If care to talk more about low self esteem I will hear you out.
  15. Stressful times call for a calming measure. Perhaps write a list of favorite activities or possible healthy activities that can help keep you grounded & balanced. Congrats 1/2 year no VG!
  16. Much better thank you. Took time and did lots of transparent introspection at my support group forum. I am hopeful and believe I will become stronger from this. 13 days now, detox has progressed smoothly since last post. Have a clear idea what jobs I want to apply for - will do very soon!
  17. Thank you for the concern, Matt. I will DM that.
  18. Day 11. Loved the job but quit and applying for work again. I am a magnet for bullying at all these entry level jobs, it seems. Already shared this situation in group therapy so am keeping mind on moving forward and getting job that will work out. Moving along to business. Gamequitter journal comes into play well right now because this is still a stressful time for me and with stress can comes weakness. Having just began VG sobriety again I want nothing more than to make sure to keep myself accountable for that. One of my Youtube channels for Linux&Technology made an entire video about free games. Began watching VG video gameplay for said free games. Began to feel sleazy for watching and said "wth am I doing" then unsubscribed, closed out, cleared browsing history. Have books from library to read up on now, thanks for being here GQ.
  19. Much can be done to improve without money for example calisthenics, running, library reading, abstinence from gaming/alcohol/porn/addiction though will only take you so far. While money is separate from our value as a human being it becomes a necessary tool to invest further in ourselves to grow. Examples: leaving an abusive home or workplace, more hobbies & social opportunities, buying books the local library doesn't carry, buying into home equipment and calisthenic programs to take home fitness to a new level, increasing your daily calorie intake so you can exercise more often and be more productive.
  20. Motivating :) I should definitely get into book writing for how much I like to write. Though specifically I just wrote Halted on the cover to my copy of my 12-step workbook, I will forward you link to it though I did not write it but write in it working the steps.
  21. Hmm wow yeah I think you definitely did, I think we have had this entire halts/halted exchange before lol. Writing down next to Halts on cover of 12-step workbook with a credit to your name. Thank you for taking time to define that again it is a good one.
  22. Poverty and habitually poor decisions vs bringing the money in and habitually good decisions, for the most part.
  23. Wonderful and thoughtful post Books, thank you for sharing. Serious topics deserve to be seriously addressed especially on such grand occasions. Very happy for you, I can't wait for this game-free life of mine to blossom as much to where people around me will see the difference! If sometime you feel the discontent for all things gaming gets stuck in an undesired brain feedback loop, there is this relapse prevention acronym I learned from this other 12-stepper called HALTS "Never get too Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired, or Serious." Looking forward to share the difference with you and everyone as my own game-free life evolves.
  24. Nope! Restaurants and bars were the biggest money drainers for me before I finally got my own apartment. Contact to friend circle moved and it just me and my quiet game addiction for awhile. Anyhow point being that was still a time where I saved a lot of money but imagine if I did that while investing in things that matter instead of beer and video games. Like no reason to feed someone elses addiction =)
  25. @ksets Amazing recommendation I have to say this place is great to help build a new solid foundation highly recommend the 90+ day detox and journal forum, there is also the Respawn program options I have not tried myself. Mid 80's kid myself - welcome to the community!
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