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I am suffering (emotionally) at the moment. At first, I was angry. I felt like I was "lied to" and "wasted my time". Then I was sad. I'm still sad. I feel so "worthless" and "inadequate" to the world around me. Don't we all want to be "used" in some way? Like, we all want to be useful in a dignified manner, wouldn't you agree? I was hoping to find some satisfaction in this regard today and I found none at all. I feel used cheaply and pathetically instead. It's difficult to imagine finding 1 or more sustainable sources for this satisfaction; times and places where I "belong" are few and far between and rarely put food on the table, so to speak. It's difficult but I have to trust in the possibility. Otherwise, I don't see the point in subjecting myself to further "usage". Did you know? In software development, when a piece of software is "retired" or "shelved" (no more support, no more updates) it is colloquially referred to as having "reached its EOL" (End Of Life). I wonder how close I am to my EOL because it sure feels like "support" is lacking these days. Good luck folks. I'm gonna go look at some cute puppers online now.

Prisoner of Unreasonable Doubt For the past several months I haven't experienced much (if any) growth in my career and health. The outcomes from my efforts, the little of which I have brought forth, haven't made much of a difference. However, I am seeing some changes to the "spiritual" aspect of my life. Since my last post, on Aug 26th, I have been attending online meetings with a sangha (a Buddhist group/community) on a weekly basis (except for Labor Day, naturally). During these meetings, a teacher leads the conversation. They start by welcoming newcomers and invite them to speak a little about themselves and their practice. Then, the teacher gives us a prompt/topic/question and sends us out in random groups of ~3 to discuss. Upon our return, we are invited to share anything that stood out for us during these conversations with the whole sangha. Finally, we ease into a long meditation for the time we have left (typically 30-45 minutes) before a friendly goodbye. The topic the sangha had been discussing when I joined and still up to this day is that of the 5 hindrances. These are the types of cognitive experiences that may become obstacles to our mindfulness - during meditation and our daily lives - as per the Buddha's teachings. Pleasure (Sensory) Frustration ("Ill-Will") Fatigue Restlessness Doubt It is normal to experience these kinds of thoughts. The goal, for me at least, isn't to completely eradicate these. Rather, my goal is to notice them and gently try to prevent them from completely controlling the rest of my thoughts and attention. I'm glad that I joined the sangha in time to take part in and listen to discussions on the hindrance of doubt. The kind of doubt we are talking about here is mostly self-doubt; i.e., doubt in one's own abilities. Mind you, it also seems to me that some doubt can help put the hindrances in check, keeping us grounded in reality. However, doubt becomes a problem/obstacle when it prevents us from making a reasonable effort. When I ask myself "Am I doing this right? Can I even succeed? Why am I even doing this?", with limited time and resources to investigate, I am often causing myself harm. Someone in the sangha said something akin to the following: That thought was insightful for me. There will always be gaps in my understanding, the foundation of my confidence in every action I take. Growing up, I was pressured to fill that gap with "God" but I ultimately rejected this approach. As difficult as it is, I think I am getting more and more comfortable with admitting "I don't know" when it comes to the bigger and rarer questions. I believe it's about time I let myself say the same for smaller, more day-to-day details. I think that the difference between experiencing mindfulness and practicing mindfulness, is that the former will simply notice the hindrance of doubt and hope that it goes away, while the latter will notice doubt and balance the excess out with trust. With continued practice, I hope to identify more with the latter. May I trust in myself and my efforts so that this may lead to progress in my career and health. peace out folks.

