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  2. Good choice you are here, welcome!
  3. I get that. I'm a very proud man when it comes to stuff like that. In my country there's a special position as an artist you can claim from the government. It's the easy way out because it's basically just getting unemployment money. But you have to prove you're doing artsy stuff 2/3 of your time. And all of the money you make from it you can keep, and that gets substracted from your monthly guaranteed income. I hate that it's what they use taxpayer's money for. If you're a good artist, your crowd will come. If you're smart, creative and apply yourself, you don't need a handout to survive on a monthly basis. I'm not able to live off my freelancing yet. So I have a part-time job doing office stuff. It's not glorious. But it makes me feel self-sufficient and productive. Don't be afraid in the future, if need be, to ask yourself if you need more money and should be looking for a temping thing or engineering part-time job or whatever. I want you to pursue your art. But I've been the stereotypical starving artist for 4 years. It's not healthy, there's no romance or grace in something like that and it's not smart. You're smart. Think ahead and budget your cashola ^^ you got this, dude!
  4. Being intentional about time usage is really the core idea of GQ, good luck!
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  6. be careful though, i tried that with GTA V cause i found it boring fast, but it quickly turned from GTA to another game and another and another and then i was back to gaming 15 hours a day. 😞 I know it can be different from person to person, but for me it was all or nothing, there seemed to be no middle ground.
  7. Hello people, My name is Erik from Seattle, WA. The last time I played video games was 6 months ago. I found Game Quitters about 2 years ago when I was in a real down spiral and trying to figure out how to fix things. I always sort of knew there was something wrong with the way I was fixated on video games, especially competitive ones. For the longest time too I was in denial that it was a real problem. The days would just fly by. My only goal was to maximize the amount of time I played each day, and it was only a matter of time before things began to completely unravel. I had stopped attending college and was lying to my Mom that I was still going to class, all the while feeling totally miserable about where my life was. Gaming had evolved from an enjoyable pastime, to an unhealthy obsession, to an escape from my reality. I knew I needed to change things for the better. It was a long road, filled with countless failed attempts to give up on gaming, but here I am now -- confident and on a much better path. I finally graduated from college last week and have been sort of reflecting on my journey so far and wanted to reach out to this community to share a bit of my story and offer support where I can. If I can offer some parting advice, it would be to keep trying and never give up. If you know that gaming is causing real problems in your life, you have to do what it takes to better yourself and quit. If that means ditching your accounts, your PC or console, your gaming buddies, then do it. If quitting didn't work last time, it doesn't mean this time it won't work. You have to keep trying. If you only made it one day before relapsing, make it to two days. Just don't give up and keep trying because you can change and you deserve it. See you around, Erik
  8. Day 55. Habits completed counter: 33 Reading my yesterdays post fear appears in my heart. What if I will never find something as pleasant and enjoyable as video games? I have been around this world for 33 years, I have 33 years more to go in order to retire. During my time, the world changed drastically in many areas, and it will not stop changing. I also changed, and will keep on changing, improving. That is why I don't want video games in my life. They block change. Any activity that prevents you from changing is dangerous as it goes against the natural order of things. Maybe one day, games will not do that and then It will be fine. Maybe one day, our civilization will move in a direction of virtual worlds where everything is possible and its meaningful. But right now its not. I am not a gamer.
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  10. Day 20: May 25, 2019 20 days without video games. Today was an ordinary day. I really didn't feel like going to the gym this morning but I went anyway because I don't miss workouts. Ended up doing more than I expected too. 100 minutes of walking outside today also. Spent a little time studying for my A+ exam, which I really have to ramp up for at this point, less than 2 weeks away! Spent a lot of the day planning for how I'm going to refocus my goals and routines starting on Monday. I'm going to think about it more tomorrow and see what I can come up with but I've got some exciting ideas. I feel like I should write more but it truly was an unremarkable day. I'll make up for it tomorrow as I want to get a lot of my ideas on paper tomorrow anyway. 20 days gaming free 20 days porn free 20 days sugar drink free
  11. Today is the start of a better me. I'm tired of having all my mental focus being wasted thinking about games. Life is beautiful and I loathe the thought of staring at a screen for endless hours now. I want to think clearly and feel liberated for the first time in a long time. Reading other users journals motivated me to make an account and actually record my process of starting over. I have relapsed in the past and I sure as shit don't want to do it again. Red Dead 2 was a big issue for me, but I'm starting to see how big of an illusion the game is. I was starting to realize that everything was fake within the game, but I had seemed so realistic to me. Sure it seemed like birds are actually singing, the horse is actually living, and the stream is actually flowing... but it is not. It is all implanted sounds and textures giving you the illusion that you are outside in another world. After I realized the fact that the game was an illusion, I couldn't look at RDR the same way. After replaying the story mode for the third time, I asked myself why. If I've already played the game and experienced every mission and quest, why do I need to play it again for more endless hours? I'm not experiencing anything new. I think my craving for RDR comes from the fact that I would love to go outside IRL and explore the nature around me, but I am scared to go alone. I also really love horses and the fact that the game allowed me to have my own horses was thrilling, and I even started considering the fake pixel horses as my own. As of right now I don't regret anything, but I know as the week continues I will be craving games again. It will be hard but this is the start of a new beginning!
  12. 82: Relapse! I cannot believe how quickly that happened! I was feeling sad for no specific reason and I ended up playing the whole day on Friday! That was so sad and I felt really bad. I am trying to keep this up and I won't reset the counting unless that happens again.
  13. taichi

