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  1. May I ask what app you use on your phone to block stuff? I was using BlockSite and, like you said, it sometimes is pretty buggy and I can work around it pretty easily. I recently installed Coldturkey in my PC and man, that shit is good. For sure you can work around it, but it's much harder. But I read that the mobile version is not as good as the PC one, so I'm looking for a new app.
  2. Objectives for the day - Have a good singing practice - Done - Have a nice guitar practice (even 5 minutes count) - Done - Study some programming/machine learning - Not Done - Practice social skills (smiling, eye contact) - Done - Exposure therapy, as much as possible - Done - Buy things in the supermarket for my diet - Done Gratitude journal - I'm grateful for another day to change - I'm grateful for my flaws - I'm grateful for my dog
  3. Day 28 Journaling Update post today. I'm trying to change the structure of my daily journal entries to match my current activities. I'm replanning some other stuff too, life my hair/skin care routine and the physiotherapy I do everyday. I get bored of doing the same stuff over and over again easily, so I'm hoping this change of plans may give a little boost to bouncing back on track. Also, I gotta feel that the things I'm doing are really working, so that I get a motivation to keep at it. In general, this was a messy week - I had no structure at all in my days. Made it to the gym most of the days but my morning/evening routines were sloppy as hell. It's important for me to fix that because I feel the difference in my efficiency in other activities if I start the day the right way. Hopefully this will be fixed in the next weeks. I relapsed to fapping like 3 times this week. Had some bad days regarding my relationship and things went downhill. I will set little goals for no PMO and I'm gonna reward myself for accomplishing these goals in the next days. Besides all that, it was a good week. I started my singing classes on Thursday and the acting classes on Friday. Both classes went really well, and I'm excited to see how I'm gonna be by the middle/end of the year. I'm certainly gonna put maximum effort in it, so let's see how it goes. I actually was really scared to attend the trial acting class, but I guess that's normal. The other students are mainly teenagers and I was self-conscious about that (being the older guy there). But in the end it's all bullshit - I got comfortable right after the class started, and later in the class a woman in her 50s arrived and she was AMAZINGLY comfortable in her skin, laughing and joking around with the teens. Current Streaks No games - 232 days No Porn/Masturbation - 0 days ----> CURRENT GOAL: 1 DAY LAST GOAL: NOT YET ACCOMPLISHED Healthy mobile phone usage - 0 days ----> CURRENT GOAL: 1 DAY LAST GOAL: NOT YET ACCOMPLISHED Things that I should do every now and then Body grooming - Last done 28/01/2020 Hair Care - Last done 29/01/2020 Clip nails - Last done 28/01/2020 Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing. Daily Habits/Activities Tracker Perfect Diet - Not done Cold showers - Done Practice guitar - Not done Study programming - Not done Singing practice - Done Gym - Not Done, but it was a conscious decision Social Fear Ladder (1/10) - Keep practicing eye contact and smile. Exposure Therapy at least once a day Morning Routine 1. Make my bed - Done 2. Warm up voice - Done 3. Physiotherapy - Done 3. Brush teeth - Done 4. Skin care routine - Not done 5. Day planning - Not Done Evening Routine 1. Physiotherapy - Only in the morning. 2. Skin care routine - Not Done 3. Brush teeth - Done 4. Journaling - Done the morning after Reading Power of Habit - Read The Narnia Chronicles - Didn't read Read 30 mins of something technical and take notes- Didn't read Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!) Plan the weekend - Find a dentist and schedule it Cook meals for the week - Monthly Goal Keep myself on track with the new routines 3 Month Goal Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS! One amazing thing that happened/I did today I attended the acting class besides being scared! What I could have done to make my day better: It was a good day! What I will do differently tomorrow: Tomorrow is today, but I'm gonna replan all my routines.
  4. Hey! Yeah, it seems like we have a lot of hobbies in common! Learning piano would be great too, that's something I'm gonna probably try in the future. Right now I'm learning the guitar by myself and I'm having a lot of fun in the process (since english is not my main language I don't know if when I say guitar it refers to an electric guitar, but I am learning the acoustic guitar right now). So, I had the class yesterday. It went pretty great! It was more of a "get to know you and your voice" class, so there wasn't much singing involved. I got exercises to do everyday at home - in general, to improve breathing and warming up the voice. And I gotta practice singing some songs too, all chosen by myself. Singing there was pretty uncomfortable, but the teacher is really nice and I think over time things are gonna get better. I'm taking singing/acting classes partially for improving my social skills, to be more open to people, but another reason is to improve my voice. I have the tendency to speak not so loud, so I think these classes are gonna help me a lot. Can you tell me why do you have interest in these classes too?
