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Hi, little success : 7/90, 1 week ! I felt like a month lol. Sometimes I want to play again, but this desire is not strong. I did an interesting exercise today : what if I could go back in time ? To key moments when I failed or needed to change. I made a list of these moments, and then I wrote what I should have done. And surprisingly, almost all the things I should have done could be applied to each of this moments : to be more hardworking (studies, work, looking for a better job, housework, etc.) ; to be more combative (why let the power to others ?) ; to be bolder (socially : friends, girls). That was the 3 main things for me, and I almost never think about this, I should keep this in mind. The 3 others things were : don't play video games, be careful to my sleep, and do more workouts. They're not secondary : with a lot of time spent on video games, a lack of sleep, not enough sport, well I won't have the strength to be hardworking, combative, bold. Since I can't go back in time, I "just" need to apply this to the present, for a better life. Try it and tell me what you find out 👍

Hi, thank you for your comments ! Little success : 6/90 (June 14) Monday and Tuesday were pretty hard for me, but not for the video games. In fact I was sad, mainly because of work, then because of the loneliness (I couldn't see my daughter on Tuesday evening like before). Today was better, I wasn't sad. I do what I have to do at work (less procrastinating), and I feel better about my ex (I need to let her go : she's not interested). Since I feel better, I tell myself that I could game, "it won't hurt, right ?" lol, it's a trap ! I have to continue like this for the 90 days at least. If I feel better, it's partially because I don't game, so I need to keep going.

Hi, little success : 4/90 (June 12) I did a lot of things I wanted to do, I even went to bed early : 23:30 (it's early for me lol, usually I went to bed around 1:00). The disadvantage is that I was pretty bored during the evening, having to do my tasks without much procrastinating so I can go to bed early.

Hi, little success : 3/90 (June 11) I'm pretty satisfied with this Saturday : I did some tasks (vacuum, finally), took a shower (finally), took all my meals, sport, spanish, listening to music, and I didn't go to bed too late (0:30). And the weather was nice : life is good 🙂

Hi, little success : 2/90 (June 10) It feels like a week, but no, it's been only 2 days lol. Same as the day before, I'm proud to have worked out, and to have done some spanish (+30min). Unfortunately, I missed a meal (fruits) because I was too tired (I slept on my chair around midnight during a few hours before brushing my teeth and going to bed). I skipped the shower too :s I really need to go to bed earlier, I don't even get 6h of sleep during the week (Monday -> Friday) Today I received some bad news, I won't be able to see my daughter as often as before during the week (4 evenings -> 1-2 evenings), so I'm not happy. I don't want to play video games, but I'm afraid I will procrastinate. I need to do some tasks today, I will see my daughter tomorrow.

Hi, little success : 1/90 I worked out, did more than 30min of spanish. Still hard to go to bed early.

Good job ! Be proud ! 90 days are not enough to be perfect, and it wasn't the point. You did a lot during this short time.

Hi, new diary for me, since I'm not done with this. I'm not as addicted as before, but I still play almost every day while the games are really not interesting, and I don't like this (I went from several hours a day to ~1h a day). I lost so much because of video games and procrastination in general (I lost my girlfriend, and we have a child), I'm sad and angry when I think about it. So here I go again, I have uninstalled my video games tonight : 0/90

Hi, good idea to start learning a language, it can be interesting and challenging. I see it's hard for you to keep going without video games now, but stay strong ! You're on the right path Relapsing won't solve any issue. Good luck.

Hello, It's already hard to quit an addiction when we want to quit it. But your father doesn't even want to quit, I don't think you can make him quit in a direct way. So for now, focus on you, since you want to quit. You could delete your account for example. There are a lot of tips on how to quit on this forum. Tell your dad you really want to stop playing this game, for all the reasons you mentioned. Maybe he will understand. This way, he won't ask you to play with him. You can propose your dad an other activity, tell him you want to spend time with him, but not on this game. Even 10min of this other activity can be nice for you two. Then it can be longer : 30min for example. Good luck

Day 12 ✔️ Sleep : going to bed before 0:00 -> it was 0:50. I could sleep in, but I won't be able to do it tomorrow Shower : take one -> not ok, but not a big deal Meals : take all of them -> ok Sport : 15min -> I took a long walk instead Spanish : 15min -> ok Task : doing 1 long or unusual task -> ok, 1 unusual task (I continued to tidy up) Internet : surfing 45min max -> I didn't measure it, but I was above that. I still think about playing video games, but I know that I will spend hours and hours on them, and I will feel like shit after that. And if I don't play hours and hours, it won't be enough. In any case, the result is bad.

