D_Cozy's journal - Stopping Mindless Net Browsing

[Ace92]

Sounds like things are going well. And yeah, journaling has helped me stay consistent already.

stay safe.

 

best,

ace

[D_Cozy]

I am currently in Ottawa, just getting a chance to journal again.

2023-08-18

Day 20. Work was a bit slow, given the evacuation orders in Kelowna BC meant absences, which is where some of my coworkers are situated. Pretty rough news in general... luckily they are safe. I got as much as I could get done, and stayed in touch by keeping up with them through direct communication.

After work my in-laws had invited us for dinner, both my brothers in law and their families were there too. Cousins got to see each other again so that was stimulating for the kids.

Then after that it was packing for the trip.

2023-08-19

Day 21 of no mindless browsing. I basically drove all morning and afternoon, only getting here in the evening. We entertained our kids with movies using the back screen, but it was a pretty long trip for them. They were hyper when we got to the hotel.

After checking in. Went to a restaurant with my grandmother, she was excited to finally meet my kids. She is almost 90 so I am glad she met them too.

grateful for

Staying busy! And glad my co-workers are safe... the images I saw on the news were terrifying.

looking forward to 

exploring Ottawa tomorrow.

I'm gonna go to bed now, I am pretty tired.

Edited August 20, 2023 by D_Cozy

[DanielG]

On 8/16/2023 at 7:37 AM, D_Cozy said:

Oh almost forgot. Doggies and cat picture attached 🙂 took that yesterday. Just posting because why not ❤️

ADORABLE

[D_Cozy]

I've got more free time again, now that I've settled back home. I'll type out the key moments of the trip and today too. Days 22 to 24 of no mindless browsing;

2023-08-20

Went to the Rideau center mall in the morning, just to walk around and get breakfast. It's quite massive, has 3 floors total not counting the individual stores that go higher. We checked out the big Indigo bookstore, plus a few clothing stores, and got the kids some new things. I refused to buy them toys though, they have enough of those at home (never enough books though).

Afterwards went to Gatineau Park, which is just a pretty short drive across the river and provincial border to Quebec. I counted my time reading signs and ordering food as my French practice as well 😛 The servers could tell I have an accent, but they seemed to appreciate that I at least made an effort to order my lunch in French.

For the afternoon we went to my grandmother's apartment, my youngest kid fell asleep there. We just talked about her artwork that she paints and makes, that's been what she has focused on for all her life and she still keeps busy doing art now. My wife and I also played Scrabble with her, the physical board game, my grandmother winning with me only 10 points behind her.

Fun, but very busy day overall. Before dinner, we went to the swimming pool indoors in the hotel. Just for a bit, since we were pretty tired; still it was pretty relaxing to just cool off there. Then at the hotel restaurant we had dinner, their own pizza made there. Finally, we crashed at the hotel room for the night.

2023-08-21

Driving day. Breakfast at the hotel, same restaurant; they let kids under 12 eat breakfast for free, which we found out just then, so that was pretty nice. Then, pack and off to drive. We picked up lunch on the road. Got home after 5pm, just in time for dinner, get the kids to bed, and then rest. My dogs and cat were being taken care of by my father in-law, so I got to relieve him of that to his relief (he is not a cat person).

2023-08-22 (today)

Back to the regular routine, I let my kids sleep in and got them to daycare at 8am instead. My wife was sick most of today though, she thinks that something from yesterday didn't agree with her or the baby (she thinks it was most likely the lunch on the road, which was fast food). I still went to work today since I work from home, and I helped my wife out throughout my breaks.

After dinner, my wife got really sick, all over the dining table. Which was very unfortunate. I told her to go rest, and I called my in-laws so they could give me a hand with the kids tonight while I cleaned that up. I just finished cleaning and putting my kids to bed, with the assistance of my in-laws giving them baths and helping me with some of the cleaning too. I really understand that saying now, "it takes a village." My manager jokingly told me that we'll go from 1-on-1 defense to zone defense when the 3rd kid is born 😄

What I'm grateful for

I'm really glad that I'm focusing on maintaining a better habit around my screen time, I can't imagine my wife being happy with me had I been browsing around for junk while she was sick. Also I'm very thankful that my in-laws live in the same building, since they're literally a phone call away to help in situations like this. I noted that I reacted quite well to the whole situation too, no irritability. So I'm glad for that as well.

