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On 5/18/2020 at 5:43 PM, Amphibian220 said:
At work I choose the path of least resistance and I think most gamers do. Life is a stage, express your emotions, make yourself felt and get into a fight with your employer. I still need to leave the nice guy character.
That is so true!
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3 hours ago, Phoenixking said:
But I don't feel the need to binge it. It's still a bit of a time sink, but honestly, so were other things like anime, Netflix, Reddit, ... I'm still wanting to quit it properly, though.
I feel that gaming is really not a problem for you. You are a little bit annoyed with the situation lately, so that is fine. It is ok to relax here and then. Even playing games. But if it fulfills you to stop it than go for it.
Regarding the moderation stuff: Just keep looking out, what is thre right thing for you to do, what fulfills you and how you get benefit yourself and others. I think moderation is inevitably a byproduct. But I am just in the middle of figuring that out.
3 hours ago, Phoenixking said:She's always giving everything she's got to other people and purposefully skips herself.
That is part of the problem. She is taking care of other people more than herself. But that is not the way to deal with a depression. The right way is to starting to take care of yourself. And that will be beneficial for other people as well. But it is a process, which takes time. The only chance is to start with something, gain confidence through accomplishing something and than get going more and more.
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@Wonderer Listen. I will not say you to stop gaming, because gaming does not need to be the enemy. The problem is that certain institutions would have no purpose without an enemy. Where would feminists be without an evil patriarchial system? Where would gamequitters be, if games are not a problem? Where would be nofap, if porn would not be the problem? The thing is: They are not the problem: It is about the person, who acts out. And I think that generally speaking, if I do something, which makes me miserable to some extend than it is time to change something. For instance, when I would play hardcore some games and I would feel bad WHILE doing it, because I felt that I would procrastinate on important stuff that seems not right for me. But if I spend 9 hours a day working on my thesis and despite the fact that it is hard, I feel good and like I accomplished something - that is something different for me.
2 hours ago, Wonderer said:I know i dont need gaming, just as i dont need anything else in my life, it's my choice what i want to do and what i dont want to... i
That is the beauty of being a human being. You have this choice. But I would advise to still go for challenges, still find a valuable purpose to follow, have a nice routine in your life. That is a really good thing. And of course there are drastic differences. One person is happy with becoming pro in something and invests everything in that. Even to the point, where the person would give up time with family and friends etc. I mean, I generally think, a well balanced life would probably be a better thing, but everyone is different. And if gaming for 3 hours a day is a nice thing for you to do and it is not a problem that is fine. More power to you. My response to you just focused around the idea that giving up on all challenges and live a life without responsibilties seems to be the worse alternative. I think taking responsibility for something or someone (even yourself) doing the things you like and chasing after some dreams is valuable (not just money). You have no idea, how much my life has changed, since I developed this hardcore passion in psychology. It's unbelievable. I therefore advise you to experiement, keep looking and challenge yourself. Maybe you don't see the purpose for now, but that can change very drastically.
2 hours ago, Wonderer said:I was fine with my depression, it is here and maybe i should take it as a need for a change
Keep in mind that a depression is just an agreed upon label. Many different people have shown many different symptoms in different situations and then it would be agreed upon to call it depression. I fear that a person is depressed, when he or she feels that all the life's challenges are too much too handle. Up to the point, where even just leaving bed becomes a challenge. That is, when some structure in your life can be useful.
2 hours ago, Wonderer said:i think i'm going to start to play less and start doing some of the things i think i might be interested in, i mean i already would if it wouldnt be for the virus, i cant wait for fitnesses to open, this is the first thing i'm doing in that direction, just to i dont know get into better mood, start vibing higher, just get out there kind of...
And you already have certain things to go for - that is great. Do that. I am a fan of doing!
2 hours ago, Wonderer said:i just need to do what feels right, buying a few books seems right, learning a few new languages, getting deeper into getting informations from rich people about their business, getting fit. I can do it all if i stop killing time with gaming and i do gaming as something when the day is almost over and i really got nothing else to do and i think i will find that easy... also when you were gaming, have you maybe noticed the less games you actually play the happier you are?