    Journal

    Went to see my cousin who now lives in the countryside. Their house doesn't have internet or TV signal, which apparently was a deliberate decision by my aunt. So my cousin's entertainment is the river just outside, the lake Sagami, some CDs & DVDs that they own, and radio (also a few tv recordings that he plays over and over). Spent a Saturday with them, talking, watching his favourite band's live DVD, cooking, and juggling. It wasn't a blast but it was a restorative experience.
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  15. Ikar

    Ikar's Diary

    Day 35: Will write tomorrow, tied and tipsy to do it properly now.
  16. I'm exactly the same. I recently tried to play in moderation, after quitting for 8 months, and within a few days I was wasting hours and hours playing games. It's crazy how fast it can go from nothing to something. At least you know now!
  17. Days 63-65 I been damaged goods this week. I didn't play video games, but I buried my head into TV series I been watching. I am thinking I need to hang up streaming TV shows which is ironic since I work for a streaming service. Unstable should be my middle name. Something doesn't go right or the way I intended it. Instead of brushing off the dust and moving on. I self loath, then it takes days to figure out I am broken. Like walking on thin ice each day, when I fall thru the lights inside flick off. Everyone has a burden to bare, this is mine. At least now I know.
  18. @BooksandTrees It's not as much a test, or at least the test is not the purpose. I am afraid of gaming, which is a problem for me. Being afraid isn't what I want to be, and being ashamed and regretful, no, I don't want to be either of these things. When I come in contact with games, those feelings come back and I almost get triggered nervous and fearful of what might happen. I don't want to be like that, I want to feel in control. And the only way to 'erase' those feelings is to replace them with healthy feelings towards that part of myself and my hobby, which is by replacing my old, unhealthy behavior towards the hobby itself. Sure it's good to be back, in a way. But for the most part, this is just part of rehabilitation for me, that's how I see it. Like an alcoholic now re-introducing whiskey in their life, but only in normal, acceptable ways. I want to make things right within me, and get over the fact I was addicted.
  19. Day 25 gone to bed: 02.20 woke up: 07.40 I was not very productive. Gym was good, went for a walk outside as well so that's good. Got a new haircut and I feel way better now in terms of look. Watched a film. I feel a bit sad, because I try to distance myself from my female friend and take a break from her for quite some time. One way I feel free again and open for new friendships, otherwise I hope that one day we get back together. Gaming gives me some urges, because Path of Exile released the trailer for the new league. Gotta stay strong here! I'm grateful for: music the storm and rain in the afternoon, that calmed me down my cute cat
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  21. Day 62 25.05.19 (1st draft will finish it tomorrow morning) Gratitude journal Today I am grateful for staying strong against my cravings. One amazing thing that happened/I did today 1) first day for a while where I stayed strong in all my 3 cravings which are hindering my progess the most at the moment Workout/run 3.5km running 2hours workout more than 17k steps Meditation 10 min guided meditation in the morning 20 min guided meditation in the afternoon Visualisation and daily affirmation a bit affirmation and started with visualisation again today Reading (1hours of studying for the next exam today) did my regular Spanish session and studied 1hour also read a lot again my wake-up time 8:00 (weekend) Weekly Goal(s) continue with miracle morning routine, study at between 4 and 8hours per day, reduce my screen time to less than 2hours, meditate half an hour every day Monthly Goal to study a lot for my exams, be more grateful for everything in life, find the joy of living in the moment, think hard about my values and what kind of person I want to be, start the miracle morning 1 month challenge anew 3 Month Goal getting my degree or getting it nearly done so that at least at the end of July I have it in my hands, having a really productive life, living my life so that I am proud of it What went well today: (NF:1/NW:1/NS:1) did my regular Spanish, studied a bit, had a great workout, the pain in my ankle is nearly gone, stayed strong today against all my cravings What I could have done to make my day better I could have studied more, should have done some Tai-chi and woke up ealier What I will do differently tomorrow/What I have planned for tomorrow: wake up earlier, try to meditate for 30min, study 4hours, go the my parents home for a few hours, stay strong against my urges like today and do extra Tai-chi Weekly summary, thoughts and improvements for the future