  5. Objectives for the day - Attend the first singing class! - Have a nice guitar practice and get a good progress - Study some programming/machine learning - Practice social skills (smiling, eye contact) - Exposure therapy, as much as possible Gratitude journal - I'm grateful for my energies - I'm grateful for my job - I'm grateful for the clothes I'm wearing
  6. Just writing some stuff today, not in the usual format. These last days (1 week and a half, I think) it's been hard to get back on track with my stuff. Some weekdays are really packed with activities and in the weekends I can only stay on track if I stay home, but that's not what I want, usually. At the same time, I don't think I have the same drive I had when I began this journey, so maybe I'm just burning out. Right now I think I'm gonna make good use of a change in my routine. I get bored pretty easily when I'm doing the same stuff over and over again, so I guess I'm gonna feel more pumped with a change in my daily activities. On the bright side: In the next months I'm gonna be engaged in some brand new activities, and I'm excited for that. On Sunday I started studying programming/data science/machine learning and I have a studying schedule for the next 3 weeks (to be improved, but right now it's good. I still gotta plan for the subsequent weeks in the future too). Also, yesterday I visited a music school and I'm gonna start take singing lessons every Thursday, starting tomorrow. Finally, I found an acting school that's in my budget and I'm gonna take a trial class on Friday. This one is making me a little bit nervous, but fuck it. I promised to myself that in 2020 I would tackle as hard as I can my social anxieties and I'm gonna keep the promise. So, overall, I'm pretty happy with my new plans. Let's see what the future holds.
  7. Objectives for the day - Visit the music school - Done - Have a nice guitar practice and get a good progress - Not Done - Study some programming/machine learning - Done - Practice social skills (smiling, eye contact) and be really social in the music school - Done - Exposure therapy, as much as possible - Not really Gratitude journal - I'm grateful for my mind, that keeps me from spiraling out of control - I'm grateful for a warm day
  8. Hey! I'm having a hard time following even my journal but I like what I'm seeing here the last few days! Keep it up, engaging in all these activities will be good for you and, like Jay said, don't be too hard on yourself if something go wrong, shit happens all the time. Have fun on your weekend!
  9. Day 27 Just a quick update today. Current Streaks No games - 224 days No Porn/Masturbation - 15 days Healthy mobile phone usage - 2 days Things that I should do every now and then Body grooming - Last done 28/01/2020 Hair Care - Last done 29/01/2020 Clip nails - Last done 28/01/2020 Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing. 30 days challenge Diet - 14/30 Cold showers - 22/30 (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month) Practice guitar - 16/30 One amazing thing that happened/I did today I challenged myself in a pretty natural way in exposure therapy. I was late to catch the bus and I had to run all the way down my street with a good amount of people looking. Felt a little bit weird in the beginning but in the end it was nice. In the past I wouldn't even considerar doing that. Exercise Gym. Social Fear Ladder (1/10) - Keep practicing eye contact and smile. Exposure Therapy at least once a day Morning Routine Day planning - Done Physiotherapy - Done Skin care routine - Done Brush teeth and floss - Done Make my bed - Done Meditation - Not done Evening Routine Skin care routine - Done Physiotherapy - Only in the morning. Brush teeth and floss - Done Journaling - Done the morning after Daily Habits Tracker Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day. Reading Power of Habit - Read The Narnia Chronicles - Didn't read Read 30 mins of something technical - Didn't read Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!) Plan the weekend - Search another music school - I'm gonna visit another school next Thusday! Search a place to take acting lessons - I've been avoiding this, gotta do it this week. Find a dentist and schedule it Cook meals for the week - I made "half meals" for the rest of the week in 28/01/2020 Monthly Goal Gradute - Almost theeere Start the programming course. 3 Month Goal Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS! What went well today: I got a haircut! I've been needing one and I'm feeling better right now. What I could have done to make my day better: It was a good day! Maybe I could have been a little more productive in the night. What I will do differently tomorrow: I'm gonna start the programming course, I have big plans for 2020!
