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Objectives for the day

- Get a good guitar practice - Broke the streak today, didn't pick the guitar. Tomorrow I gotta compensate that.

- Search some music/acting schools - Done. I have a experimental class scheduled for next week.

- Do the laundry - Done

Gratitude journal

- I'm grateful for the weekend

- I'm grateful for my fears that push me to change

- I'm grateful for another day to do better than yesterday

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6 hours ago, ceponatia said:

Interestingly I've been thinking about finding an acting school too!

Nice! That would be a huge step out of my comfort zone, and I've been avoiding that intentionally. But I'm sure it would make wonders to my public speaking skills.

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Day 22

It was a good day, not much to report, just update.

Current Streaks

No games - 212 days

No Porn/Masturbation - 3 days

Healthy mobile phone usage - 3 days

Things that I should do every now and then

Body grooming - Last done 06/12/2019

Hair Care - Last done 17/01/2020

Clip nails - Last done 13/01/2020

Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing. Step by step.

30 days challenge

Diet - 9/30

Cold showers - 14/30  (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month)

Practice guitar - 12/30

One amazing thing that happened/I did today

Had fun with my SO

Exercise

Rest day.

Social

Only normal conversations.

My conversations for many times are really shallow and I'm really complacent on that. I will try to have more interesting conversations everyday with strangers or people that I know. This conversations could be simply talking about the weather, praise something someone is wearing, a tattoo, a dog, asking something about the person, whatever. I gotta get used to have genuine interest in other persons. And to tell the truth, I am interested. I'm just REALLY complacent in this aspect.

Morning Routine

Day planning - Done

Physiotherapy - Done

Skin care routine - Done

Brush teeth and floss - Done

Make my bed - Not Done

Meditation - Not done

Evening Routine

Skin care routine - Done

Physiotherapy - Only in the morning.

Brush teeth and floss - Done

Journaling - Done

Daily Habits Tracker

Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day.

Reading

Didn't read.

Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!)

Plan the weekend - Starting next week

Search another music school - Scheduled an experimental class: 18/01/2020

Search a place to take acting lessons

Find a dentist and schedule it 

Cook meals for the week - Next day: 19/01/20

Monthly Goal

Present the final project and graduate (Got a day, 19/12!) - DONE (missing graduation)

Start the programming course.

3 Month Goal

Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS!

What went well today:

I'm getting back on track with my habits and journaling.

What I could have done to make my day better:

I could've woken up earlier

What I will do differently tomorrow:

Guitar practice.

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Objectives for the day

- Get a good guitar practice - Practiced just a little.

- Get a good reading session - I was out all day, couldn't read!

Gratitude journal

- I'm grateful for waking up joyful today

- I'm grateful for the desire to be better

- I'm grateful for the fresh water that I drink

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Day 23

I've been reflecting on how easy it is to fall in the comfort zone. We really gotta push our limits in order to see significant changes in our lives, but most of the times you relax and slow down exactly because the comfort zone is so convenient. Although I've been doing many things to better my life, I don't think I'm pushing my comfort zone enough. My lifelong problem revolves around social situations: public presentations, meeting new people, and other stuff. It's not that I can't talk to people, but I don't have charisma. I can't "charm" people. I get nervous in situations where I shouldn't. This shit affects my job, my relationship with my SO, my relationship with my family, basically everything.

I have perfect awareness that in order to get better, I gotta put myself in uncomfortable situations. That's the only way. I gotta get daily exposure to every uncomfortable situation so that they become comfortable. So tomorrow I'm starting a plan to get exposure to these situations everyday by climbing a "fear ladder" (something I found out in google). It's gonna be hell, but I'm gonna get through it. I scheduled on Friday a trial class in a singing school that I found out the other day. That's an extra, and it's certainly gonna be uncomfortable, but fuck it. I wanted to learn how to sing for a long time and it's gonna better my voice.

Current Streaks

No games - 214 days

No Porn/Masturbation - 5 days

Healthy mobile phone usage - 0 days

Things that I should do every now and then

Body grooming - Last done 06/12/2019

Hair Care - Last done 17/01/2020

Clip nails - Last done 13/01/2020

Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing. Step by step.

30 days challenge

Diet - 10/30

Cold showers - 15/30  (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month)

Practice guitar - 12/30

One amazing thing that happened/I did today

Work was good! Conducted a test today pretty well.

