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Hey!

Relapse happens. I even relapsed once after being away from games for 11 months straight. When I relapsed I ended up playing 16 hours a day for five months. WHOOPS!

But what I want you to know is relapse doesn't have to be a bad thing, if you learn from it.

Relapse actually teaches us a lot about why we game and by understanding that we can find solutions to move forward.

The key is to get started again right away. Don't wait 5 months like I did, try and get back on track as quickly as possible.

Here's a video I made to help you out: What To Do If You Relapse And Start Gaming Again

Here to help.

- Cam

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I actually relapsed over the weekend. It was for 12 hours at a graduation "LAN" for one of my friends. The great news is that I was able to recommit immediately to my goals again after the short relapse. This isn't the case for everyone, and I am still disappointed in my decision to relapse. However, that night I found gaming had lost its luster for me. It was a mediocre way to spend time at best. I'm glad i made this discovery, and it has motivated me even more to reach those 90 days and find other social circles.

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Hey! Thanks for sharing.

It's definitely a good sign to see how your relationship with gaming has begun to shift with your time away. That doesn't mean you wouldn't come to enjoy it a lot if you did start playing a lot again, but it's great to see the difference between "I want to play because I enjoy it" and "I want to play because my brain enjoys it."

There's a difference. :)

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I've been thinking about why so many people return to gaming other successfully completing their detox. And I guess that we are trying to deal with the gaming addiction from the wrong side. In some cases, when people are not really addicted, detox generally helps and enables them to distance themselves from games and discover or re-discover some other, healthier activities. In these cases, the people are not really addicted, rather obsessed with games, and giving up gaming for some time allows them to re-asses their behaviour. But for some others, who are more heavily addicted, it is easy to start playing again after detox, or even count the days to the last day of the detox. Why is that? I have been wondering about it and it occurred to me that by removing games, we may be "curing" the symptoms rather than resolving the problems which lead this person to seek solace in games in the first place. Like the cures for common cold that treat symptoms and not underlying causes of the disease. The same case may be with excessive gaming, if someone games a lot to escape their problems, be they psychological, physical, any kind, when they stop gaming, the problems are still there, and most often, gaming is the only coping mechanism this person knows, that is why relapses happen so frequently. If we start curing the underlying reasons of excessive gaming, e.g. lack of self-worth, there are much higher chances of success, since as the problem which causes the person to game is gone, they no longer have any reason to engage in gaming. If the problems subsist, people can of course refrain from gaming for some time such as a detox, but since their underlying issues continue to trouble them, they relapse. Of course, learning a healthier way to cope with problems is important, but resolving them is even more crucial. For this allows us to get rid of games for good.

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I've been thinking about why so many people return to gaming other successfully completing their detox. And I guess that we are trying to deal with the gaming addiction from the wrong side. In some cases, when people are not really addicted, detox generally helps and enables them to distance themselves from games and discover or re-discover some other, healthier activities. In these cases, the people are not really addicted, rather obsessed with games, and giving up gaming for some time allows them to re-asses their behaviour. But for some others, who are more heavily addicted, it is easy to start playing again after detox, or even count the days to the last day of the detox. Why is that? I have been wondering about it and it occurred to me that by removing games, we may be "curing" the symptoms rather than resolving the problems which lead this person to seek solace in games in the first place. Like the cures for common cold that treat symptoms and not underlying causes of the disease. The same case may be with excessive gaming, if someone games a lot to escape their problems, be they psychological, physical, any kind, when they stop gaming, the problems are still there, and most often, gaming is the only coping mechanism this person knows, that is why relapses happen so frequently. If we start curing the underlying reasons of excessive gaming, e.g. lack of self-worth, there are much higher chances of success, since as the problem which causes the person to game is gone, they no longer have any reason to engage in gaming. If the problems subsist, people can of course refrain from gaming for some time such as a detox, but since their underlying issues continue to trouble them, they relapse. Of course, learning a healthier way to cope with problems is important, but resolving them is even more crucial. For this allows us to get rid of games for good.

Yes you are right. The value imo in the detox is that it puts people in a position to either start developing more awareness of the underlying problems in their life, and/or also gives them the opportunity to start fixing them. Some are able to do this better than others and I think we still have a lot of room for improvement to help people with that journey. Another thought behind the detox is that even if someone goes back to games and it's not a positive thing - they now have a reference point in their life of life without games - something they've never had before - so they are more likely to become aware of when gaming is a problem again and be that much more likely to take steps to fix it. It's certainly not a perfect solution but a positive step in the right direction.

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The value imo in the detox is that it puts people in a position to either start developing more awareness of the underlying problems in their life, and/or also gives them the opportunity to start fixing them. "

So true!

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The value imo in the detox is that it puts people in a position to either start developing more awareness of the underlying problems in their life, and/or also gives them the opportunity to start fixing them. "

So true!

Boom.

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