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  1. Hi Jason!
    Welcome,
    Congrats on your commitment to living a gaming free life. 🙌

    9 hours ago, Jason70 said:

    The issue I'm struggling with now though is the gaming friends. I still want to keep in touch with them but they insist I continue gaming, and that I'm a fool for giving it up.

    I've also quit before, and I've realized this is one of the hardest parts every time, because there's an emotional connection to those people. It's really hard to deal with, but I've realized that friends will support you in your goals and choices. If they insist on you gaming, they are prioritizing gaming over your friendship. The solution doesn't always have to be finding new friends. Many of my gaming friends did not stay in contact, but the ones who did I truly value. Friends will look for other ways to connect. As far as the COVID situation for new friends, I think outdoor activities seem like a good option.

    Wishing you the best

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  2. Day 10

    My reflections arrived at this today:
    I’m not as lost as I think, but I just haven’t given myself the space to be myself.

    I had a similar conversation that came back to me, which I had a while ago with a friend while rock climbing. While looking at the wall, I said, “What if the hardest part of the climb is at the beginning? What if you’re actually 90% of the way there, but the 10% you still need to do is the first step?”

    I’m feeling this may be the case with me and gaming. The 90 day detox is the 10%, and I feel like the rest will just come from there.

    Sometimes the first step is the hardest.

    - Neal

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  3. 6 hours ago, dasvira said:

    Today I had to deal with my problematic intelectual hubris and excessive curiosity.

    I've gone down that YouTube rabbit hole before too. I like that you took the time to journal and reflect on it.

    6 hours ago, dasvira said:

    Therefore, from now on, I will get my priorities in life straight and I shall be careful not to feed my curiosity and intellectual hubris.

    Use the curiosity! Just give it a direction and a goal 👍

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  4. 10 hours ago, Pernix said:

    I'm just sitting here in my chair staring at my screen wondering: "Well uh.. should I just toss the computer out?"

    This cracked me up 😃

    Congrats on taking the first step! Some good goals you got there.

    For programming, personally, I've used freecodecamp.com before and really enjoyed what they got set up. I recommend not to spend too much time picking a language. You can learn the programming basics in any language, and then you can dive deeper into languages based on what kind of projects interest you.

    9 hours ago, Pernix said:

    Its like for the first time, I wasn't even able to think about gaming because I was so caught up in what I was doing.

    That's awesome!! Remember moments like these! This can be a guiding force for how to spend your newfound free time.

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  5. On 11/30/2020 at 7:29 PM, DaBest said:

    At one point I went back on the internet and had no idea what I was doing. Pure instinct. Autopilot. It was weird.

    Same thing for me. I look at it, think to myself, "Why did I want to use this again?"

    I don't always catch myself before the mindless browsing starts.

    Cool that you recognize those moments.

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  6. 13 hours ago, Pochatok said:

    I do digital for more serious projects, and ink+pencil, sometimes markers for sketching. I use Procreate and Krita. Do you do art?

    Digital seems cool! I don't know much about that. I have used charcoal before. I liked that because it was easy to create shadows and erase too.

    I don't really art much though. Yet! But it is something I am interested in. I have tried an art class before but never finished it. Anything art related is very rewarding, but also very time consuming. I have not been able to work myself up to that time commitment yet.

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  7. 5 hours ago, Tabula rasa said:

    Yes, they are a form of social connection but at the end of the day, there are many other activities or interests that can be used to interact with other people!

    This is a good reminder for me, because that's definitely one of the ways I was already thinking about using gaming for when the 90 days is over.

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  8. Day 9

    A good day. There’s no reason not to say it was good. So, it was good. My brother recently got home from college, and now more than ever, I’m especially glad that I’ve given up gaming. Usually I’d shut myself in my room to game the days away. Now, I can see the days ahead as a space for reconnection and bonding time. Today, my brother and I watched a couple TV episodes together, but more important, we had time to just talk and enjoy each other’s company. I feel satisfied. Sometimes the small moments can define the whole day.

    Today was good. Tomorrow might be even better.

    - Neal

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  9. 13 hours ago, Pochatok said:

    How come I never yawn when playing trombone?

    I play the trumpet! Cool to see another brass player on here 🎶

     

    13 hours ago, Pochatok said:

    made some nice art. I LOVE ART! I really hope I will be able to get to the professional, industry-standard level by the time I wear my university graduation gown. 

    What medium do you create art in? paint? draw? etc>?

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  10. 2 hours ago, royal panda said:

    Highlight of the day was: completing all my homework when it was immediately assigned. It actually felt good compared to pushing it off and then stressing 

    That's awesome! Crushed that homework. Feels good to be on top on things. Also, you're almost 50% there, congrats

  11. 17 hours ago, Lampshade said:

    These are the times that I would decide to just game the day away. At least without games, I've got a realistic shot at doing something productive later. I'm going to drink some coffee and read a couple chapters of a book this morning instead. It still satisfies my desire to fuck off, but I don't expect to be locked in all day.

    Isn't that wild. I've had this same feeling, so I'll decide to do some restful activities, and it feels like I've been fucking off for forever and I look at the clock, it's only been an hour. If I had been gaming the whole day would be gone already. Honestly feels crazy to me and awesome too! No day is really ever a complete throwaway day anymore.

