WorkInProgress

Beeing someone who is proud his life. I want to be the best husband, father, son and friend I can be. I want deep relationsships and a stable job wiht interesting problems. I want to be healthy and be in control of my own life and my own choices. Even if it sounds vain I also want to be rich and look awesome (I must stop to feeling bad for these points though).

Hey and welcome to the forums. Seems like you have a good plan. I had to cut my online connections to after I quit gaming. Some of them I see from time to time in real life but they just want to game and thats not me anymore. Maybe it is time for you to reach out to people. Invite them to some activities be proactive. Somehow we always expect the friends to do the work for the friendship but aren't willing to invest in them ourselves. I wouldn't be too sure they are out of the picture completely only because they focus on their relationsips right now. But this has some time. How was the time you quit gaming? Did you see the improvements in your life? What do you want from quitting gaming (besides better grades)? Writing it down can help you to keep the why in your mind whilst doing this detox. Without a good reason this will be nearly impossible. I personally quit gaming to gain self-esteem(was at a ll time low), have a better relationsship with my girlfriend and friends and beeing able to finish my studies. I was a lying lazy piece of shit back then or at least felt like it. I wanted to be so much more and saw how my game addiction detoriated my envisioned self more and more. This kept me on track when I had hard cravings. Best of luck to you. We got you back.

You get the next liek at day 100 Delayed gratification for the win!

Hey it seems to me you are doubting again. Before you try something you'll never know if it is a great idea. It is just fear of commitment. I also think what Cam or any other great life coach living the life in LA does (no bad feelings cam if you read this :P) isn't important to you or me personally. There is no such thing as a normal life. I asked myself often if my vision of my future (family, stable job, deep relationships with friends and family, maybe buy/build house in the future, safe enough money to not have to worry to much about that) isn't just boring old normal. But while a lot of people have this goal: How many do really achieve it? I came to the conclusion that this is what I want right now. So I have gone for it. And I never regretted it. I look at my boring normal family with my wife and son after studying a boring engineering subject I kind of liked and was never happier about my life choices. look about the joy you get from your tasks instead of looking for joy outside. Did it feel good to push yourself and do the training? Does it feel good to be constructive member of a communityand helping here out moderating? don't you feel joy if a new gamequitter can relate to your story and feels backed up by it (I do feel joy there)? Maybe there is a way to enjoy getting back on track if you change your perspective. You did also some choices in the past and went for it. Some went south and maybe these one will too. Maybe the relationship wont last. Maybe the military will suck. There is no way to predict the future. But it is what you commited yourself to do, so go through with it. This is the way self-respect is bult. And not only go through with it but do your best, so it doesn't suck. It doesn't matter what you are (failure or success). It isn't even objectivly definable by anyone. Just be, do what you committed to do and do it well. Be the best boyfriend, family member or even soldier you can be. If your committing and it starts to suck, try to look at it from a different angle and to change this. If it still sucks try something new. Doubt and overthinking is just your poison of choice. Mine is problem-evasion and mindfulness (as you've realized I don't have any problems...). When I am overthinking it helps to talk about it. So you are doing the right thing. Talk not just here about it, talk about it wiht your S.O. your friends and maybe even with your family. Vulnerability leads to connection. Connection leads to beeing happier.

Running is great. If you have a Laptop you could maybe go out to a coffeeshop or library to do things on it you would otherwise do at your home. Changing places can really help to break old habits. Check for meet-ups like the mentioned running club are a good idea. They are a great way to learn new things and meet new people while beeing away from home. Especially people who do other things then just gaming.

It is good that become mindful of your health and state. I don't know about long termtreatments, ut to relive the allergic reactions in the short term I had to use anti-histamin tablets which worked great. I am sure a doctor can find other solutions as well which have not to much side-effects. I had pretty severe allergic asthma in my teen age days but am lucky that it kind of faded away with my maturity. Around 22 or so it was down to a little runny nose and itching eyes if I was out in at a special time.

Good job on workingon your self control and Day 5. Soon a week!

