Dannigan

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  1. Detox: 41/90 Wednesday 90 Days of Journal: 41/90 (older entries are gone forever, starting again) Time: 5:45 a.m. Sugar Free: Day 6 $1.00 per Day for Not Gaming: $41 total Long-term Goals ~ complete 90 Day Detox, 90 days of writing in my journal ~ continue living a life boldly, full of adventure, without relying on video games for fulfillment ~save money to buy a home closer to work by the end of next year 2019 ~ visit Peru and hike up to Machu Picchu some time in 2019 ~ maintain a ketogenic diet ~ nurture my relationships, romantic and platonic ~ plant my own garden in my new home ~ maintain a presentable outward appearance, nurture inner beauty Feelings: I feel pretty good, had about seven hours of sleep, woke up at 5;15 a.m. this morning. I'm looking forward to another productive day at work. I felt proud of myself yesterday for getting through teaching a large class at work. My colleague helped fill out some forms in the end, so it was a success. I felt less stress and supported. Short reflection: My dad's a simple man. He is intelligent, but I noticed that he lives life in a simple way. He spends copious amounts of time in his garden, doesn't spend money on needless things, recycles and reuses, and enjoys some time watching his favourite shows on television. He enjoys his simple life and I envy that. His favourite phrase is, "Everything adds up." I appreciate his perspective, because when I look back at my journal, I can see how every task I do adds up to become a greater goal: a development of habit and routine. This is important to me, because every task I complete, every goal I accomplish, is a stepping stone towards completing larger goals in my life. When I was a gamer, time felt like it had no meaning anymore. Five hours could easily feel like one hour. Whereas nowadays, I use every minute of my time because it is so precious and it is fleeting. I want quality of life and time spent wisely. This doesn't mean that I must cram so many activities into my day. No. It's about quality, staying in the present, enjoying resting times too. Daily accomplishments: (yesterday) - go to the gym after work today (45 minutes) completed - visit the library, do more reading, finish online module, work on the puzzle (2 hours) partial completion - prepare meals for today and tomorrow (1.5 hours max) completed - get to sleep by 9:00 p.m.went to sleep at 10:00 p.m. - turn off cell phone the entire day until I get home completed To-Do list: - go to the gym after work today (45 minutes upper body training, cardio) - finish two more learning modules at the library, work on the puzzle (2 hours) - turn off phone until I get home for supper - spend time with mom in the afternoon - continue with sewing project, finishing sewing sleeves and lining (1 hour) Gratefulness: - relaxing early mornings before work - time well spent - bullet proof coffee I'm wishing everyone a productive, game-free day or week. Stay strong, and if you fall, get back up again with a revised plan. Over and out! ~ Dani
  2. Keep at it ! :) You're doing very well!
  3. Hey there, @Piotr Is this a lingering feeling lately? It seems you just had a nice time at the barbecue with friends. I think those are great times to look back upon. Happiness never stays in one place in life. It comes and goes, never consistent. It's unfortunate, but that's how life is, truly. Jann Arden, a famous Canadian singer, once stated "I'd rather be content, than be happy. At least contentment stays with you even though life can get unbearable." I never understood what she meant until recently. Happiness is fleeting. Now, your question about the longer feelings of emptiness.....I wonder if you feel other things are missing in life? You definitely have the social component already, as you described you felt happy around your friends at the barbecue. So, maybe you can ask yourself questions like, what am I missing in life? Do I lack something spiritual? This can be a Higher Power, or feeling content around nature, meditation, etc. Maybe explore that side of yourself. Do you miss having an activity that means something more to you? Sometimes it's about giving back to a community, or giving to a person, or a cause. Whether that's political, social activism, environmental issues, preservation of a species that is endangered, world wide issues like poverty, creative writing, expressing yourself through poetry or art or sculpture. Essentially, do you feel like you lack a purpose in life? And those are questions to ask yourself, as you are the expert and have the answers deep inside. I hope this helps.
