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  1. Hello friends, nothing like starting over, again...

    Round 4 - Day 2

    A quote that resonates with me today:

    A Warrior of the Light knows that certain moments repeat themselves.
    He often finds himself faced by the same problems and situations, and seeing these difficult situations return, he grows depressed, thinking that he is incapable of making any progress in life.
    "I've been through all this before," he says to his heart.
    "Yes, you have been through all this before," replies his heart. "But you have never been beyond it."
    Then the Warrior realizes that these repeated experiences have but one aim: to teach him what he does not want to learn.

    - Warrior of the Light, Paulo Coelho

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  2. 5 hours ago, BooksandTrees said:

    I'm looking forward to spending time with my girlfriend this weekend and just being together

    Enjoy the weekend! ☀️

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  3. On 6/2/2021 at 5:35 AM, Mr. Ém said:

    Hi everyone!

    My urges became less problematic for the last 10 days and it feels great to overcome them when they come! I'm getting closer to the objective 🙂

    Days without gaming: 77 (including today)

    Yes! This is the home stretch. Reading through your last few posts I can feel your positivity. Keep strong til the end 😃

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  4. 8 hours ago, No one said:

    Day 40. Staying strong. 

    So, tomorrow I’ll have an important exam. I’ve spent last 2 months preparing for it (and other two coming after). My life has improved drastically. I am studying for a few hours every day and working out at least 3 times a week. I’m not pathetic loser anymore. But I’m still confused about what I’m gonna do after my detox. But I’ll talk about it later. Can’t write much because I’m very tired, I’ll try to write as frequently as possible.  

    Congrats on putting in so much time and effort to prepare for these exams. Best of luck!

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  5. 20 minutes ago, Amphibian220 said:

    This is the thing with work, there has to be a greater strategy and vision about where you want to move with your projects.

    I agree with @Amphibian220 and also will add that it helps to see how the work you're doing has an impact. This adds personal pride to the work we do. @BooksandTrees I'm not sure what exactly your job is.  For me right now, I simply work as a barista serving people coffee drinks. Sometimes I find my job repetitive and boring, because it is pretty much the same work every day. When I'm able to remind myself how important this coffee moment is to these people and see the value in my work, then I have good days.

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  6. Round 3 - Day 4

    Today I had work and I had more energy at work than I've had for a few weeks now. The only thing I've changed is the lack of gaming so that's gotta be it. As far as I can tell, each time back committing to the gaming detox is easier. My first time quitting was hella fucking hard. My second time was pretty hard. This time is hard, but at the same time feels not too hard. The times I'm talking about are the ones where I really took a long break (a month or more). Not the times where I stopped for a day or something like that. I feel like the long breaks are really where our minds have the time and space to change. I'm feeling sure about keeping with it to give myself that opportunity to change and grow.

    - Neal

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  7. On 5/28/2021 at 11:07 AM, Master Williams said:

    I am not sure if anyone bothers to follow the journals, or misses anyone that relapses, but I have been back on gaming for some time, and decided to try a restart today.  Its time to work harder and really get the job done this time.  Today I am cancelling all of my games, deleting characters, and moving on.  

    This is my 2nd time back posting on the forums and I definitely remember the names of people who have been on here the same time as me. So yes, while I don't know anyone in person, I do notice and appreciate the people here making the same commitment to not gaming that I am.
    Good luck with your 2nd time back and journaling again.

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  8. Round 3 - Day 3

    Today I had a complete day off work and I felt like garbage when I woke up so it was the easiest day to say "fuck it" and game the day away and I didn't do that. So I feel like a winner. Even though I spent hours on the computer just browsing, there is something different about that time spent where it is easier to get up and leave and do something different. Gaming will in a sense trap me to the chair. So yeah, I browsed for a bit off and on, but I also read a bunch and did some drawing and helped my family out with moving some furniture. So overall, like I said, today is a winning day.

    - Neal

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  9. 1 hour ago, Pochatok said:

    I am not super sure how to approach the issue currently, but I've set a goal of journaling for 10 minutes every day after dinner as a method of finding a possible solution.

    Journaling is one of the few things still missing from my daily schedule, and something that has been genuinely helpful in the past. 