What I'm looking forward to

This pregnancy is taking a toll on my wife, and while she knew what she signed up for, it is something that I can't ever really fully relate to; but I can be of help in other ways, so I look forward to continuing to support her where she needs me.

Pending how she feels, I'm hoping to hit the gym tomorrow as well. I planned to take today off since the trip had involved so much walking.

Edited August 23, 2023 by D_Cozy

[D_Cozy]

2023-08-23 (written Thursday)

Day 25 of no mindless browsing.

I woke up earlier (6:30) to get my kids to daycare before 8am. Then I had time to make breakfast and clean the kitchen before work.

Work was busy and not eventful, not much to really say. My wife still wasn't feeling well today, so during my lunch I made her something to eat too and walked to the store to get more drinks with electrolites for her. I didn't go to the gym but she comes first. I'll do the next day if she feels better and doesn't need me to run errands. To help us out, my mother in law made and brought us dinner, rice with veggies and chicken breast.

I read through a hilarious book titled The Maxims of Manhood by Jeff Wilser. I know how it sounds like just by the title, but trust me, it is not to be taken literally or seriously; the author is very self-aware as he pokes fun, sometimes literally and sometimes sarcastically, at stereotypical male behavior. He shines a big spotlight on that behavior, showing just how contradictory and how idiotic it can really be. In rare moments he will break that to be fully serious, which is when you get firm areas on where he stands. I recommend it to just about anyone who is looking for a good laugh; just remember it's meant to be satire and humorous first.

grateful for

Finding joy reading. Well, I have always liked reading, but it's been a while since I tackled a book in a day like this (though it was a fairly short and easy read too). So I'm noticing a difference enjoying other activities when screens are not the main part of my free time. I'll continue with my Dracula re-read and Death by Video Game over the next days.

looking forward to

Continuing good habits

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It strikes me that I may not have been very specific until now about what I mean with "no mindless browsing" so let me do this for the curious and for my reference: when I write "no mindless browsing" I refer to any of the following for more than 30m a day:

• social media; Facebook, Discord, Instagram, Threads (new platform but still), LinkedIn (unless using it for learning courses)
• video apps; unless it's my work profile to browse for instructional videos. Apps include YouTube, Netflix, Crunchyroll, pretty much anything that has moving images
• message boards of hobby interests; blurry line between these and social media, but I define them to be more anonymous with actual thread structures. I exempt the GameQuitters forum (this site) and sites like StackOverflow, where you can search for coding problems and answers (thus making it a part of my job too). Otherwise, it includes subReddits, any news comment sections, Twitter / X, Goodreads discussions, etc.

The way I see it; 30m allows me enough time to quickly stay in touch with everyone who I actually care about. These include my family, my close friends (even those that live elsewhere) and my works product announcements in the case of LinkedIn. To keep myself in check, I use the aforementioned browser extension in my personal profile, StayFocusd, and also use a different browser for work-related browsing.

[D_Cozy]

2023-08-24 (written Friday)

Day 26

Went for a walk with my dogs outside, my oldest joined me again since he woke up early enough. Ran into my in-laws while on the walk, they were happy to see his grandson. Good start to the morning.

Work was alright; today was one of those days where an issue came up and it took priority over what I was working on. That always throws me off, but overall not a bad day. I kept my focus on what needed to be done. I went to run for 2.5km on the treadmill today.

I am trying to get into a better schedule at night, letting my dogs out before my kids go to bed. This really helps me not having to let them out after 9:30, which I have been finding to be a bit disruptive to my sleep. But sometimes my oldest kid goes to bed that late, I usually let them out after. However I didn't have to do that last night which was great, it let me actually do my bedtime routine and stay relaxed for bed: I talked with my wife which was nice 1:1 time.

