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Hi,

I'm back on the forum after 9 months. My last message in my previous post was about how things were tough, but I wouldn't give up...
And yet, I did give up.

That's why I'm back—I’ve had enough of living like this.

The only rules I need to follow are:

Getting 8 hours of sleep (preferably from 9:00 PM to 5:00 AM)

Playing games for a maximum of 1 hour per day

Staying off my phone for 1 hour before bed and after waking up

I’m not planning to create a strict routine and stick to it. Instead, I’ll start with the basics and build from there.
I’ll come back here once a week with daily reflections and a summary.

I’m starting my own notebook—I won’t be using any habit-tracking apps or reminders, as they would only distract me at this point.
I’m making this post so I don’t forget about my summaries and insights, but I also hope that one day, it might help someone else.

I don’t want to add anything more right now—I just want to take action.

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Welcome back Franek!

Can you describe your education and dream profession, group of like minded men just to better see what is motivating you?

What makes you think 1 hour per day will enable you to achieve your goals?

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It's possible that my statement is just a jumble of words, an incomprehensible message for the reader. I sincerely apologize for that—I often lost my train of thought, got distracted, and didn't even know what I was writing about.
These are simply my thoughts poured onto the screen, filtered only to the extent that I am capable of filtering them.
Besides, this statement was originally written in another language and translated into English.

The First Week Has Passed.

Of course, it couldn’t be perfect—I started four days later than I intended, meaning I've only been living better for about three days. But that's still good.

I survived my first crisis—the moment when I always give up.
After a few or several days, a sense of meaninglessness appears, usually in the evening when I'm about to go to sleep.
I cry, suddenly get angry at everything and everyone, and sleep is the last thing on my mind.
What depresses me the most at that moment is knowing that I won’t get enough sleep, but even more so, that I have to go to work the next day.
Additionally, I don’t feel comfortable at work. Because of my lifestyle, I’m behind on everything, so I know the next day will be wasted due to exhaustion.
And during such breakdowns, I end up on the computer—playing games, watching YouTube, or Twitch.

But not this time...
In those moments, I also feel a huge motivation to do almost anything, though physical activity seems the most accessible and beneficial.
Yet, it always ended with me sitting at the computer because it was easier.
And then I would think that change was pointless since the same thing would happen again tomorrow.
I had no way to fight these thoughts.

But I broke through and started... dancing.
I turned on some music and danced, goofed around, chased away the negative thoughts again—but this time without the side effects of a foggy mind from an overdose of dopamine or extreme exhaustion.
(I could spend 5–7 hours on the computer, finishing at 1–2 AM, yet I needed to wake up at 5 AM. But I always hit snooze and ended up getting up at 6 AM. Not only did I have to rush everything, but I was also always late for work. No one called me out on it, but I was afraid that eventually, someone would.)

After dancing for a while, I started doing HIIT training.
(I know workouts before bed aren't the best idea, but for me, they turned out to be the gateway to a better life.)
And within an hour, I was so tired that I fell asleep quickly.
So I got my seven hours of sleep—perfect.

Now I know how to fight this. One swallow doesn’t make a summer, but there is hope.

What helped me wake up these past few days? The same thing—music and dancing.
(That’s why I applied it during the crisis.)

About Work...

I work as a programmer. We communicate via group audio chat in a ten-person team. Not everyone is a programmer—we also have administrators, and even a salesperson.
The atmosphere is great. Everyone is friendly, we joke a lot, and even the management doesn’t act superior—they seem like ordinary people, just like me.
There are a few exceptions, but overall, I like it.

The pay is low, but I haven’t been able to ask for a raise.
Even when I start thinking about it, stress paralyzes me.
At some point, I will want to bring it up.

But the job itself doesn’t satisfy me.
(My ideal job—I’ll talk about that in a moment.)
And my personal problems created problems at work.
No one was really mad at me, but I constantly felt stressed and like I wasn’t doing my job properly.
I couldn’t even focus because of my problems and the overwhelming chaos in the workplace.

(Unlike the rest of my team, I don’t work remotely. I go to the office, where the CEO works, along with many people from another company that the management owns.)
This made me anxious even outside of work, creating a vicious cycle.

On a Personal Level...

First, I love music and dancing, but I never did anything about it—until now.
Now, I’ve started training.

I listen to almost any music I like, but since I discovered Aurora (about four years ago), dreams have formed around that.
Everyone who knows me is aware of how much I love Aurora's work and personality.
She’s my idol—not just someone I admire, but someone who has deeply influenced my life.

I can listen to her songs on repeat.
If I had to listen only to her music for the rest of my life, it wouldn’t make much of a difference.

I also enjoy drawing and 3D graphics.

Since childhood, I’ve been extremely sensitive.
If someone cried, I cried too.
I have never once yelled at anyone in anger—let alone used physical aggression.
Even when someone hit me, I just walked away and later cried when I was alone.

I never wanted to hurt anyone, nor did I want to burden loved ones with my problems—so I kept everything to myself.

That has changed somewhat over the years.
For a while now, I’ve been a kind of passive rebel.
(My sensitivity still shows, though.)

I try to talk about my problems—I have two people I can confide in.
But even then, I feel uncomfortable and worry that they have better things to do than listen to me.

I often get annoyed when someone tells me what to do.
I feel angry but keep it to myself.
I fear confrontation, but I also don’t want it.

My Dream Job

The job I have now feels boring.
Sitting at a computer all day... sure, it can pay well, but money isn’t my priority in life.
(The only reason I’d want to earn a lot is to financially support my parents or others in need—not just loved ones.)

My ideal job?
To be a singer, an artist.

I want to be known only to reach a large audience who trusts me.
(I know firsthand how much famous people can influence lives.)

I want to help those who are at rock bottom, who refuse help, who live in isolation because they’re afraid to go out into the world.

That is my goal.

My Relationship...

Right now, I have a girlfriend. We’ve been together for six years.
It’s time for a proposal, but... I’m not ready.

Her father bought her a house—for us.
We’re renovating it, but over the past few months, all I’ve done is make her sad.

I never want to go out.
When we see each other, I usually end up opening up and saying I don’t know if this will work out.
That only makes her feel worse.

She’s a loving soul—just like me, she doesn’t want to hurt anyone.
And yet, here I am, doing this to her.

I told her to give me one last month.
I see how much she suffers from waiting and my moods.

This is one of many reasons why I finally wanted to change.
Over time, many reasons have piled up.

I want to finally take control of my life instead of leaving it to chance.

If you've read all of this and understood something, I truly admire you. Thank you so much.

 

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On 1/31/2025 at 6:41 PM, Amphibian220 said:

Welcome back Franek!

Can you describe your education and dream profession, group of like minded men just to better see what is motivating you?

What makes you think 1 hour per day will enable you to achieve your goals?

Playing for a maximum of one hour a day works for me.
I know that it's not forbidden, so I don’t think about it all the time—just when I feel like playing, I can do. But I try to fill my time with other things.

After that hour, no matter what’s happening, I simply turn off the computer and listen to some music for a while to shift my thoughts.
And honestly, it’s a bit strange, but it works. So for now, I’ll stick to it. If at some point gaming starts interfering with something important, I’ll get rid of it completely.

When I started, I wasn’t able to forget about gaming entirely.
I had tried so many times before and always came back quickly. I hope this limitation will work.

 

On 2/4/2025 at 3:50 PM, Kam said:

Welcome back!

Is gaming the main impact on your sleep? Would love to hear more about the challenges you're facing. 

Yess, gaming and actually watching YouTube or Twitch affected my sleep, and sleep affected my life, creating a huge number of problems."

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