    I think this is a good approach. If unsure about what to do, we can still use the tools that we know to help work towards the solution. Journaling is definitely something that has been helpful to me also, and I have also been inconsistent. Isn't it weird how the most simple, helpful stuff we won't do sometimes even though it hardly takes up any time in our day?

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  10. Round 3 - Day 2

    I wrote a poem that I want to share. The writing for me released a lot of grief and is helping me to move on.

    A Farewell

    on autopilot I start up my computer
    boot up league of legends
    my first game in front of me like a plate
    finished and on to the next
    another one
    another one
    is this a seven course meal
    no, this is an appetite you cannot satiate
    no matter how many courses and plates
    plates upon plates
    hours upon hours
    I ate
    I played as much as I could devour
    Sacrificing sleep
    Myself, my power
    until I started to feel more and more a coward
    and even then it didn’t end
    on and on
    and on
    and on it went
    league of legends was my life
    but really, was that all I had to live for
    No I knew, I knew I wanted more
    but instead I dove deeper
    I convinced myself
    that this was the path I’d chosen
    and the only way out was through it
    progamer or nothing I was ready to risk it all
    risk all my time
    and really, what’s more worthwhile
    so time I spent day in day out
    deeper and deeper
    as my life became
    cheaper and cheaper
    what did I value
    I don’t know
    I don’t know
    I didn’t know
    I had no fucking clue what to do
    I was trapped, or I felt trapped
    I felt my only way out was self-injury
    the self-inflicted pain I gave to myself every day
    until I finally collapse
    and even then
    kicking and screaming
    I gave the game up for the first time
    and oh, it would not be the last time
    because you see now this had meaning to me
    sejuani and zac
    the two that had my back
    pantheon, lee sin
    the true strength of men
    these characters
    no they’re called champions
    because for a moment while playing
    they made me feel like a champion
    but that moment never lasted
    and so after years of you stringing me along
    dangling new skins, champions
    ranks, game modes, etc.
    in whatever way that I could rationalize
    coming back
    playing again
    league of legends
    it’s more than a game to me
    it’s a part of me
    my destiny
    my journey intertwines with games played
    games won, games lost
    friends made, friends lost
    classes paid and classes dropped
    jobs started and jobs lost
    So what’s the cost?
    my heart, truly
    for my feeling is lost
    my mind, fools me
    my thoughts fogged
    league of legends
    my friend
    perhaps now we’ve reached the end
    you were there for me when I needed you
    but I think our time is through

    - Neal

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  11. On 5/28/2021 at 7:01 PM, pdallair91 said:

    5 Stages of Change

    Thank you for sharing this, because it is really well defined and helpful to me in recognizing my own patterns. I think I was in the maintenance phase when I prematurely decided gaming was okay again. Now, I need to work to reach that phase again, and then towards the EXIT sign!

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  12. 2 hours ago, s_nitta said:

    I want to read at least 20 books this year. I want to paint more, practice calligraphy, learn how to invest, meditate everyday, take care of my pets, have my room always clean, do my skin care routine... I want to focus on what's in front of me, do a good job at my internship and in college and have more independence soon. I want a calm life, and not the hectic pace of the online world.

    A lot of exciting plans, and definitely doable!
    I relate to the desire for a calm, slower paced way of living.

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  13. Yo fellow gamequitters,

    I'm back and plan to be journaling daily again as an accountability tool for myself until I feel I no longer need to. Sometime in the 100s days free, I don't remember what day it was because I stopped counting, but I decided it was okay to play games again, because my friends wanted me to join again, and I figured I was ready. This started out as time with friends and transitioned into me doing quite a lot of solo gaming. And truthfully so far since playing again, it has been okay, but that's really all it is, just okay. I am currently what I would call a functional gamer. I keep my commitments and do my job and get enough sleep and eat healthy enough, etc., but I think that gaming again is holding me back from really moving forward. Most times gaming is my boredom elixir. I feel like I am stuck, and need to change things up again to start progressing again. So, here we go again, Round 3 of taking a break. I will be allowing myself to game as way to connect with friends that I already know, but that is the only allowance. This will require extra discipline on my part to not do any single player gaming and to log off when my friends log off. I am considering also setting a daily/weekly time limit so that I am not drawn in if my friends decide they want to use the entire day gaming. I am looking forward to this new path that involves giving myself personal boundaries and space to work towards my goals.