Awesome. Just stay curious and try out these things. Some things you will probably dislike, others you will liike. And that is ok! And I agree regarding the gaming stuff. The last days, I allowed myself to play games on my phone, but I just could'nt - other things were more meaningful to me. I am also fine to allow to eat sweets, but I just feel that a nice body is the better choice for me. It really is about finding out, what is more important to you. 🙂
And I think, I know what you mean regarding playing less. The moment, when I would play so drastically, so much that I would be tired, my ears were burning and I would feel pain in my back but continued to play - guess what: It was horrific. But I remember you said that you could always stop, whenever you wanted. I never really could do that. Now I am struggling to do it at all. Funny how things have changed. xD
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@Wonderer You have written quite a lot and I think it would deserve a detailled answer. But I am a bit tired right now, so I only focus on the important things. But I am glad to discuss this further.
1 hour ago, Wonderer said:also dont try to help me fix me, i dont think it's possible, i'm just too deep. Feels like being in jail for life and being able to see people live their normal boring lifes, while i actually have fun in jail.
You are fixable. I assume that everyone is fixable. But only, when someone is ready to fix himself as well. I think therapy for instance rarely works, if someone is not in the mood to get help. So it is up to you. But lets get to the important stuff.
1 hour ago, Wonderer said:The title, when you are born you own nothing and once you are dead you own nothing, so it doesnt really matter what you do during your life or am I wrong?
What you are saying up there is that life is pointless, because we have not yet found ways to do something in order to live eternal or to beat death. That would be like saying that you should not dance to music, because the end result is the same. But we dance, because we dance right? We like it. We feel this groove, it makes us move! But if you consier the dance to be pointless and you just sit on the ground and wait until the song ends - is that really the same as dancing and embracing the music?
I have some questions: Where would you end up, if you would find ways to deal with the current problems of yours? And how would you feel after dealing with them? Maybe at first it is important to get an overview of all the current problems. But they are worth fixing.
What happens when you cheat in a game, lets say a basketball simulation? You know for sure that you will hit the net every single time without even trying very hard. And you will win the game for sure. How fun is that? It is the uncertainty that we love in games. Life is the same: Without challenges, you are dead. And there is nothing better in life than solving a problem. That is actually your only mission: Solve problems. Animals hunt to solve the problem hunger. Only that we have become soooo good that we needed new problems. We actually turned it around and now have too much food. So the new challenge is to find a way to deal with abundance.
Trust me: I was in a situation like you. My life is still pretty much this huge challenge, but my perspective has changed. And I don't buy into the premise that there is no difference between someone, who takes care of his kids and tries to help other people or someone, who just lies in his bed all day long. I don't buy it! Sure, both will die, but one contributed to his environment. The other was just a cold stone. Stones are boring. Stones are already dead.
And you are not a stone. You are a wonderful human being, who is far more capable to solve these things than you realize. Once you embrace your nature as a problem solver and get your life in order, life is not a burden anymore. It is still hard and annoying, but you have changed. You have to realize that it is absolutely valuable for everyone, including you, to get everything in order, whatever is missing. Once you start with this process and take care of yourself, like you deserve, it creates a chainreaction.
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24 minutes ago, Phoenixking said:
t's mean to say this, but when is she going to get off her ass and actually do the things she says? When is she going to make her mental health a priority above anything else? When is she going to work on her body, mind her weight and help keep this place clean more?
I think that someone is depressive, because she feels that she is not in control of her life. It took me so many years and so many tries to figure out, how to get in control of this messy lifethat is quite insane. Maybe it is not her health or exercising, where she should start. The only thing that works, is starting with something that you are actually capable to do. And then you get confidence through that and maybe build it up. Just the simple decision to not drink coca cola anymore could change a whole life.
29 minutes ago, Phoenixking said:Moderation Schmoderation
As I am interested in moderation right now: Can you elaborate that? ^^
19 hours ago, Phoenixking said:Detox day 0. "Failing forwards."
