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  1. I especially like this part! Stay strong. I wouldn't fight sleep. I've read many times you can't make a person fall asleep unless they lack sleep (and you don't use any drugs, coffee, caffeinated drinks ...). It might take even weeks or months of naps, don't worry, it's your brain readjusting.
  2. How is the detox going Bob? What I don't like about this AA type of idea is that you get a chip, reward, acknowledgment after you've been clean for a certain amount of time. But if you make one mistake, you have to give them away. Just because you wen't back to gaming, that doesn't mean that you haven't accomplished anything. You've changed your life for a while. Now it's time to get back on track. Don't fall into feeling sorry for yourself, like I did, and continue with gaming because of the anger, guilt or whatever. Thinking of you and sending you love!
  3. Went for a short walk today. Saw a young girl on the bench near PoGo gym and on the other side of the street a young couple with their baby in a stroller also near a gym. They were all pretty busy with playing PoGo on their phones. And for the first time I felt somewhat different when I saw them. Not angry, envious, scared,nervous or curious (well except for looking at what they were doing). I didn't even feel sorry for them or had an urge to take my phone out as a reflex. I managed to just notice what they were doing and move on. I can honestly say that they could have been playing cards, flying a drone or riding a horse. I managed to just observe what they were doing as an activity, that doesn't interest me, and move on. Might have been a fluke or I was just having a good day. But I felt really good afterwards and I really enjoyed my stroll. I guess I made enough changes in my life and started enough things to keep my mind occupied on other things. Feeling really grateful.
  4. Not getting close enough to the 100 books this year. But I will stick to this goal and maybe in 2019 I'll come closer. At least I've read more books in 2018 than I did in 2017 ? I'm also considering doing the Reddit's daily sketch challenge. I was always shitty at drawing and always felt like a failure seeing the results. So this could be my "do one thing in a day that you're afraid of". I'll start in December, so that it won't fall into the 1.1. cliche. Hope everyone is doing fine. Holidays can be tough, family obligations and everyone forcing you to be happy or at least act like you are.
  5. Have you felt like this before? How long have you been feeling like this? Maybe you can go back a bit and see, what changed ... Sending you hugs.
  6. I'm just happy you're back!! When did you return? Maybe you can give yourself some time to adjust to your new/old routine!
  7. SuperSaiyanGod I hope you are doing ok!!!
  8. You shouldn't be alone with these thoughts. What's your situation, do you have someone close to you? You should at least call someone! This won't last. Thinking that this will last is only a part of being in this dark place. Please please get in contact with someone close by!!!
  9. Long time no see, how are you doing?
  10. I see you haven't posted in a while. It would be nice to hear from you and see, how you're doing. Hope you are doing well!
  11. Still circling the drain. Are some of us simply damaged and will never be "cured"? I don't even want to go back to occasional gaming, never had it as a goal and at this point I don't think it's worth trying. I just hate having this fear, worry always in the back of my mind. Like every time I have a couple of minutes of free time (waiting at the bus stop, in the store, relaxing at home) I have to tell myself: do not install any games! Maybe the solution would be to never have free time, to always have 2 extra activities that I could do instead. Like always bringing a book, reading an email on the phone, starting conversations with strangers, meditating etc. Basically planning for every second of the day. But that would just lead to more stress, wouldn't it? And you know what helps with stress ... gaming. Or maybe I can limit myself to one activity and really obsess over it. Try to use this activity and goals related to it as a source of focus. Like reading 100 books per year or something like that. Such a random goal but it would probably help me get focused on one thing. I'm at 25 now. Pro: - clear goal - hard to reach but possible if I include booklets in German - easy to control, keep track of (I already started a list of books in the beginning of the year) - activity not affected by weather or specific location - sitting down and concentrating is a skill worth developing (I used to be able to read 8 hours/day and it will take me some time to be back in shape) - I do not have to include other people (the way I used to play games was in a very antisocial style as well) - I can compete with myself (how many books per day, week I can read) or even others - connected to what I used to do as a profession, I like reading, plus books still are a great way of learning about the world and different fields in general Maybe this time I won't count the days without gaming, binge-watching and stick to a positive goal. I will only specifically mention books that I really like and are part of "general knowledge" or at least generally accessible. Don't think anyone will profit from me mentioning random Slovenian authors? even if they are great!