Grateful for

Moving more! I got a standing desk 2 months ago but now I'm really feeling the difference: my back is no longer super tight from sitting all day in front of screens. So I think the additional running is also helping.

Looking forward to

We made plans to show one of our friends (my wife's high school best friend) our new place, now that it's clean enough from the move to have more company over. Looking forward to hanging out with him Friday night.

Edited August 28, 2023 by D_Cozy

[D_Cozy]

It's been a busy weekend! I put the wrong day in the post above, so I just corrected it. Multi-post for last 3 days:

2023-08-25

Day 27

Friday was pretty productive, and I know that because of looking at my work calendar and work-logs today; the benefit of working with software is that everything is recorded. I managed to get all my tasks for the week done by today, despite other priorities coming up last minute; that always feels great.

Our friend came over and checked out our apartment for the first time since we moved here, which was only 2 months ago today. Our kids fell asleep late around 9:30, they got real excited to see him (at least it's a weekend). He left shortly before 11pm, late night for us too, went straight to bed afterwards.

2023-08-26

Day 28. I spent most of the day with my kids, while my wife went shopping for groceries and back-to-school things for my oldest with her mom.

While my kids napped, I entertained myself reading La Guardia by Nnedi Okarofor, Tana Ford & James Devlin; this is an adult sci-fi graphic novel, which follows a Nigerian doctor who treats alien patients. These are peaceful aliens, which are rigorously checked through the interstellar airports customs and sometimes turned back. Although it is a very fun and playful story, it also echoes very real and heartbreaking issues about discrimination and racism. It's a fairly short read too (expect to spend about 1h and 30m), so to anyone reading here I would recommend checking it out for a quirky but insightful story about immigration.

When my wife came back, I went for a jog in the treadmill. I'm thinking I can step it up soon from the 2~2.5km I've been doing.

2023-08-27 (written Monday)

Day 29. My in-laws took the kids for 2h in the morning, which gave my wife a chance to work on cleaning out our closet; still has a fair amount of things packed away. Decluttering is one of the most satisfying things for me, it always feels good to see a part of the room get more clear as we put more stuff away. I was pretty sore after lifting several boxes, going up and down to the building's recycling room too, so I counted that as my exercise for the day.

I read more of Dracula at night, only have 6 chapters to go now before finishing my re-read. One thing that is very much of its time is the treatment of women; I read through the part where Mina is asked to stay out of the men's adventure going inside the Count's house. She very much takes a support role... at least for this part of the story. I suppose I shouldn't spoil more, it'd be best to really read it if you haven't.

Grateful for

Staying busy with productive tasks and good reads

Looking forward to

More decluttering, and selling things in bulk. There's a store called BeatGoesOn where I live in Canada, which will take a lot of entertainment for a small but reasonable price. The things they don't take, we'll be donating through other means.

Edited August 28, 2023 by D_Cozy

[wheatbiscuit]

13 hours ago, D_Cozy said:

2023-08-25

Day 27

Friday was pretty productive, and I know that because of looking at my work calendar and work-logs today; the benefit of working with software is that everything is recorded. I managed to get all my tasks for the week done by today, despite other priorities coming up last minute; that always feels great.

2023-08-26

Day 28. I spent most of the day with my kids, while my wife went shopping for groceries and back-to-school things for my oldest with her mom.

While my kids napped, I entertained myself reading La Guardia by Nnedi Okarofor, Tana Ford & James Devlin; this is an adult sci-fi graphic novel, which follows a Nigerian doctor who treats alien patients. These are peaceful aliens, which are rigorously checked through the interstellar airports customs and sometimes turned back. Although it is a very fun and playful story, it also echoes very real and heartbreaking issues about discrimination and racism. It's a fairly short read too (expect to spend about 1h and 30m), so to anyone reading here I would recommend checking it out for a quirky but insightful story about immigration.

