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  1. Well, 90 days of detox later, here I am, no relapse so far, positive attitude! Although work has been a pain lately, the rest of my life is going just fine without gaming! Will definitely continue on this path for the time being! Good luck to you fellow game quitters.
  2. @Twin @Pochatok, thank you for your insight. After thinking about it a bit more and having a deeper look into my reactions before, during and after playing tabletop RPGs, I can safely say that so far, my brain seems to somewhat completely separate tabletop rpgs from gaming and playing tabletop RPGs has not given me a lot of urges to play video games. I do get a similar excitement as when playing video games, but I seem to perceive these 2 activities differently. I'll keep track of urges, and Pochatok, I'll make sure to have a set fallback so I can resist any urge that comes in. So far th
  3. Hey Hai, Don't take offense - I'm not sure how old you are and will give you my 32 yo POV. I fully echo Po's take - relationships change over time and you should not be afraid to end bad friendships. These 2 "friends" don't seem like friends at all to me and you should definitely consider cutting off the ties, especially as these "friends" seem to be gaming friends. I have no clue how old your "friends" are but the behaviour you highlighted seems quite childish to me and should not warrant your attention, as hard as it can be to ignore others. Trolls, abusive and nasty ppl shoul
  4. You nailed it for the most part I believe. I'm exactly like you - find something new of interest, dive 110% into it for a couple of weeks or until I feel like I'm getting good, then interest wears off a bit and I slow down (or even drop out for a while). OTOH, I do not believe that most people are like that, though, at least from looking at my close relatives and friends. I would say I'm the closest example and I have 1 or 2 friends that are a bit like that, but that's it. I would not go as far as calling this behaviour addiction, at least when it is not creating problems in your life or
  5. Hey Bird, Although it is about a completely different subject (personal finance and FIRE movement), I belong and feel deeply attached to the Mister Money Mustache ("MMM") community (the forum). I read through most of the MMM blog posts a couple of years ago and jumped eagerly into the forum, where thousands of human beings from around the world (mostly US) exchange on the topic of personal finance, investing, financial independence and early retirement. My exposure to the MMM blog and community has forever changed my outlook on personal finance and I'm am profoundly appreciative and
  6. Hi folks, I'm more than 30 days in my detox and feeling great about it, the cravings have not been as frequent nor as intense as I thought they would be, which is helpful. I used to play D&D with a group of friends IRL until the pandemic hit us. Wanting to go back to tabletop RPGs while staying safely at home, I just started a D&D game with strangers using roll20 (2hrs weekly), and I'm having a blast! I'm also planning to do some one-offs or maybe embark on another RPG campaign (star wars) with IRL friends through the same website (roll20), virtually. All of this got me
  7. Spot on, Po! @Moonlight, I would add the following, and you may already know this: it may sound rude, but sometimes you have to limit the amount of f*cks you give about other people's opinion, even the ones close to you. I know there are some books out there on this subject, but at the end of the day, you know what's best for you more than anyone else and not giving a f*ck about what others think can be quite uplifting. Looking forward to hear more from you. I just reached the 30 days' mark in my detox and feel great about it - hoping its the same for you!
  8. Congrats for seing the problem before it became a bigger part of your life, and for taking the right steps to control it! Welcome to the community.
  9. Welcome Pochatok! Same issue here (writing from my self-built gaming rig). If you haven't done it yet, uninstalling every single game and platform (steam, blizzard, uplay, epic, etc.) is a very good idea + giving away or deleting your accounts. I'm tempted not to sell my gaming computer for now as I'm working from home and using it on a daily basis, but could definitely sell it and get a less powerful one to ensure I don't game anymore. If the issue comes up I'll consider it. For now its a super powerful game-free work computer ;). Anyhow, good luck on your journey.
  10. I'm a huge consumer of music. My spotify account generates playlists out of my current and past listenings, and here and there a playlist with video game soundtracks pops up. Just listening to video game soundtracks makes me want to play and brings up the possibility of a relapse - my mind even goes into the "it wouldn't be so bad" territory sometimes. I was never a big fan of e-sports or twitch, but I'm guessing that it would have the same effect as listening to video game soundtracks: getting me closer and closer to relapsing, which I don't want at this time. You know yourself bett
  11. Welcome Chris. I relate a lot to your story - I deeply enjoy gaming and still have a stable life (pregnant GF, stable job and finance, etc.). Yet, gaming was taking too much of my time and as for you, preventing me from doing things I deeply wanted to do, and feeling full of shame about it. Anyhow, I tried moderating my gaming hours without much success in the past. As gaming fills up a lot of needs, your mind will play tricks on you to push you to continue fulfilling those needs instead of accepting moderation. If you haven't tried to set up limits and moderate your gaming, go
  12. Welcome Darth and good luck on your journey!
  13. A warm welcome to both of you, you are not alone in this! We all have our reasons to quit - I'm about to be a dad and don't want to be haunted by the gaming shadows while playing with my soon to arrive daughter. And I want to enjoy life in general! Cheers mates!
  14. Welcome to the club, Slime! Alcool was also linked to my gaming habits (drinking alone in front of a computer is not super sexy). I decided to quit gaming but did not quit alcool (at least for now) - I don't consider that I have a problem with alcool as I can go without it for weeks if I want to. Same could not be said about gaming so I quit gaming 😉 Anyhow, godspeed on this new journey, may you enjoy the ride!
  15. Hey Moonlight, Welcome to the community. I struggled with a bit of anxiety and sadness in the first couple of days of detox, especially when I was giving away all my accounts and passwords, letting clan members know that I was quitting (basically saying goodbye), etc. These are completely normal feelings that you have to accept and live through. Just keep at it, it ends up going away (sooner or later depending on your personality - I'm 18 days into the detox and feeling great at this time). As for others' reaction, I guess confusion can be part of it as they know you as an enthusiast