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  1. karabas

    Idea: total game-free days counter?

    Oh I didn't mean a counter in the profile... I'm just thinking that most people who have journals usually do some sort of X/90 day counter in their posts as it's a suggestion that's made. Maybe we should start adding this other suggestion as a possibility. Longest streak is also a great idea, although I know some people who haven't gone beyond 10 days, so that might be a bit discouraging depending on the situation. There needs to be a balance between positive feedback & some pressure
  2. Hey guys, So I had an idea based on something Cam said at one point, which was that if you relapse, you should try to minimize the number of relapse days and increase the number of game-free days and keep a "high score" of each to motivate yourself. And one of the things I noticed is that many people struggle if they routinely relapse during the 90 day detox. So what if, in addition (or instead) of the 90 day detox that resets if you fail, we were to count total game-free days since starting in the community? The benefit is that it can help people feel more positive about what they've achieved. The negative is that losing a long detox streak is definitely a strong motivator not to relapse and the counter may make this motivation weaker. But if a person routinely fails the 90-day detox (as I've seen some members do), the benefit might outweigh the harm. Thoughts?
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    This community is amazing

    Agreed. While I'm still struggling with some things, this community has been a total game changer.
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    Karabas's Journal

    No games: 93/90 No vids: 0/90 Early to bed: 0/7 Productive Hours: 3:20/8:00 Sleep: 1:30am - 6:00am; 1pm - 4:30pm A few reasons for failing again today: my health issues have been pretty bad (I spent 3 hours in the bathroom... have a suspicion as to the food that's causing... will test), the world cup final happened and took another ~2 hours of my life, and vids. I used excuses like "oh my friend sent me this, it's OK to watch it" or "this is educational" and ended up wasting several hours. I was prioritizing my studies, which means that I got most of those done, but almost no work. I'm going to have to change this. The last week has been the worst in terms of work, I probably got about 10 hours from the whole week. I can't live on that little money 🙂 I'll have to change this going forward. Start the day with getting work out of the way, then do the studies. I find studies easier to do than work, so it should be easier to finish the day off with them. Still haven't played games because I can't get myself to get those 8 productive hours in. *Sigh* Also keep failing with the going to bed early. It's like a habit. I even bought a bag of chips to reward myself for going to bed early and so far it's still sitting in the kitchen. *double sigh* Anyway, here's to a better day tomorrow. Daily Routine: 15 min Qur'an reading: check (2 day streak) 30 min Qur'an re-memorization: fail 45 min Islamic Law study: check (2 day streak) 45 min Purification of the Heart study: check (2 day streak) 30 min personal tasks: check (2 day streak) 15 min working on my business: check (2 day streak)
  5. karabas

    JustTom's Journal 2: Summer Edition

    Awesome! Here's to a successful 90 day detox!
  6. karabas

    JustTom's Journal 2: Summer Edition

    Nice, glad that it's helpful. Yeah, if you can use it at work and then not have to deal with having it at home when you're alone, that could significantly reduce the amount of time you waste on it. Slow steps, man, slow steps. That's what you gotta do. It also does seem like your relapses are generally growing shorter since you started journalling here, no? If so, that's a win in and of itself.
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    Karabas's Journal

    No games: 92/90 No vids: 0/90 Early to bed: 0/7 Productive Hours: 4:25/8:00 Bedtime last night: 2am Woke up: 6am (napped 12:30-3pm) Gah! I was really excited about today because I woke up for prayer at 6am and wasn't tired. Here it was, a chance to get all my 8 productive hours in by 2pm (my wife was sleeping in, so I was all alone, no distractions). So I watched a ton of vids instead, mostly for the game that I want to play myself. The funniest part is that I already told myself that I'll allow myself to play as long as i get the 8 hours in... so I could've had like 4-5 hours of game time if I wanted to. But instead I just watched videos. This is the epitome of my not working towards my goals. I can't even focus for the sake of gaming. Sigh. This is stupid. I'm making another commitment to no more videos (which really shouldn't be a problem given that gaming is the prize on the line). I'm going to type out a daily to-do list so that I can get some good momentum going by crossing off to-dos. I'm also going to try to break up tasks into smaller chunks to make it easy. I need to start tracking the time I spend on different things. Also I need to start realizing that when I want to watch videos, it's an addiction. I need to stop for a bit and focus on the feeling and just accept it instead falling into it. Anyway. My hope is I go to bed early today, wake up at 6 again and retry the whole process. Hopefully will report something better tomorrow.
  8. karabas

    JustTom's Journal 2: Summer Edition

    :( Read your deleted post too. It can definitely feel like that sometimes. This is a bit radical, but: do you really need your computer? If you can get everything you need done at the university/town library or something like that, maybe the radical step of getting rid of your computer would do you good for a year or two. I work online and need the computer, unfortunately. That's why part of my career goal is to eventually make enough money so that I could work only a couple of days in a week and then hide the computer somewhere for the rest of it. Even if it means less income total, I'd rather live middle-class without this addiction than be rich but addicted. Anyway, if you're able to ditch your computer, why not? I did that semi-successfully during my last year of university by leaving it at my parents' place and using the library to do all my studying and assignments. The problem for me after I did that was videos and phone games, but I think phone games are pretty easy to quit (they're never THAT good). Videos is a different story... but you could take it one step further and get rid of wifi as well. There's plenty available to the public and if you're cutting yourself off from people anyway, what's the point in having wifi? :D Not joking about this though. If you can do it, you might want to consider it.
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    Karabas's Journal

