Cam Adair

Oh Canada! I'm excited to come visit in the Netherlands some time soon.

Great to read another entry by you. The Willpower Instinct could be a cool book for you to flip through if you're interested in learning more about self-control.

Sounds like a great day!

Yes exactly, find the environments that help you take the kind of action you want. For instance, I rarely work at home because whenever I want a break I end up laying on my bed and that causes me to spend an hour watching YouTube videos... whereas when I'm at my office or at a coffee shop, when I need a break I go for a walk, go to the bathroom and then get back to work. Big difference. Thanks for sharing about the social skills side. I'm currently working on developing a bunch of videos to help you guys with this stuff (I was a social skills coach for the past 5 years in my other business). Check the social skills forum, we've had some good conversations about that stuff so far, and much more will come in the future. - Cam

Updated the books list!

Breakthroughs happening day after day. Having experienced many of these myself, trust that your process is unfolding exactly how it needs to right now. Models is the perfect compliment to help you through this stage of your life. Really stoked for you... and it's awesome to see that you had the courage to go to the Halloween party and that helped you have more social momentum to join your friends yesterday, which is now leading to more opportunities and making new friends + the realizations you're having by being in social situations.

"The great soup fire of 2015" haha. That will remain a classic event on the forum. For those of us around for it, it shall be a fun inside joke.

Thinking of you today man! Appreciate all of your support on the forum.

Can't wait for the karaoke video!

Hey! Welcome to the community, it's awesome to have you here with us. I relate to you with the athlete thing, because growing up I was a very good hockey player and eventually gaming took up more and more of my time and I spent less time focusing on training and getting better. It's one of the regrets I have honestly. So since then I've been working hard to make up for it. We're here to support you so let us know how we can help. If you haven't seen these videos, they will help: - How To Stop Mindlessly Browsing The Internet - Should You Watch Gaming Streams?

Hey! Another member from Finland! Awesome! Happy to have you here with us. Congrats on 80 days! That's quite an accomplishment. We have an awesome thread to celebrate 90 days so make sure you do that when you get there (so soon!) Excited to follow your journey. Let me know if I can help at all

Did you have a matching duck costume?

Hey everyone! Should you be watching gaming streams? Here's my latest video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hm_W2HGe584

Awesome, when I make it out to Toronto/Ottawa we'll have to find a way to meet up!

Any of the books here are great.

Always love seeing another journal up here. Can't wait to follow along. Where are you from Jay? When it comes to your brother's gaming stuff just try to focus that much more on being out of the house more often and following the steps outlined in Respawn to have other activities going on. Also, when he's gaming, I'd create a boundary around his room and not spend any time watching him play. That almost always leads to a relapse (Alex's journal for an example.)

Vulnerability is hard for all of us - especially as men. But leaning into it one small baby step at a time will pay off in big ways long-term.

Love the dance video! You're giving Leprosy a run for his money! I also use Trello and like it a lot. I still use a pen and notebook for a lot of my to-dos but I use trello for bigger picture stuff and project planning/management.

Have you seen the Wim Hof documentary yet? Bet you'll love it. http://www.icemanwimhof.com/vice-documentary

Hey Alex! Thanks for sharing, it's important in moments like this when we may be feeling guilt or shame to be honest about our situation. Remember that relapse can teach us more about how to be successful in the future, so one thing you can take away from this is that gaming has been the way you've rewarded yourself in the past... so if you want to move on successfully you need to find new ways to reward yourself in the future. Also, having been bored for two weeks contributed so moving forward you need to be more intentional with your activities. Questioning why you are quitting is always good, because it allows you to get more clear on what you really want out of life. The thing is, this isn't about gaming being good or bad, it's about what you truly want in life. Gaming is truly just a way for us to kill time, which is what most people do. Eventually they stop gaming and then just kill time with TV and other silly things like that. But what are your ambitions? If you have bigger ambitions in life, your actions need to reflect that. Starting with your morning habits is good and you want to build on that momentum each day. Set bigger goals, that will help with your motivation. From my perspective, you should reset your counter and complete the 90 days (no gaming), but again the counter is just one small aspect of all of this... it's more important that you keep going forward. For studying, use the Pomodoro Technique, study for 25 mins, take a 5-10 min (non-digital) break, then study again for 25 mins. You can focus for 25 mins. Get out of the house and study at a library or cafe (Starbucks?) where you aren't so distracted by the potential to game.

Always love seeing another journal up here. When it comes to improving your ability to talk to people you don't know (especially girls), what are the challenges you're having?

Haha that's an awesome night man! Stoked for you.

Starting with a win is key to build momentum for the day! Great job Tom!

Hey Jay! Great to have you join us here and I appreciate you purchasing Respawn - your support helps a lot! The community here has your back. All of the challenges you've mentioned are normal and common when you begin down this journey, and although it can be scary, it can also be exciting. You have a lot of new things you can focus on, and at least in my experience, learning how to create more meaningful relationships was a big part of my purpose after I quit - and it seems like it is for you too. We've got your back.

Now I want to go to the aquarium! That sounds so fun. I know having a stronger relationship with your daughter was a big motivation for you to quit gaming so it's a treat to watch that unfold.