 

 

 

My mum works with software too, and always used to talk about scheduling and work logs back at home. I wish detailed ones were available for pizza-making in days of flurried movement and decisions. 🥲

That book, La Guardia is almost like an idea I had for writing something this year. Nice to know someone's already made a decent job of it.

Back to school! I'd forgotten that's a big deal after kids who've had a 3 month Summer break. Good luck. 😮 

[D_Cozy]

11 hours ago, wheatbiscuit said:

My mum works with software too, and always used to talk about scheduling and work logs back at home. I wish detailed ones were available for pizza-making in days of flurried movement and decisions. 🥲

That book, La Guardia is almost like an idea I had for writing something this year. Nice to know someone's already made a decent job of it.

Back to school! I'd forgotten that's a big deal after kids who've had a 3 month Summer break. Good luck. 😮 

Yeah it can be a bit scary, but it also very convenient that all my work is automatically tracked; no need for me to justify how I spend my time, my manager can just see the work logs through the ticketing system and is happy as long as most items I committed to on Monday are done by Friday. I'm sure there's a day-by-day order system for restaurants and pizza shops too, right? 🤔

I recommend checking out La Guardia, it'd be great inspiration. There are never enough stories out there about immigration politics and discrimination, the more awareness brought to them (even if through fiction) the more we can all understand each other better. Let me know if you ever want a proofreader 😄

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2023-08-28 (written Tuesday)

Day 30; it's really been a month since I stopped browsing for hours and hours on social media and fandoms!

This will be a more work focused update from m. I got feedback about my work habits from my manager, and here are the non-business things I can share:

• Keep using a whiteboard; I bought one a few months ago and my manager said she noted a HUGE difference in engagement and detail orientation during meetings. So if anyone else here works from home, you can take away that buying your own whiteboard could really help you as well.
• Maintain weekly communication with overall team; even prototype work is good to share as general status updates, and now I know.
• Manager was wondering about my increased productivity; I was honest with her and told her that I started tracking my screen times more rigorously, she was happy to hear that. So that extension is coming in handy and others are noticing.

A goal I'm gonna set for myself; the company I work for gives out bonuses on a percentage of my income. That percentage amount is based on my level of impact and effort working throughout the fiscal year. The maximum possible is 20%, something that I'd love to shoot for eventually, but I'm going to start with a smaller goal. My goal is to increase my bonus percentage from 8% to 10% for the next fiscal year. I think this is a good goal that will keep me journaling and reflecting.

The rest of my day was making dinner (frozen chicken pot-pie, which took 1h and 30m to cook in oven) and keeping my kids busy. I read books to them. Oh yeah, and that reminds me, they have library books due back soon.

Grateful for

Feedback. It lets me know where I am now, and set a goal to keep me on track with maintaining focused habits

Looking forward to

Going back to the library before Friday to check out more books.

[richter]

Congrats on 1 month!

[D_Cozy]

cheers @richter, thanks!

2023-08-29 (written Wednesday)

Day 31, but a tough day; the litter robot broke - this is a self-cleaning litterbox that automatically spins and dumps clumps into a waste basket. It got stuck while doing a cycle, upside down, so since my cat could not use it, I had to step away from work while I fixed that. But even after resetting it and getting it to neutral position (which at least my cat could use it then), the control panel stopped responding. I talked with customer support about it, which took more time out of my work day due to their hours, and tried everything before the person assisting me concluded I had to order a new base replacement. That's $500 CAD which hurts to spend. After that 2h time suck I said "F-it", and just went back to work so I wouldn't fall farther behind than I already had. 

I talked about it after work with my wife, who is now back to work herself, and she agreed it was worth replacing; even if a standard litter box is much cheaper, she doesn't like that they are open nor that they need to be cleaned out frequently. I honestly don't mind just getting a standard one myself, I am fine scooping it out every day. But it's her preference over mine (happy wife, happy life), so we ended up getting a new base; it also does save me time scooping admittedly, since cleaning that out happens much less frequently (and she is pregnant so she can't be cleaning litter for a while).