I achieved a few things on the day I made my last post. Nothing groundbreaking from any other person's point of view but I was satisfied. I had done some chores, signed up for activities, made that post, and attended my first online Sangha session, trying my best to make my life (with all its discomforts) feel "worth living". Of course, the day couldn't end on a positive note. No, one of my teeth had to break later that evening. To be fair, it could've been worse. In a sense, I was lucky. First, the tooth that broke is a back one I had a lot of work done on - including a root canal. Hence, I wasn't in any pain (yet). Second, I managed to get an appointment within the ~11 days of insurance coverage I had left. The problem is too complicated to adequately fix in a single appointment, but I did at least get a temporary fix, a "band-aid" so to speak. The full prognosis is that I will probably need to see a specialist and get surgery to save that tooth - something I can't afford on my own - and I don't know how long that "band-aid" is going to last. Anyway, these are problems for another day. Today, I'm just trying to come back down from the traumatic experience that going to the dentist tends to be (inevitably). The drills, needles, picks... the blood... the physical and psychological tension of having your mouth pried open. My hands always end up clasping the chair handles and my feet shake. It's been >30 minutes and my hands are still shaking. It's at moments like this that I wish my parents were closer (geographically) cause I could really use a hug right about now. Anyways, I have my second online Sangha session tonight and I'm making this post now. Just recognizing my discomfort is an important step that is being taken. It won't last forever. Hopefully, I will sleep well tonight. If not, then tomorrow. Thank you @Pochatok for your like and reply. Your compassion is much appreciated. Peace out folks.

Anxiety In my post, more than 2 months ago I opened with the following: The same can be said now. I'm still unemployed, mostly since I haven't tried to find employment in the first place - I say "mostly" because I don't know what my odds of succeeding would've been, had I put in some effort. I had weekly social things going on in July, which were good for my morale but these events have not been available to me yet in August. I'm lonely. I'm coping by distracting myself mostly... A more effective treatment for loneliness is genuine human connection, which takes time to cultivate. Staying home alone isn't helping. My therapist has thrown many reasonable suggestions at me. Ideas that could turn into fulfilling hobbies/activities. Yet, I haven't picked up a single one. Why? ... I'm trying to remember how I react when these suggestions/ideas are handed to me... I remember feeling "afraid", too afraid to try, too afraid to even contemplate the suggestion/idea further. I've heard things along the lines of "anxiety and depression are two sides of the same coin", that you can't have one without some of the other, etc. I failed to see that in my case - only ascribing depression - until recently. It's anxiety that prevents me from escaping the cycle(s) that lead to depression. The more anxious we are, the more inclined we will to resort to the instinctive fight, flight, freeze, or fawn response. In my case, that would be "freeze", I think, because I'm afraid of failing in the eyes of others, I'm afraid of not living up to expectations/goals and ultimately, I'm afraid of being abandoned/rejected. I don't think there's any way of dispelling this anxiety, at least, not completely. It would be more effective to be mindful of it and treat it with kindness and respect. This anxiety is a part of who I am at the moment, and cannot be excised. I will consider meditating on this for the rest of the week and see how it goes.

I don’t want to [...] just sleep all day. [...] after playing the piano for an hour I get tired and want to move on to other activities Friend, if you feel tired, then you have every reason to rest. First of all, you do not have to be "productive" all the time, not all of your behavior needs to serve a "greater purpose". The idea that sloth is sinful and "hard" work is salvation (Puritan/Protestant work ethic) is just that, an idea, not a fact. Second, it is quite reasonable to assume gaming was an escape from the exhaustion (emotional and physical) of everyday life you now face. It will take some time to find a new healthier balance and there will often be things hindering that balance. It's only been a couple of days, it will take longer to find what you need and feel less "lost". That said, if you are just looking for more ideas for hobbies/pass-times, you can always google workshops/courses/clubs in your area. It's surprising how some are low-cost or almost free. Personally, one thing I tend to enjoy and want to get more into is improv. I try to go to "jams" (open get-togethers) once a week and go see a show now and then. I do need to push myself a bit, social anxiety and low self-esteem can be a hindrance but I have proven some pre-suppositions wrong at times (i.e., things went better than expected). I hope to make friends in the long term, friends that I can hang out and talk with outside of improv events. It's been ~2 weeks since you created this thread. I hope you are doing well. Good luck going forward mate.