Why have you reset it?
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3 hours ago, Ikar said:
I think I feel with Books on this one. I'm also somewhat obsessive about finding out how much/how little people do in their lives and what do they do in general. It could be that I hold myself to high standards, that my ego that commands me to be better than everyone else or that I give my full trust to a select few. I acknowledge that all of these are my issues though and that it doesn't make sense to blame anyone else for my inability to accept reality as it is.
@Alexanderle I'm looking forward to that blog of yours 😄
That is the crux: I do absolutely agree with both of you. When I get asked by younger students about statistic stuff, which they can't figure out, I get annoyed quite often: The things, they ask me, because they think I am better at this crap than they are (which is true xD), I have figured out with obsessively checking literature etc. So they could easily figure out all of that by themselves, by just google it. Which is a bit crappy: Why are they not doing that?
Jordan Peterson says in a talk about the IQ score that there are 10 percent of people in our society, who have nothing to do. Not only do they not want to do it, they are incapable. I guess it is a said reality, but we have to deal with it. And I think, we need to show responsibility, which both of you are doing. Not blaming other people, but leading with example. That seems to be a good idea.
The blog has to wait. I am writing my thesis for now. That is enough writing for the time being. 😄
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4 hours ago, BooksandTrees said:
I agree. I think it's just difficult to find some relaxing activities. I get burnt out of being creative with all of my hobbies. It's hard to find an indoors, social hobby that involves no video games during isolation and social distancing. Maybe this is just another sign of me over thinking tings. I appreciate the perspective and agree.
There is a continuity I think that is worth looking into: What makes you feel burned out: Is it a very high expectation of yourself, which keeps you working 24/7 or is it the absence of relaxing activities?
4 hours ago, BooksandTrees said:I get nervous during times like this because I don't like to look unproductive.
Why?
4 hours ago, BooksandTrees said:because deep down I'm a very angry/cut throat person I feel.
It does not seem like that for me: You seem to be a generous, nice and helpful person, who is just chasing for a certain amount of accomplishment and wants a good life. I am wondering, why are you talking shit about unproductive people?
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It really sounds, like you getting your life together. And I agree that talking about quitting can cause relapse. Just like counting the number of days in your journal and forcing yourself to not do something. Bu I think you are starting to see, what it is about instead. Keep it up.
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2 hours ago, BooksandTrees said:
Sometimes I feel like I'm only comfortable when I have something I'm fighting for and on a mission for something. When I relax and I'm comfortable in life I feel like I could die and I'm very afraid of dying.
Why does the lion hunt animals? Why does the tree grow? Everyone has a mission. But only we, the human species became self conscious and started to think about it. The tree does not decide to stop growing, because it is anxious that its growing to fast might make smaller trees angry due to its large shadow. It just grows. So then, there are problems (or missions?) everywhere. Whatever you do, there will always be new problems. Ultimately, your mission is to be a problem solver. Something bothers you? Then adress it! Think about, how you can make your life just a little bit better. After solving a couple of problems, you stop seeing life as a burden, but as a challenge. If all these problems were not there, what would be the purpose of life? I used to play nba2k and sometimes used a programm called cheat engine. Once, my character was perfect and flawless, extremely tall and skilled in every relevant area ofc I had no problems whatsover. Every game was easy. Guess what, the challenge disappeared. If there would be no death, life would be boring as hell. Nothing is a bigger motivation than the fact that every day could be your last.
3 hours ago, BooksandTrees said:People tell me to relax and have fun. Sometimes I just can't. I work so hard at work and then try to make incredible progress with hobbies and then self improvement. I sometimes think that self improvement is just another form of escapism for me. Like I'll never be content. Being content almost feels like I've accepted my fate or something.