  10. Objectives for the day - Deliver the last documents for graduation - Done - Visit the music school - Rescheduled to next Thusday - Have a nice guitar practice and get a good progress - Done (it was pretty short though, but who is counting!) - Have a good day at work (make plans for the day) - Done (didn't make plans, but it was good) - Practice social skills (smiling, eye contact) and be really social in the music school - Half done, didn't go to the music school - Exposure therapy, as much as possible - Done Gratitude journal - I'm grateful for the food I'm eating - I'm grateful for the air I breathe - I'm grateful for the will to change
  11. I'm not expert on that, but sometimes I feel that my habits are collapsing too. A possible approach could be getting back on track with one habit at a time, and giving kudos to yourself in each step of this process. Stay strong bro!
  12. Hey Tomas! Right after I quitted gaming I replaced gaming with Netflix and movies. It wasn't thaaat bad, but I wish I didn't do it. Reflecting about it right now, before quitting, after work I would play a game for some hours and then go to sleep. I didn't feel tired for gaming, it was quite the opposite. In my non expert opinion in the subject, I think we feel tired exactly because we are lacking that flood of virtual stimulation that we once had, and an easy way to get some similar stimulation is by watching Netflix. But this sensation changes over time, and I'm confident that you will be able to fill this voids with some go to activities.
  13. Hey, congrats on your fitness achievements!! Exercising gives me a really good boost, right now I can't live without it. And congrats on the decision of deleting your league of legends account, that's a big step! I didn't delete my Steam account yet, but I gotta do it someday.
  14. Day 26 Things got a little bit out of control after this weekend. It was a really good weekend, lots of oportunities to socialize and have fun and I enjoyed it a lot. But with all this activities lots of habits were left behind and as anybody can notice I didn't journal or planned my days at all. This, combined with some heavy drinking Friday and Saturday made my daily habits implode and my days were really messy. I don't feel really bad about the weekend itself, but the main problem is that it took me 3 days after the weekend for me to bounce back to journaling and having a structured day. I got sick on Monday evening/night and my Thusday was a waste of time with lots of Netflix and Youtube. Well, it's water under the bridge, and it's time to bounce back again! I didn't even notice but I'm on the 2 weeks mark on no fap/porn. Looks like it was yesterday when I relapsed, time really flew by! I'm feeling that no fap is a little easier right now that I got some long streaks going. Especially right now that in addition to porn itself I'm cutting all "virtual stimulation" in my day to day life - from social media to feminine sports news - things are feeling pretty balanced. I still see a lot a hot women in the gym and in the streets but I don't know, it feels different. Anyway, it feels good reaching this milestone! My guitar practice is falling a little bit behind. I feel like I should challenge myself a little more, but when I challenge myself too much I get a little demotivated with, for example, songs that I can't play. But I guess the most important is to keep practicing everyday. In no time the older challenges are gonna become easy and I will have some newer/harder ones! Ultimately, I gotta organize the section "30 days challenge", since it's specially hard to track something that I don't do everyday. The cold showers are going really well, but the other ones I skipped some days. Gotta think of another way to organize that, but not right now. Current Streaks No games - 222 days No Porn/Masturbation - 14 days Healthy mobile phone usage - 1 days Things that I should do every now and then Body grooming - Last done 28/01/2020 Hair Care - Last done 29/01/2020 Clip nails - Last done 28/01/2020 Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing. 30 days challenge Diet - 13/30 Cold showers - 21/30 (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month) Practice guitar - 15/30 One amazing thing that happened/I did today I'm doing it right now, I'm journaling! Exercise Gym. Social Fear Ladder (1/10) - Keep practicing eye contact and smile. Exposure Therapy at least once a day Morning Routine Day planning - Not Done Physiotherapy - Half Done Skin care routine - Done Brush teeth and floss - Done Make my bed - Done Meditation - Not done Evening Routine Skin care routine - Done Physiotherapy - Only in the morning. Brush teeth and floss - Done Journaling - Done Daily Habits Tracker Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day. Reading Power of Habit - Read The Narnia Chronicles - Didn't read Read 30 mins of something technical - Didn't read Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!) Plan the weekend - Search another music school - I'm gonna visit another school tomorrow! Search a place to take acting lessons - I've been avoiding this, gotta do it this week. Find a dentist and schedule it Cook meals for the week - I made "half meals" for the rest of the week in 28/01/2020 Monthly Goal Gradute - Almost theeere Start the programming course. 3 Month Goal Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS! What went well today: I got a haircut! I've been needing one and I'm feeling better right now. What I could have done to make my day better: It was a good day, but I could have planned my day in the morning. What I will do differently tomorrow: I'm gonna have a perfect day tomorrow (planning, journaling, socializing and maintaining my habits)
  15. Hey! I'm starting with baby steps and, to be honest, I gotta be more organized. I'm trying everyday to be more "open" and smile at people, even if it makes me uncomfortable. I'm practicing by myself in the mirror at home and I think it helps. Eye contact too. I'm really self conscious of what other people think of me so I'm trying things like singing by myself in the streets, but that makes me reeeally uncomfortable. I'm pushing my limits with baby steps, but I'm pretty happy with my effort. Do you plan on doing or already do it?