Monday wasn't a good day. Nothing bad happened to me, it was like I decided to have a bad day. I'm not helping myself with the language I am using here: "good" vs "bad"; so vague for the amount of weight they bring. So, let's be more specific and fair. I had an unproductive day, a day of "binging" so to speak. I didn't shower. I didn't get dressed. I ate junk food, played video games, and watched anime all day. There were moments of self-awareness but I chose to continue fleeing/avoiding judgment/guilt; I felt ashamed - I didn't want anyone to see me the way I was - like I was a "bad" person (there's that language again). I'm not a "bad" person. I make mistakes all the time, sure, but who doesn't? I've made these mistakes - hurting myself and/or others - more often than I'm willing to accept though... Now that I think about it, the bar for the "acceptable range" is pretty low; too low perhaps. Regarding yesterday, all the "damage" done didn't directly involve others, it was directed at me exclusively. Was it even intentional? I was foolishly neglectful of my needs and/or overindulgent in my wants. But that was yesterday. There might (probably will) be similar instances in the future but at the moment, I am being more mindful, perhaps even productive on a personal/spiritual level. With some effort, it seems reasonable to deem the labeling of my entire identity as "bad", because of yesterday, harsh; just as instinctively, it seems reasonable to deem the labeling of my entire identity as "good", because of the present moment, meek. I am neither "good" nor "bad" overall. I like to think I am "good enough" overall at the moment. xD It takes a lot of cognitive effort at the moment (given the depression I'm going through) but I can forgive myself. That's an important skill to have/use. If I can't forgive myself, then I wouldn't allow myself to make mistakes, to take risks, to "live life" per se. In this light here's a sample of the lyrics from one of my favorite songs, Learning to Live by Dream Theater. Peace out folks. Hope you have a nice day.

It's been almost 2 months since my last post in this journal/thread. My situation hasn't significantly changed since then. I'm still unemployed, still gaming, floating between mild and moderate depression. To be honest, I don't think I can blame anybody but myself for this stagnancy. I openly admit I have barely put in extra effort towards change, especially career-wise. That same lack of motivation and "willpower" I've often struggled with. I'm stuck in this "cycle" of avoidance/procrastination so to speak. I'm repeating myself here, as I've expressed in my last several posts, this lifestyle is largely fueled by cynicism towards myself and the society I live in at large. It takes a lot to muster up the will to "keep trying" when it feels impossible. Even if I acknowledge the subjectivity and fallacious nature of this "impossibility", that I will certainly and probably have succeeded in more ways than I instinctively acknowledge, the feeling doesn't go away. If I keep waiting for this feeling to go away before acting, then I might never (if ever) act. I can't make this feeling go away. I must learn to accept it, live with it, and make "reasonable/wise" accommodations for it. Acceptance is a big topic in my psychotherapy. So I searched the word on YouTube and saw a video that I already watched and commented on it, ~2 years ago. So here I go... despite the awkwardness... dear me, It's ok that you feel it's almost impossible to improve/succeed in various aspects of life like health, career, and community. A lot of things happened to you... you wanted... heck, you deserved better. I'm proud that you haven't given up completely, and that you manage to muster up wisdom, courage, and strength. I believe you can make it out of this eventually. Keep thinking, keep trying and good luck. I love you man. TTYL. Peace out.

First of all, I'm not an expert, this is mostly my opinion based on personal experience. I've been to a lot of secular addiction group meetings (not the 12-step kind) in the past, though not recently. People go there to get support for a variety of addictions (drugs & alcohol, sex, social media, games, gambling, shopping, etc.). It helped me kick my marijuana addiction back in ~2016 but I still struggle with gaming. I haven't been off of games in quite some time and I must admit I'm falling behind in many areas. Anyways, a lot of newcomers to the support group would ask something along the lines of "Should I completely abstain, or can I allow myself to use on special occasions". I may be mistaken but I think it's the general belief in the field of psychology at least, that complete abstinence is the more reliable and effective treatment. After all, when we think about it, the rules are simple, clear, and rigid, thus we are less likely to "get away with it" if we end up "cheating" so to speak. While it may feel harder to get the ball rolling at first, one is less likely to relapse in the long term, I believe. If you want to go with a more "moderation" focused approach, that's fine, that's your choice and it's not impossible but it's more complicated. You must set clear rules, and you must hold yourself accountable. If you start bending the rules and don't acknowledge your guilt and regret your actions, well... why not bend these rules a little more next time? You get what I'm saying. It's more "risky" per se. I think @wheatbiscuit points out well what's important to do to recover: believe in yourself and the change you want to accomplish. You can find healthier alternatives for whatever you are trying to fill with gaming, if not let go of this craving altogether. What helped me quit marijuana in ~2016 was the people I met at meetings and other activities. It took some time, effort/courage, but after a while, I felt valued (despite my inadequacies) 3 to 4 times a week. Often enough personally, that back home, alone, I didn't have as much of an "empty feeling" to stave off. I could do things other than binge gaming or eating in between and it felt "good". Whatever, you decide to do, it's up to you comrade and I wish you luck. Don't hesitate to get professional help if you can and don't hesitate to come back here to share your experience. Peace out.

