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Hello! Today has been a great and productive day. I've spent nearly the whole day socializing with my friends. We made good progress planning the upcoming birthday party. After a while of not seeing your friends it feels great connecting with them. Hands down the best thing today was going to sauna and watching Sharknado 2 with my friends. That kind of stuff brings us closer as a group. I decided to move on the basement for a while, since there might be some impurity in the air of my bedroom. At least we'll see if there is anything causing me respiratory issues. It's cool to live down here for a while. That's a great question Cam, I'm still figuring those out myself. For what I can think now I'd say at least from the mating perspective would be increasing my mate value and striving for a medium-term relationship. I'm putting effort in defining my goals but the deadline for me is more the seventh of January since that is when I'm back to studying. Don't worry, I will announce them once they are ready. Today I'm grateful for: Filmmakers for making bad moviesBananasFudge my friend's sister madeClean and fresh sheetsFireplaces

Hello! Today was mostly traveling back to our place. An okay day altogether. I'm currently feeling good but a bit lost. I'm doing pretty good but currently my goals are like many pairs of headphones, just too mixed up. I dislike the idea of life being completely organized, but being all over the place is not good either. I guess I'm trying to find the balance between manuscript and improv in my life. Not necessarily a complete turn in my life, but instead a little calibrating. How I'm going to work towards this goal? Well that's work in progress. I'm starting out by cleaning everything out, sticking to my effective habits and reflecting my habits and goals in either this or my personal journal. Getting a good clean objective look at things and moving on from there. That's it for the day. I'm going to get a good sleep. Today I'm grateful for: Going to try out Catan with my friendsListening to Shrek soundtrackQuentin TarantinoSpanish musicHeaters, Otherwise we'd freeze out here

Hello! Today was a fun day. I spent my day enjoying the vacation with my relatives. At this point I feel like I need to jot down words and thoughts in my personal journal to get clarity of where I'm going. I'm glad there are plenty of things that I need to do this vacation so passivity won't be a problem. The new years eve is just around the corner as well. I need to start preparing! The best thing that happened today was making a tiny basket out of grass and reed. After watching PrimitiveTechnology's Youtube channel I wanted to try craft something as well. It was fun and relaxing Cam - For sure. Those events lie in the future a while now. Also I've noticed that traveling gives you perspective, seeing the differences in culture, wealth and the standard of living. InterRail is my traveling goal for the summer of 2017. Today I'm grateful for: The amazing crafts my grandmother is able to make, shows how sharp she still isPlough/Big Dipper, the stars were really clear today.Sleeping really wellTaking some cool pictures todayGame Quitters meetups popping up, It's always great to see more action in this communityWhat I could have done to make today better: Focused on being less in front of the screen once again today. I probably should look for other interesting stuff here Here's a quick picture I took while outside. Getting some much wanted sunshine!

I'm currently listening to "the mating grounds"-podcast. It's been great at explaining human relationships! Give the 13-part series a try if you want to check it out

Hello! I've spent the Boxing day by my relative's place. It's been awesome, good food and a sauna. Currently I'm feeling bit annoyed. Maybe it's just me resisting the thought of missing my traditional routines due to all the Christmas events. I know for sure that beating myself/giving unnecessary thought to those feelings is a waste of time. I should just enjoy the moment. There will be place and time for these things when the routineish life starts once again. I started thinking that in the future I'd like to live somewhere where there would be more sun-time. It would be great to at least try to live in a different kind of environment. Maybe middle Europe in for example Austria, Switzerland or France. The most amazing thing that happened today was the feast that was waiting for us when we arrived to our grandmothers house. 2 tables full of awesome tasting dishes Today I'm grateful for: Bathing in a lakeside saunaKarelian stew, Basically an amazing meat stewSpending some cousin timeThe Beatles is now on SpotifyKarelian pasty, a thin rye crust filled with rice porridge What I could have done to make today better: Focused on being more social, initiating conversations more actively and being more presentWhat I will do differently tomorrow: Focus on being more present in life in general, focus on the people around me and giving some peace for goals and habitsMaybe adjust my journal style once again, I feel like it need a bit more tuning to make it fit for me :^)

Hello! Today I have been more organized. It's partly due to the fact that I'm feeling much better. Today I have thought about my habits and figured out it's better for me to opt for something that is small, tangible and well defined. For example organizing my old papers and shelves 10 minutes a day in order to get them cleaned up this break. For some reason there has been a sloppy feeling to this day. I've been stagnant for a while. It's good to get the ball rolling again. I'm going to do it by adding sports back to my menu and focusing on eating properly after all this Christmas sugar. The best thing that happened today was managing to get some clarity about the habits and also talking with Paul once again. This time we talked about how he almost got shot in Russia, ratios of strength in arms in Europe and China's human score credit system. Today I'm grateful for: Creme BruleGetting good exercise in the spoken wordBeing surrounded by polite peopleRussian Borscht, beet soup with sour creamGoing to meet other relatives tomorrowWhat I could have done to make today better: Eaten less sugarWhat I will do differently tomorrow: Eat betterDo some light exerciseWhat went well today: Interesting conversationsTidying up

This. This is exactly where I need to pay more attention to. It's so easy just to rush through good books and after a few months just to forget all you've read. Well, of course you won't forget everything, but putting the information working for you has been the idea behind most of the self-improvement books I've read so far. Great posts! I'm out of likes but I will come around later. Happy Holidays Matt!