Exercise

Gym.

Social

Fear Ladder (1/10) - Day one:

Morning Routine

Day planning - Not done

Physiotherapy - Done

Skin care routine - Done

Brush teeth and floss - Done

Make my bed - Not Done (SO was sleeping when I got up)

Meditation - Not done

Evening Routine

Skin care routine - Done

Physiotherapy - Only in the morning.

Brush teeth and floss - Done

Journaling - Done

Daily Habits Tracker

Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day.

Reading

Gonna read a little before bed.

Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!)

Plan the weekend - 

Search another music school - Scheduled a trial class: 18/01/2020

Search a place to take acting lessons

Find a dentist and schedule it 

Cook meals for the week - Didn't cook much! Gotta cook tomorrow.

Monthly Goal

Present the final project and graduate (Got a day, 19/12!) - DONE (missing graduation)

Start the programming course.

3 Month Goal

Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS!

What went well today:

I'm excited about my plans for social skills improvement.

What I could have done to make my day better:

I could've planned my day in the morning.

What I will do differently tomorrow:

My day is gonna be productive. Gonna plan my day in the morning, do my social exercises, practice guitar and cook meals.

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Objectives for the day

- Get a good guitar practice

- Social skills practice

- Buy yogurt and oats

Gratitude journal

- I'm grateful for having the will to change

- I'm grateful for gamequitters to exist

- I'm grateful for the people with whom I can change experiences

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Day 24

Today was a good day. Reflected a lot on objectives for this year and I'm excited to put things in practice, especially exercises to improve my social skills. Not gonna write too much, just update the other stuff. Peace!

Current Streaks

No games - 215 days

No Porn/Masturbation - 6 days

Healthy mobile phone usage - 1 days

Things that I should do every now and then

Body grooming - Last done 06/12/2019

Hair Care - Last done 17/01/2020

Clip nails - Last done 13/01/2020

Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing. Step by step.

30 days challenge

Diet - 11/30

Cold showers - 16/30  (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month)

Practice guitar - 13/30

One amazing thing that happened/I did today

I'm sticking to my plan of improving my social skills. That's an effort that I value a lot.

Exercise

Gym.

Social

Fear Ladder (1/10) - Practice eye contact

Exposure Therapy at least once a day - Begin tomorrow

Morning Routine

Day planning - Done

Physiotherapy - Done

Skin care routine - Done

Brush teeth and floss - Done

Make my bed - Done

Meditation - Not done

Evening Routine

Skin care routine - Done

Physiotherapy - Only in the morning.

Brush teeth and floss - Done

Journaling - Done

Daily Habits Tracker

Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day.

Reading

Gonna read a little more before bed and I read during commute.

Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!)

Plan the weekend - My weekend is full, actually

Search another music school - Scheduled a trial class: 18/01/2020

Search a place to take acting lessons

Find a dentist and schedule it

Cook meals for the week - I made meals for the rest of the week in 22/01/2020

Monthly Goal

Gradute - In progress

Start the programming course.

3 Month Goal

Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS!

What went well today:

I'm even more excited about my plans for social skills improvement.

What I could have done to make my day better:

I could've woken up earlier.

What I will do differently tomorrow:

I'm gonna put more effort in the social skills exercises.

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Objectives for the day

- Exposure therapy, as much as possible - Done

- Practice eye contact - Done

- Get a good guitar practice - Done

- Schedule the orthopedist- I forgot about it!

Gratitude journal

- I'm grateful for a rainy day

- I'm grateful for my honest smile

- I'm grateful for another day and another day to improve myself

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Day 25

Yesterday was pretty good. I like the feeling of excitement for change. I love the process of challenging myself. Especially right now that I'm trying to be out of my comfort zone everyday, it really gives me extra energy to go through my day.

Today I have a trial singing class. I'm at the same time excited and scared. I'm not at all used to sing in front of other people. But I was told before, multiple times, that I have a good voice. Let's see what happens.

Current Streaks

No games - 217 days

No Porn/Masturbation - 8 days

Healthy mobile phone usage - 2 days

Things that I should do every now and then

Body grooming - Last done 06/12/2019 - I think I'm gonna do it today!

Hair Care - Last done 17/01/2020

Clip nails - Last done 13/01/2020

Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing. Step by step.