First of all, I'm not a mental health expert at all (I work in tech - software). So, this is just my opinion based on personal experience and thought. Addiction isn't just a feeling, though it certainly has to do with such. Addiction is when the behavior (given circumstances) causes irrational harm and one still engages in it over and over again. Are you neglecting responsibilities you would otherwise address? If you confidently and reasonably answer "no" then chances are, in my unqualified opinion, that you are not addicted to gaming. That your current approach to gaming is probably moderate/reasonable. Perhaps you are feeling like your current approach as "addictive" (i.e., at risk.of developing into an addiction). That would be a pretty wise observation. A lot of times we only question our desires and behaviors after we have personnally suffered consequences. If you set yourself boundaries now, and hold yourself accountable (rather then finding excuses) when you break them, well... I think your on a good path. I say "good path" because there is no universal "right path". Not all gamers become addicted. Regarding your last sentence... would you say that boredom/dissatisfaction extends overall of sorts? Like do you feel "chronically bored" per se? In that case you probably should talk to a therapist. It's possible that you suffer from mild or moderate depression, in which case yeah, you would be more vulnerable to develop an addiction. Everyone feels bored or disatisfied at times. The sentient experience... it's like we're always jumping from one sense of satisfaction, get acclimated, and jump to another. However, it would be worrying if you didn't have the will to make the more effective jumps, for whatever reason. Anyways, maybe you should speak to a psychotherapist. You'll almost surely get more accurate answers for yourself there, though it can be too expensive or unnaccessible in your area. It's like... don't wait for that lump or bump to grow and cause more pain before having it checked, so to speak. Good luck and take care.

I haven't made much of an effort to find a new job. So far, I've updated my resume and applied for a single job. I'm an honest and simple guy. I keep my resume short and to the point. The job posting was we are looking for X of Y with 2 years of Z experience. I was X of Y with ~10 years of Z experience. Seriously, it's almost like I was applying for something adjacent to what I was just laid off from. And yet, my application seems to have fallen on deaf ears. The whole process feels so tedious and futile; I feel commodified - stripped of all ideas and personality - every step of the way. It doesn't matter how honest and deep you look at yourself, just sprinkle as many buzzwords as you can on your profile/resume, call it a "skill", call it "experience", and hope to God someone gets tricked into selecting you. Curiosity, ambition, ideas, values? If you don't have the means to make it happen yourself, put all that aside, shut up, sit down, and do what you are told. Like God damn, even dating apps are better than this and I've been single (no benefits) for >10 years. Can I at least get a "sorry but not interested" from this 1 employer? Sheesh... Whenever I do a "what are my values" quiz or whatever, "honesty/authenticity" comes up all the time near the top for me. However, it seems like we live in a grifter's paradise these days. Being honest and accurate is for losers, it seems. Spread misinformation about yourself, others, and the world at large, it's all about quantity and not quality. That's the monster (i.e. the abyss) I feel I am up against, the type I am encouraged to become and it disgusts me. I don't know what the point of all this is meant to be. Maybe I'm just ranting. *sigh* ... honestly, I don't "really" want to work for anyone else on some "bigtech" product... I just don't want to have to worry about rent, food, and medical expenses while I do my best to make myself and others feel a bit better somehow. I feel too tired and frustrated for large ambitions right now. I just want to feel safe and welcome. Is that too much to ask for? Apparently so...