  4. I completely respect your decision to leave. I hope you did gain a lot of positive feedback here. I admit, I am saddened to learn that you're going. There are not many females on this forum, and it's hard to lose another community member. Your insights have been invaluable. And if you decide to come back, you'd be welcomed with open arms. Sincerely, Dani
  5. I hope you're doing ok. :/ I can recommend one helpful thing to do, especially if you're going through some up and down emotions. Keep a consistent sleep regime. I really stress this because I know that lack of sleep or any major and prolonged disturbance in my sleep, will make me emotional. Sleep is a foundation to feel good and to regulate our bodies and mind. It also helps ease anxiety if you have a rested sleep. I just want to say that you're doing so well with your detox, and it's great you have a new job! I think you have a lot of things to do, and look forward to besides gaming. Take things slowly, don't over-load yourself with too many activities that it costs you energy, and sleep. That's the only unsolicited advice I can give. This applies to myself and everyone, really. It took me a while to figure out that I'm more of a morning person, and have more energy to do tasks earlier in the day than at night. It might be different for you, in that you could be a night-owl. So, it's just a matter of figuring yourself out, and having enough rest every day so that you feel good. Take care.
  6. @Oak lee, I read your previous post before you deleted it. Hang in there. Those feelings will pass. Kind regards, ~ Dani
  7. Lots of very thoughtful perspectives, @Arch. I don't have much time to respond, as I must get to work in another fifteen minutes. But I can relate to those feelings of being over-stimulated with too many people talking all at once. Sometimes I think that exposure is good, even if you are HSP. The world can't always be a serene, quiet, and stress-free place. I do understand that some things are less tolerable than others, but you survived and you don't have to come home to that sort of chaos. As for the young children playing Minecraft, that's an astute observation. Yes, it's difficult and frustrating to see children absorbed into a video game at such a young age. Personally, I think children should not be exposed to digital entertain like that until they are in their teens. Neurologically, it is very over-stimulating for a young child. I grew up with my siblings without video games. We spent our days playing outside, enjoying nature, using our IMAGINATION and conjuring up fascinating stories, pretending to be in a desert or wilderness or a grand castle. It was the most fun I've ever had in my entire life. To this day, I reflect on my childhood as being a supreme example of what FUN is truly like when you are a kid, and have the freedom to express yourself through imagination and creativity.
  8. Welcome to the community, and I hope you find it helpful!
  9. Glad to have you here! Welcome!
  10. @tidus, Welcome to the community!
  11. @info-gatherer, I am really glad you decided to stay around here to write a journal if it is helping you stay on track! I was actually going to quit writing here and focus on a private journal. But decided to do both. I also notice that it is helping me stay focused on short-term goals. Very interesting. People under-estimate how powerful this journal writing can be. You have a great father, he really reached out to you. Must have felt good to receive a hug from him. I am also so excited for you about Paris. You must post pictures of that place. I would love to visit it one day, after my trip to Peru next year. :) Kind regards, Dani
  12. Detox: 40/90 Tuesday 90 Days of Journal: 40/90 (other entries are gone forever, starting again) Time: 8:18 a.m. Sugar Free: Day 5 $1.00 per Day for Not Gaming: $40 total Long-term Goals ~ complete 90 Day Detox, 90 days of journalling ~ continue living a life boldly, full of adventure, without relying on video games for fulfillment ~save money to buy a home closer to work by the end of next year 2019 ~ visit Peru and hike up to Machu Picchu some time in 2019 ~ maintain a ketogenic diet ~ nurture my relationships, romantic and platonic ~ plant my own garden in my new home ~ maintain a presentable outward appearance, nurture inner beauty Feelings: some anxiety about work, glad to have two hours before work to feel relaxed, feel well rested with seven hours of sleep, looking forward to the afternoon after work and also my knitting group this week. Short reflection: It feels good to have another private diary to write in, other than this forum. I hope to continue with both journals for long-term. This forum is great, but all too often people come and go. This means that I cannot rely on the internet for constant feedback. When I do receive comments, I am grateful. But like @Some Yahoo mentioned not long ago, "the internet will not be there for you". It's true. I've met some great folks here. I hope they will continue the journey wherever they may be. Daily accomplishments: - visited Granville Island, spent most of the day there - treated myself out to a nice restaurant, a cooking school that was run by the students - donated more clothing and house hold items, Spring Cleaning continues... - sister came over to visit with my six month old niece, nice to socialize for a bit To-Do list: - go to the gym after work today (45 minutes) - visit the library, do more reading, finish online module, work on the puzzle (2 hours) - prepare meals for today and tomorrow (1.5 hours max) - get to sleep by 9:00 p.m. - turn off cell phone the entire day until I get home Gratefulness: - human contact - sleep - sunshine Over and out! ~ Dani