30 days challenge

Diet - 12/30

Cold showers - 17/30  (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month)

Practice guitar - 14/30

One amazing thing that happened/I did today

Exposure therapy was good.

Exercise

Gym.

Social

Fear Ladder (1/10) - Practice eye contact and smile

Exposure Therapy at least once a day

Morning Routine

Day planning - Done

Physiotherapy - Done

Skin care routine - Done

Brush teeth and floss - Done

Make my bed - Done

Meditation - Not done

Evening Routine

Skin care routine - Done

Physiotherapy - Only in the morning.

Brush teeth and floss - Not Done

Journaling - Done the morning after

Daily Habits Tracker

Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day.

Reading

Leisure reading - 

Read 30 mins of something technical - ?

Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!)

Plan the weekend - My weekend is full, actually

Search another music school - Scheduled a trial class: 18/01/2020

Search a place to take acting lessons

Find a dentist and schedule it

Cook meals for the week - I made meals for the rest of the week in 22/01/2020

Monthly Goal

Gradute - In progress

Start the programming course.

3 Month Goal

Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS!

What went well today:

My efforts to be more social.

What I could have done to make my day better:

I could've woken up earlier.

What I will do differently tomorrow:

I'm gonna put big effort in the social skills exercises.

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Objectives for the day

- Exposure therapy, as much as possible

- Make an effort to be really social in the singing school

- Practice eye contact

- Get a good guitar practice

- Schedule the orthopedist

Gratitude journal

- I'm grateful for my fears

- I'm grateful for my flaws

- I'm grateful for my conscience

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Damn dude your journal is so comprehensive, it's amazing you're keeping track of all this stuff. I get overwhelmed if I'm trying to change 3 habits at a time haha. 😄 But it looks like things are going well! What programming course are you considering taking?

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On 1/24/2020 at 7:45 PM, ElectroNugget said:

Damn dude your journal is so comprehensive, it's amazing you're keeping track of all this stuff. I get overwhelmed if I'm trying to change 3 habits at a time haha. 😄 But it looks like things are going well! What programming course are you considering taking?

Hey, thanks for passing by! Coincidentally, I got overwhelmed the past few days by all this stuff, hahah. But I'm gonna try to get back on try right now.

I'm gonna take a python towards data science course... I bought it some time ago.

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On 1/25/2020 at 11:46 PM, Erik2.0 said:

What’re you doing exposure therapy on?

Hey! I'm starting with baby steps and, to be honest, I gotta be more organized. I'm trying everyday to be more "open" and smile at people, even if it makes me uncomfortable. I'm practicing by myself in the mirror at home and I think it helps. Eye contact too.

I'm really self conscious of what other people think of me so I'm trying things like singing by myself in the streets, but that makes me reeeally uncomfortable. I'm pushing my limits with baby steps, but I'm pretty happy with my effort.

Do you plan on doing or already do it?

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Day 26

Things got a little bit out of control after this weekend. It was a really good weekend, lots of oportunities to socialize and have fun and I enjoyed it a lot. But with all this activities lots of habits were left behind and as anybody can notice I didn't journal or planned my days at all. This, combined with some heavy drinking Friday and Saturday made my daily habits implode and my days were really messy.

I don't feel really bad about the weekend itself, but the main problem is that it took me 3 days after the weekend for me to bounce back to journaling and having a structured day. I got sick on Monday evening/night and my Thusday was a waste of time with lots of Netflix and Youtube. Well, it's water under the bridge, and it's time to bounce back again!

I didn't even notice but I'm on the 2 weeks mark on no fap/porn. Looks like it was yesterday when I relapsed, time really flew by! I'm feeling that no fap is a little easier right now that I got some long streaks going. Especially right now that in addition to porn itself I'm cutting all "virtual stimulation" in my day to day life - from social media to feminine sports news - things are feeling pretty balanced. I still see a lot a hot women in the gym and in the streets but I don't know, it feels different. Anyway, it feels good reaching this milestone!

My guitar practice is falling a little bit behind. I feel like I should challenge myself a little more, but when I challenge myself too much I get a little demotivated with, for example, songs that I can't play. But I guess the most important is to keep practicing everyday. In no time the older challenges are gonna become easy and I will have some newer/harder ones!