I just tell you to embrace the many challenges of life. They are there regardless. Our goal is just to solve some problems, wait for new ones and then solve those. Watching a movie is a much a challenge by watching our favourite characters die or survive as much as work is just another set of challenges for ourselves. University is as much a challenge as trying to get a girlfriend. Hobbies are nothing but challenges. In games we were challenged right? You challenge yourself with 3d modelling as much as I challenge my body when lifting stuff. The only difference between certain challenges is that some of them are considered to be more meaningful. The great people are remembered, because they embraced very big challenges. I think it is more likely to be remembered for solving very big challenges than only solving smaller challenges like only for yourself. I think that the person, who finds the solution for the corona pandemic might be remembered in the future and will be part of future virology lectures.
That is also, why you never will be content. No one is. You can have all the money and all the girls in the world, you will still find reasons to worry. That does not mean that you should stop chasing them. You are lonely. That is the challenge for now. You have a girlfriend - she will make stuff that annoys you. Now that is the challenge. You find a solution and there is something else. Relationships sometimes fall apart, BECAUSE there is no challenge. What would the partners trust be worth, if there is not the possibility that he or she might betray you?
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@noMoreProcrastination good to hear pal. Keep going.
I have a question: I see that your goal right now is to eliminate time wasters, which makes a lot of sense. But why? What are you trying to accomplish, what are your goals for your life?
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@Amphibian220 Can you name some peer reviewed literature to look into this cleanliness aspect? Or is that your introspection? I generally liked to look at it from the perspective of control, where the massive chaos in the outside world is like a gigantic monster. Gaming is the perfect medium to gain the illusion of control. You can always restart. You can create a new character, if you feel incapable of creating your own personal real life character. It is easier to let your character train in gta then going to the gym by yourself. Speaking to people via discord is easier, when not being good socially in real life.
Generally speaking, once you start to observe that you can change some aspects in your life, this is like an innate power that grows and grows. And some point, you are not just starting to not getting worse and worse, but actually look out to chase some self set ideal and start to improve. We could try to change the term of control with cleanliness: If something is not very clean and a mess and chaotic, it might be hard for me to control it. Everyone knows, what kind of a feeling it is, when your appartment is a huge mess.
Anyway, very interesting insight. I will further look into this at some point.
@kally999 Do you know what is even less harmful than vaping? Not vaping!
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@BgK I highly agree with you that once you "achieved" something, it will give you tremendous control and a feeling of confidence. Jordan Peterson speaks of the idea to clean your room. Once you have done something like that, you now understood that you are more capable than you thought. And then you slowly build it up. I was for months only focusing on my diet and avoiding sweets. That gave me confidence. And just like that, I actively decided to stop gaming a couple of months later. It was no problem at all. But if you don't feel that something is meaningful, you will not do it. Period! Then there won't be some little monkey, who magically pulls you away into useless things. This little monkey is just you! It is you who is unwilling to do other things, either because you consider them not as meaningful or because you don't really know how.
My take for all these things: Experiment, what works for you. Maybe start with something simple. Gain confidence by that and understand that you are capable to achieve amazing things. Maybe start to clean your room and to make your bed. Cook regularly or go for a nice walk every day. Just something easy. Then make bigger steps towards your personal greatness.
1 hour ago, BgK said:Confidence also boost our possibility to win the battles against procrastination.
And then you don't have to fight a battle at all. You just don't do things, because they don't fit in your life anymore. Keep in mind that you only do things, because they fit your current life ideals and beliefs. Changing your actions makes no sense, if your belief system is still the same. That is like being in deep love with sweets and then trying to not eat them anymore. Sure, you can switch to vegetables, but you still love the sweets, hence still desire them. And you can eat vegetables all day long for months, but if you still like sweets, just one day after another you might be eating way too much sweets again. But once you see that sweets are unhealthy and don't fit your ideal of a healthy you, you might not eat them anymore, without any internal fights at all!
Most people here at gamequitters have not stopped gaming, because they commited to some 90 day detox, which magically burned the areas, which were intoxicated in their brain, but because they finally understood that gaming should not be a part of their life anymore. They changed! They became non-gamers. Why, should a non gamer bother with gaming?