On a positive note though I turned to meditation and self-reflection, over mindless browsing, to help me calm down after that frustrating event. Meditating is something I could try making a daily habit of more often, even when things are good; practicing to understand the mind, acknowledging my emotions, and letting them go without defining me.

Grateful for

not wasting time to cope with hardships, building better and more productive habits instead

Looking forward to

reading the final library book with my oldest later tonight (a Spiderman book) and then going to the library Thursday to drop them off at the drop-box. We'll be going on the weekend again to peruse more books.

I'm gonna go to the gym Wednesday as well, I forgot to yesterday.

I also woke up extremely early today (Wednesday), at 4:30am, because my cat was making a ruckus in the kitchen; my mother in law brought muffins over for us, which was very nice, but my cat tried to open the tupperware containers by pushing them off the kitchen counter. He was being a little 💩 lol. Since I was awake I took that opportunity in the morning to catch up on work from yesterday, and I feel much better about where I am so far. Anyways, that's part one of the 30ths entry, I'll write part 2 tomorrow morning

Edited August 30, 2023 by D_Cozy

[D_Cozy]

2023-08-30 (written Thursday)

Day 32. I'm on call for today till next week, which means I am the engineer that mitigates urgent issues even after hours. I rotate with other engineers to keep it fair.

The thing I was doing at work got a lot more complicated. I'm glad that we have development environments where I can break things to find that out, but it complicated my development work. I also had to stay up late mitigating an issue, which is no fun; so instead of going to bed at 11pm latest, I went to bed at midnight. Not the worst but I am feeling that missed hour this morning.

On the other hand I kept my commitments to myself and to my family... mostly; I read through that spiderman life story book with my oldest before bed, finished it in time before Friday to give it back to the library. It's not really an age appropriate story for him, it's more for teenagers and up; but he still is really into spiderman, the characters and the villains, and he isn't phased by mild violence either (my wife says he gets it from her haha).

I didn't go to the gym though... but I did go for a long 3.5k walk outside with my dogs during lunch, which is longer than the usual ~2k. I made a mindful decision to at least make that a more active part of my day. My dogs were wiped out due to the distance, which is better than due to the heat (it's getting cooler finally). I'll have to try to go to the gym Thursday though, I would like to start lifting some light weights again.

Grateful for

Keeping myself honest

Looking forward to

staying committed to going to the gym

[D_Cozy]

2023-08-31 (written Thursday night, posted Friday morning)

Day 33 of no browsing to waste time.

I went to get some Mac&Cheese from a food truck for lunch, which was delicious; it was a Mexican style pasta basically,  with pico de gallo and sour cream. A bit expensive at 15 though so it's a treat. They come on a schedule and park across the street, which is probably for the best in my case lol. I hope that they keep coming during the Fall too.

Decent work day. I took a proactive measure to talk with one of my teammates that the thing I'm working on would get done Monday morning instead, since it got more complicated last night. He really appreciated that heads up, so tick one thing to keep up!

Just managed to hit the gym after work. Not for as long as I would've liked, but a little bit is better. I started with light barbells, 20lbs, for now and did biceps and triceps. I'm sore now lol. I'll aim to go Friday for a run.

Grateful for

The value of journaling; I have noticed a difference in my productivity over the last few days, and I've noticed I'm setting better screen time examples for my kids too as they copy my actions. Of course I recognize that there's also productive message boards, this forum being one, with purpose and intention being what matters.

Looking forward to

Keeping active moving forward and making this a commitment. I should think about a commitment list too and post it, for clarity to myself. Wil work on that over the weekend. Oh yea and it's a long weekend!

Edited September 1, 2023 by D_Cozy

[D_Cozy]

2023-09-01

Day 34 of no mindless browsing. Slow day at work before labour day weekend, with people going on vacations before it. But I have a fun story.

For dinner, there were food trucks in front of the street, so we went as a family. One which grabbed my attention had several hot sauces lined up in front. I'm very much a fan of spicy food; I grew up in Mexico, and even the candy I ate as a kid was spicy. So I am pretty used to the heat too. I first tried a green siracha hot sauce with caramel flavoring on the fries; it was not spicy at all for me, very mild. I let my wife try a fry - she does not ever eat spicy food BTW - and even she found it tolerable. The flavoring was very nice too! I will have to figure out what it is called.

