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  1. Hi Tom Good luck with your journey on quitting games. Great to read that you know that you have your whole life in front of you and you don't want to spend it this way anymore. It's not always going to be easy but with the support of this community and your determination I'm sure you will succeed . Best of luck!!
  2. I play it and I find that there are some good and bad things to it for people who are vulnerable to game addiction. I wouldn't really classify it as a game, but this is offcourse open for interpretation. The positive things are that you need to go outside and exercise, I discovered some cool places and it can be peaceful to look around in nature. I actually think it has a lot of similarities with "geocaching". The negative things are that it can be addicitive to collect all the different pokemons, there is no end to the game and it might trigger you to start with gaming again. I would advise to make your own decision about it and if you can play it without it taking over your life again, great! If that's not the case, that's also ok and you will have learned this new fact.
  3. Congrats on reaching 90 days Saintrf!! Really like the idea of the scheme .
  4. Welcome and a big first step that you opened up on this forum, really requires some courage and vulnerability!
  5. Welcome and good luck with quitting games!
  6. Thanks for taking the time to write this out! I can really relate to some aspects like visualising situations way more scary in my head than in real life . Afterwards it always seems quite funny how I build up a situation in my head, when in reality it was just a nice experience. I will defenitely look into meditation and try to even read more books about different aspects of life. And yeah probably the most important one of them all for getting out of your head, experience as many situations as possible in life. Sometimes it's not easy to do this, but afterwards it feels great most of the time.
  7. Great post everydayart! I was interested by the point where you were talking about "getting out of your head". As this is something I also struggle with, do you have some tips or experiences for this?
  8. As LilLilChen stated, I would also recommend "Models" by Mark Manson. He strongly disagrees with the "pickup" artists and focuses on being vulnerable, taking honest action and not caring to much about thinking of "strategies". For the rest best of luck with your dates and I hope to read some positive experiences .
  9. Hi Remi Very important here to not be to hard on yourself. As people we all make "mistakes" and your relapse is not a failure, but just a step on your journey. According to friends, if there are people in your life who can drag you down, it's best to cut them out. This is a very extreme statement, but ask yourself if you're better of with 1 bad friend or no friend? We are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with in our lives, so choose those people carefully. As you stated yourself, watching streams won't help as an alternative, try to stop with it or gradually build it down. But most important do not feel as a failure in life, you had the courage to admit you have a problem with gaming, you signed up for this website. That's already more effort than a lot of other people would have put in . There will always be setbacks in life, but accept it as a part of your journey. Best of luck on your journey and I believe you can do it !!
  10. Big congrats on making 1 year !! I'm sure there will have been positive changes in their life and I hope there will be many more years to come!!
  11. Hi Davo It's normal that you can feel depressed after giving something up that you did for a long time. If it should stick around, considering therapy could be an option
  12. Hi Panthau Good luck with quitting games . My advice would be to take small steps at a time. When you want to change everything, it's going to be a lot of change and it can be overwhelming. By moving in small steps it will become far more realistic and the chance of lasting success will be way higher. Tip for quitting Hearthstone: What helped me was completely stopping to watch video's about it and realize there's never an end to it. It creates reward systems for your brain and you should try to replace it with more healthy alternatives. Best of luck, you can do it !
  13. Congrats on reaching 90 days Falky, I'm sure many more will follow . You gave me actually a good tip with number 1 on your list, right now I'm very busy with internships and school assignments and have like 4-5 big tasks at the same time. I am actually focussing on all those things at the same time and it makes me feel burnt out and having a big mountain to climb. I will try with focussing on 1-2 things, thanks for the tip I guess .
  14. Welcome JustBeingReal! It's brave to share you're story and I wish you all the best with quitting games! As someone who was also addicted to HS, I know it can be a difficult game to get away from. I succedeed in doing it and I have no doubt you will realize the same thing . Just remember to accept that things are not always going to be easy on your journey and that it's ok to take your time to reach the goals you want.
  15. Congrats Kad, nice things you learned from the experience . Best of luck with the rest of your goals and dreams!!
  16. Hi, having a lot of free time can easily lead to playing video games, I can speak from experience . Best way to counter this is by seeking out activities to fill your week and try keeping busy. Best of luck with your detox!