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First of all, welcome. I watched the ted talk years ago and I just briefly looked into the article. My take: There is no evidence of such a little gratification monkey insight you. Obviously, this is meant more as a metaphor. But still then, the author makes the assumption that the brains of procrastinators are just a little bit different. You can call it little monkey, your brain or the dark monster insight of you: But even if it is just purely meant as a fictuous metaphor, it all boils down to the same concept: The creation of a wonderful excuse, why you procrastinate! It is not your responsibility that you are procrastinating - you can blame the monkey. Similarily like you can blame the evil computer games for your messy life, you can blame porn for whatever is wrong with you sexually, you can blame your parents for you inability to talk to women (just a silly example) and you can blame the rest of the world for every problem you have. Then you can take it a step further and call it an actual mental disease: Call it gaming disorder, call it porn addiction, call it procrastination- or monkey disorder.
But that is quite similar like calling it sneezing disorder, when you are sick! What I think is missing, is self responsibility. There is nothing wrong with someone, who procrastinates, similarly like his or her brain is not different from the rest of the pack. Believe me, I know: I was a diehard procrastinator, because I really wasn't interested in the stuff for university. Those annoying articles to read. These stupid tests to learn for. How annoying, when I can game instead and just have fun. Thinking about the new killer to be released in Dead by Daylight or thinking about working on new aerial moves in Rocket League were more interesting than memorizing the different parts of the brain or whatever. Why should I care for that. shit?
However, once I understood that I have the deep desire to become an awesome psychologist, becoming more and more interested in psychological phenomena and exploring a deep interest even into philosophical or ethical ideas, the day just does'nt have enough hours for my to-do list. All the books I want to read, all my ideas, I want to write down, all those simpleminded ted talks to destroy. xD
Let's take the example of my current history module: Former me years ago would have preferred to game, because it would not be of interest for me, what happened in the past. Current me understoods the power of historical knowledge. I finally understand the purpose of writing, conceptualizing my ideas and discussing things. I really dig all of that stuff. So instead of blaming something else, take responsibility, start to explore, what YOU like and what would add meaning to YOUR life and then jump into it. You really can get instant gratification by just writing a couple of sentences for your bachelor thesis, if you have the deep desire to deliver a good project. Youtube videos are nice, but not nearly as important as working on this stuff. I think your current identity, what you like, what is important to you - that is the real deal. Not blaming something internally in your brain and thereby coming up with excuses. Unless you want to make the assumption that by changing my belief systems and perspectives of my own life and taking responsibility, I also drastically changed my procrastinator brain into a non-procrastinator brain. Which is absurd from neurophysiological research perspective.
On 5/11/2020 at 6:32 AM, noMoreProcrastination said:However I noticed that I started replacing gaming with netflix, listening to music and other things.
So ask yourself this: Why is netflix or gaming so important to you? Certainly there must be something annoying about it, because you feel that you should do something else instead. Don't try to beat procrastination. Don't blame netflix for being a bad thing. I watch it quite daily and really enjoy it. Currently I am watching Orphan Black. Good shit! But what is missing for you, when doing those things? And more importantly, how would your life look like, if you would not do these things? Where do you want to end up eventually? I know that is not that easy to answer, but it is worth to consider. 🙂
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4 hours ago, BooksandTrees said:
I spent the rest of the night watching Hunter x Hunter. It got really good and I enjoyed it.
I am glad that you are starting to be more and more at peace with yourself and that you don't completely beat yourself up for something, which is per se not super effective in terms of self-improvement. But I think relaxing is quite important as well.
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@Ikar you mean the self-authoring program from Peterson? Does that cost money? Certainly a good idea to do that.
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I am at my parents place right now. Most of my time is now focused on my bachelor thesis. Putting as much energy in it as possible. Besides that, everything is pretty ok. Listening a little bit less to music for now. Trying to be a bit more moderate regarding this "addiction". Also, meditating in the morning is quite a nicething to do. Just listening to what is around me. It calms me down a lot. But other then that, I don't have much to say here for now.
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On 5/8/2020 at 2:17 AM, Erik2.0 said:
It will lead to dad bod.
Haha. No, I'm sure you'll be just as jacked as ever.
