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About razvan_ung

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  1. The Humans by Matt Haig. It's a pretty light read.
  2. Yeah, this is the kind of thing I am on a lookout for as well. I had tried quitting games before, and slid into binge watching Netflix, then returned to games because I thought "well, at least games are more interactive." Not good. I like your idea re: a daily permit. I think I'll implement that.
  3. I'm not yet 90 days clean, but I get what you are saying. About 45 days in, and I still primarily feel the hole quitting left. I've quit drinking 13 months ago, and even now I am struggling - not with cravings, but with the gap it left in my life. Social life has gone to shit, family gatherings are weird without drinking, going out feels less fun, etc. But the health benefits of not drinking are awesome and I'm so glad I stopped. Gaming, on the other hand, was not as physically harmful, so it's hard to fill that gap and to get the same joy out of other things. My observation is that quitting anything big is not so much about the immediate cravings or symptoms - those are manageable with a bit of willpower and patience; it is about the monumental task of figuring out my own life. "Now what?" is the question that is always on my mind. As if gaming was this like 20+ year long dream from which I finally awoke. This is a massive task! It's actually frightening. It's almost like I was just pulled out of the Matrix. Deer in the headlights. And I don't know if people who have not been gamers can easily understand this. So, maybe one day, as you said, I will find all the answers. I hope you do too!
  4. Thanks for the reply and the suggestions. Really liked this part of your reply (quoted above). It immediately made me think that even as I gamed I kept thinking of a couple of things I wanted to do more of: writing, reading books, and enjoying the outdoors during summer. At this (still) early phase, I think I am struggling with the instant gratification aspect of gaming. All those activities are things I can do almost anytime, and yet I kept choosing games over them. The point you make about perseverance makes sense. Passion for something doesn't magically appear overnight. I guess my main take away is, at this point, patience. I need to try some things out, keep at them for a bit to get a feel for them, then decide what I keep and what is not for me. Thanks again!
  5. I'm 42 days in and honestly not much changed for me other than using the (many) hours of gaming to do other things. Unfortunately, I'm still trying to figure out something else that I can be passionate about. So far, instead of gaming, I do spend a lot more time with my wife and my dog. But I also watch more Netflix with her, which is not much better than gaming, although I guess it's less solitary. I'm reading more, which is good too. I think I need to figure out something more concrete to invest energy in, and to draw out a sense of accomplishment like I did from games. Maybe a sport? Or writing? I guess 42 days in I have more questions than answers.
  6. Hello, My name is Razvan and I stopped gaming 42 days ago. I tried before, and failed. I hope this time I succeed. I took a more drastic approach this time around: sold PC sold PS4 deleted all accounts (Steam, PSN, Blizzard) The first couple of weeks were surprisingly easy. It is only now that stronger cravings are hitting me pretty often. I have experience quitting cigarettes and alcohol, but I think gaming, for me, is an even stronger addiction. This makes sense: I have been playing games since I was 12 years old if not younger. I had only started smoking and drinking when I was of legal age in the province I lived in back then. I'm in my early 30s, and I have a strong sense of regret that I wasted my 20s in front of a computer screen. I hope I will be able to tell a different story about my 30s. Something worth telling stories about. Something worth writing about. Or at least something more to remember other than pushing pixels on an LCD array. I look forward to reading others' stories here and finding support when willpower is wavering. I hope I'll be able to help others, too. Thanks for reading, Razvan
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