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Hey welcome and good luck to you. I had the same kind f feelings. Life was stressfull because I knew I couldn't make enough freetime for my gaming desire. Every new task was annyoing. It felt awesome as i quit games and deleted all my games because I could relax for the first time in years. Sure cravings would still come . But if a friend ask me now if I want to talk a bit I don't hear the voice telling me that I don't have time for such crap. Neglect all other benefits of gamequitting and it is still worth it for me. I really hope things work out for you. If you need any pointers just ask and I can tell you about my experiences so far( I am at day 51 of the detox). Greetings Mario

Day 51 Gratitude - Coffee - Health - my sisters and my mother

Day 50 Gratitude - 50days! - Got extra work wich will give me some needed money - free classics on amazon

Liked the book too, even if it s kind of repetetive to the extreme and everyone seems to become millionaires in his stories. But the things he says just make sense.

Nice to hear from you. Seems like you are making progress. Just post as much as is good for you!

Yeah finally did my workout... After i did some sleepign at the couch and broke my noFap streak. Ah and before i "forget" it i watched some youtube too(crossfit and training advice but still broke my mindfull march oath...). NoFap is hard for me. I will block ym favorite pornsites now so I can't put out my brain and go autopilot like this morning. And i think I will go for it one time a week without porn. Thats beeing said this day is still way better then 1month ago where i would procrastinate all mornng surfing on dumb sites and didn't workout at all. So it is a local lowpoint and I am actually motivated to hit a new personal high.

Day 48 Wow I am not motivated this morning. Didn't do my workout routine at the weekend and stopped meditation without actively noticing it a week ago. I did the meditation today and I will start my workout( even if I don't want to ) after journaling. It is scary how easy my good "routines" dissapear if I am not in the right mindset. I fear I will need to mtoivate myself into them for ever. Maybe it gets easier at the time but I am not sure if I get to a state where I have the desire to do meditation/workouts. Thats beeing said I am sure that it is worth doing. Allready wasted approx. an hour wich isn't so bad how i realize right now. It was a good decision to write down a journal entry. It is strange how it motivates me to do something worthwhile. What I learned today - meditation with open eyes works and you don't fall into a state of sleepiness(bummer i know) Gratidude: - for tools wich let my craft my own life - journalling - birds having fun at the trees wicha re surounding my little garden.

Ah here it is. Excellent!

Nice having you here Nick. I will surely check out your journal if it comes!

Just 42days to go and I will put down my name in this hall-of-glory thread

It helped me a lot to start a daily journal. It is the first time I am "clean" for1,5 months in 15 years. I'm nto sure if journalling was the only factor for this sucess, but i'm sure it was an important one. It sounds harmless or selphelpishly, but as long as it works i don give a fuck

First of all. Stay away from LoL. This was my first step to quitting games. Even if you think it doesn't matter if you play other games, trust me it matters! LoL's reward system is just crazy. One thing wich helped me alot was writing a daily journal( it feels today like this was the most important step for me). It has to be honest of course or it won't help you abit. I personally have a trigger(stress) where i always relapsed. Identifying your personal triggers and creating coping strategies is a good idea(something like: I go out for a walk if I feels stressed and WANT to play right now, but if it is raining I play a little bit piano or read.).

Day 48 I think I will journal less from now on. It helped me alot to have a daily writing routine and it remembered me to reflect on myself. But right now I feel like it is taking too much time away from me. I will keep my dail gratitude journal up though and whenever i feel like I have somethign to share or found a awesome ressource I will still write here. I just take the pressure of having to do it from me right now and fokus more on other things. That beeing said I will still read all your journals. So be carefull I AM WATCHING YOU! . Seriously, it is really nice to read your journals and to learn from my fellow gamequitters. Way better to spend my time here as on youtube (seriously after one hour of youtube I am always on the bad side of youtube and keep watching something like this crazy shit). What i learned: - watch to much youtube or click on suspicious links and you will see really really crazy shit. Better do something productive. Like breathing. Gratidude: - kids having fun playing with me - beeing productive - good mood -

Hey wow you actually dooing ALOT. Be proud of the things you allready do. Giving your own ego a little pad on the back if you done something you consider as good ,is a great habbit. It helps you staying commited too, if times get rougher. You are dooing a lot of things right. be consistent and your world will change hardcore.