Think about a Game Quitters' hockey tournament! It would be so awesome to play with you guys

Merry Christmas everyone! What a lovely day it has been. We have eaten well and had fun together with my family. Good and traditional Christmastime. We've spent most of the day hassling with foods presents and such. The eve turned out to be great! My thoughts have been focused on celebrating and having fun, so not too much goal time today. The best thing today was chatting with Paul. He told stories about his adventures with Sicilian mafia, Nazis and the British Air Force. It's amazing to hear in what kind of situations he has been in. What I could have done to make today better: Today was a fairly consistent day, nothing too majorWhat I will do differently tomorrow: Focus more on my routinesWhat went well today: Feeling betterWe had great fun togetherIt was awesome to see that our gifts were appreciatedAte really well todayToday I'm grateful for: Having good conversationsEating traditional finnish Christmas food which is healthyI'm not so sick anymoreGiving and getting presentsSpending time with a dog todayToday has been a good day for my library as well. It currently looks like this: Kortheo - Haven't checked that one out before. Maybe I could mimic his idea a little :^) Happy Holidays!

Hello! I've spent most of today resting and reading. Hoping to get a little better for Christmas. I've adapted to the current situation and adjusted my habits. That actually brings me to another point. I feel like my habits are currently messy, which is not good at all. I've not defined them to be absolutely exact. It's a big part of the reason why I sometimes end up slipping with them. The importance of good habits has been adduced in nearly all of the self-help books I've read. That is something I definitely will work on. The best part of today was either reading or watching Arman Alizad's series about developing countries and poverty. It's an amazing series! I hope it has been translated to english. Arman is doing a good job showing that taking this life in a country which is doing well should not be taken for granted. What I could have done to make today better: Eaten a little moreRested in a better postureWhat I will do differently tomorrow: Put more thought on my routinesTry to have a more time off-screenWhat went well today: Made good progress with the book I'm currently readingTaking it slow enough. Making sure I don't prolong being sickToday I'm grateful for: The whole house is clean and ready for ChristmasStretching, helped me not to be totally stagnant todayWalnuts, They seem to be a balanced sort of nutsDownhill skiingMeeting a friend I made last summer while working

Alex, would you mind if I borrowed your "What I could have done to make today better:" and "What I will do differently tomorrow:" sections? They'd be great help with reflecting the past day!

There is nothing like reuniting with your old friends!

I can totally relate to the idea of distracting flow of information. With some site suggesting this and some pages suggesting the exact opposite it is, at least for me, hard to come up with well-rounded picture. Enjoying your journals!

Hello! Today has been great on it's own way! I woke up feeling a bit dizzy. Noticed that I have a little fever, It's probably due to the sprints I did in too cold air yesterday. I managed to do most of my habits. Passed cold shower for the day though. I decided that now would be a good time to learn from the good ol' fella, Ignatius Loyola. He was shot with a cannonball to the leg around 14th century, but spent his time on hospital and getting better by reading books. He ended up being a significant man so I'll follow in his footsteps. I wrote a letter to Brené Brown thanking her for her book. I just had to do it since it helped me to initiate a very vulnerable conversation today. The result was so relieving I had no other option but to thank her. For anybody who hasn't read that book I highly recommend it. It has really changed the way I see human connection. I got a spontaneous idea today. What if I could work abroad this summer? I started doing some research and it seems like for example working in Sweden could be possible. No doubt, I'm going to sing in to the program and make the best swedish CV I can. It would be awesome to learn a new language, get more work experience and connect with new people. There are dozens if not hundreds of meetups around Stockholm. The best thing that happened today was the vulnerable talk. Being open with the right people just terminates the shame and anxiety. Today I'm grateful for: My sister's birthday, we dined and watched a movie togetherHoney, It makes a great teaFeelings, they make us human after allGrace Muesli, the perfect mixTed Ed, a great little channel