  22. At the end of the day everyone in the world has addictions to vices that help them escape their stress situations. It's ok to acknowledge it, but it also doesn't have to be a label. You are Fawn (whatever your real name is) and your friends and family will know you for that name. They won't know you for "addict" or "negative ruminator". With the re-introduction to your old gaming community and friends: what is calling you back? Is this a test to see if you can be in that environment and maintain the growth you've had over the past few months? Are you missing something from that former part of your life that you'd like to integrate into your new growth? My suggestion is just follow your desire and see how it feels. If you notice it is affecting your life and emotions in a negative way, cut back. If it continues to do it, remove it until you feel comfortable. If it continues to be the process of not feeling good about it then I'd remove it entirely. Also, you mentioned rumination earlier. I was reading and listening to a few doctors discussing ruminating thoughts because I was being very harsh to myself about self improvement. What I learned is every person in the world is constantly thinking and their brain doesn't shut off. This can feel amplified with self improvement periods because instead of thinking about dinner, your favorite sport, your friends, or bad drivers in traffic, you're now pointing your perspective inwards and also receiving all of the emotions in your heart. Self improvement can lead people to face lots of negative emotions because a lot of angles we take are "what we don't like about ourselves" instead of "I want to try this because I think I'll benefit and it looks fun". I had to accept that and it took a few weeks of me occupying my brain with other things like not liking my job or something to take my mind off of it. Good luck.
  23. ketias

    Attempt #2

    thanks 🙂 The second time around here i at least know how easy it was to fall back again, before i was sure only an hour gaming wasn't going to hurt. This time around i know there is no such thing as "only an hour". 😛
  24. Finding the willpower to quit gaming again is a huge step, congrats! It's a tough journey, and sometimes we've just gotta sit down and enjoy a good film Keep it up!
  25. ketias

    Attempt #2

    we gotta fight those urges 🙂 Be strong!!!
  26. Doing the saem thing at the moment😉
  27. ketias

    Attempt #2

    weeks just fly by. today was the return of the gaming urges though, feel a bit under the weather, 0 energy and then the urges came to slack and play a game. trying to keep it off with watching a movie 😛 gotta make it.
  28. Day 14 Have been feeling tempted to buy another laptop, I recently succeed in finding a job for a company I am very interested in working for and I imagine now having a stable income and potentially more time, I can spend my hours more freely. I think this perhaps is a false belief/ limitting belief that many people have that keeps them stuck in a hole once they begin to make progress. The idea that progress, deserves reward, and that reward is a limiting of ones progress. When in truth progress itself is the reward. If this is the case why then do we look to go back to gaming even after our 90 days? I feel a strong desire to complete this 90 day detox process and throughout the process I will delete a number of gaming accounts which will free undoubtly change the way I feel about gaming in the future, as playing a game that I have put 4,000 hours into and starting from scratch, knowing that I will only be were I was before after a similar amount of time is in itself very discouraging.
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