My main meal was a chicken burger with a very spicy habanero sauce called Mr. Pain; just a few drops on it was enough to make me feel the heat. Also very good flavoring, but at 1m scoville units I really wouldn't recommend this to just anybody; only if you really like spicy.

Nothing could've prepared me for what I was about to try next. The couple that runs this food truck orders their hot sauces from a placd Pepper Palace, and their hottest - called The End; Flatline - is 7million scoville units. The guy described it as being made with 45 pounds of peppers grinded and put in a 1oz hot sauce bottle. He challenged me to have 1 single drop, which he provided in a disposable cup. If I could handle the heat for 5 minutes with no assistance (no milk, no water, no food) I would win a shirt. Before me there were 2 other guys. Both of them were tearing up after just one drop. The first one asked for water after the first minute and failed. The second one ran and puked in the bushes (yes really), failing as well, and which really got me concerned for what I signed up for.

Then came my turn. Wow seriously, just one drop is all you need. It's blazing hot. And it's not so bad at first either; my tongue started to tingle, slowly following to my lips. Usual stuff. But after that first minute... it hits your throat. After the 2nd minute it moves on to the sides of your cheeks, roof of your mouth, and your sinuses. Then after the 3rd minute, it's your stomach, your eyes, forehead, and even your ears. And it doesn't stop. It was hot, and my eyes teared up fully.

I am proud to say, I still did it. I held on for 5 minutes. Didn't spit it out or anything. So I'll be getting an email with where to get my shirt in the next week at some point. Was it worth it? Probably not haha, I still feel pain even now! But it was actually a highlight, and a pretty unique experience nonetheless. And my wife of course took funny pictures of me.

Grateful for

Trying The End sauce once. Which is enough for a lifetime.

Looking forward to

Tomorrow we are going to a farm that does tours. Should be a really good time for the kids.

Edited September 2, 2023 by D_Cozy

[wheatbiscuit]

20 hours ago, D_Cozy said:

2023-09-01

Day 34 of no mindless browsing. Slow day at work before labour day weekend, with people going on vacations before it. But I have a fun story.

For dinner, there were food trucks in front of the street, so we went as a family. One which grabbed my attention had several hot sauces lined up in front. I'm very much a fan of spicy food; I grew up in Mexico, and even the candy I ate as a kid was spicy. So I am pretty used to the heat too. I first tried a green siracha hot sauce with caramel flavoring on the fries; it was not spicy at all for me, very mild. I let my wife try a fry - she does not ever eat spicy food BTW - and even she found it tolerable. The flavoring was very nice too! I will have to figure out what it is called.

My main meal was a chicken burger with a very spicy habanero sauce called Mr. Pain; just a few drops on it was enough to make me feel the heat. Also very good flavoring, but at 1m scoville units I really wouldn't recommend this to just anybody; only if you really like spicy.

Nothing could've prepared me for what I was about to try next. The couple that runs this food truck orders their hot sauces from a placd Pepper Palace, and their hottest - called The End; Flatline - is 7million scoville units. The guy described it as being made with 45 pounds of peppers grinded and put in a 1oz hot sauce bottle. He challenged me to have 1 single drop, which he provided in a disposable cup. If I could handle the heat for 5 minutes with no assistance (no milk, no water, no food) I would win a shirt. Before me there were 2 other guys. Both of them were tearing up after just one drop. The first one asked for water after the first minute and failed. The second one ran and puked in the bushes (yes really), failing as well, and which really got me concerned for what I signed up for.

Then came my turn. Wow seriously, just one drop is all you need. It's blazing hot. And it's not so bad at first either; my tongue started to tingle, slowly following to my lips. Usual stuff. But after that first minute... it hits your throat. After the 2nd minute it moves on to the sides of your cheeks, roof of your mouth, and your sinuses. Then after the 3rd minute, it's your stomach, your eyes, forehead, and even your ears. And it doesn't stop. It was hot, and my eyes teared up fully.

