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Date Wednesday 11.07.2018 Thoughts I need to think about the death of people I love and loosing things I care about. Thinking about this makes me feel intensely grateful for the things I have. This is way more important then thinking about things I have and trying to feel gratitude or list them down. Have big goals for the future further away and smaller plans for the immediate future. Focus the view and do fucking great work now. Thankfulness My wife could die in a car accident. My son could die of sickness. My vitality could and will fade. My mind will be withering. My family will die. My job can go away. The field I am working in can become past. I am fucking greatful for having all this stuff and people in my life right now. Goals I will earn 8k+ more money next year Get leadership position were I can empower people. Become an expert in the cross section between confluence and front-end-webdevelopment Become an expert at the Java-API of the Atlassian tools and plug-in-development still to much goals

Letter 3 - On True and False Friendship Real friends are people you can share everything with that bothers you Be a real friend to yourself. self deceiving is sometimes necessary but it hinders you Live your live in a way that you could share it with your enemies without shame or fear Don't share openly everything that bothers you with people who aren't your friends (yet) Choose your real friends wisely and only make them real friends (what means you share with them everything) if they are good for you. There is no hard line between aqquaintances and real friend. Trust trustworthy people more and untrustworthy people less but don't trust nobody or everybody. It is a scale not to fractions

Date Saturday 06.07.2018 Thoughts Chat ruins productivity but enhances team feeling over distributed workplaces. I need to focus one hour a day on one important but not urgent thing without distraction. Journalling will help me to know my strengths and weaknesses better which will allow me to use my weaknesses as strengths. Thankfulness Books, Family, My Wife who found an appartment closer to my workplace which will give me an extra half an hour everyday where I don't ahve to commute. Goals I will earn 8k+ more money next year Get leadership position were I can empower people. Become an expert in the cross section between confluence and front-end-webdevelopment Become an expert at the Java-API of the Atlassian tools and plug-in-development Become an expert at the usage of the development tools of Atlassian. TO MUCH GOALS

Letter 2: On DIscursiveness Of Reading Don't do a lot of different things but instead focus on one thing. Finish a book before you start a new one. Great thoughts and great gains are reached through focus Discover many thoughts and focus on one every day. You are rich if you want what you have and poor otherwise.

Letter 1: On saving time The only thing which is really yours is time. Don't fucking waste it. Time can be converted in anything: knowledge, money, connection, health etc. You are dying every day, the candle of your life is half burnt. You are rich if you have what you need. If you need less time you will be rich in time: that is why you need to focus. Focus first on effectiveness and only second on efficiency.

Hi fellow gamequitters! I lately started to listen and relisten to a series which is a commentary and reading of Senecas Letters. I want to store profound knowledge or citations I get from this so I can reread it later. Maybe you can also benefit from this. I will edit this first entry to add one letter after the other one. This way we all can easily go to the first page and get all knowledge. If you want to listen to the same videos:

Hey congrats at the two weeks. Not gaming helped to improve the realtionsship with my significant other too. A lot! ;)

Date Saturday 23.06.2018 Thoughts We don't have coding expertise at work so I need to become the go-to-guy to everything relating to code. Senecas letters series from John Sonmez is awesome. I should write key points from every letter down where I look at them Thankfulness My awesome son, Youth, Modern Communication, my sister. Goals I will earn 8k+ more money next year I will pass my certification and study actively and effectively ACHIEVED Get leadership position were I can empower people. Become an expert in the cross section between confluence and front-end-webdevelopment Become an expert at the Java-API of the Atlassian tools and plug-in-development Become an expert at the usage of the development tools of Atlassian.

Date Tuesday 20.06.2018 Workday Morning Routine Feed Cats. Make Coffee. Drink Coffee. Get Ready. Listen to Audiobook. Write Journal Entry. Start 15min Touchtyping. 1hr High Prio Work. Thoughts Didn't Journal for too long, didn't train a bit I am doing well at work I want to be a tech lead because teamwork is awesome and empowering people is something I want to do. How can I make this happen? I am only in for 6 Months and missing the respect and technical background I need to become expert and lead my team without being in the position. How can I empower my team members. I need to learn what drives them and then help them to get this motivation. 1on1 talks are needed Thankfulness Motivation, Coffee, Love Goals I will earn 8k+ more money next year I will keep my apartment clean until end of June FAILED I will pass my certification and study actively and effectively ACHIEVED Get leadership position were I can empower people. Become an expert in 2-3 areas of my current work.

Date Tuesday 12.06.2018 Workday Morning Routine Feed Cats. Make Coffee. Drink Water. Drink Coffee. 5min HIT. Get Ready. Listen to Audiobook. Write Journal Entry. Start 15min Touchtyping. 1hr High Prio Work. Thoughts Need to finish Ilias Audiobook just to enforce the finisher mindset New books and projects are one kind of distraction from hard realities Thankfulness I am needed I am still healthy and hae a lot of energy which can be used Flexibility is awesome Goals I will earn 8k+ more money next year I will keep my apartment clean until end of June I will pass my certification and study actively and effectively

Hey there. Great to see how you stand up again and again. It is hard not to rely on old habits if your not busy and old triggers come up. I. E. I you feel bored or stressed. Be aware of the situations and feelings which let you relapse. After some repetitions you will recognize the same situations as they happen and this enables you to train yourself to a different reaction. For me personally the gamechanger was getting a full time job which made establishing a daily recurring routine much easier. I just had so less free time that I suddenly became very conscious about how and with whom I wanted to spend it. Not gaming was suddenly easy. It seems kind of depressing to have so little choices over the day but I actually feel way better with a boring recurring routine. I would never believed to be so happy with it if someone told me before.