I lost my job today. I'm part of a "mass corporate layoff", so to speak. I'm at least getting a severance package, allegedly per the laws here (I don't know, I'm not a lawyer and I can't afford one). The income from this should keep me afloat for at least 2 months and I am eligible for provincial unemployment "benefits" (i.e., "welfare"); though in my experience the latter isn't even enough to pay rent (let alone other living expenses). I had a feeling this was coming and here it is. I got an email yesterday at 4pm to go to this very important meeting (with DO NOT SHARE/FOWARD THIS in the fine print), in less than 24 hours, in "that room" - the big conference one on the 1st floor, away from cubicles, close to the entrance/exit - with no specific project even being mentioned in the email. I was terrified and started to panic. I thought I was going to get "fired" with no compensation, I cried and lamented my existence for a while, lying in bed. I had just payed my credit card bill that day and realized I didn't have enough money to pay for another month of living expenses without cutting or selling off things even with my regular income. I had some pretty dark thoughts that I won't get into... thankfully I was only partially right. I am losing my job but with time to hopefully recover and find another one. This might turn out to be a blessing, you never know. I hated my job, or what it had become. It just did not help me fulfill any of my psychological needs, and barely helped me fulfill my physical ones. It's hard to feel safe, welcome, and valuable when you're finances have been dwindling for months. as you struggle with mental and physical health hurdles and get no raise to keep up with inflation. I hope that my next job, or rather the people that I work with, will give me a better chance to feel more welcome and valuable. There's no real lesson for me here. Although I try to leave political ideology out of my posts here, you probably know I'm more "anti" than "pro" capitalism. I was already disillusioned about the internal politics/competition and propaganda (shallow corporate "wokeness"). It doesn't matter how "good" of a person your manager and/or HR rep is, if upper management drops a ruling, they have to comply, no matter how arbitrary and unfair it might be. In the end, all workers (people) are more expendable than the trending corporate stock value. ~35-40 more people were laid off in the same meeting as me and the company reps expressed similar events happening in other departments and locations across the company. I'm just guessing but this could be a solid ~5% cut to the workforce worldwide. I'm lucky, in a sense, some people were in a more precarious position than I was. Some complained that their temporary residency in this country depended on this job. A woman, 6 or 7 months pregnant, complained that she was due to give birth just a few days after the "date of termination" she just learned about. I hope the "severance package" these people receive is adapted in accordance with these needs. I doubt it though. Anyways... I'm gonna try to be careful and even though I haven't completely abstained yet, I will do my best to avoid going down the binge-gaming path. I have some paperwork to do, and I have to go job hunting again soon while I can still afford to live. Wish me luck fellows.