Hello! Today has been a productive day. I've been anxious and stressed throughout the day. What's making me anxious is something I can't really affect anymore, but I'm not able to shake the anxiety just by accepting the fact. I'm glad there was a person who I could talk the thing through with. It helped immensely. Still feeling a bit anxious but it's a feeling I can just notice and live with until it passes by, which I know it will. I'm super glad that I didn't just stay home thinking. I was able to do my usual routine. Routines sure help with keeping oneself on the track. The best thing today was the chat I had since it really lifted some weight off my shoulders. Today I'm grateful for: Daring Greatly, which helped me understand how important it is to talk to people about problems/feelingsGetting all the Christmas shopping doneFollowing others and getting my Steam, Origin and Battle.net accounts deleted. This is pretty much the last nail to the coffinCam's Think and Grow Rich chapter recommendationHIIT jogging today

Hello! This weekend has sure been an eventful one! My friend's birthday celebration was pretty wild. There were few minor setbacks but overall we had a great time. Today I've been resting and clearing my head. The best thing that happened today was sharing a breakfast with my friends after the party. Since it is Sunday I've been reflecting the past week. There are plenty of things that have worked out well, for instance my gym routine and exams. Next week I'm going to focus on having good social time and keeping up with my habits. Alex's no complaining challenge sounds interesting so I'll give it a shot as well! At the beginning I'll try to go for a 10 day streak. Nut Update: I bought Brazil nuts. They taste great! There is just a minor disadvantage to them. 100 grams of Brazil nuts contain approx 3800% of daily selenium recommendation. Eating too much of those nuts will cause a poisoning which causes (discoloration of the skin, deformation and loss of nails, reversible loss of hair (baldness), excessive tooth decay and discoloration, a garlic odor to the breath, weakness, lack of mental alertness, and listlessness.) So I might look for a more stable nut sort. Today I'm grateful for: Meditation, today I noticed how much more calmly I'm able to deal with stress and anxiety. 7 days off of 90 days streak!Smoked salmon, It's the greatestChristmas tree since it brings with it a natural atmosphereMy phone for magically reviving itselfNo one getting badly hurt yesterday

Yo! What's up? Nice pick btw

Hello! It's getting late and I need sleep, so I'll make it quick this time! Today was a good day. I managed to complete the habits I wanted. Writing a post on the Health&Relationships forum helped me to get my thought sorted out. The best thing that happened today was going to the semester's ending event. Plenty of very talented musicians there. Hugging and wishing Merry Christmas to my friends was awesome. Thanks for the suggestion! Nuts actually sound way more natural than supplements. They probably have other good nutrients packed in them as well. Do you have any suggestions for the sort of nuts? Today I'm grateful for: Old clothes, You are able to notice that you've grown when you try to put on your old blousesGetting invited to a badminton tournament. I love badminton as a sport. It's much easier than for instance tennisThe truffles my friend made, they were absolutely deliciousGoing to a cabin tomorrow, It's going to be great!The fact that creating gratitude journal was quickHaving history on the next phase! I'm already looking forward to WW's

Hello guys! This has been a topic that has started to bother me once again. I'm still not completely sure how to deal with this issue. I've been listening to Tucker Max's podcast, and he stated that masturbation is a part of healthy sexuality especially for young guys like me. It got me thinking once again whether denying my sexual urges is the right way to go, since that is essentially what I'm currently doing. (I don't have a partner currently, so masturbation is the go to option with releasing sexual tension) I'm currently struggling to see the solution. Just to point this out I'm currently talking about masturbation and masturbation only. Porn is something I know will not be beneficial for me. What makes this so hard for me is the difficulty to find clear empirical evidence regarding this situation. There are plenty of articles around, but they haven't been able to empirically convince me. Most of you reading this topic are probably aware of the way the NoFap-movement sees this situation. I feel like their Zero Tolerance-approach to masturbation and in some occasions sexuality altogether might not fit my way of seeing things. I can understand their point of view from an angle. If masturbation for them is like gaming was for me I can totally understand their decision to limit or abstain from it. But on the other had I can't see NoFap as such a great factor as it has claimed to be. For example titles like "4 days into nofap and i lost my virginity" are in my opinion a bit misleading. I believe that not masturbating will not make you magically better at life just like only stopping gaming won't alone either. It's the action you take that gets you closer to your goals, for example changing the way you sleep, eat and exercise. It's great that people who are burdened with uncontrollable masturbation are able to get through their problem, but marketing NoFap as a solution for everybody's problems is a bit far-fetched. On the other hand there are also plenty of pro-masturbation information on the net. The positive effects like reducing stress, helping to get sleep and naturally releasing sexual tension. There are also arguments based on natural biology suggesting that masturbation is useful to us humans, otherwise natural selection would have eliminated the individuals who masturbate. I've been doing Nofap for maybe 10 months now (not one streak, average approx 5x60 day streaks). I experimented with it a bit recently, but still wasn't able to come up with clear solution (if there even is one). I limited masturbating to approx 2-3 times a week. Naturally the sexual tension wasn't as present as it usually is. Not feeling as sexually tense I felt better when interacting with girls, something sexual wouldn't pop into my mind every few minutes. I also didn't suddenly turn into an unattractive freak. Once I got over the placebo-effect that followed the experiment I actually felt totally normal. I was able to complete my habits and enjoy my life as usual. While having been on the NoFap I have to admit that I get more kicks out of for example going to gym. After all masturbation is pretty high pleasure, low effort activity. I'm not planning on becoming an ascetic, but being able to enjoy things, that move you forward, more is always great. For now I feel like the best way to continue would be to have a good rhythm to it. Enough to keep the constant sexual tension away, but enough to have the benefit of enjoying other things more. For some reason I feel like I need to return to this subject once again. Well writing this helped me to vent out. Please let me know what you think and what kind of experiences/goals you have regarding masturbation! Thanks! Some of the sources and examples I found: 4 days into nofap and i lost my virginity https://www.reddit.com/r/NoFap/comments/3vrso9/lost_my_virginity_thanks_nofap/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GU3JqoUDkjA http://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/masturbate-every-day http://thematinggrounds.com/