Ultimately, I gotta organize the section "30 days challenge", since it's specially hard to track something that I don't do everyday. The cold showers are going really well, but the other ones I skipped some days. Gotta think of another way to organize that, but not right now.

Current Streaks

No games - 222 days

No Porn/Masturbation - 14 days

Healthy mobile phone usage - 1 days

Things that I should do every now and then

Body grooming - Last done 28/01/2020

Hair Care - Last done 29/01/2020

Clip nails - Last done 28/01/2020

Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing.

30 days challenge

Diet - 13/30

Cold showers - 21/30  (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month)

Practice guitar - 15/30

One amazing thing that happened/I did today

I'm doing it right now, I'm journaling!

Exercise

Gym.

Social

Fear Ladder (1/10) - Keep practicing eye contact and smile.

Exposure Therapy at least once a day

Morning Routine

Day planning - Not Done

Physiotherapy - Half Done

Skin care routine - Done

Brush teeth and floss - Done

Make my bed - Done

Meditation - Not done

Evening Routine

Skin care routine - Done

Physiotherapy - Only in the morning.

Brush teeth and floss - Done

Journaling - Done

Daily Habits Tracker

Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day.

Reading

Power of Habit - Read

The Narnia Chronicles - Didn't read

Read 30 mins of something technical - Didn't read

Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!)

Plan the weekend - 

Search another music school - I'm gonna visit another school tomorrow!

Search a place to take acting lessons - I've been avoiding this, gotta do it this week.

Find a dentist and schedule it

Cook meals for the week - I made "half meals" for the rest of the week in 28/01/2020

Monthly Goal

Gradute - Almost theeere

Start the programming course.

3 Month Goal

Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS!

What went well today:

I got a haircut! I've been needing one and I'm feeling better right now.

What I could have done to make my day better:

It was a good day, but I could have planned my day in the morning.

What I will do differently tomorrow:

I'm gonna have a perfect day tomorrow (planning, journaling, socializing and maintaining my habits)

 
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Objectives for the day

- Deliver the last documents for graduation - Done

- Visit the music school - Rescheduled to next Thusday

- Have a nice guitar practice and get a good progress - Done (it was pretty short though, but who is counting!)

- Have a good day at work (make plans for the day) - Done (didn't make plans, but it was good)

- Practice social skills (smiling, eye contact) and be really social in the music school - Half done, didn't go to the music school

- Exposure therapy, as much as possible - Done

Gratitude journal

- I'm grateful for the food I'm eating

- I'm grateful for the air I breathe

- I'm grateful for the will to change

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21 hours ago, WhatAboutToday? said:

Do you plan on doing or already do it?

Yes, I do exposure therapy with watching tv, doing art. That's about it. Doing these things can be pretty tiring for me. I wonder sometimes if it'll ever get easier or less draining to do. Maybe. 

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1 hour ago, Erik2.0 said:

Yes, I do exposure therapy with watching tv, doing art. That's about it. Doing these things can be pretty tiring for me. I wonder sometimes if it'll ever get easier or less draining to do. Maybe. 

Let's have faith that it will!

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Day 27

Just a quick update today.

Current Streaks

No games - 224 days

No Porn/Masturbation - 15 days

Healthy mobile phone usage - 2 days

Things that I should do every now and then

Body grooming - Last done 28/01/2020

Hair Care - Last done 29/01/2020

Clip nails - Last done 28/01/2020

Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing.

30 days challenge

Diet - 14/30

Cold showers - 22/30  (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month)

Practice guitar - 16/30

One amazing thing that happened/I did today

I challenged myself in a pretty natural way in exposure therapy. I was late to catch the bus and I had to run all the way down my street with a good amount of people looking. Felt a little bit weird in the beginning but in the end it was nice. In the past I wouldn't even considerar doing that.

Exercise

Gym.

Social

Fear Ladder (1/10) - Keep practicing eye contact and smile.

Exposure Therapy at least once a day

Morning Routine

Day planning - Done

Physiotherapy - Done

Skin care routine - Done

Brush teeth and floss - Done

Make my bed - Done

Meditation - Not done

Evening Routine

Skin care routine - Done

Physiotherapy - Only in the morning.

Brush teeth and floss - Done

Journaling - Done the morning after

Daily Habits Tracker

Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day.

Reading

Power of Habit - Read

The Narnia Chronicles - Didn't read

Read 30 mins of something technical - Didn't read

Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!)

