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April Recap - What Are You Celebrating?


Ikar
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Welcome to the next thread where we share the good (or perhaps even neutral and bad?) things that we made happen the last month. Given the current situation, everybody had to go through a rude shakeup in the past several weeks, but humans are good at being adaptable just like cockroaches, so we are bound to come out of this on top. Write a brief paragraph or two (or fourteen), or just a statement about something you're proud of yourself doing last month or a milestone you reached!

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I managed to complete my GIS project for university, pound the drums after 4 years, get back to the gym on the dormitory, finish two books, invest some of my money and I found an interesting girl to talk to sometimes.

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Lol thanks for picking this up. I got annoyed nobody wrote in the last one and didn't make one for this month.

I managed to lose 5 more lbs, end the month without watching porn, for the final days, and posted my first animation on YouTube and have 14 subscribers now.

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2 hours ago, BooksandTrees said:

Lol thanks for picking this up. I got annoyed nobody wrote in the last one and didn't make one for this month.

No problem. You know I am already doing that on my own regardless, but I think anyone should be able to depict at least a few things. It's a good way to spend a part of the day and realize we're not stuck.

2 hours ago, BooksandTrees said:

I managed to lose 5 more lbs, end the month without watching porn, for the final days, and posted my first animation on YouTube and have 14 subscribers now.

Good job on the porn front. You'll be a famous You-tuber yet! 😄

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9 hours ago, BooksandTrees said:

I got annoyed nobody wrote in the last one and didn't make one for this month.

Well the best thing would be to just let it flow. If someone has something to say, he/she can say it. 🙂

I did not have much to say the last month. But this month is quite different. There were some nice things, I am quite proud of. Sorry but that is going to be a long one. But it is just a great way for me to summarize all of it. So thanks for that @Ikar:

First of all, I started to go into moderation. That is to say, I am not only trying to stay absent from something and go to one extreme, but I am pendling a bit back. I would call it the golden mean: Binge eating junkfood might become orthorexia, a gaming addict could become a gym addict, a lazy ass wanker might turn into a burned out perfectionist. So I am glad that I am striving towards the middle way. Even though I think that it is a very good strategy to first explore the extremes. I mean that helped me in the end. And then maybe at some point, one comes to the same realizations like me. But who knows. The only exception would be my studies. The last days, I spent relentlessly working on my report in an almost unhealthy way. But I guess, a bachelor thesis requires this kind of effort. I am still proud of that as well.

In addition, I see differences in my work ethic for my studies, especially in the case of reading. Before I would always kinda "forcefully" smash through the paper. Like reading it once, trying to reach the end. Then also summarizing it somehow, but that was always only writing the stuff down in the exact same words, like it was written down in the article itself. That strategy never made me fully understand the whole thing. And even reading just 10 pages was a struggle. Now I really spend time with it. I read sentence per sentence, trying to fully comprehend it and make meaning out of it. Even applying it to my own life. For instance, the history, ethics and philosophy module: A former me years ago would have been bored to shit. Now I am really into that stuff. For instance, the curious case of phrenology made me realize that certain things, what some almost take for granted today - like nofap or even certain things like neuroscience or those "motivational speakers" may at their core be a pseudoscience or sell a pseudoscience. And then I read stuff like: Not masturbating will make your hair grow better or you will be able to lift more. Or that everything we do boils down to certain neurotransmitters like poor dopamin, which is a completely misunderstood poor transmitter. Those things can be easily disproved. But so could even be theories, I believe in: I for instance believe in cbt and positive psychology. But even here are cases, which might be contradicting. So generally speaking, I see myself becoming far more critical. It is not about believing everything that was once written on some random blog. Just because someone cited a scientific study, does'nt mean that it is true. Studies can be flawed too.

I also see myself become more confident. I am less anxious when making phone calls or when driving. Do you know that I was even anxious regarding parking? I would always plan every trip up to the point, where I could park, because I wanted to desperately avoid being laughed at. This is slowly fading away and I am driving more relaxed now. I am more willing to make mistakes and actually try things. I have came to realize, if you read my journal that those problems can also be solutions: So just by making a "mistake" it can lead to actual knowledge that something is not as worse as previously assumed. I stutter a bit when making a phone call? So what, I may find out that nobody cares or even notices it. I failed at parking? Well now I can correct it and eventually be good at it. I finally understood Jordan Petersons metaphor of the dragon (check out this link of the lecture, where he refers to it back in 2002: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=REjUkEj1O_0). I will probably talk a little more about that it my journal at some point, because this theory can be nicely compared to my problem/solution theory. 

Overall, I feel quite well. 

 

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18 hours ago, Alexanderle said:

Do you know that I was even anxious regarding parking? I would always plan every trip up to the point, where I could park, because I wanted to desperately avoid being laughed at. This is slowly fading away and I am driving more relaxed now.

Yeah, I used to be quite puzzled when parking too, but it got better over time. I guess I am still not the best at longitudinal parking, but I didn't skirt anything so far 😄

I like driving on the edge/agressively, especially when I am on my own. I love the feeling of immersion when driving, so I don't even listen to the radio while driving. It's not that I'd be speeding 90 kph in the city or otherwise breaking the law, but the overall expression of my ride and perhaps the extension of my personality. I usually tone it down a bit when I am driving with someone though.

18 hours ago, Alexanderle said:

I've seen it before, but it's timeless 🙂

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What am I celebrating in April?

Covered 3 lesson’s of beginner’s Greek, finished a book on ethical finance and just may be able to mediate a legal settlement in a dispute.

I also brought my lawn to a more orderly state with the help of my wife, fixed a number of things in my house.

I still have a bad back and suffer from fatigue so I need to start a therapy journal to track improvement.

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