Good job. That is a great reason. I think quitting gaming can help you here too because you will become more interested in other activities. I personally was never able to focus on another hobby or side-gig while I was gaming. I needed the time I had to game away. With all that free time I had time to get bored again because I hadn't the willpower to work all the time instead (not recommended btw.). When you are interested in other things you naturally become more socially because you start to get really interested in the stuff people tell you. Beeing interested in others makes you a good social beeing. Not beeing interesting yourself (helps though ;)).

Welcome to the forums. Best of luck in your detox. I'll check in your forum from time to time

Soon two weeks.

Welcome to the forums. If you have any questions feel free to ask them here, we are happy to help out.

Hi and welcome to the forum. Great job on commiting to this and getting throught the first week. As I quit gaming I felt too like the pressure to find time for gaming was gone (ofcourse I wasn't working at that time so I had LOT of time then). I would consider to wake up one hour earlier and go to bad earlier too. This way you can work on your self before working for other people.

Hey there I can relate to this insecurity. My parents and my family always told me that I am something special and that I can do great things. But this coupled with some social anxiety lead to pressure instead of reassuring me. I was scared to try new things and never fully comitted to anything because somewhere back in my mind I was sure to fail. I was sure that I will not be able to excell at anything (doing ok yes, excell no). I was sure no girl would find me sexually attractive. I am not sure where this insecurity came from but actually achieving what I promised here with the 90 days detox gave me the energy to stick to knew things and challenge myself. I am far more confident right now even if I still struggle. Just seeing myself training continiusly for a few weeks or not gaming or meditating for a month. All these little successes changed the way I thought about myself. I am sure you'll experience the same thing if you allow yourself to be proud of your achievements. Reread your journal and see how far you come. Be proud of it man. You have the right to it because you did a lot out of your comfort zone and soon you'll check that 90 day mark! Great job!

Hi and welcome to the forums. Good job on getting rid of your games and the direct contact to gaming content. You only need to get to the next day. And then do this again. Why do you want to quit gaming? To write this up can help you with staying abstinent. How is gaming influence you in a bad way? How would imagine to be without the need to game all the time? If you don't have clear reasons layed out for your self it can be hard to stay motivated. So take the time and write it down (thinking about it isn#t enough because our thoughts are always unfocussed). If you write it down it becomes real.

Hey I like the new features alot. Especially the "jump to the first unread post" and "see online users" are very useful

Detox: 16.10.2017 - 16.01.2018 Week 4 (15.11.2027-22.11.2017) Still no sugar.I stopped to train after 2Weeks of doing it. I think i stopped because of time issues. It is still pretty challenging to be there for my family. I struggle with spending my time productive. I should create more and consume less. But is it creating to clean your home? Or to learn something? I think to make this mkre ckear I will only count time which I have for my own. In this time creating is: trying things out i have learned in the past. This can be hard because i often have only one Hand free. Journalling. Excercise. Actually do To-Do's on my list. Meditating. Consuming time is : learning about new stuff or watching videos. Or browsing. Entertainment isnt planned for. I try to play in the time i have with my wife and my son. I try to phone more often with my Friends and Family because i see them seldomly because of the newborn schedule.

Thanks for your work. Really appreciated.

Audiobooks or podcasts are your solution!

Hey nice to have you back. I do recently spend more time here too. Always cool to see some old faces (or masks in your case) again. I am glad you are doing fine!

Did you think about what your gonna do after you accomplished the detox?

I have same worries. I shared it with my wife and my best friend and was thinking about just showing it all my fruends. But i was scard that somehow potential work colleaues would find about it. Thsts why i started a less privat new journal. It us a shame though becaause that open refection helped a lot.

HI welcome. Glad to have you here. These clicks are in muscle memory. Habits. Repeated so often that there is not even a conscious thought needed.

Thanks for sharing. Seems like you are on a great way being constructive and changing your life to the better. Congratulations to this!

To follow sports and even news can be quite enjoyable but quite addictive too. I am not a football fan but I am always wondering if people who are are aware about the time it takes from their life. I don't think it something inherently bad and especially if you share this passion with other people it can be a great social experience to watch games and talk about it but it can also end in a useless news consumption which doesn't benefit your life at all. I am sometimes wondering what behaviors I have which are similar in effect but I can't see the real cost of them.

I am sorry to hear about your mum. I hope you and your family get through this challenging time and grow even further together.