  12. Had a very vivid dream about playing PoGo. It surprised me a bit, since I haven't played this game for about 6 months now. Obviously some brain connections are still there, because the dream came with the good feelings, excitement, joy ... I guess I don't have to tell you I had the the urge to install the game again and play just a little bit. (We all know how this ends up, right?). In a way my brain is doing what it's supposed to be doing. It's keeping memories of the stuff that made me happy alive. Like if I were living in the woods and found a great apple tree or a fishing spot, it would make sense to keep this information very much alive because it helps me to thrive and survive. I'm fighting against my urges and genes in a way. I think it's going to be a long week.
  13. I tried some of this new air dry clay I bought almost a year ago. My first time working this type of clay. I don't like it, you have to be really fast, because it's literally as hard as a rubber in a couple of minutes so you can't make any mistakes. If you add water, it just turns into crumbs and you can't really work it. All in all not for me. I think Fimo or another type of polymer clay you have to bake in the oven are more user-friendly, well at least for beginners. They simply give you more time. Plus every time I do stuff like this I realize, that I'm not really good at crafts. I guess it's good if you want to waste time and not game but no more than that. I guess I have to accept, that I'll never be one of those women who make dresses for her kids, decorate the house with hand-made objects or bake designer cookies ? . Everything takes time, sure. I used to think I was build for this specific thing and that I just have to find it. You know like in all of these movies where you try a little bit and then you become the best :). But seriously, I don't think we start a the same point when we begin to learn a new skill. And I do believe in the power of genes and succeeding at some things faster. I you are generally a persistent and patient person who can get obsessed with pretty much anything and everything that's a trap. And if you are surrounded with mostly positive people who are cheering you on at whatever you do, that just deepens the problem. I kind of wish someone would tell me from time to time: you know, what you did is ugly and I think you are wasting your time. As a serious hobby I should stick to swimming, reading, maybe writing. I get more pleasure and success from them anyway. I guess being 30+ years old, it's high time to accept your weaknesses. They are not really weaknesses, maybe they just keep you on the right path in a way. Thoughts?
  14. Just wondering how are you doing. Any news or all good old stuff?
  15. Just hold on. It's a process, you are just going through something ... Sorry for not having anything smarter to say. Stay safe. Thinking of you.
  16. Hello guys and girls. This forum is such a lovely thing. I was game free for a while and then I had another relapse. But when I came back to this forum, it was so great to see, that the world goes on. That others have their own battles and keep fighting through them. It's day 1 for me again. It seems every time I do just a little bit better than the last time, free from this gaming/tv world for a little bit longer. That's the good news. The bad news is, that I'm back to square one again. I kind of know what to expect in the next week or so. Being very tired and sleepy, uninterested in any activity, fighting the habit and the urge of playing any game at all. Luckily I have a visit planned in a couple of days, so that should help me with my first steps back to the right track. I apologize if I wrote this before, but I remember this guy (he was all about the healthy eating habits) saying, it's ok if you have a relapse. With food or smoking for example. When you look back you still were tobacco free for 90 days for example. Even if you do this on and off for 10 years, you are still making a difference. It is still hard to be unsuccessful. And looking back, I had loads of failures in my life in the last couple of years, as far as my family&friends&works situation is concerned. Still hoping I can make a difference. Loads of love and thank you for reading.
  17. I hope you are ok. Are you in a better place now? What is going through your head? I think a lot of people go back to gaming or just relapse and then they don't post anymore. Or there is just too much going on in their lives. I hope one of the two is true for you.