Isn' there visual code or smth. Which is cross platform?

Hey there. Just wanted to let you know that I still read your journal from time to time. Great job challenging yourself and also for the consistency!

Get some professional help. I wished I could walk by your house and talk out of this shit. But I am not there. If you have noone to talk to get professional help. Suicidal tendencies is nothing normal or rational. It is a sign you need help. NOW is the time to get it.

Keep going. I relapsed a week ago after a very short night. But now it is way easier to stay at 2-3 cups a day instead of 5-10 (which led to head aches). So my goal is achieved. But you got this.

This depends imho on how you feel if you doing them. If it feels comparable to you playing "normal" games (i.e. escape from hard stuff, not relaxing, wasting away instead of achieveing smth) I would evade them. If it feels different it may be a fun activity you can do from time to time. This depends on the person playing them.

I personally didn't struggle with this at the detox but his only the case because I have really nice metabolism and burned all that shit I ate away fast. Be forgiving to yourself because it is hard to change your behaviors. If it starts to become the standard that you don't game making good choices in other areas of your life becomes easier. Gaining weight is a form of lifestyle. You all ready realized why you are gaining weight (more going out = less money + more alcohol = more calories). You have basically three options: 1) You start a second counter for exercise habits. This could be anything from a amount of steps you want to walk everyday to you want to go to the gym everyday. I has to be daily goal to make it a habit. 2) You stop doing things which affects you in a bad way. Go out with friends and just drink water. It is a great exercise to develop your social abilities and while people will find it curious at first they get used to it and are usually happy that the now have a driver ;) 3) Do both and become even fitter then you were before. But always remember you are only at the beginning of your journey of becoming better, fitter, more intelligent and awesome in general. You don't have to tackle all the aspects at once. It would be totally fine if you accept the weight gain for the next 69 days and then start another phase where you focus on health and fitness. The cool thing at this detox is that it allows you to build the self-control and confidence to to such things again again in the future.

I need my sleep. Sleep is more important for me then every single other factor. I if don't get enough sleep even exercising and eating well won't help me. I got under 6 hours regularly at the start of this year and it just lead to me being unfocussed, irritated and getting ill more. I only prioritize time with my wife over sleep. My advice would be to just accept that you have only 16 hours for living (work/eat/time with people you care about) and focus on prioritizing what you do and how to do it well instead of taking so much on your plate that you need more time per day. In my opinion time is not the limiting factor but products=time*energy. You can't cut sleep and improve your productivity, because your energy levels will decrease exponentially

I already failed. I read on my mobile and my kindle and I caught myself wanting to hear audio books again and to read on quora. I also think I am wanting to do this just to resurrect the feeling I got as I started my gaming detox. I will instead llsten only to fiction and reading only books - no articles or feed like media. Fokus the input instead of cutting it out.

07.05.2018 I followed the routine described in my last entry until a few weeks ago. I did get to less sleep (<6hours) so I eliminated my coding studies before work. The last few days I realized also that I felt a lot of stress through all this input. I listened to appr. 2 hours of non-fiction audio books a day, learned a ton of new things at work and read in breaks on quora or my kindle app. This is just too much. I couldn't relax anymore that's why I made a radical move over the last few days. I stopped all input besides work and family. No audio books. No podcasts No reading in blogs/this forum/quora/books. It is time for me to process all the input I stuffed into my brain over the last 2 years and I think cutting back input and increasing output is the way of doing it. That is why I commit publicly to my no input detox. No new input/projects besides possibly some excercise and/or meditation until the 7th August. I will think and enjoy my surroundings instead of searching new interesting and helpful stuff all the time. I hope this will make me more focused at work and at home. I also hope it will make me happier because I hypothesize that if I don't feel so much pressure I can enjoy what I do more. It is possible that I intensify my web-programming in this phase, but only if i actually need it for my work and in work-time.

Set yourself some goals and google Bullet Journal. It is a nice analogue time management system (and kind of trendy ;))

@Cindpline You need try things and stick to them for some time. Usually if you stick to them for some time and see progress in skills like i.e. programming or at an music instrument the activities become interesting. My advice would be think of someone you find interesting and start doing similar activities. Then stick to one or two of them for a month and see if they start interesting you. As soon as you get passionate about something you will have enough to talk about with other people. It all depends on what you deem productive. I think time with my family or friends is really productive and I actively try to maximize my time with them. I also think programming is productive which I really like doing. I also find my work productive, where I try to be as effective as possible to have a free mind for these other things I enjoy. Being productive and disciplines isn't a value for itself. It is a way to get more of the things you want in life.

Welcome in team #noCoffee ;)

I don't think that any other solution exists right now as copy and paste. It would be cool to have apdf export or something similar though. Maybe you could open a suggestion and with a bit of luck someone here can realize it.

Hey Hitaru, I can definitely see grow in the way you handle the world around you. Your perception of things seems also to shift more to a "growth mindset". The environment and especially the people around you have a big impact on every aspect of your beeing. I think one of the best way to be happier in the long run is to build emaningful relationships with the right people. They don't even have to be positive world changers. Just standard people who don't are fucking anchors and only drag you down. I am sorry to hear about your panic attacks but you seems to handle the results. Several people I know had similar problems. I personally never felt worse over them. I wish you sincerely the best of luck and hopefullly less and less future anxiety attacks.