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Hey Miguel! Always great to have another journal up here. Excited to follow your 30 day challenge!

Thanks! Happy you found it valuable. I'm thinking of doing an update to it soon. Remember, many of our feelings are similar. Take for instance, nervousness & excitement. In many ways, they are similar, one's just a bit more on the "negative" side of the spectrum and the other is on the "positive". But the feelings and experience in our bodies tends to be similar. Butterflies, etc. I'd encourage you to read up on the concept of Equanimity. Also I just noticed I have over 1,000 posts on here now.

Hey Alex! Thanks for the question. The 30 day challenge is what I built for those who have quit gaming and are now looking to start taking their life to the next level. It's a lot of fun and action-focused. It contains a lot of the best stuff I've learned on this personal development journey the last seven years or so. If you want to see what others think about it, check out the journal of Florian and Travis. They have been going through it the last few weeks. You can also read Matthias' journal, he went through it this summer and finished all 30 days. I think hearing what others think is always best. Personally, I released it because I believe in it. So far you've been doing great, and some of the things you've been doing are featured in the Challenge (like The Slight Edge). But there's a lot still in it that you could learn and benefit from! Also, one note: the dream board you're referencing is one of the first five missions in the Challenge. Respawn is a different product (I have a BIG update coming to it soon, hopefully next week.) They are designed to work together. Respawn helps you quit gaming (5 steps), and then the Challenge helps you with important skills/characteristics you need once you quit, things like build momentum, develop key habits, improve your courage and social skills, increase your discipline, and your empathy in 30 fun (well, some may disagree on some of them ) missions. Anyways, just wanted to clarify that. Let me know if you have any other questions!

With your brother you can try 1 hour/week and leave it there. If you find it's causing other issues, I'd recommend finding an alternative way to spend time together. For instance, a 30 minute phone call would be wonders for the relationship too. Find the best of both if you can.

Good job grabbing your routine in the afternoon and not letting it slide for the day.

If you're waking up groggy in the morning, two things to think about: 1) Go to bed before 11pm. 2) Wake up and drink three glasses of water (or 1 BIG one). Have this next to your bed when you wake up and slam it. Awesome to hear about the volunteering.

Can't wait to hear about the dinner party. One idea is during dinner, you could come up with a few different questions to go around and have each person answer. For example, give each person an opportunity to introduce themselves and share one thing they were grateful for this week. That sort of thing. Good way to get to know each other a bit more.

+1 to volunteering! That's a fantastic way to give back. And it also helps you develop more empathy.

Awesome to hear the TEDx event was a hit! Well done.

+1 to Green tea!

Your response to how you were feeling today is spot on. Big ups for that man.

Hey! In some ways, cravings are similar to desire, but maybe from more of an uncontrolled state. "Uncontrolled desire" which is heavily influenced by other factors (ie: it's not as "natural") but "appears" natural. Ie: you crave sugar, and you think you just want sugar when in reality it's because of how sugar has influenced your body and brain, it's not so much of a natural thing. As I shared in this video, one of my friends, Oscar is a Chinese doctor and he taught me how cravings are a form of momentum. So, if you eat unhealthy food, you build momentum in that direction and crave it, whereas the opposite is also true. The instant gratification link is there for sure. Think of it with gaming. Your brain's "expectation" is to have that level of high stimulation (high intensity, instant gratification), so that's what it's used to - that's where your momentum is.

Hey Miguel! Great to have you join us here! Sorry for the late reply, my keyboard was broken and it finally got fixed today. BTW, I have a sticker en route to you right now! Congrats on 57 days so far! That's truly incredible and you should feel proud of yourself. We're here to support you so let us know how we can help.

Awesome to hear how things have improved for you since you've quit! Proud of you.

Yep.

Hey Daryl. One of the mindset shifts for me is about not borrowing from tomorrow. What this means is I try to live each day as its own day, its own 24 hours, and I try to maximize each day instead of say, having a ton of fun one day and then being hungover/too tired to do anything the next day. I try to maximize each day instead. At night, being off the computer is best (screens keep you awake), so reading, drinking tea, things that calm your system down are good. Exercise is key earlier in the day to help you fall asleep at night. I used to be a nightowl as well but now I'm less of one.

New Neighbor - Convo with the was good. Now the next time you see him you have more rapport established and you can continue building a relationship. Jenny - You did a good job on your pacing when you introduced yourself, very smooth, good timing. You got a bit uncomfortable with your "eject" and overcompensated a bit "don't wait too long, don't get too cold", but that's ok. When you're ready to eject in the future, just, "anyways, Thanks... hope you have a great day!"that sort of thing is fine. Sri Lanka - Your opening was good. Contextual. Got the conversation going, transition to Germany was good. Your introduction was rushed (you were almost done with the groceries), so that's alright. Joanne - Great opening. You can tell you were inspired and spontaneous (listen to the energy in your voice, it's a lot more natural during the opening). After the initial open you probably stayed on the hair topic too long which killed some of the momentum of the conversation, but your introduction was solid. Now next time you see her you have more rapport. Florio - Haha this is awesome. A good example of how when you're a bit more social you create more social opportunities. Sorry - Good job Pinky - Haha yikes.

Yes, that will make a big difference!

Woohoo!!

Hey Daryl! Another member from the Netherlands! Very cool. There are a few other members (Tom, Phoenix and some others) who have had a meetup in the past, so keep an eye out for them as well. Also, I just have to say... I LOVE AMSTERDAM. Selling your account is ok if that's what you want to do - I'm not opposed to it. Just approach with caution as you take the screenshots that you don't justify just playing one game. We're here for you so let us know how we can help. I'm excited for you to get access to Respawn v4 here in the next week or two (I'm just finishing the last touches on it now.)

I relate to the not afraid to speak your mind getting you in trouble growing up. I think that has a lot more to do with the silly expectations we have of kids and the poor school system (in my experience) than it has to do with our willingness to speak up being a bad thing. If anything, it's a sign of leadership.

Great post! Remember Jay, personal development is about becoming the best version of yourself... so you already have certain good qualities - being honest, having integrity, etc - so as you dive deeper into your personal development you'll only amplify the good parts and learn about the others as well.

Another way you can approach programming is to be more specific with exactly what you are going to work on with it. For example, on the days I'm most productive, I know exactly what I need to be working on. For instance, today I will be very productive because: - First I need to respond to emails, comments and the forum. Currently doing that. - Next I need to complete the worksheets for Respawn v4. - After that I will probably need to take a break/have lunch, and will likely head home. - Then I can work on uploading the worksheets, audio files, slides and other files to the new Game Quitters membership site. - Once that is complete, I need to update and organize the Respawn v4 ebook. I will likely only get to complete the worksheets and maybe some uploading today. But it's easy for me to get going when I get to the office because I know what I need to work on. Compare that to if I came to the office and didn't have this written down, I would spend 30-60 minutes trying to figure out what to do, my momentum is low and by then I'm likely to just keep putting it off. So what exactly do you need to complete for Python programming? Is it a specific course? Can you spend 30 minutes working on it today? That's how you will build momentum.

Exactly. It has to do with mirror neurons in our brain. Look it up.