Haha 😄
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6 hours ago, Ikar said:
No wonder Plato put it on 4th place out of 5. There was a Simpsons episode where Burns wanted to make Bart his heir by using all his influence, money and power too
I am not well educated on Plato and the Simpsons. But it surely spreads the message based on your description.
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6 hours ago, Ikar said:
It's just that money is a shitty value to pose with and attract others, yet at the same time money means power to do anything in a democracy.
That is true, since there were studies that money really only brings a certain degree of happiness up to a certain amount. I think many people use it just like gaming as a strategy to get certain things: Approval, appreciation, a feeling of choice, distraction...
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1 hour ago, Tha Aung said:
What is the purpose of journal anyway? To find within right? I understand one thing that I have all the answers I need in me . That is how I am feeling it.
Do you think journal helps you from game addictions?
Well, if we have a problem of any kind, talking about it or better, writing it down can bring clarity. And then also getting the feeling that other people are listening and maybe getting their point of view can also be a good thing, right? I cannot answer, if journaling on gamequitters will be the solution for you, but me it helped tremendously, even though gaming itself is not a problem for anymore since november 2019. So it is up to you. 🙂
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10 hours ago, BooksandTrees said:
I tried the same thing with cookies in the past and failed every time, but now I'm not failing because I find more pleasure out of losing weight and getting a 6 pack.
That is true. I mean, it is not just about weight loss and sixpacks. I could easily do that by strongly commiting to my diehard diet for a couple of months and would easily come with drastic weight loss. But that is not my goal for now, since I try to be a bit more moderate. I am curious, where it will lead to. 🙂
2 hours ago, Ikar said:It was a nice article. I agree with the fact that a problem never really goes away and that you can have only an "upgraded" version of the problem. Warren Buffett also has financial problems. I think 99% of people wishing they had his wealth would either freeze up and let the money get eaten up by inflation or had an aneurysm in the next 5 minutes.
I hope you get that blog up soon 😄
Thanks for that. xD Regarding the blog, I am still struggling regarding the right way to do it so that I don't need to pay a lot of money, but at the same time having my own content, without basically making myself dependent on someone. I mean, just by writing here, it is not really my content, since gamerquitters is more in charge in some way. But I will figure that out at some point I think. ^^
Regarding what you said about money: That is really what I meant: Money at first seems like the nice solution for all of your problems. But then it might actually be a problem on its own or by leading to more problems. Because maybe now you are worried that you might loose it again. Or that some people will be your false friends and want a bite of the cake and become slimey assholes. But those two "problems" could also be solutions, since you might learn, how to take care of money or who your real friends are... Or by getting an aneurysm and die 😄 😄 😄
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9 hours ago, BooksandTrees said:
I got annoyed nobody wrote in the last one and didn't make one for this month.
Well the best thing would be to just let it flow. If someone has something to say, he/she can say it. 🙂
I did not have much to say the last month. But this month is quite different. There were some nice things, I am quite proud of. Sorry but that is going to be a long one. But it is just a great way for me to summarize all of it. So thanks for that @Ikar:
First of all, I started to go into moderation. That is to say, I am not only trying to stay absent from something and go to one extreme, but I am pendling a bit back. I would call it the golden mean: Binge eating junkfood might become orthorexia, a gaming addict could become a gym addict, a lazy ass wanker might turn into a burned out perfectionist. So I am glad that I am striving towards the middle way. Even though I think that it is a very good strategy to first explore the extremes. I mean that helped me in the end. And then maybe at some point, one comes to the same realizations like me. But who knows. The only exception would be my studies. The last days, I spent relentlessly working on my report in an almost unhealthy way. But I guess, a bachelor thesis requires this kind of effort. I am still proud of that as well.