    - Neal

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  14. Day 90

    Okay so I still suck at journaling consistently … it’s just not that important to me right now. I’d like to get more consistent at it in the future, but I’ve just been focusing on other things. Okay, so it’s day 90!!! Yessssssssss, it’s kinda crazy to me how those first days and then the first week and then the first month all went by at a slower pace. I wasn’t doing as much at first, and so I had thoughts of going back. Month two and three were a lot easier for me to the point where I haven’t been counting the days. Occasionally I look at my tracker and see where I’m at. A few days ago I saw I was almost at 90 so I got freakin excited! I’m so glad I’ve made it this far and I currently have no intention of turning back. I remember I used to think about a gaming binge once I made it to 90, but now I don’t have that urge (well okay maybe I still have that thought but I’m not fucking doing it).

    To celebrate this moment I’ve attached some images as a reminder to myself of what I’ve left behind.
    And also! Some notes on what I’ve accomplished over the past 90 days:

    • Read 7 books
    • 60 minutes physical activity 3 out of every 4 days
    • Relearning how to code
    • Woke up and did a hike to see the sunrise three different times
    • Reconnected with my Dad and brother on a ski/snowboard trip
    • Reached out and reconnected with multiple different friends over video chat
    • Researched the meaning of my family name and my family history going back three generations

    My goals for the rest of this year:

    • Get a programming job
    • Read at least 20 more books
    • Save enough money to comfortably move out of my parent’s house
    • Complete The Game Quitters challenge
    • Complete The Strenuous Life challenge



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  15. 2 hours ago, rich879 said:

    End of day 8

    Still no videogames. Struggling to get satisfaction out of the passing hours. I'm watching a lot of Netflix and using Blender. Tomorrow I'm going to do some more productive stuff... maybe.

    Congrats on making it to a full week!

    Watching the hours pass by in a day will definitely make the day feel longer, and you'll be wanting to play video games the entire time.
    So then it seems like the solution is to distract yourself so you just don't think about video games, which is a good start.
    Distraction doesn't work forever though.
    The other thing to think about is actually giving yourself the space to be bored so you can make a decision.
    If you immediately jump onto social media, Netflix, Reddit, anything to distract yourself, then you're not really giving your mind a chance to calm down and think.
    So something I do is pause and think for a minute (without looking at any screen).
    Something usually comes up in my mind to do.
    I don't always want to do what comes up (maybe it's chores), but then I choose and do it.
    Seems like some options for you based on what I read is: Blender, reading, weightlifting, car work, Red Hat certification.

    "It gets easier… Every day it gets a little easier… But you gotta do it every day — that's the hard part."
    - Jogging Baboon from BoJack Horseman

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  16. Day 66

    As you may have noticed, I’m still not journaling consistently, ha…
    Well, regardless, I’m glad to be journaling today, and I’m trying a new format.

    I’m in my bedroom, at my desk, wearing PJs and a hoodie, and thinking how it’s been quite a good day. I woke up and immediately got into my stretching routine (been doing stretching for a couple weeks now and my body feels so much better). A couple nights ago I stopped sleeping with my phone on my bed and replaced it with an alarm clock. No phone in bed = more sleep for meeeee. Lately, I’ve been watching Seinfeld in the morning, and that brings me joy. Before work, I tried on some new pairs of jeans I got from Amazon. My dad ordered nine pairs for me to try, maybe excessive, but hey I found a great fit. Then work, and work’s been good lately. It’s been a few months now at the same workplace and so I’m really starting to get to know my coworkers. Feels good. Work is a welcoming place, not that it was unwelcome before, but now I look forward to going so I can see these people. Afterwards, I went to the bookstore and bought the board game Carcassonne to play with my stepmom (I’m trying to get her into board games). First time for both of us, and it was a great time. Simple rules and easy to get into. Can’t wait for the next board game sesh!

    Now I’m here, and when I read back over these notes, this day is pretty average, but it didn’t feel average. Without video games, even a simple day like today feels more memorable.

    I’m grateful for my dad ordering me so many pairs of jeans, even though at the time I thought, “ugh dad, am I really gonna have to try all these on?”
    I’m grateful for my stepmom being open to trying out a board game, because she knows board games are something that I enjoy.
    Self-gratitude for my commitment to stretching to take care of my body. I’m also about to do stretching after this journal to wind down before bed.
    I feel disappointed in myself for not speaking up at work today when a coworker brought up politics and was going over the line with nasty comments.
    I feel sorrow for impulsively using social media in the in-between times today.

