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  1. No. A card game is a social thing with other people. Also, there is no group of people that are going to acree to play hearts 16 hours a day instead of bathing, eating, or going to work and school.
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    "You suck at parenting" - Is it always true?

    Every parent has 0 hours experience on the day their first child comes home. Parenting is a job of teaching and gradually letting go. Parents are not supposed to be like a police state. Failing to notice bad behaviors is not bad parenting. Think of parenting in terms of shipbuilding. 18 years of work all culminating in that day the ship slides out of dry dock and sails the sea on its own. Over time, children learn that there are consequences to their choices, and there has not been a human yet that has not made some bad choices. Teach them when they are young. But let them make their own mistakes too. As for our parents, they were as imperfect as we are. Unless they are actively hateful to you, they are probably good parents. Children are frustrating, and they know how to find what lights a parent up. Cut your ancestors some slack, appreciate all they have sacrificed for you.
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    Should i get a gaming laptop ?

    I would purposely get a non-gaming laptop. There's no such thing as a little addicted.
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    Is gaming still okay?

    If you are an addict, then no. Imagine if a crack addict asked you if it was OK to just have a little crack - you know, with friends. Our personalities lead us to always increase gaming. It's better to apply our minds on better things.
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    Boredom

    Blender is *not* an easy learn. It is designed by 3d wonks for 3d wonks. That said, if you were gaming about 16 hours a day like some of us, you can apply all that free time to conquering it. There are tens of thousands of tutorial videos out there on Blender. Go through them - even the ones that are so basic you think Dr Seuss wrote them. Do them multiple times. You'll get it, people do. Your weapon is the time you have recently freed up by breaking up with the harsh mistress of gaming.
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    Honesty and Trust with Partners

    Going a step farther, you can tell her how to catch you. Tell her to listen for certain keyboard patterns. Working or browsing news sounds different than gaming. Get rid of your headphones and joystick/controller. Turn the desk so she can see from the hall. Bring the laptop/tablet into the living room. When she goes out, go with her. Help her shop or do whatever. Marriage is us against the world. Be as open as you can with her.
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    ToastMasters

    What can be more scary to a shut-in, introverted loner like us than speaking in public? Seriously. Maybe lion taming. I have on my screen the local ToastMasters website. They meet on Thursday. I want to go check it out, but realistically I fear it so much I will probably "forget" about it on the night. I'm hoping to divert this fear into excitement, and actually go. Someday I have to break out of this shell. https://www.toastmasters.org/ - main page http://mantecatoastmasters.org/ - local chapter to me, if you want to go see if I chicken out.
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    It gets easier...

    When I had my first relapse, it took about 3 weeks for me to feel the hatred of video game. I was actually playing the game when I leaned back in the chair and realized I am bored as Hell. These games are all incredibly boring! Jump on the rock, shoot the enemies, use the right sequence of attacks to make things dead. Repeat, repeat, repeat. Make it to the top of the hill. Repeat. No challenge: my lizard brain has the sequence down pat. This time I was not dumb enough to give them any money, but what I did was just as bad, perhaps worse. I gave them my time. You see, one can always make more money. But one can never make more time. It's all safely uninstalled now.
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    What I never Understood about Nihilism.

    The definition I had for it is everything is meaningless and by extension, anytime you think something has meaning, you are fooling yourself. I agree with you about value. Why is gold more valuable than silver? Because everyone kind of agrees that it does. People give these minerals value: by themselves they are neutral. The same holds true for pretty much everything. I spoke of nihilism in the same terms as Dr. Peterson (who knows a thing or two) as the belief that everything is meaningless. If I oversimplified, well that's just because I'm oversimple.
  10. This all applies to me. I'm not judging anyone else. Nihilism (the belief that life is meaningless) is almost like a religious faith. It's not a faith in yourself, or a loving God, or a family of Man that is worth striving for: Nihilism is nothing like that. I had always thought that goths and emos chose nihilism as a belief system to be dark and edgy, but that's not how it works. What happens is that your faith in everything you hold dear is systematically shattered until all you have left is this raw animal need to eat and sleep. Work hard? Why, will it matter that I turned in a 60 hour week? Get good grades? What, so I can go to some college and extend the meaningless of school for four more years? Be kind, caring, trustworthy, loyal? Why, so others can get the drop on me and eff me over before I see it coming? That's nihilism. And gaming is perfect for us. One major thing that gaming provides (even though it's FAKE) is a sense of meaning. You can be sitting in your room, your soul aching at your stupid trapped life, but a game will make you feel needed, wanted, valued. Just like the programmers designed it to. The thing I learned is that Nihilism is that dark, empty place that your soul flails against. Because it's wrong. Because you have meaning and purpose, it was designed in to your soul. Because it's only lies and poison that have led you here. But do you want to hear the GOOD news? It's also a lie that you are trapped. The human spirit cannot be trapped like that. Even slaves have a free spirit. You can walk away from the darkness at any time. And even if you trip and fall when you try it, you cannot be stopped. Put the controller down. Embrace responsibility. Be who you are. Watch this. I found it inspiring.
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    Dopamine

    More on California: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mn1fxChSbYk
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    Dopamine

    California I may have oversold the California thing, because I had old data. We're still 47th when it comes to high costs, but there are other factors in our favor, like workforce skills, and access to resources. Yey, businesses and the middle class are leaving in droves. Medications Always work with your doctor, don't listen to idiot bloggers on the internet. My personal goal is to not live like a zombie on mind-altering drugs, but that's just my goal. Still working with my doctor on that though. Depression is nothing like a flu or a physical injury, so I don't follow your analogy there. However I can tell you that in my case the antidepressants don't take away depression. It's more like they help it be some small percentage more possible to fight the depression. There's way more than willpower at work here - it's like a computer program that has a bad line of code. There can be 900,000 likes of good code, but one error can cause the whole thing to malfunction. My goal is to unravel the false assumptions that have messed up my worldview and get set on a more productive track.
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    I'm Free.

    As I mentioned in other posts, I relapsed when my best friend died, I spent a couple weeks gaming. But at one point I was sitting there, playing the same old levels, skipping the same memorized dialog, performing the same attack and levelling strategies, and I realized I was making myself exhausted for - well, nothing. In other words, instead of taking 20 years to realize this was a giant waste of time, it only took a couple of weeks. That red line - the one where I realize This is stupid, what am I doing with my time? passed and I uninstalled it again. But this time instead of feeling loss, I felt freedom. Instead of wondering if I will make it, I find myself full of regret that I downloaded them at all. Slowly I find that I regain control of my own will. I am not trapped. Not anymore.
  14. Not sure if this is what you're going through, but it sure helped me. Jordan Peterson - How To Stop Being Lazy & Progress In Life
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