In addition, I see differences in my work ethic for my studies, especially in the case of reading. Before I would always kinda "forcefully" smash through the paper. Like reading it once, trying to reach the end. Then also summarizing it somehow, but that was always only writing the stuff down in the exact same words, like it was written down in the article itself. That strategy never made me fully understand the whole thing. And even reading just 10 pages was a struggle. Now I really spend time with it. I read sentence per sentence, trying to fully comprehend it and make meaning out of it. Even applying it to my own life. For instance, the history, ethics and philosophy module: A former me years ago would have been bored to shit. Now I am really into that stuff. For instance, the curious case of phrenology made me realize that certain things, what some almost take for granted today - like nofap or even certain things like neuroscience or those "motivational speakers" may at their core be a pseudoscience or sell a pseudoscience. And then I read stuff like: Not masturbating will make your hair grow better or you will be able to lift more. Or that everything we do boils down to certain neurotransmitters like poor dopamin, which is a completely misunderstood poor transmitter. Those things can be easily disproved. But so could even be theories, I believe in: I for instance believe in cbt and positive psychology. But even here are cases, which might be contradicting. So generally speaking, I see myself becoming far more critical. It is not about believing everything that was once written on some random blog. Just because someone cited a scientific study, does'nt mean that it is true. Studies can be flawed too.
I also see myself become more confident. I am less anxious when making phone calls or when driving. Do you know that I was even anxious regarding parking? I would always plan every trip up to the point, where I could park, because I wanted to desperately avoid being laughed at. This is slowly fading away and I am driving more relaxed now. I am more willing to make mistakes and actually try things. I have came to realize, if you read my journal that those problems can also be solutions: So just by making a "mistake" it can lead to actual knowledge that something is not as worse as previously assumed. I stutter a bit when making a phone call? So what, I may find out that nobody cares or even notices it. I failed at parking? Well now I can correct it and eventually be good at it. I finally understood Jordan Petersons metaphor of the dragon (check out this link of the lecture, where he refers to it back in 2002: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=REjUkEj1O_0). I will probably talk a little more about that it my journal at some point, because this theory can be nicely compared to my problem/solution theory.
Overall, I feel quite well.
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1 hour ago, Tha Aung said:
I have to find a new identity to be reborn as a new person right?
I am not sure, if this is not only a discussion of terminology. If you mean that your old identity has to die then sure, it has to be reborn. But I think our old identity will not cease to exist. In some way, it is still us. It formed us and made us to who we are today.
1 hour ago, Tha Aung said:What is the best way not to be engaged with social media?
Let's ask the other way around: In what do you want to engage? You can use this journal to tell us and share with us, how that will go for you.
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I solved and failed at the same time. While I accomplished every goal for today, which is nice, I failed with the moderation. At least with hotdogs. My plan was to only eat 2 out of 4, but now, all four are gone. But that is fine. I expected this to happen. I cannot wait to buy them again and to try again. What is interesting is that in my head there was just this believe that I would have to eat them all, because there would be some concern about still being hungry afterwards. But overall, I do not complain. I did not overeat and overall, another great day. the most important part is that I finished with my statistics stuff. I worked quite hard the last couple of days. so overall, another good day.
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It has been a while, since I last have written in this journal and on gamequitters overall. I was not really feeling like writing anything and this has not changed. I am in great shape. Possibly the greatest shape of my life: My apartment is in order, I am never procrastinating and doing the stuff I want. I am deeply immersed in my future profession of psychology, working out and my diet is quite fine. My social life will be the last major thing to address. This is something, that was the case, when I joined gamequitters and is still a fact right now. But I am sure that this forum cannot help me with this. I can only figure it out by myself. But I still thank everyone for the great discussions and heartwarming words of support.
But it is time for me to go on now. Maybe I look into the forum in the future - who knows. For now, I am deeply convinced that gaming is not a disorder but only a symptom, which we acted out as a result of other issues. And I don't want to discuss anymore all the things, which I consider like huge problems: Counting your days until oblivion, blaming dopamine for everything, even blaming computer games. Blame yourself! Once you start adressing all the things, you always wanted to adress, it becomes addicting and you are going up a gigantic upward spiral. It is inevitable. Things like gaming, stupid internet videos and social media become renderless and obsolete. Time to grow up...
So yeah, maybe well see each other in the future. Until then. Keep it up!