    My goal is to use these reflections to improve upon myself for tomorrow.

    - Neal

  17. On 1/17/2021 at 12:58 PM, Pochatok said:

    Oh, it's "Chernobyl: The History of a Nuclear Catastrophe". A bit plain in terms of how it's written, but the topic itself is very interesting to me. Next up, I have "Heavy, An American Memoir", and "A Little Life". I have been trying to read challenging, different-from-what-I-would-usually-prefer kind of books. What about you?


    I just put the books you said on my list. They look like great selections! It's definitely a wide variety like you were saying. I just finished John Barleycorn by Jack London, which is a memoir about his struggles with alcoholic addiction. I could really relate to the story even though it was a different addiction. He talks a lot about how he didn't think about alcohol much, but it was just the thing to do to hang out and get to know people. Very similar in my mind to the internet, social media, and video games nowadays. It's just the thing people do without thinking about it. It was written awhile ago, so keep that in mind, but I otherwise I definitely recommend.

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  18. 50 minutes ago, DaBest said:

    I keep posting because it holds me accountable, and I want to get better--and if someone resonates with it and it helps them, even if it's one person, it's worth it. I've effectively stopped gaming a long time ago, and I maybe only cave in and actually game once a year or so now (usually for 16+ hours...) The problem is that once the gaming stopped, the addiction and attention went elsewhere. YouTube, porn, Twitter--it doesn't matter. I still am dealing with many of the same issues I did 5 years ago, only now they're better because I've kept trying, I have slightly better social skills, and I make a lot more money. I don't care how long it takes. All I care is I can beat the crap out of yesterday's version of me, every single day.

    I definitely connect with the idea of journaling as accountability. I would prefer to journal at the end of the day, but then a lot of times I'm "too tired" and want to just pass out on my bed. Any tips?

    Also, you have made it this far. Maybe you don't need to beat the crap out of yourself 😉

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  19. On 1/15/2021 at 3:48 PM, hemonkey said:

    I used to be friends with this gamer and we had fun playing games. However, the tides came crashing down at me when I told him he is bad at gaming. He started to insult me

    You probably insulted the one thing that he cares about and is important to his life. Smart on you to just block him. No reason to sit there and take an online assault from messaging.

  20. Day 54

    This day isn’t anything special in terms of progress towards the 90 days, but today I remembered game quitters and my journaling and wanted to do it again! Honestly I didn’t even realize it had been this long. Not counting every day definitely allowed me to just focus on my daily life. At the same time, I think that while my days have been game free, they sometimes blur together without the journaling to check-in with myself at the end of day. So, I want to start journaling again, so that I can start reflecting on what’s next. My foundation right now is daily exercise and reading. Fill in the rest of the time with work, to-do’s, and social fulfillment in some way. I have found a good rhythm, but what’s next? Consistently trying out new hobbies has been something. I try something for a day or two, then forget about it for a while. I think I need to stick with something new for at least a month to really experience it.

    A note on gaming urges. They come sporadically, randomly. Though, usually more often at night time. Those late nights of the past, gaming all night, and having a blast, come back. And, it probably would be fun for a night, but it’s never just one night. And then, the fun doesn’t last. So, when these memories come up, rather than shove them down, I’ve been seeing them through. I play it all out in my head, the good and the bad, no matter how difficult that is, and then I can let it go. Letting go is the hardest part. It’s still a process, a work in progress. I know this, because the urges still come back, even when I think they’re gone. Every time is a little bit easier than the last, though. Until the next time...

    - Neal

  21. Day 31

    It has always been hard for me to own up and actually call my relationship with gaming an addiction. I try to weave the narrative in gaming’s favor, sugarcoating the bad moments and highlighting the good. Enough is enough, I’m tired of fantasizing about gaming in the future or having nostalgia about gaming in the past. I’m setting an intention to NOT return to gaming when the 90 days are up.

    I plan to continue posting less frequently as the days go on, because I intend to spend less time at my computer. I appreciate the support that this community has shown me from my first post.

    Onward my friends.

    - Neal

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