Psychological Needs First of all, a little bit on Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. It is a motivational theory in psychology; a model - a coherent set of ideas/principles - that attempts to explain what motivates (i.e., compelles) people to act the way they do. There is more than one theory on this topic, of course, human psychology is a relatively young and nuanced field of study. One can approach the same problem from many different angles so to speak and so far there doesn't seem to be an all-encompassing one. Second, the "hierarchical" nature of the theory is more fluid than hierarchies are typically seen as. You don't have to fully fulfill your basic needs before experiencing motivation to fulfill psychological ones. However, a deficit in having lower/base needs met does tend to affect our motivation more than a deficit in higher/complex needs. It's also very likely that one motivation is affected by multiple different types of deficits to varying degrees. For example, people tackling medical issues often experience an identity/existential crisis of the sort in tandem with the ongoing or anticipated physical pain and suffering. On the other hand, just because I have several chronic conditions, I can expect some motivation to work on other needs, in between "flare-ups" and "mishaps" at least. Finally, I chose to use Maslow's theory in a rather arbitrary/instinctive manner; i.e., I didn't thoroughly educate myself on it or any other theory before choosing it. I'm not an expert at all and I didn't consult one either. This is 100% my opinion based on a very limited understanding. I'm just trying to make sense of my thoughts, feelings, and behavior for my practical purposes at this time. At other times I may find other motivational theories more practical. So... what are my psychological needs and how does my version of gaming fit (likely inadequately)? Belonging It's no secret that I am not part of any club/activity group at the moment, I'm not taking any classes, nor do I go out to social venues hoping to meet new people. I also work from home 99% of the time, with little to no feedback, after being forced to change teams mid 2023. At the moment, my only regular social activity is having that 1 friend over every Saturday. I would probably go insane without that friend. It hurts when one of us has to cancel. I think my general mood (frustration and sadness) is well demonstrated by the following song: Lonely Day by System Of A Down. I always struggled to nurture this sense of belonging. It feels daunting just to make plans and following through often leaves me feeling exhausted and disatisfied. What I crave, I suppose, is reliable intimacy and affection, something I shouldn't expect right from the beginning in my culture. It takes time to build bonds. It's almost like you have to "just be there" when someone is accidentally vulnerable to prove you won't take advantage of them. IDK, maybe most people just don't feel the need to be heard and valued as strongly as I do. ... *sigh*... it takes time but it's possible. Video games... at least the way that I engage with them, don't do that for me. I mostly play single-player games, sometimes deliberately distracting myself from the loneliness. Occasionally, I will "bond" with someone over similar feelings we've had playing similar (if not the same) games, I think that's the social aspect I'm afraid to miss out on. Video games are such a ubiquitous part of our culture now that it's easy to find people who have had similar experiences as you. You don't even have to ask, people have clothing, accessories, and decorations with video game artwork on them all the time. Every other hobby I had has been more niche and less relatable. Not that they are completely unrelatable, for example, I often find ways to compare my experiences playing and watching chess to that of sports. Still, this is more difficult than just talking about stuff we are both intimately familiar with. However, to deflate the value of gaming a bit, the modern experiences I share related to gaming are rarely "life-changing" to me, per se, nor has bin the sharing itself. It's almost like I'm trying to hold on to this quick hack/excuse for any conversation, it's not all the time I spend playing games alone at home that brings me the most joy, it's when I get the chance to casually share my experience that I feel the most joy. I need to go out more. I've said this many times but yeah... I need to take the time to cultivate more experiences in other areas so that I can share them. I need to meet people that I can share my experiences with. I've already done this at other times in my life, to a lesser degree, in improv and board games. To truly beat it, I need to persevere through the fear of rejection and abandonment, I need to prove my pessimistic assumptions wrong... I signed up for a casual improv night this week but I need to look into doing more activities. I should try going to the office sometime this week as well. It's much easier to strike up a casual conversation there than when I am at home. Esteem (To be continued...)

Journey to the Western Hemisphere (i.e., Self-Reflection): Why Do I Relapse? Alrighty, so... here's the journal entry I made immediately before my latest relapse: TW: Not too dark but does glorify instant gratification a bit. Maybe skip this if you feel vulnerable to temptation now. It ends abruptly there and it wouldn't have been unlike me to say "fuck it" and start indulging. For those who don't know me, I suffer from borderline personality disorder. What this means and what I find is reflected here is that I intuitively stray from the "balanced" perspective ("wise mind" in dialectical behavior therapy [i.e., DBT] or the "middle path" in spiritual lingo). I tend to either shut out my emotions too much (in DBT they call this "rational mind" but I prefer calling it "mechanical/industrial mind") or give in to my emotions too much ("emotional mind" in DBT or what I like to call "impulsive/animal mind"). I think that after neglecting - if not downright chastising - my desire for pleasure too much for 4-5 days, I flipped to the indulgence side, skipping a compromise. I was on the right path in the second paragraph, questioning my urges, my perspective, assumptions, etc. ... my emotions won overall control in the end but I wasn't too far off from "succeeding". So, what was missing? I'm not very skilled at identifying what my needs are and how to fulfill them. Maslow's Hierarchy of needs comes to mind: Basic Needs Physiological Safety Psychological Needs Belonging Esteem Self-Fulfillment Needs Self-Actualization One thing is certain to me, as is reflected in the first paragraph of the journal entry I shared: my desire for gratification/validation drastically outweighs the amount I am getting overall. I guess you could say where I am the most lacking is in psychological fulfillment; i.e., having my psychological needs met. It's hard to say why. is it that I desire too much? Is it that I'm not getting the right kind or amount from extrinsic sources? Is it that I am not intrinsically mustering enough for myself? Could it be that I am not recognizing and accepting from available sources of gratification/validation? Could it be, ALL OF THE ABOVE!? ... Probably, yeah... Ooof that's a lot of tough questions. I've been sitting here for like >2 hours and a new but very familiar neglected physiological need is arising: Hunger! I will attend to this need now. better late than never. I will digest these thoughts (and my meal) and come back tomorrow. I want to explore how my gaming fits into all of this, why it isn't enough, and where else I can look. P.S. Thank you so much for the feedback @Vee and @LevelUp. 🙂 I was having a bad morning but coming here and seeing this support lightened the mood.

