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If you google “no more mr. nice guy free pdf”, it will display a secure website where you can read a free pdf of the book. My therapist has also recommended, “the boy who was raised by a dog” and “the unloved child”. I have not read these though, but hope to soon. My trauma therapy will be for my childhood developmental trauma. I curious to see how this plays out! Have a beautiful new year.

Hi, I am so sorry about the current break up with you boyfriend. Even though he is not a trustworthy, kind or compassionate person.... it is still hard to separate from someone after being together for so long. You deserve someone who can reciprocate your love. Someone who you can open up to physically as well as emotionally. A person who is loyal. Take all the time you need to grieve. You are such a beautiful person and you will get through this. Sending love and HUGS my friend.

Thank you for bringing awareness to this. I think this is an important intention that we should all have.

I am just so proud of you. Little by little you are achieving all of your goals. It’s such a privilege to watch your journey. You can do this! And you ARE in the very present moment creating a beautiful life.

Hi! Welcome to the community. I hope you find a safe supportive and loving environment here. I don’t have many words tonight.... but I just wanted to thank you for sharing your story. That is so brave of you. For the “who am I” question, I find Psalm 139 to be very comforting. “ For YOU created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” Please read the whole Psalm for it is so beautiful. Thank you for being here.

Hi, You are such a beautiful person, and I think, sometimes way to hard on yourself. Did you read the book “No more, Mr Nice Guy?” I read the pdf download a couple years ago... and even though I am female... I resonated with the main idea. Here are some of my journal notes, that may help you, as I believe we have the same upbringing. “ When children come into this world they are totally helpless. Every child’s greatest fear is abandonment. To children abandonment means death. If a child does not have a parent who is attuned to them, nurturing them, loving them... the child will begin to think something is wrong with them. A child will believe that it is not acceptable to be who they are, just as they are. Children try to be good as a defense mechanism to defeat abandonment. To try and prevent it from happening again. They will see a mistake or perceived flaw as proof that they are bad or unlovable.” Perhaps I am projecting but I hope you found some of the notes helpful. The book is pretty short and an easy read.... and again I downloaded a free pdf version off the internet. Congratulations on writing your goals. Having a vision is such an important step... and it’s really inspiring. Thank you for sharing your life with us.

Day 101 On love. I have been thinking about my romantic relationships a lot lately. I have always had this dreamy image... of two people destined to be together. In recent years I learned of the twin flame concept. Basically in a previous life, your soul burned so bright, that it divided creating twin flames. These people are mirrors of each other. I thought my past 2 boyfriends have been my twin flame. My most recent one, seemed like a mirror of me. Upon meeting I felt like I had know him for many lifetimes. When we were apart I could feel his energy, and know what he was thinking and feeling. But I am not sure if these labels on relationships are helpful. I mean who really knows if this is my twin flame... or if this is just some mental illusion I have in my head. Going forward, I am not going to label men as soul mates, life partners, twin flames... and take the relationship day my day as it unfolds. I feel like real love, should actually look like love, with both partners adding to each other’s lives and to the community. Love should be expansive and pure. What was beautiful about my day my kids and dog

Day 100 Remember. Be. Here. Now. So many of my spiritual leaders are leaving this physical plane. A reminder that all of this world is temporary. Be the light in the darkness. Be present. Love. What was beautiful about my day My kids and my dog.

There are so many people struggling this holiday. One woman told me she spent the entirety of Christmas Eve and Christmas Day wrapped up in a blanket. Not once moving. Another woman cried for hours and hours. Feeling monstrous and horrid. Screaming and yelling through mountains of tears. I share this, to say, that you are not alone. You are never alone. It’s so brave of you share your emotions, hurts, resentments and abandonments. To walk thru grief and darkness.... and let everything just be. Just as it is. Not trying to change your feelings or wish something was different. Moving thru a dark turn.... and surrendering to all that is. I find internet friendships to be hard as there is no connection. We need people in our real lives to feed us.... literally and metaphorically when we are walking thru a dark night of the soul.