  13. Detox: 39/90 Monday Time: 9:15 a.m. Sugar Free: Day 4 Long-term Goals ~ complete 90 Day Detox ~ continue living a life boldly, full of adventure, without relying on video games for fulfillment ~save money to buy a home closer to work by the end of next year 2019 ~ visit Peru and hike up to Machu Picchu some time in 2019 ~ maintain a ketogenic diet ~ nurture my relationships, romantic and platonic ~ plant my own garden in my new home ~ maintain a presentable outward appearance, nurture inner beauty Feelings: calm, happy, looking forward to exploring different parts of the city today, no urge to game, content. Short reflection: My appearance is very important to me. I don't mean to sound superficial. This is coming from a self-esteem perspective. When you look good, you feel good. And what you look like also affects how other people treat you. It doesn't have to be about buying fashionable clothing. It could be anything small like your posture. Standing straight and tall, shoulders back, and chin up exudes a quiet confidence. Taking care of your body, what you look like, and posture are the basics of feeling confident and self-assured. Gratefulness: having a sense of wonder about the world, God Over and out, ~ Dani
  14. @TheCrystalLake, Hello again. I deleted my previous response because I think it came across as patronizing. Plus, I didn't read your entire journal until now. The last thing I want to do is discourage you. The emotions you're feeling now could be the detox. I also suspect it's due to other changes in your life: a new job, a new daily schedule, altered sleep patterns due to being out late, and the anxiety disorder. Other than those factors, feeling a sense of 'loss' is common during detox, and what I mean is that you miss your gaming clan. I don't think that will ever go away. You know your game friends best, and you probably know when to contact them and what to talk about. Still, being in a game regularly and seeing your friends online regularly is the 'familiarity that we miss'. I miss my gaming community too sometimes. So, yeah, I can relate. I read through your journal. Now I see the bigger picture, I think. I don't blame you for missing the companionship of a romantic partner in life. I've been single longer than you have, but I still distinctly remember how comforting it was to be with somebody that you are attracted to, and got along with. I will share something personal. My last relationship ended badly. He cheated on me. To this day, I think I have trust issues and that is a big component about why I have not attempted dating in an aggressive way, to find another partner. I'm discussing this with my therapist currently, so it's a work-in-progress. :) As for you, I think the online dating scene can be good and bad. I won't list the bad reasons. Since you work part-time, I wonder if you can join a hobby group? A lot of guys join physically active sports groups. Even though it's not necessarily a dating arena, you're around people that don't have judgments of you before they meet you. Also, doing something physically challenging improves your confidence and boosts self-esteem. I feel the same loneliness sometimes, but I think I'm imprisoning myself by not taking more chances out there. I want to keep challenging myself to be open to possibilities. That means talking to people and sharing things about myself. Also, I think that you don't have to present yourself as perfect. Sometimes building a connections means being vulnerable. I'm learning about this too. Anyway, I hope I don't sound like I'm trying to solve your problem. It isn't that simple. All I wanted to do was share my own experience, and maybe this will give you insight, or help you learn from my own mistakes. Sincerely, ~ Dani
  15. I totally relate, @BigOlBeartic I had to turn off my phone last weekend. It was a drastic thing to do, but I had to. I was out exploring a new town I've never been to, and I didn't want my phone to be a person 'pager'. :( I have to move my phone away from my bedroom too before I got to sleep, because, MAN....I reach for it to browse the internet and Game Quitters! And yes, I am guilty too of browsing GQ for multiple hours combined in a day. I'm lessening it to under two hours a day. It helps when I post my journal in the early morning, and then turn off my phone, or I get out of the house and away from the computer. I'm working on it....it's getting better. You're doing well so far with your detox! I wish you all the best with the other detoxes you plan on doing too. One day at a time.... :)