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  1. OK, took the survey. There are some misconceptions I think the designers of the survey are working under. I'll put them in a spoiler window in case others want to take the survey first. I answered the survey as I would have before my detox, not now, a year and a half trying to quit.
  2. Well I took a long time to reply, but I am struggling with depression, and one problem that plagues me is when I go to bed at night after working 0-3 hours all day, I don't feel like I deserve anything but "you're fired". I never feel like I have earned a break. I have this little routine I fall into... Damn, this work was so hard yesterday, I just can't figure it out! Let me open this file and stare at the same problem I failed at yesterday. Hey, I have an idea! Oh but that would take a phone call and a lot of dicking around to figure out. Eff it. Load up the game (or Netflix, or Youtube). I'll take a break and try to get motivated. As the game loads there is a tiny voice in my head that repeats Right now. This is you effing up your day. This is where you are ruining your life. This decision. 8 hours later - Oh eff it, I quit for the day. At bedtime, the little voice repeats, Might as well game all day, you're just worthless. This is the future if you give in to the game. You're passing up your life in exchange for something that doesn't matter one bit. All games end. Imagine turning 50 and telling your friends how awesome you were at the game you're playing. Now imagine a guy who's 50 now bragging about how good he was at Defender or Pac-Man. This is the future you we are trying to escape.
  3. It's the dopamine in your brain - you have to detox from it. Dopamine is what video games (and porn and gambling) use to keep you feeling like something wonderful is just about to happen. Humans are designed to feel a dopamine rush once a month, like when your kid hits the ball in tee-ball or when your wife gives you that look. Games tickle that chemical 100 times an hour - on purpose - it's what makes you feel like you can't quit. It's why you'll tell your kids to eff off over some lame cartoon people with a dime-novel story. Detoxing from dopamine feels like boredom. This day is boring, my wife is boring, my job is boring, this meal is boring. It gets better, I promise. Just don't let yourself slip into the other dopamine demons like porn or gambling. You're detoxing from dopamine, not games per se.
  4. Simple advice from one who's been there. delete the game. tell the wife. go to the counselor. Some reassuring things. It probably took years to quit the first time, this time it probably was what, weeks? a month? Here. https://skl.sh/2CCRsXp Take a class. I'm a computer nerd learning to draw comics and do tech support stuff. Also with this whole covid thing, be ready for isolation and for your counselor to stop seeing people. I hear some of them are doing web appointments now. Bottom line: you slipped. Get past it and continue laying the bricks of a new and better life. Don't doubt yourself. You are worth the effort.
  5. I was a pov-ray user from waaaaaay back and loved it, but found it limiting when it came to boilogical forms. I tried sketchup a loooong time ago, but you had to pay them like $950 for the pro version to convert your architecture to a usable form (it didn't - at the time - output to obj or dae unless you paid) Wings: I have used this for years. There is nothing better for making quick little stuff you need for a render. Need a toaster? 20 minutes. Coffee maker? 30 minutes. Dresser? easy. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wFKmnCsWbPY <- wings tutorial: BONUS! you get to hear my boring, annoying voice.
  6. So I relapsed for 2 weeks. Then I saw this on my steam home page. Lets say you earn money hourly like me; ...at $15/hr that's $1335. ...at $40/hr. it's $3560 That's in 2 weeks! Instead of being useless and complaining about being broke, I think I'm going to work hard and have nice things. Luckily for me I work from home, my last 2 weeks is sadly just lost income. At the end of the day I feel a lot better about myself when I have accomplished something.
  7. The reason I'm not using filmic is because I render in DAZ Studio. Blender seems to be written with the singular goal of making it impossible to get from idea to finished product without 9600 hours invested, and most of that is research into why it refuses to do some thing which - in my mind - ought to be simple.
  8. Try audiobooks, or podcasts. If you're up to it, I know a lady who is into gardening, woodworking, and restoring furniture. Even reading a real-live paper book is better. I have at least 3 good-ish books on my Kindle in my phone. There's nothing like putting on my headphones and listening to a book while doing chores. I even have bluetooth headphones I can use when walking. Hope this helps.
  9. So, one aspect of my addiction was that I always wanted to express some for of creativity in my life. But since I have a short attention span and react very negatively to frustration, I never developed the skills to do anything well. What this means is that I have a long list of hobbies that I absolutely suck at. Here it is: Writing Short Stories Photography Drawing 3D Art 3D Animation Painting Playing Bass Guitar Political Blogging (don't ask) Video Game Design and Programming But each of these endeavors take practice and patience. Meaning you're not going to create Alita: Battle Angel or even Sky Captain and the World of Tomorrow in your first week of learning animation. So, as a gamer I would frequently say "Eff this, I'm playing Tera" (or SWTOR, or whatever). So you know what's harder than learning Blender? Opening Blender, rage-quitting after 45 minutes, and not looking at it again for 6 weeks. But here's the thing. I learned programming by having to get things done. I originally went to school for Electronics Engineering, not programming: I was forced into programming because the company I worked at needed some work done. Please note that this was in the 1980's BEFORE there were 10,000 IT graduates per year. So last month, I saw this video. ...and I decided to post one piece of art every day. Not massive projects, just quickies. And I expect that over time, maybe in a couple years I might stop sucking. So I made this site: http://snippets.209software.com/ I am only a few weeks in so far, and have not missed a day yet. I also found that pencil sketches are easier for me (I am NOT saying i'm any good) than 3D art, even using downloaded HDRI backdrops and prefab DAZ characters. The thing is YOU CAN DO THIS TOO. Maybe your thing isn't visual art. Maybe it's writing, or taking online classes. The thing is, DO something important! DON'T Substitute YouTube or porn or Netflix for gaming. Those things are mostly fine, but they are just another form of wasting time.
  10. It might be easier if you said how old your friend is. I quit gaming because it was impacting my ability to get my job done. No job, no income. I also started seeing a counselor to deal with depression because I got laid off after working at a company for 9 years. If your friend is 12, and has no responsibilities then it's fine to just try and coax him out of the house now and then. If he's 16 and flunking high school then you probably want to talk to him. If he's working, or married, and people are depending on him then there is more at stake. I know it's tough to bare your soul and have no one respond, but you were a bit vague about the details.
  11. Well as a 58 year old gamer, I feel for ya. It's not that games aren't fun, it's just what the addiction turns you into. Here are some examples of the bonuses you get without gaming in your life. When everyone is standing around the coffee machine on Monday, and everyone is talking about how much fun they had, you will have an actual story from the real world instead of a story about being a busty, half-naked elf priestess and teabagging a douchebag you've been trying to beat for 6 months. That novel you always wanted to write is actually making progress. You have actually taken the time to read a book. You begin to iron out your social awkwardness by living, laughing, and making mistakes. Stuff that needed painting and repairing is being painted and repaired. You actually feel free to volunteer for a little overtime now and then. You don't look at your wife/girlfriend/parents and hope they have some event where they need to be out of the house until late at night so you can be alone. You actually began drinking water and taking walks. You look back at your day while you're brushing your teeth at night and feel happy that you got some stuff done rather than spending 16 hours on a game. You find yourself becoming hopeful about your future. You find the will to take classes or sit down and figure stuff out. You notice that you're actually wearing shoes everyday (because you're going places). Your dog loves you more, and gets excited to see you. Severely reduced nagging in your day. Well I know that's a long list, but it's all from my own life. I'm sure there are lots more benefits. Cheers.
  12. That's great! Also it seems that the messed-up sleep and willpower thing is real. Lots of people do better when they aren't up gaming until 4 hours before they have to be at work or school.
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