  17. I finished the 90 days a couple of days ago, and now I have time to share the things that I have learned and can hopefully also help someone else . It was actually easier than expected, I'm in a frame of mind now where I very much realise that gaming isn't worth it for me anymore. If gaming has even the most tiny chance to block the person I want to become, it can't have a place in my life. My 5 most important lessons that I learned 1. For me by far the most important one of the 5 and yet so simple; if you're busy enough in your life, it's a big protection against gaming. The past couple of months I had a time-consuming internship, played a bunch of tennis competition and had to work in the evening for school, ... . When I actually had a bit of spare time, I even didn't consider spending it on gaming, because I just wanted to relax. Not having the time to game, helps a lot to stay away from it. 2. Handling negative and difficult situations in your life differently. Before I found this website, when I encountered a difficult situation in my life or felt very negative about something, I would run away and disconnect emotionally, numb the pain by playing video games. During this detox I also had a couple of negative and difficult situations that hurt me, but the difference I made now was handling it completely different. I accepted the pain and the negative emotions I felt, I told myself that with improvement in life, comes adversity. It means that you're on the right track and it's ok to feel bad in life sometimes, everyone has that. 3. Be very clear about the person you want to be in life and the goals that are important for you. It can be very scary to think about those thing and painful to not know what you want with your life, but it's so important. When you begin to realize what kind of person you want to be and what you want to accomplish in life, the urge to play games will not be so high, because it doesn't help you to become that person. 4. Other people in life are everything. From my point of view, no one can feel really satisfied when there's no connection with other people in your life. Gaming can make you isolating from other people, emotionally and mentally distant. I noticed when I wasn't gaming anymore, that I was much more aware of everything else and of other people in life. I was listening much more, I was sharing things and this helped me to connect to people. This connection with people is much more fulfilling than playing games. 5. The realization that time is limited. In the period I was gaming regulary, every day could look like I was the same day, and before you knew it a couple of months had passed. But if this goes on for a while, a whole chunk of time could have passed in your life and nothing will have changed. I'm very aware now that life keeps going on and I don't want to waste any bit of it by playing an activity that doesn't improve me as a person and has so many negative side-effects. This was a pretty long post, hopefully my lessons can be useful to some people . I'm pretty confident that I can stay game-free after this detox, because my attitude and thinking process has changed, so I see gaming as something pretty negative and harmful for my life. To any one out there doing this detox or on the road of staying game-free, I sincerely wish you the best of luck with it and I believe you can do it .
  18. Great work man, keep it up I would say
  19. Hi Having screens everywhere is the "disease" of this time, difficult to avoid this. I could defenitely relate to the possibilities for youtube. I recognise the feeling of being controlled by it, not a very nice feeling. What helped me the most was having a clear purpose in life (what do you want to do, where do you want to go, what do you have to do in orde to achieve that, ... ). Also being as busy as possible really helps, because you won't even have the time to do it and in your very few free time, you're not going to want to hang around on youtube . Well in my opinion not a thousand screens can replace the magic and beauty of real life . Try to give it as much effort as possible and you will begin seeing the difference .
  20. Thanks, I'm glad I actually did it because it was in my mind a couple of days and there was some anxiety for doing it. Surprisingly the rejection wasn't so hard as expected, I guess we have a tendency to make things bigger in our head, than they are in reality . It's not fun, but at least you can be proud that you did what needed to be done. Thx for the tips, will keep it in the back of my head. I first wanna see how things are the next couple of weeks and then I'll decide if it's worth giving it another try. If not, It will be important to let it go and move on to someone else (challenge for me as letting go is not always my strong point ).
  21. Interesting responses, thanks for the feedback! Indeed, she could have just said I'm busy that night, without adding anything. I think it's best to see what the next couple of weeks bring and if I get some good signals, I could ask it again.
  22. Hi You will find support on this forum, good luck with quitting games!!
  23. Hi I had a situation where I would like to get some opinions and discuss this. Recently I asked a girl out to get something to drink. The girl is in the same school as me and for the moment working at the same internship. She replied to this that she already had some plans with a friend of her, but that she would like this a next time. Well I interpreted this as a polite rejection and the fact that she didn't give an alternative moment, meant to me that she did not really want to meet up. So my question is: How would you interpret this situation and how would you react? Any opinions and suggestions are welcome
  24. It's also possible that she's not vulnerable for video game addictions like you. It might be possible that she enjoys doing this for a while excessively now, but that she gets tired of it after a while, and completely walks away from it. I think that we as former video game addicts, will be more biased to see signs of video game addiction in our environment. So it can be helpful to be aware of this fact. Offcourse it's also possible that she could use some help and then you can be a good example for her . I would not interpret this behavoir dramatic, but you can keep an eye on her or talk with your parents about it.
  25. Great picture you made on day 3, you got talent .