Day 11 ✔️ That was a productive day, that was nice 🙂 Sleep : going to bed before 0:00 -> not ok, it was ~1:00, but it's not so bad, since I could sleep in Shower : take one -> ok Meals : take all of them -> ok Sport : 15min -> ok (happy for that) Spanish : 15min -> ok Task : doing 1 long or unusual task -> ok, I said that was a productive day (I tidied up and cleaned) : 1 long+unusual, 1 long and 1 unusual Internet : surfing 45min max -> I didn't measure it, but it wasn't excessive

Day 6-10 ✔️ Yeah, ten days ! But during these days, like a lot of people, I wasn't motivated, and so I wasn't really productive. I'll try to be more ambitious about the things I want to do : Sleep : going to bed before 0:00 Shower : take one Meals : take all of them Sport : 15min Spanish : 15min Task : doing 1 long or unusual task Internet : surfing 45min max

Day 3 & 4 ✔️ Again these days, I've been tired during the evenings. I even took a nap of 1h30 on day 3, it wasn't on purpose. Need to sleep earlier :s Day 5 ✔️ (not finished yet, but I guess it will be fine) Not tired, since I could sleep in (it's Saturday), but I wasn't motivated. I spent a lot of my free time watching anime, at least it's not video games. I'd like to do more productive things, but it's not easy.

Day 2 ✔️ This day, I felt more focused during work, maybe because of a slightly better sleep, or the lack or video games (or both). But this evening, I was really tired, maybe more than yesterday. I guess the excitation I get usually with video games prevents me to feel tired. I know I need to sleep more, but it's hard to go to bed early. Yesterday, I checked the news about a video game on the internet, but didn't find anything. I shouldn't do that, that's why I didn't do it today. See you

Hi good luck ! I could be your accountability buddy if you want ^^ Don't give up, even for 5min. If you feel like you waste your time, try to not waste it by doing some basic tasks. It's not much, but it's better than nothing. And playing several hours in a game brings next to nothing IRL.

Hi, I know the pandemic sucks, but we can do so many things on the internet. You said you want to explore, you can watch so many parts of the world on youtube for example : a country, a city, nature (mountains, beaches, forests, animals, etc.) You can search almost anything on the internet, on wikipedia for example. The only problem, is to know what to search ^^ You could make a list of what you want to explore or learn. When I'm bored, I listened to some music and I do some tasks, or just surfing a bit on the internet (not too long). You could try to listen to epic musics, like Two Steps From Hell

Stay strong ! I think you've made the right choice. It's not easy to say no, but you did it. This way, you reduce the risk to relapse. Other people think it is not a big deal to play video games, but it is for us, it's one of our weaknesses. Like cigarettes, alcohol, gambling are a weakness for some people. Try to find something else to do or share with him (funny videos, memes, etc.) With more than 200 days, continue like that, you're inspiring.

Hi, good thing you want to stop these hobbies that are destructive for you (and us). Better late than never, good luck for the hard (but rewarding) journey ahead.

Day 1 : ok I was really tired this evening, because of the lack of sleep, and not being excited with video games. I will go to sleep earlier than usual 👍 I also did some tasks this evening, because I didn't spend hours with video games, or surf on the internet. I was really bored a moment, so I listened to a dynamic music, that was better. See you

Day 0 Let's try again !

Day 4 ✔️ I feel like it’s been 14 days, but no, only 4. Maybe because I have too much time on my hands now. Even if I haven’t slept enough, I felt good this day. Work wasn’t stressful, that was nice. When I came home, I focused on my chores, without internet, without music. And when I was done with a chore, I did another chore, etc. Only when I was done with almost everything, I relaxed. Usually I never do that, I do the bare minimum, and tell myself that I’ll do the rest during the weekend, and it never works ^^ Spanish : ok, work out : not yet, went to bed around : before 1:30 (nok) Maybe I won’t post every day, so don’t worry about it. I know now that I should never play video games again.

Day 3 ✔️ Spanish : ok (only a few minutes), workout : nok, went to bed around : 3:30 (nok) A little moment of sadness in the evening. Since I wasn’t really productive during the weekend, I told myself : “What’s the difference between now and when I play ? If I play or not, I am not productive. So what’s the point of quitting video games ?” And I remember that it is basically my state of mind when I relapse : “no great difference than before, so let’s go back to gaming, at least I will be “productive” (“achievements”, rewards, etc.)” So for now it isn’t an urge to play, but an urge to be productive. But in real life, we don’t get rewards every 5 minutes because we do some stupid tasks lol. So I wasn’t really tempted to play, each time I was thinking a little about my game, I told myself : “no no no, don’t think about that” and then I was thinking about something else. It’s working so far. Providing advices on this forum is a great feeling, I hope I can help other people that struggle with this problem like me. I feel I mustn’t disappoint them. How can I give advices, and then fail to apply my own advices ? I have to be strong and be a good example, for me and the others.

Thank you for your feedback. In fact, I'm not interested by other games, but only by 1, for 5 years.

Distract yourself from that. You can watch funny things on the internet (youtube, 9gag...), or do something else enjoyable. It's even better if you do something productive (any chore), you will feel good about yourself. But I know it's not easy to do something productive when we have urges.