Yan Posted March 10 Posted March 10 2 minutes ago, Kam said: Ha! I get your point, but I also don't think there's anything wrong with feeling gratitude about nice weather. I know from experience that the rainy days are important because they make the sunny days feel great. It's easy to overthink stuff like that, and might be important for someone who doesn't have a stable foundation, but for me, it's not really an issue. Thank you though! You're welcome 🙂 3 minutes ago, Kam said: I'm on day 62! I have some vacation coming up, from this Saturday to next Sunday. That'll be Day 75 when I get back. After that, I have some house work being done that'll eat up the next two weeks, realistically. Which means that I think I'll be able to complete the detox and finish strong! Of course, Day 90/90 of the detox might be Day 1/? of the next goal 😄 You're not done until you're done. So we'll see about that - only time will tell. Stay alert, game-quitting partner.
Kam Posted March 11 Author Posted March 11 Quote You're not done until you're done. So we'll see about that Yan, you're quite the pessimist! Day 63/90 in the bag. Work, kids, and exercise account for probably 95% of my days recently. Staying busy but feels good. 1
Yan Posted March 11 Posted March 11 I do not see myself as a pessimist. I just know that until you're not done, you're not done. Let's take a run for example: Even if you're miles ahead of the competition, you may get too confident and arrogant and go "easy" in the end, while the competition speeds up because they think they're too far behind, and lo and behold, your leverage is lost. That is not to say that you didn't have any leverage to begin with or that your chance of winning wasn't higher when you had a long time gap between you and the person after you, but that even when you did, winning is still not certain and you must keep it up until it is DONE. Nonetheless, no one is taking your accomplishments away from you. I congratulate you for them but do not wish you to rest on your laurels. "Stay hard" -David Goggins 1
Kam Posted March 12 Author Posted March 12 Well of course, losing focus on the goal / getting complacent puts you at a higher risk of relapse. On the other hand, being confident and really seeing a vision for the end goal (like I described) is not losing focus or being complacent! Day 64/90 going well. Just got done with a run and a cold shower, feels fantastic 1
Yan Posted March 12 Posted March 12 7 hours ago, Kam said: Well of course, losing focus on the goal / getting complacent puts you at a higher risk of relapse. On the other hand, being confident and really seeing a vision for the end goal (like I described) is not losing focus or being complacent! So long as you're not complacent, all is good in the neighborhood 😉 7 hours ago, Kam said: Day 64/90 going well. Just got done with a run and a cold shower, feels fantastic U da beast 1
Kam Posted March 13 Author Posted March 13 Day 65/90: no urges. just very, very tired from kids being up all night! 1
Kam Posted March 14 Author Posted March 14 Day 66/90: last night before my trip. It'll be over a week until I post again. The only thing I'll need to stay vigilant against is getting bored at night and downloading games on my phone - but I'm confident that I won't relapse, as I've never really played phone games (except for Chess) and I'll be exhausted from the day's activities. Good luck to all here on your own journeys! 1
Yan Posted March 14 Posted March 14 8 hours ago, Kam said: Day 66/90: last night before my trip. It'll be over a week until I post again. The only thing I'll need to stay vigilant against is getting bored at night and downloading games on my phone - but I'm confident that I won't relapse, as I've never really played phone games (except for Chess) and I'll be exhausted from the day's activities. Good luck to all here on your own journeys! See you in a week, allthough you may consider journaling in phone notes or in a notebook. It's just a few minutes, and is important to maintain a habit 🙂 1
Kam Posted March 24 Author Posted March 24 Day 76: Trip went well! No urges to play during it, which was great. Now it's time to prep for house construction work, so that will keep me busy. 14 more days until the 90 days is complete! 1
Kam Posted March 26 Author Posted March 26 Day 78: I spent a lot of time yesterday writing about my view on negative habits and escapism. I've learned a lot from this detox... and I've learned that it's not just video games that can cause these types of issues. The obvious one is doom-scrolling on Tiktok or Reddit. Any kind of artificial dopamine hits for surface-level entertainment. You can't just think your way out of this problem. There is no way I would have gotten this level of understanding while still playing video games. I needed to detox to see what the real problems were. Avoidance and escapism are cemented at the top of the problems in my life. I've caught myself trying to engage in other bad habits that do the same thing. Now, I've learned (the hard way!) that the solution for avoidance and escapism is to address the root of the thing causing your stress head-on. You can solve any problem you face. 1 1
Yan Posted March 26 Posted March 26 7 hours ago, Kam said: Day 78: I spent a lot of time yesterday writing about my view on negative habits and escapism. Reflection does clear your mind more than no reflection 🙂 The thing that comes top of mind as you write these lines, that we must have a push and a pull. Both discipline and push away from the gaming world, and a pull towards some other direction in the form of long term goals. I don't know if I already wrote this to you, but I recommend the book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey, in very big part because of Habit 2 f the book "Begin with the end in mind", but because of all the rest too! Hope this helps 🙂
Kam Posted March 27 Author Posted March 27 16 hours ago, Yan said: Both discipline and push away from the gaming world, and a pull towards some other direction in the form of long term goals. Such a great point here, Yan. I love the use of "push and pull". Pushing is hard, getting pulled feels a lot better. I remember days where I didn't think about gaming because I was so engrossed in a personal project. It's hard to come by those moments now, mainly because with young kids I'm exhausted by the end of the day and just want to relax, but it's still possible. I do need to set some new long term goals. I'm at the point I want to be in my life (great job, family, kids, etc.) but there's still more I can do to continuously improve. Especially with exercise! Day 79 looking good! 1
Kam Posted March 28 Author Posted March 28 Day 80: 10 more days! excited to complete the detox. putting together a plan of how I want to approach all of this after the detox is done 1
Yan Posted March 30 Posted March 30 On 3/28/2025 at 2:52 PM, Kam said: Day 80: 10 more days! excited to complete the detox. putting together a plan of how I want to approach all of this after the detox is done One more day in the pocket. Keep us posted 🙂 1
Kam Posted March 31 Author Posted March 31 (edited) Day 83: house work is well underway and has taken up 90% of any free time I have. it'll be most of this week but by this weekend it should be wrapped up. 7 more days! 💪 Edited March 31 by Kam 2
Kam Posted April 3 Author Posted April 3 Day 86: same update! half of the work was done on monday and tuesday, the other half is being done tomorrow. so every night has just been busy moving things around to prep for all of it. no time to think about games but I don't think I would be thinking about them anyways. new book: red rising. great so far. 4 more days until 90 day detox is complete 1
Kam Posted April 4 Author Posted April 4 Day 87. Last day of house work. It's the weekend. I'm absolutely exhausted. 3 more days until 90 days is done and I can give myself a big ol' pat on the back. 1
Kam Posted April 7 Author Posted April 7 Day 90! Feels great committing to something and then finishing it. I have to jump right into work this morning, I'd like to write my thoughts on the detox more in depth when I have time in the next few days. Plus, talk about my plans from here. Thanks to everyone for the support 🙂 1 1
station mouse Posted April 13 Posted April 13 CONGRATULATIONS!! 🥳🎉 90 days done, that's incredible!!! Give yourself a huge pat on the back 🌟 I hope you get time soon to share what you learned along the way and how you plan to go forward from here! 1
Yan Posted April 14 Posted April 14 On 4/7/2025 at 3:43 PM, Kam said: Day 90! Feels great committing to something and then finishing it. I have to jump right into work this morning, I'd like to write my thoughts on the detox more in depth when I have time in the next few days. Plus, talk about my plans from here. Thanks to everyone for the support 🙂 Just got my own 90. How's progress?
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