  18. Thought of you and I'm wondering how you are doing ... Hope you are well in any case!
  19. Tomorrow I'm leaving for a short vacation. Deleted Pogo, took the battery out of PoGo+ and I'm not taking it with me. They made some changes in the game and made it good again which doesn't help me. I actually met a bunch of people playing this game a couple of weeks ago and it made me feel uncomfortable. Someone added me to their chat group and people are crazy. They play all the time, kind of funny coming from me since I do the same. I don't want to make new connections or friends through this game! I know it will be even harder to quit and since I'm new in this country and don't have many local friends that danger is real! I've thought about changing the password to random letters but the account is connected to my main email and I can't really delete it in that sense. I could delete every tier I've "collected", making the account almost unplayable. Since my goal was to collect it all, that could work. I admire people who manage to delete an account on steam or something. Especially if they've put hard earned money into the games. Maybe it's the same as with junk food. It's hard to throw it away. Even if you know that it's no good for you, if you can't get your hands on any other food (unreal, I know), it's still calories. The game is a collection of achievements, invested time&money. Something that you can show to other gamers to help them understand that you've done your work. That you've been diligent and hard working. I know it sounds funny. At this point my biggest fear is that I won't be able to find something, anything that I enjoy as much as gaming. And if I'm on the edge of depression that the lack of having something to be excited about will push me over the edge. I know it doesn't make any sense but this is just how I feel. I did try a bunch of stuff, being 33 and all. Not a lot, but enough to keep me worried I guess. If I fall from the sky tomorrow, if our plane crashes, let me just tell you that I love you. Keep strong in your daily battles and I hope I will write again in a couple of days. Thank you Cam. In case someone upstairs is listening, just know I'm upping your score every day not that you need it
  20. Go go!! Critical of yourself .. yeah that is a big one ...
  21. Thank you guys! Really! It is so great to see that someone responded to my writing. And you were both so nice and understanding. Maybe I should start thinking about the small things. It's kind of funny how much I obsess over the big things when I can't even figure out the small ones. Still stuck on screen. Tomorrow I'm leaving for a family visit. I hope that helps me give a running start. I should go back to reading. It still calms me down it just doesn't have this thrill that games&videos provide. I guess it's like going back to healthy eating after you've been eating only junk food for a while.
  22. Hey guys, I guess I'm back. I tried really hard to make it work with my last employer but things were just getting worse and worse. So I did quit last month. Not before I went back to gaming. And you know the drill, the whole circle of regret and denial. At least I'm back in this language course, so I've got one thing going for me. I think I still have some sort of open loop from the past. Like a couple of years ago I tried to fulfill one of my dreams, I always wanted to have a dog. Not much, not a big deal I know. But it was still one of the things I was very certain of. It didn't go well so I gave up on the dog. He is doing great btw. So I must say I'm very uncertain now when it comes to dreams and wishes. When I think I want something, I always kind of instinctively take a step back and wonder: Is that really what I want? Will it really make me happy or just more miserable? I guess that is the point of dreaming and having wishes. You think that if you fulfill them you will be happy. Maybe not happier than before but definitely not miserable. So now I'm just in this state, where I don't really want to think about the future. I don't want to make plans. So I'm trying to figure out how to climb out of this hole. I'm not making any plans at this moment to start another 90 days without gaming. I actually did it two times already but then after 100+ days I fall back to old habits. And I'm quite sure my binge watching is more time consuming and more problematic at this point. I start to watch something, a movie, a new series, and then I get bored/distracted and I start gaming while I'm watching this movie/series. Gaming helps me pass the time quicker. And movies help me pass the time to ... to what?? Or they help me forget that the time is passing by and that I have no idea what I want. Which brings me back to paragraph 2.
  23. Great to have you back!!
  24. Even if you do fail, why not give it a go? Maybe it's like with smoking, even if you go back to smoking, your body gets a break from poison for a couple of days, weeks, months ...
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