Plan the weekend - 

Search another music school - I'm gonna visit another school next Thusday!

Search a place to take acting lessons - I've been avoiding this, gotta do it this week.

Find a dentist and schedule it

Cook meals for the week - I made "half meals" for the rest of the week in 28/01/2020

Monthly Goal

Gradute - Almost theeere

Start the programming course.

3 Month Goal

Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS!

What went well today:

I got a haircut! I've been needing one and I'm feeling better right now.

What I could have done to make my day better:

It was a good day! Maybe I could have been a little more productive in the night.

What I will do differently tomorrow:

I'm gonna start the programming course, I have big plans for 2020!

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Objectives for the day

- Visit the music school - Done

- Have a nice guitar practice and get a good progress - Not Done

- Study some programming/machine learning - Done

- Practice social skills (smiling, eye contact) and be really social in the music school - Done

- Exposure therapy, as much as possible - Not really

Gratitude journal

- I'm grateful for my mind, that keeps me from spiraling out of control

- I'm grateful for a warm day

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Just writing some stuff today, not in the usual format. These last days (1 week and a half, I think) it's been hard to get back on track with my stuff. Some weekdays are really packed with activities and in the weekends I can only stay on track if I stay home, but that's not what I want, usually. At the same time, I don't think I have the same drive I had when I began this journey, so maybe I'm just burning out.

Right now I think I'm gonna make good  use of a change in my routine. I get bored pretty easily when I'm doing the same stuff over and over again, so I guess I'm gonna feel more pumped with a change in my daily activities. On the bright side: In the next months I'm gonna be engaged in some brand new activities, and I'm excited for that. On Sunday I started studying programming/data science/machine learning and I have a studying schedule for the next 3 weeks (to be improved, but right now it's good. I still gotta plan for the subsequent weeks in the future too). Also, yesterday I visited a music school and I'm gonna start take singing lessons every Thursday, starting tomorrow. Finally, I found an acting school that's in my budget and I'm gonna take a trial class on Friday. This one is making me a little bit nervous, but fuck it. I promised to myself that in 2020 I would tackle as hard as I can my social anxieties and I'm gonna keep the promise. So, overall, I'm pretty happy with my new plans. Let's see what the future holds.

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Objectives for the day

- Attend the first singing class!

- Have a nice guitar practice and get a good progress

- Study some programming/machine learning

- Practice social skills (smiling, eye contact)

- Exposure therapy, as much as possible

Gratitude journal

- I'm grateful for my energies

- I'm grateful for my job

- I'm grateful for the clothes I'm wearing

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Lol we have a lot in common, hobby wise. I said above that I was considering acting classes but you've posted about singing classes and that's another thing I've been thinking about. It'd be way out of my comfort zone, too (I can't sing for crap). I'm studying programming in school for a degree in computer science and am learning piano. Guitar would be cool but I don't have the money for one right now because I'm going to be buying a bunch of synths. Let me know how the class went!

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On 2/6/2020 at 9:25 AM, ceponatia said:

Lol we have a lot in common, hobby wise. I said above that I was considering acting classes but you've posted about singing classes and that's another thing I've been thinking about. It'd be way out of my comfort zone, too (I can't sing for crap). I'm studying programming in school for a degree in computer science and am learning piano. Guitar would be cool but I don't have the money for one right now because I'm going to be buying a bunch of synths. Let me know how the class went!

Hey! Yeah, it seems like we have a lot of hobbies in common! Learning piano would be great too, that's something I'm gonna probably try in the future. Right now I'm learning the guitar by myself and I'm having a lot of fun in the process (since english is not my main language I don't know if when I say guitar it refers to an electric guitar, but I am learning the acoustic guitar right now).

So, I had the class yesterday. It went pretty great! It was more of a "get to know you and your voice" class, so there wasn't much singing involved. I got exercises to do everyday at home - in general, to improve breathing and warming up the voice. And I gotta practice singing some songs too, all chosen by myself. Singing there was pretty uncomfortable, but the teacher is really nice and I think over time things are gonna get better.

I'm taking singing/acting classes partially for improving my social skills, to be more open to people, but another reason is to improve my voice. I have the tendency to speak not so loud, so I think these classes are gonna help me a lot. Can you tell me why do you have interest in these classes too?

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