    No games: 91/90 No vids: 0/90 Early to bed: 0/7 Productive Hours: 0/8:00 Bedtime last night: 5am Woke up: 11:30am Waste of a day. Vids weren't so much of a problem (though I did watch some stuff), but I actually had a problem with reading a book. Like I mentioned way back when I first joined this forum, if I don't game I watch vids and if I don't watch vids, I read books. I recently got a new book on my Kindle, it was super addictive and SUPER long (I think over 15 hours of reading total) and the worst part is that there are like 15 sequels or something. So the past few days have been full of my just reading this thing. It's finally done and I'm not getting the sequels because there's no way I'm doing 15x15 = 225 hours of reading. Thanks man. Yeah, it feels a bit anticlimactic for me. But I think part of it is that the only reason I didn't relapse is because I was like "I'm not going to ruin the 90 day detox when I'm less than a week away". So I held out just on that, but I'm pretty much decided on going back to gaming now that 90 days are over. BUT I do have enough willpower to set some ground rules. Going to only let myself do it if I finally get my 8 productive hours in and I have to stop by 10pm. If I fail at controlling myself and breaking those rules, I'll do a mini-detox of like 7 days and will keep increasing as necessary. The other part is that originally I was going to detox from games + vids together and reset my detox counter if I relapsed into either. And now I'm having trouble even starting the video detox. And the effect for the last several weeks has been the same: I'm getting almost nothing done. But yeah, no. I didn't know I could go cold turkey from games for a whole 90 days. That's pretty nuts and feels like a super long time. So there's definitely something to celebrate! Now to just get my life back on track...
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    Karabas's Journal

    No games: 90/90 No vids: 0/90 Early to bed: 0/7 Productive Hours: 2:30/8:00 Bedtime last night: 3am Woke up: 9:30am Meh. I had some things I had to do today that took away from my productive time, but I also wasted a lot. I'm feeling extremely lazy these past couple of weeks. I don't have the motivation to try very hard and I'm falling behind on my clients' projects. Writing out my goals felt like a chore. I want to achieve them in theory, but not in practice right now. Sigh. I really hate these phases, but I also don't know what to do about them. Oh, and I'm not drowning in vids, but I'm still watching them. And I still can't get myself to bed early. It's past 11pm, so that's another day gone, although if I can do it by midnight, I'll be a happy camper.
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    Karabas's Journal

    No games: 88/90 No vids: 1/90 Early to bed: 0/7 Productive Hours: 5:25/8:00 Bedtime last night: 2am Woke up: 9:30am Hey hey, today was a lot better! Didn't have a video problem (so far). Still have a bad problem with cravings to play games. It's particularly strong because I feel like once I clear day 90, I'm "allowed" to do so in moderation. In reality, I know that's not a good idea. Did a decent amount of work, but my studies have fallen by the wayside. But one thing at a time.
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    JustTom's Journal 2: Summer Edition

    Nice, I like small goals 🙂 It's 37 where I am, but it's not even the worst of it so I'm OK 😄 What's the plan after the 3-day detox?
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    Samson's journal (100 day reboot)

    Hey man, I've lapsed a bit with posting on this website, noticed you haven't posted in a while. Everything OK? Do come back and post even if you're relapsed, it helps a lot just to get the words out on the page.
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    Karabas's Journal

    Game Detox 87/90 | Vids Detox 0/90 I'm in a pretty bad place right now. Still not gaming (but strong cravings), but I'm watching a lot of vids (I unsubscribed from all channels and removed history & search history on YT, no luck). I'm also going to bed super late. These two things are throwing off my entire days and I've been really behind on my work and responsibilities, let alone any of the other stuff I want to accomplish. I'm going to do two things: tomorrow I'll start my day off with writing out my short-term, medium-term, and long-term goals, and the steps I need to take to achieve all of those. I need to remind myself why I want to do these things. I'm not sure whether to tackle videos or bedtime first. Vids are what's making me go to bed late most of the time. But sleep is what's making me weak and enabling me to watch vids. It's a vicious circle. I'm going to try to start with sleep. Drop everything by 10pm. In bed by 11pm. If I keep this up for a week, I'll reward myself with a nice meal somewhere. That's the plan.
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    Karabas's Journal

    Game Detox 86/90 | Vids Detox 0/90 Still have a problem with vids. But my country's team is out of the WC now, so the tournament got less interesting 🙂 I'm probably still going to watch some games, especially since the final is looking very interesting. No gaming yet and I'm almost done with the 90 days, but the cravings are there. It's a problem, because I'm craving to play football manager (hm, I wonder if watching all that football is causing that?), and that's one of those games that you could play forever and can take over my life (where I'm thinking about it even when not playing). Overall, as much as I love the world cup, I think I shouldn't watch it next time around. It's the reason I wrecked my video abstinence and it's the reason I have gaming cravings again. Thankfully, this kind of thing happens once every four years, so I'm not at risk of getting sucked in forever. But I can't do it again. Anyway. Still struggling, I've been essentially working part-time as of late and my studies aren't really happening. I have to step it up and get back on track, but it hasn't really happened yet.
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