Preparing to Try Again I ended up relapsing (to some degree) on the morrow of my last post. I don't remember a particular event that triggered me, just reaching the end of my emotional tolerance. I have a personal journal entry that reflects the state of mind I was in at the moment I gave in and I will see what I can extrapolate from it and what I can learn from it. It would've been possible to recover sooner but 2 days later I had a new medical emergency that shook me a bit. I rushed to my local emergency clinic. After 8-9 hours of wait time was diagnosed with Bell's palsy - half of my face is paralyzed due to temporary nerve damage. It was a relief that it wasn't a more serious neurological issue. Still, I had a special event I wanted to attend that upcoming weekend that I had to sit out of. The next weekend (the one that just passed), I had to cancel another attendance at a special event because of an eye infection (I am prone to these because of my dry eye syndrome). The physical effects are tolerable, from home at least but I can't deny the psychological impact. At times, I do feel like I am cursed, like a bad genetic role at birth or something, given all my medical issues. I know I'm not the only one and some people have it worse but yeah, most people don't have as many medical issues as I have at this age. So, I had a minor emotional meltdown yesterday. I was so angry and sad. I happened to have a session with my psychologist and he recommended that I take this week off - he even gave me a signed letter in case I needed to show it to my manager. So, yeah... I'm taking this week off. Still, I can't just sit here and use this an excuse to just play more games. First of all, I have to do everything in my power to recover from the eye infection, and staring at screens doesn't help. Second, what can I do to feel less tired and frustrated going forward? I just want to enjoy life more, you know what I'm saying? I don't know exactly what I need to change but I have to change something(s) to get out of this depression. I know gaming the way I do is one of those things I need to change. I'm not quitting today exactly, I need to think about this more, unpack theories on why I relapse, and what I can maybe do to improve my avoidance of or recovery from another relapse. I have some ideas... I feel like I am close to a kernel of wisdom I need to learn (or simply remember). I will try to come back and post about it here tomorrow or the day after. Anyway, I'm glad I have an account here and made all these journal entries. I'm glad I had all these replies from some of you folks. Thank you so much for the support, it's the main reason why I keep coming back from time to time, giving myself another chance. I have a personal journal entry that reflects the state of mind I was in at the moment I gave in and I will see what I can extrapolate from it and what I can learn from it.

4 Days In - More Auto-Saves Please I have been ~96 hours "sober". I experience cravings multiple times throughout the day. A combination of triggers: marketing (ads, and "recommended" content), sometimes triggered by routine, and sometimes triggered by discomfort. I'm experiencing some now because of the former and the latter. I logged into work this morning (I work from home 99% of the time) and found that most of the products of several hours of work I did last week disappeared. I was writing/documenting my work extensively on a web "ticket" (JIRA, for those familiar with the platform) and forgot to click "save". It's freaking 2024 and I still have to explicitly click "save" from time to time. Usually, I come back the next day, and my "draft" is still available but for whatever reason, this one was completely lost over the weekend. Whatever... I was sitting there, failing to find "the point" in putting in so much effort; how I was unlikely to receive any feedback down the line unless something broke; how I didn't even get a raise to match inflation for all my effort last year. I wanted a distraction, so I turned to YouTube, and find the "recommended videos" list filled to the brim with videos about games I have quit playing recently. The effort I put into killing enemies, building a base, etc. as pointless as it also is, at least gets fuckin' auto-saved in these modern games. *sigh* ... I came here to rant instead of giving in. I can congratulate myself for not giving in completely, not relapsing, at least. I'll get back to work after lunch. I think I'm just going to turn in what I have done so far. It's flawed but it works and I'm at my limits, I need to move on.