Yeah sadly there are no magic unicorn saviours around me either. But ok consistency isn't as sexy but it is surely more reliable( I mean that horn thing... Why give something a horn if you don't want it to impale someone. I tell you, these unicorns have a secret mission!)

sounds interesting

Day 47 Gratidude: - my sister( had a long talk yesterday) - my wife - my friends

@ cam Thank you for the support. It is appreciated. Day 46 I am getting better each day and it feel free of gaming. I will go to a lan-party at the start of march. Until then I will have finished this 90 day detox. There we will play mostly CS wich i actually don't like so much but it is a yearly traditions with the brothers of my wife and I like the people there. My mind isn't made up about this, but I think will go there and see it as an experiment. My gaming urges dissapeared now that I have some time before the next exam( around 3 weeks). I actually feel like the stress and fear of dissapointing myself and the people around me is the main reason I gamed so much. Paradoxically exact this behaviour led to this dissapointment wich is kind of dumb, but I guess thats how actions led by fear are. Again I feel like self awareness is the key to avoid such vicous circles in your behaviour. Another thing i realized is why I was never able to keep my appartement clean. It felt like a task wich i could never finish. It will never get so clean how I imagine it and that's why i avoid doing it. But that is actually exact the same bullshit. If I just clean on a regular schedule and try to keep the things in order, my appartment would look allready nice. If i want to take it a step further, after a standard is achieved, I can do it because I have the capacity and therefore the energy to improve the appearence of my appartment further. If I don't want to it is fine too. This is actually important to me because my wife feels really uncomfortable with a messy appartment and thats really a dumb reason to argue. It would even enhance my productivity if everything was in order and clean. Today i will clean atleast for two hours and i start right after journalling. What I learned today: - cleaning isn't a big deal. you just have to do it. Gratitude: - love how the frozen droplets of water shine in the morning on the grass - clear mind today - feel much fresher as two hours before - reading Call of the Wild another time(everyone who likes dogs and adventures will love this book and it is free on amazon)

I think this is true as long you don't work on the reasons behind your cravings. Improving your willpower is a longtime process. If your are addicted to games you usually don't have the willpower to quit. If you had enough, you would stopped gaming in the past. Thats why you set up a high wall between you and gaming. You can still train your willpower. They are tasks you can do everyday to improve your willpower day for day( sit straight everytime you are before a computer) .Willpower is a muscle and you can actually build up( there is scientific backgroudn behind these claims, if you want i dig up the book and their sources). Just pretending that your be able to not play games if you get triggered or that you can play in moderation right now, is like saying you can do 20 pullups, but in reality you can do one. Sure you can get to the point but right now it just isn't the case. You have to train for it. The other reason is that it isn't only a question of willpower. Gaming is often a response to special feelings or emotions. I played games if i felt overwhelmed or stressed and needed distraction from real life. And then i jsut palyed as long as i could. Now as I realized what (atleast one) reason behind it was, i can build new habbits and better ways to handle it. But if i never stopped gaming by restricting myself i would just played in such situations and never evaluate my emotional state. The goal here is to find better ways to handle such feelings and to find new goals and activities wich are more important and fullfilling to you. Conclusion: If you are addicted, you have to sell and delete your gaming stuff. Period.

Day 46 My exam went ok. It still annoyed em because it was exactly the same pattern as in past exams. Lacking motivation leads to lacking studying and planning leads to a lacking preparation. I get actually a rush of engery and motivation lately. i suspect not fapping for it. I started to evade youtube and movies wich i sued lately to procrastinate. I think the reasin is either energy otu of missing masturbation or boredome or both. Whatever the reason is i will use this energy! I go maybe to the next engineers-without-borders-meeting. I want to do somethign usefull with my abilites. And maybe it is a good opportunity to socialise and start a projekt I care about. But i don't know if I actually do it. I am kind of scared of not beeing wanted or usefull to them. This is the fear part of my mind. Now the rationalisation( I am better at this part): I have to finish my studies and fokus my energy on beeing well at studying . Only in this way I am content with my career, find a job later and be content about myself. Just realized how many of my sentences are starting with I . Selfish writing style :(. I argued with my wife today and I need to care more for her and for others. Self improvement is nice and it is ok to fokus on yourself for some time. But one of the main reasons I started all of this, was to have a more fullfilled relationship. Haven't talked to friends or family either the last few days. Now is the time to invest some time and energy in others. What I learned today: - selfimprovement is important but don't neglect your relationsships for it. Gratitude: - arguing - having first world problems - reading - energy and will to try new things(this is news for me!)

Seems like a good consequent plan. Planning is always easier as doing though. Don't beat yourself up if something goes wrong and be sure to be proud of yourself if things go your way. You doing great so far!

Awesome that you quit smoking. Make plans what you gonna do with all that saved money. It summs up.

It is always your choice whaht you do. If you feel like this is what you have to do now, I will be the last one to disagree with you. Hope things turn out well for you(or as best as possible). greetings

I dreamed about LoL a few nights ago. Saw some other guys reporting this too. Seems normal:D

good luck to you. How is it going?