Hello! First of all thanks for the support Joe, It is greatly appreciated! Today turned out to be a great day. I finished this semester strong and now I'm ready enjoy the heck out of my holidays. Today I've finally had some time to read others' journals, and that's been great. We went to do a little sparring with my friend, and we enjoyed ourselves. The best thing that happened today was either the time I spent with my friend or just generally enjoying connecting with people. I feel like I currently need a little time to wind down from this semester. Aaand that's about it, Hope you have a good day! Today I'm grateful for: My friend for being able to join me spontaneouslyPeasoup, It tastes really goodFurry caps, They're warm and look sympatheticGetting a cool idea for a photoMagnesium supplements, no more cramps!

I'm no expert in these kind of situations, but I feel like you shouldn't put your mother's choices on your conscience. She is an adult and capable of making her own choices and decisions. Your journey seems to be starting well! Good luck! (By the way you are my hero for sorting out all those Hama beads! )

Hi! For me exercise is really important to distress. Something like a jog for 15 minutes + stretching usually does the trick. Of course there are variety of ways to do sports if you're not that into running. And as an extra benefit I always sleep really well after training. Sleeping, exercising and eating regularly helped me a great deal! By the way I went through a similar phase as well, it's totally normal. When I started making little progress and told my people about trying to quit games and how I struggled with it, I was slowly able to get the ball rolling. Good luck, I'm sure you can sort it out!

Awesome improvements you're doing with your diet and exercise! I'm sure that they will pay themselves in the long run. Also Congrats for already making it through half of the detox, time sure has flown by quickly.

Hello! Today has been pretty much studying, but that's the way it goes. Last exam is tomorrow. Today I've completed my habits and managed to do them efficiently. I got a new haircut which is a bit experimental, but it's good to try new things. It's great to have a barber you can trust. Over the years we've become good friends. The best thing that happened today was actually taking a new haircut while getting good information and opinions regarding my hair from my barber. I'm going to take a good sleep so I will be sharp tomorrow! I've been occupied recently, so there has been very little time to think about anything other than priorities. Having more social interaction is my go to after the semester ends. Today I'm grateful for: Eating chicken and vegetables. The paleo diet sounds really interestingMeeting awesome people today while shopping for presentsEveryone is starting to wind down for ChristmasLiquorice, It tastes greatFinding mentors, It's great to get information and advice form themGood history teachers, Pasi and Jarkko have left part of their rock solid interest in history in me

Hello! Today was a good day! Got my habits done and that's great. Training BJJ was good as well. Sparred opponents with similar skill levels. I'm going to invest time on that hobby more steadily, and make sure that my schedule supports it. The best thing today was going to see my friend. He has been busy with making the best of his time as well. As I listened to him I became fascinated by the fact that he has achieved connections with for example with The Finnish ambassador in EU. Even though I'm not into politics to that degree I can still see the point with being into it. For example my friend can just apply for a job and get a recommendation from a MEP. That's impressive if anything. I also feel like I should be spending more time with this guy. His work has really paid off! And I know that he has worked hard for it. As I was thinking about the Eastern and Western meditation I thought about the Stoic quote: Work to change what you can and accept what you can't change. The Eastern is more about accepting and the Western is more about identifying and changing. They make a great pair. I think I'll introduce a little bit of western meditation to my everyday routine as well. Today I'm grateful for: Talking with Paul, He is an amazing englishman who, in a way, is my idol. He's charismatic and has done all you can imagine.Wrestling with people I enjoy wrestling with.Being able to focus on history without it having too much of a draining effect on my energy-levels. It's great to see what interest can do.Getting a haircut tomorrow, It's about time Ballpoint pens, I don't know why but they are so much more pleasant to write with than for example a pencil