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Also, why is the website giving me a (Rank: Newbie 1/14)  That seems like some gamer shit and this is an antigaming forum.

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19 hours ago, Average_Guy said:

That seems like some gamer shit and this is an antigaming forum.

heh, it's interesting that you associate this with gaming! I've been on many other online forums before and this is a common feature to me, but I see where you are coming from. Perhaps it could be made optional to display... maybeeee @Cam Adair??? 

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21 hours ago, Average_Guy said:

.  Plus, this lifestyle is not helping my health at all, I know I'll heal faster if I don't do any of this.  It's just difficult and I'm lonely.  

I hope that you'll get better once the school starts; I felt a similar way too in the months leading up to my 1st year, but once it kicked in- I've been having the (social) time of my life ever since. 

Glad to hear that you are feeling much better than usual though, and that you were able to hit that point so soon after quitting gaming again 🙂 Wish you good health in the coming months!

Hmmm, have you ever seen this video? It has helped me learn to enjoy leisure more and focus less on chasing progress/improvement within myself so much.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DEz7oJy37lI

 

Cheers!

Po

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On 7/19/2021 at 7:56 PM, Pochatok said:

I hope that you'll get better once the school starts; I felt a similar way too in the months leading up to my 1st year, but once it kicked in- I've been having the (social) time of my life ever since. 

Glad to hear that you are feeling much better than usual though, and that you were able to hit that point so soon after quitting gaming again 🙂 Wish you good health in the coming months!

Hmmm, have you ever seen this video? It has helped me learn to enjoy leisure more and focus less on chasing progress/improvement within myself so much.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DEz7oJy37lI

 

Cheers!

Po

Good to hear from you Po, I will check it out.  I really do like that youtuber.

And ya, I've seen the rank around.  I was definitely faded when I wrote that, I don't think it's tooo big of a deal, but it does seem a bit like a gaming similar feature.

 

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  • Average_Guy changed the title to Journey to the West (New 2.5 Month Update)

July 26, 2021

Had a friend text me this morning asking me when I was going to get back on the game with him.  It almost made me laugh because gaming just isn't an option anymore, it's not part of me.  

It feels like I've been able to close the chapter in that book.  A weird coincidence is that I just filled up a journal that I had been writing in since March 2020, right before Covid hit.  So I bought a new journal and started a brand new chapter.  Very powerful (a new chapter for my life).

In one foul swoop, and I don't say this lightly, I believe I have put to rest my gaming and porn addictions.  It started around 10 years ago, and it's been a long and difficult journey.  I'm ecstatic, but the tough part is you rarely get a break in life and now I have new challenges that will be just as hard.  Fighting to stay productive, find my calling, and not letting the parting/girls get the best of me at school.

I don't think I will be back to post very often, but I hope you all overcome your obstacles.  If I have any advice, it's to always keep digging deeper.  Don't mask your emotions and feelings with all the tools we have in this life to numb ourselves, they are there for a reason.  This is something I still battle with today and will probably for the rest of my life.  Also, don't be too hard on yourself!  The problems we all face are common to man, you are doing what you are supposed to doing as a human being, stay strong, be happy!  PEACE!

 

 

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  • Average_Guy changed the title to Journey to the West ~Conclusion~

Woah, congrats on getting this far! Super happy that you're able to close this chapter! Looking forward to hearing more from you in the future, and good luck with everything else that will be coming into your life 🙂

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Sept. 30, 2021

Hey everyone,

I've been reading through some of my old posts.  I believe I'm somewhere over 100 days gaming free and porn free.

I'm having some urges to play games.  There's a new update that is coming out very soon that I've heard about, and my school schedule is freeing up a bit.  It's just been weighing on my mind a lot more than it usually is.

I think I was a little over optimistic when I said I have put to rest gaming/porn.  I definitely have more control over these things, but it's a long process to 100% get rid of them, if that's even fully possible.

Gaming seems fun, but there's other things out there that are arguably more fun, they just take more effort, haha.  Not to mention, I read about the last time I started up gaming for six weeks and I wrote that I kinda knew I didn't want to be playing again.  Might update again soon based on what happens, think I also just need a little more sleep.

I think the reasons behind this most recent urge are: I've been getting comfortable (have a girl I hang with alot), I'm a little tired/fatigued (looking for escape), and I have very big/hard projects ahead of me that I think will take lots of work (looking to avoid these temporarily).

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  • Average_Guy changed the title to Establishing A New Life - Update
6 hours ago, Average_Guy said:

I'm having some urges to play games.  There's a new update that is coming out very soon that I've heard about, and my school schedule is freeing up a bit.  It's just been weighing on my mind a lot more than it usually is.

What helps me moderate these urges more is understanding where this "weighing on my mind" comes from. For me, it's not my mind weighing things, but my addicted brain trying to reconnect me to my old habits. Understanding that this is not what I actually want, and my desires trying to trick me helps. 

Of course, that's not always the case- there are times when I genuinely want to play because it is very meaningful, but those times are much more occasional, pattern-free. In other words, I just want to play games for a reason other than it simply being convenient cuz of "more free time" or "a new game/update coming out". 

Food for thought, I hope 🙂

Po

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@Average_Guy I had a similar experience. I had given gaming up for around 120 days and for some reason I felt the urge to play, I gave in. At first it wasn't so bad, I gave myself strict guidelines for playing (After other tasks were completed and only for a maximum of one hour). But, each night I found myself testing those boundaries, staying on an extra 30 minutes or completing that last task on which ever game I was playing. Before I knew it I was back to full blown gaming and it consumed me once again.

Now obviously I'm not saying that will be the case with you, as we know everyone is different, but just something to think about. 

@Pochatok I think you are spot on in saying that its not necessarily you want to play but rather your brain trying to build those pathways again and reignite that addiction.

All the best mate. 

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