BooksandTrees Posted November 30, 2023 Share Posted November 30, 2023 People recovering from addiction often turn to addiction to hide from the power of feeling shame. Shame can take many forms. Rather than hiding from shame, I think it's important to face it head on when you're ready. You'll know when you're ready when you're tired of hiding. Rules: just post something you did to combat something you're ashamed or embarrassed about. Don't need to write a huge post. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BooksandTrees Posted November 30, 2023 Author Share Posted November 30, 2023 For last week's shameless Saturday I flossed my teeth because I'm ashamed of my dental health and neglect flossing. I felt cleaner and happier. I want to floss at least once a week now. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ikar Posted December 2, 2023 Share Posted December 2, 2023 Told my girlfriend more details about my porn problem. I explained to her how it affects me, her and our relationship. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BooksandTrees Posted December 2, 2023 Author Share Posted December 2, 2023 I told my wife that I get power trips from anger because it was the only thing that gave me strength and hope as a kid, and even though my temper is better now, I need to work on how I react when I'm backed into a corner. I explained how she can help and how I need to work through things. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FDRx7 Posted December 3, 2023 Share Posted December 3, 2023 Feeling embarrassed about not having much idea where my money goes (besides savings and a few large recurring expenses), I sat down and created a monthly budget and expenses spreadsheet. Everything is incredibly clear now, and I expect the format to evolve as I learn more. I'm now going to track this as a new habit. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BooksandTrees Posted December 9, 2023 Author Share Posted December 9, 2023 I'm pretty ashamed about my weight and how I run out of breath going up the stairs. I'd like to try being more active and want to start slow with some yoga during the week. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FDRx7 Posted December 9, 2023 Share Posted December 9, 2023 I was ashamed of how late I often woke up and how flustered it made me feel for the rest of the day. So I started with a small step of putting my gym clothes on in the morning when my alarm goes off in the other room. I’ve started waking up regularly at the same time now and even exercising in the morning. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ikar Posted December 9, 2023 Share Posted December 9, 2023 I'm ashamed to (not) give compliments to others. I'm afraid of being judged by others, in case they overhear it, but also that it comes out as creepy towards the recipient. For example, telling an acquaintance that she is smart, looks good etc. I'm very bad at complimenting myself too, as I think there's nothing praiseworthy for following and executing a plan well. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amphibian220 Posted December 10, 2023 Share Posted December 10, 2023 (edited) I’m ashamed of lacking emotional qualities and being withdrawn most of the time. I feel great from sharing my success with my family and colleagues and listening and empathizing with them. Edited December 10, 2023 by Amphibian220 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pochatok Posted December 10, 2023 Share Posted December 10, 2023 Ashamed of getting lost in the moment, of losing my ability to be efficient and thoughtful and a leader to myself during the times when it counts the most. Ashamed of letting myself be overwhelmed. Also, ashamed for not willing to reciprocate my friends' love and care the last few days. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BooksandTrees Posted December 16, 2023 Author Share Posted December 16, 2023 I've been dealing with weight shame by snacking less and trying to stand more at my desk rather than sitting. I know that won't do much but it's been helping. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pochatok Posted December 17, 2023 Share Posted December 17, 2023 Dealing w/ the shame of not being open/communicative w/ my family by calling them TONIGHT! Reminder set. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pochatok Posted December 24, 2023 Share Posted December 24, 2023 Feeling ashamed of how difficult it has been to get myself out of comfort zone today. I keep sliding into it- so I sit down and journal some more, and then again, and then again. I refuse to surrender to comfort. Even if I don't anywhere but simply away from comfort, I don't want to feel ashamed of myself tomorrow, or even moments from now 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BooksandTrees Posted December 24, 2023 Author Share Posted December 24, 2023 I'm still ashamed of my weight. I started tracking my calories again. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ikar Posted December 24, 2023 Share Posted December 24, 2023 Yesterday I used my inter-dental toothbrush for the first time in a few months. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pochatok Posted January 8 Share Posted January 8 Ashamed of my hesitancy to learn and grow because of the pain such learning brings. I've led myself to some painful loops in the attempt to avoid burning up. Glad to be realizing this now, and holding the awareness of what feels like the right path. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BooksandTrees Posted January 9 Author Share Posted January 9 I'm still dealing with shame regarding my weight. I went shopping today and got more protein dense foods for longer lasting meals. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pochatok Posted January 13 Share Posted January 13 (edited) Feeling ashamed of not living by my values: "take direct action to make the world a better place". Reading "Berlin" by Jason Lutes, which conveys individual journeys of people w/ different levels of awareness and understanding of the world around them- which is 1920s-30s Germany... It's devastating to see that it was so obvious, in hindsight, that an apocalypse was unveiling real-time. And many knew, even then, but none acted, none acted enough. "Berlin" has been making me feel guilty at the very least, of not using my own privileges to act on what I believe to be injustice, but instead sit behind a glass wall w/ my cup of tea, like the willfully ignorant protagonist... Shame moves change, or so I want to believe. Edited January 13 by Pochatok 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pochatok Posted January 14 Share Posted January 14 A second one today! Ashamed of denying myself comfort and pleasure for their own sake. I failed to relax and nourish myself, as the goal wasn't to feel good (about myself), but to perform better at an activity as a result of rest. There is some hypocrisy involved, and I did not need to go through these experience- my gut was waving red flags in all the instances. Oh, this hurts like decade-long trauma: silencing my deeper feelings through creating an excuse to rest, either because I actually don't want to rest, or because I'm not engaging with rest in a nourishing way. Here's to learning. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BooksandTrees Posted January 14 Author Share Posted January 14 I felt ashamed of my hygiene this week so I made sure to shower and clean today. It can be embarrassing. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pochatok Posted January 20 Share Posted January 20 (edited) Feel ashamed of giving up my capacity to care and grieve in the last couple of days. That's literally the reason I have not been feeling passion, now I realize. Well, onwards- to caring, compassion, love for all the suffering being experienced in this moment, beyond the walls of my comforts. Edited January 20 by Pochatok 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pochatok Posted January 27 Share Posted January 27 Feeling ashamed of accepting "feeling tired" and not cultivating ambition/desire to do better. Yesterday, most of my day was spent in that hazy state of "relaxed". Today, already an hour lost to this feeling. To work through this, I am re-structuring my routine: begin the day w/ something deeply inspiring, not grief-provoking. Grief is key to my passion, but it can be immobilizing. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BooksandTrees Posted January 27 Author Share Posted January 27 I also felt ashamed of feeling tired. I woke up earlier today and did some exercise. This got me productive the rest of the day. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pochatok Posted February 4 Share Posted February 4 Ashamed of waking up slowly, and not truly getting intentional with my day until 1-2hours after waking up. I want to live fully, not in haze. Tomorrow, will make sure to put my alarm away from the bed. Have also purchased a separate alarm clock, to not need the phone by bed. Will make sure to set intention first think in the morning by keeping sticky notes next to the bed, to write on as soon as I'm awake. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pochatok Posted February 10 Share Posted February 10 Ashamed of taking far too long today to get "real" work in. I've been learning and working through a myriad of important tasks all day, but only now, 11 hours after getting out of bed, am I beginning the work on my passions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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