  16. Hey, thanks for passing by! Coincidentally, I got overwhelmed the past few days by all this stuff, hahah. But I'm gonna try to get back on try right now. I'm gonna take a python towards data science course... I bought it some time ago.
  17. Hey, congrats on this attempt! I personally felt a LOT of boredom after blocking social media, some news websites and YouTube. Starting to practice new stuff when this boredom hits helped a lot. But I still use my phone too much, I guess. Which app are you using to block things? Right now I'm using an app called "Blocksite" both in my PC and in my phone.
  18. Objectives for the day - Exposure therapy, as much as possible - Make an effort to be really social in the singing school - Practice eye contact - Get a good guitar practice - Schedule the orthopedist Gratitude journal - I'm grateful for my fears - I'm grateful for my flaws - I'm grateful for my conscience
  19. Day 25 Yesterday was pretty good. I like the feeling of excitement for change. I love the process of challenging myself. Especially right now that I'm trying to be out of my comfort zone everyday, it really gives me extra energy to go through my day. Today I have a trial singing class. I'm at the same time excited and scared. I'm not at all used to sing in front of other people. But I was told before, multiple times, that I have a good voice. Let's see what happens. Current Streaks No games - 217 days No Porn/Masturbation - 8 days Healthy mobile phone usage - 2 days Things that I should do every now and then Body grooming - Last done 06/12/2019 - I think I'm gonna do it today! Hair Care - Last done 17/01/2020 Clip nails - Last done 13/01/2020 Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing. Step by step. 30 days challenge Diet - 12/30 Cold showers - 17/30 (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month) Practice guitar - 14/30 One amazing thing that happened/I did today Exposure therapy was good. Exercise Gym. Social Fear Ladder (1/10) - Practice eye contact and smile Exposure Therapy at least once a day Morning Routine Day planning - Done Physiotherapy - Done Skin care routine - Done Brush teeth and floss - Done Make my bed - Done Meditation - Not done Evening Routine Skin care routine - Done Physiotherapy - Only in the morning. Brush teeth and floss - Not Done Journaling - Done the morning after Daily Habits Tracker Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day. Reading Leisure reading - Read 30 mins of something technical - ? Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!) Plan the weekend - My weekend is full, actually Search another music school - Scheduled a trial class: 18/01/2020 Search a place to take acting lessons Find a dentist and schedule it Cook meals for the week - I made meals for the rest of the week in 22/01/2020 Monthly Goal Gradute - In progress Start the programming course. 3 Month Goal Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS! What went well today: My efforts to be more social. What I could have done to make my day better: I could've woken up earlier. What I will do differently tomorrow: I'm gonna put big effort in the social skills exercises.
  20. Objectives for the day - Exposure therapy, as much as possible - Done - Practice eye contact - Done - Get a good guitar practice - Done - Schedule the orthopedist- I forgot about it! Gratitude journal - I'm grateful for a rainy day - I'm grateful for my honest smile - I'm grateful for another day and another day to improve myself
  21. Day 24 Today was a good day. Reflected a lot on objectives for this year and I'm excited to put things in practice, especially exercises to improve my social skills. Not gonna write too much, just update the other stuff. Peace! Current Streaks No games - 215 days No Porn/Masturbation - 6 days Healthy mobile phone usage - 1 days Things that I should do every now and then Body grooming - Last done 06/12/2019 Hair Care - Last done 17/01/2020 Clip nails - Last done 13/01/2020 Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing. Step by step. 30 days challenge Diet - 11/30 Cold showers - 16/30 (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month) Practice guitar - 13/30 One amazing thing that happened/I did today I'm sticking to my plan of improving my social skills. That's an effort that I value a lot. Exercise Gym. Social Fear Ladder (1/10) - Practice eye contact Exposure Therapy at least once a day - Begin tomorrow Morning Routine Day planning - Done Physiotherapy - Done Skin care routine - Done Brush teeth and floss - Done Make my bed - Done Meditation - Not done Evening Routine Skin care routine - Done Physiotherapy - Only in the morning. Brush teeth and floss - Done Journaling - Done Daily Habits Tracker Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day. Reading Gonna read a little more before bed and I read during commute. Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!) Plan the weekend - My weekend is full, actually Search another music school - Scheduled a trial class: 18/01/2020 Search a place to take acting lessons Find a dentist and schedule it Cook meals for the week - I made meals for the rest of the week in 22/01/2020 Monthly Goal Gradute - In progress Start the programming course. 3 Month Goal Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS! What went well today: I'm even more excited about my plans for social skills improvement. What I could have done to make my day better: I could've woken up earlier. What I will do differently tomorrow: I'm gonna put more effort in the social skills exercises.