RIP Baba Ram Dass Thank you for holding the light for so many. We are all just walking each other home.

Day 92 So 90 days is supposed to be some type of celebratory mark.... but I am just not there yet. Looking at a very long holiday season with my family. I have seen others post about boundaries during the holiday season. Could you please share any advice? Or link any articles, videos, podcasts that might be helpful? Thank you for being here

Day 88 my phone is about to die so may post again. My therapist has recommended/approved me for trauma therapy and EMDR from my childhood experiences. I am so happy to finally be getting the therapy I need based on childhood neglect, abuse and isolation. I feel like that sentence is an understatement. My parents were so awful to me. This feels like a turning point. Healing past traumas, wounding and imprints left on my soul. Having a safe place to experience these emotions. And, writing a new story. A new flipping story!!! Thank you for being here.

Day 87 Just another beautiful day. Found out I would qualify for income adjusted housing. The housing unit is really close by, in a nice area... and looks pretty well maintained. There is a waitlist. I will be submitting my application tomorrow. What was beautiful about my day. My children. I love them. My dog. Thank you for being here.

Day 86 Looking at moving to a different city. I live in a pretty big city in the PNW, where even having a pretty decent job won’t get me very far. Would love something smaller. Maybe around 100k in population. 3 of my friends have moved very recently and maybe it’s time for me. What was beautiful about my day My kids. My dog. Thank you for being here.

Hi! This is awesome that you are attending school events! So glad things are going well. Could you, briefly, expand on the groups thoughts of addiction? I would love to hear more. Have a beautiful day.

Hi! Thank you for updating us on your progress! Yes just focus on one step at a time. Have you registered for the GRE? Once you register that would give you a firm timeline to study and prepare. Just a thought. In just over a week you have made so many positive changes. So proud of you!

Not to be able to live with my kids on my own.

Day 84 I have one job possibility. With a nonprofit. There are only 7 people who work there and the environment seems very laid back. Still waiting for word on the daycare. I have been attending the kids holiday performances. Taking them outdoors. Spending as much time as I can with them because when I start working I won’t be able to see them as much. To the best I can to focus on my own life and what I can control. Thank you for being here. What was beautiful about my day my kids. My dog

Thank you. I have been involved with the authorities and there is nothing they can do unless it becomes physical. It takes a real POS of a human being to be mean to a child. The more and more I exit the fog of gaming, I see how horrible the reality is. Empowering myself is the answer and something I am working towards. Thank you for being here. Truly.

Take a deep breath. I have been much calmer when abuse gets thrown at me. But when thrown at my kids..... the fiery protector comes out. Very off kilter tonight after witnessing such hate, pain and ignorance. Grow up and check your f*%king ego dude. To my sweet little ones... may you be surrounded by joy, peace and serenity in your bed tonight. May you know how deeply you are loved, held and cared for. You are pure love and light.

Never apologize for expressing your feelings. It’s the only way to move thru them. These feelings of sadness and pain are valid and completely normal. You have experienced such a great loss in your friendships... it has got to hurt. I am so sorry. Thank you for sharing so much on here and being vulnerable. Your honesty is quite refreshing. Sending energy to you during this time. Talk soon.

Marriage won’t make your relationship or life better. It does provide some protection for the partner that earns less money, regardless of gender. Spiritually and believing in a higher power has helped me have more joy, peace and stillness in my life. But it should not be imposed on anyone. I find the teachings of Buddhism to be lovely. Have a beautiful day my friend.

Moving is one of the biggest stressors. Of course you feel sad, angry and defeated. Big change of environment and foundation. Different layout and community. New routines and structure. It’s so tough. You are not alone. Sending all my love, joy and peace. And BIG hugs!!

Day 79 we are not meant to live like this. Cell phones, screens, disconnected soulless lives. I yearn for a tribe, a real life community. A gathering space to be seen, dance, laugh, sing, eat..... hug. Like really hug someone for longer than is socially accepted. Maybe this is my calling. Connection with the Divine and others. Thank you for being here.

This is awesome! How do you like it so far?!