I am proud to say, I still did it. I held on for 5 minutes. Didn't spit it out or anything. So I'll be getting an email with where to get my shirt in the next week at some point. Was it worth it? Probably not haha, I still feel pain even now! But it was actually a highlight, and a pretty unique experience nonetheless. And my wife of course took funny pictures of me.

Grateful for

Trying The End sauce once. Which is enough for a lifetime.

Looking forward to

Tomorrow we are going to a farm that does tours. Should be a really good time for the kids.

Omg, 'the end; flatline'?? I take one or two bouts of Indian vindaloo curries/regular sushi wasabi a year, but they don't hint at possible death from spicy - what cajones! lol

[D_Cozy]

It has been a pretty busy long weekend, with preparing for back to school. My oldest is officially a kindergardener today. Will post highlights of each day:

2023-09-02

Day 35. We went to a farm just outside the city. I attached the only video I could without my kids, it's a bunny eating some grass. Cuteness alert. The kids had a blast there too; my brother in law was down for the week and they came with their two kids too. Very fun!

2023-09-03

Day 36. Went for an early walk with my dogs and oldest right in the morning, the Sunday and onwards has been brutally hot; in the 30s Celsius (85ish Farenheit) during afternoons. We are in a heat warning. Mornings are a bit cooler but it's crazy how hot it is considering it's September.

Sadly the highlight of this day isn't a happy one. My in-laws had a 12yo Golden Doodle that passed away 😞 I always assumed he was sorta gonna be around while my kids went away to school, I had known him for 8 years of my life since meeting my wife (back when we first started dating, back before we were even parents). So even though he wasn't my dog, it still hurts saying goodbye; but he had a great and long life for a dog, and I find comfort knowing that he passed peacefully.

2023-09-04

Day 37. Cleaning day basically, not much to say with my kid going to school the next day. My mother in law helped us quite a bit: her choice, even with the dog passing away... she doesn't show it or talk about it, but she is taking it hard. It's how she deals with it, she just decides to stay super busy instead.

I took turns with my wife entertaining my kids as the other one cleaned, + got school clothes and lunch items organized. Since it's really, really hot out still, this is one of those days where I put on excergames like the Jump Rope challenge and Switch Sports. My kids are still young and not very good at them, but well the point is to get them moving without risking heatstroke outside, and they do a good job of it.

Grateful for

Life and the many moments it offers. In grieving, I reflect back at how precious our time is, and it gets me to really appreciate more conscious decisions on how we spend our time together.

Looking forward to

my oldest going to school!

Edited September 5, 2023 by D_Cozy

[D_Cozy]

Hello everyone,

unfortunately I ended up relapsing into bad net browsing habits on the 5th. I escalated from zero hours spent on sites like Reddit and Twitter (or X) to 5~8h per day. My screentime doesn't lie. I wasted many work hours in particular, which I'm ashamed of doing. So I'm going to start from 0 again.

I retreaded back to tons of discussion forums as an escape that overtook my work and free time too, and it was at a point when there were a lot of changes going on. My in-laws dog passing away. My son's school bus schedule wasn't great for a few days (didn't show up one day, dropped him off real late another day). Work has been getting busier and more demanding. My wife and son are at a new daycare. So a lot of schedule adjustments, some greiving and more things to do for work. Add it all up... and I retreaded into bad habits. My wife pointed it out Friday when she noticed me glued to my phone screen (it was always my phone, as my computer has that extension) and we talked it through.

I'm very lucky that she is so understanding; I have to be better at communicating with her too so I don't go off "phubbing." I am ready now to try again and be better. Quitting is hard. I remember how it felt impossible back with the gacha games I used to play. But I'm going to try again.

To hopefully improve; I've made a comittment to not use my phone during work days, and keep a notepad beside me to write out any thoughts that come to me so I can focus on them later rather than have them interrupt my thinking and focus.

Edited September 11, 2023 by D_Cozy