  22. Objectives for the day - Get a good guitar practice - Social skills practice - Buy yogurt and oats Gratitude journal - I'm grateful for having the will to change - I'm grateful for gamequitters to exist - I'm grateful for the people with whom I can change experiences
  23. Day 23 I've been reflecting on how easy it is to fall in the comfort zone. We really gotta push our limits in order to see significant changes in our lives, but most of the times you relax and slow down exactly because the comfort zone is so convenient. Although I've been doing many things to better my life, I don't think I'm pushing my comfort zone enough. My lifelong problem revolves around social situations: public presentations, meeting new people, and other stuff. It's not that I can't talk to people, but I don't have charisma. I can't "charm" people. I get nervous in situations where I shouldn't. This shit affects my job, my relationship with my SO, my relationship with my family, basically everything. I have perfect awareness that in order to get better, I gotta put myself in uncomfortable situations. That's the only way. I gotta get daily exposure to every uncomfortable situation so that they become comfortable. So tomorrow I'm starting a plan to get exposure to these situations everyday by climbing a "fear ladder" (something I found out in google). It's gonna be hell, but I'm gonna get through it. I scheduled on Friday a trial class in a singing school that I found out the other day. That's an extra, and it's certainly gonna be uncomfortable, but fuck it. I wanted to learn how to sing for a long time and it's gonna better my voice. Current Streaks No games - 214 days No Porn/Masturbation - 5 days Healthy mobile phone usage - 0 days Things that I should do every now and then Body grooming - Last done 06/12/2019 Hair Care - Last done 17/01/2020 Clip nails - Last done 13/01/2020 Deep organize room - ? - Gonna separate an hour in the day when the boredom hits to organize a drawer or any other thing. Step by step. 30 days challenge Diet - 10/30 Cold showers - 15/30 (this is going pretty easy right now, it's really hot these days. Do it again on a cold month) Practice guitar - 12/30 One amazing thing that happened/I did today Work was good! Conducted a test today pretty well. Exercise Gym. Social Fear Ladder (1/10) - Day one: Morning Routine Day planning - Not done Physiotherapy - Done Skin care routine - Done Brush teeth and floss - Done Make my bed - Not Done (SO was sleeping when I got up) Meditation - Not done Evening Routine Skin care routine - Done Physiotherapy - Only in the morning. Brush teeth and floss - Done Journaling - Done Daily Habits Tracker Staying out of the room - Stayed out almost all day. Reading Gonna read a little before bed. Weekly Goal(s) - (Week starts at Monday! - Update at Sunday!) Plan the weekend - Search another music school - Scheduled a trial class: 18/01/2020 Search a place to take acting lessons Find a dentist and schedule it Cook meals for the week - Didn't cook much! Gotta cook tomorrow. Monthly Goal Present the final project and graduate (Got a day, 19/12!) - DONE (missing graduation) Start the programming course. 3 Month Goal Get back to running. The physiotherapy is really important, SET GOALS! What went well today: I'm excited about my plans for social skills improvement. What I could have done to make my day better: I could've planned my day in the morning. What I will do differently tomorrow: My day is gonna be productive. Gonna plan my day in the morning, do my social exercises, practice guitar and cook meals.
  24. Hey @Zenrenn, welcome back! Contratulations on your son! Must be a big surprise having a son out of a sudden but maybe he is gonna transform your life! From my experience, journaling is a good way to track your progress and hold yourself accountable, so I highly recommend you start a diary. So, once again, welcome back!
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