  12. On 11/29/2020 at 6:12 AM, A New Man said:

    - Reached the 1,000 subscribers milestone on my YouTube Channel

    - Almost 10,000 followers on LinkedIn

    - Started planning next courses I'm going to launch

    Hi, first time for me reading your journal and it's cool to see the success that you're having!
    I'm curious what kinds of courses you are making or videos you are making.
    Would be interesting to know more about. Thanks

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  13. 15 hours ago, Tr1v said:

    Reddit usage has been up esp. since I redownloaded the app.

    Every time Reddit is on my phone the same thing happens to me. It's just too easy to spend so much time on it. I just can't have it on my phone anymore.

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  14. Welcome back!

    10 hours ago, Hai said:

    It was kind of hard at first because I was breathing heavily after just a mile of running and sweating profusely. After the first run, my second run got somewhat better with me getting over my first mile and over into my second one with less sweating and lung cramping. The most recent run came with me finishing my 3rd mile which is a step toward building my cardiovascular system back up again.

    Congrats on getting into the exercise habit. Running can be really rewarding because you can easily measure your progress both with distance and time.

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  15. @Commissar @dasvira @Pochatok thank you, and onwards to Day 8

    I spent a lot of time future planning today, I’m just really excited about winter and the upcoming ski season. It felt good to be excited and follow that flow~! I reached out to some people and made different plans with them for ski trips to places within driving distance. Skiing is pretty cool because I’ll already be all bundled up and wearing a facemask so COVID can’t stop me from doing it and being social.

    Work, exercise, reading...I got a new book today. The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath. I’ve liked this quote from this book for a while about a fig tree that deals with indecision. The message I get from the quote is that it’s better to choose and give something a chance, rather than sitting around not deciding and missing out on all the options anyways. I’m looking forward to seeing how it all plays out in the book.

    Taking a chance on a new me.

    - Neal
     

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  16. Day 7

    I’ve made it one whole week! Wow, I actually didn’t realize that until I typed day #7. I was about to be a downer, but I guess life really isn’t too bad then. Today was work, exercise, reading, and planning. So, not too much. The big thing is today I mailed in one of those DNA ancestry tests. I can’t wait to get the results because I’ve been super into learning about Irish history lately. If it comes back and I’m not Irish, my whole life is a lie haha.

    One week down, many weeks to go.

    - Neal
     

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  17. 16 hours ago, BooksandTrees said:

    Today I'm 109 weeks free from games.

    This far along and still keeping a daily journal like a boss.

    14 minutes ago, BooksandTrees said:

    What I need is love. I honestly think love will help me. I won't force it though. I just think love and stability is something I desperately need because I struggle when alone. 

    I hope you can find what you're looking for in love.

    Also: "In solitude one is not alone; one is present with oneself."

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  18. Hi @Mohammad
    I enjoyed reading your posts.
    First of all congrats on your new job!
    A job is such a big part of everyday life so I am glad you are enjoying it and it is giving you lots to do.

     

    On 11/4/2020 at 9:14 AM, Mohammad said:

    I know I cannot go on this route because I will burn out at some point. I don't know, I am just too busy to look around to find new hobbies!

    I also saw you talk about staying busy a lot and I'm quoting a post of yours from earlier so I can share my experience.

    My way of not having gaming taking over my life was also full involvement into my work. I loved my job and my coworkers. However, when I lost my job because of COVID, I realized I had nothing to fall back on, so of course I relapsed and fell back to gaming.

    I'm not saying this is going to happen to you. I just want to encourage you to keep trying hobbies and new interests. I hope you find something that is your spark that excites you as much as your job. Then you always have a backup plan.

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  19. Day 6

    I don’t feel much like journaling today. I even did lots of things today. Exercise, yoga, meditation, reading, coding, duolingo. Video chatted with an old friend for about an hour. Probably the most exciting thing for me was I started researching Irish history (I’m mostly Irish), and was super into that for a while today. I guess I’m just tired. I was hoping when I quit gaming I’d have this incredible energy. So far it’s not been like that. I have to push myself pretty hard to get things done. I know changes like this take time to build. I’m not turning back yet, so I’ll just have to stick it out for now.

    Another ‘X’ on the calendar.

    - Neal

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  20. 9 hours ago, Lampshade said:

    Personally, though, I really struggled with starting fresh at something. I'd suggest thinking back to what you enjoyed as a kid. Maybe even ask some people who knew you back then. For me that ended up being reading and exercise/competition. I have a few skills that I pick at developing (coding thorough datacamp, another language through duolingo, and some work-related skills), but reading and exercise take up the bulk of my free time.

    I appreciate your perspective. I do love to read. Maybe I'm judging myself too hard for not seeing reading as being productive.

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  21. 14 hours ago, Pochatok said:

    I'm having some dreams about video games every night

    Me tooooo! I've had a different video game dream every night since quitting earlier this week. I feel like it makes it extra hard. We just miss gaming so I think it's a weird way of our minds processing it all.

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  22. Day 5

    Indecision is something that has plagued my life for as long as I can remember. Rather than getting better at deciding, I came up with tools and tricks to avoid decisions. I would ask other people for their opinions a lot, and have ended up knowing little about myself. So now I’m at this point, video game free, and a whole new world is open to me. Even the last time that I quit it wasn’t quite the same. I was at college and there was just tons of stuff to do. I didn’t really have to think for myself. So now, it’s a bit overwhelming to say the least. I didn’t practice any new skills in my free time today. Just some exercise, reading, and reflection. How do I know what to choose to start investing my time in…?

    Hmm…

    - Neal

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