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  1. I am one of those guys who appreciates discovering all of his country, but I do want to visit some other countries too. I would love to go to Florence and Rome - Italy and Vienna - Austria. I tend to appreciate culture and sightseeing. I could go and study for 6 months in another country, but I would probably have to choose one of the two - study or experience the country. At this moment, I would prefer the study. Definitely considering taking a Summer Internship in London. As a Portuguese, I recommend you to visit Lisbon. It's been gaining a reputation of being an hidden gem in Europe, because people tend to go to Madrid, Barcelona, Paris... and never take Lisbon into consideration. We have such a great gastronomy! I say this, because when I traveled to other countries I found that they lacked diversity in their meals. The people around here are very friendly to tourists (even more in Porto). Oh and it's very cheap while compared to other cities (because the minimum wage is 530€ atm).
  2. My bad, I meant sensing instead of observing. But it lead to the same conclusion. Normally, intuitive individuals tend to learn and motivate by themselves. While sensing learn from others. You said that you don't like to be influenced by others, so I assumed that you were intuitive! As a sensor, I tend to have a more open mind. I try stuff to see if they work and I initially "trust" on what I hear. Sometimes they work, sometimes they don't (downside). We have to be more careful on what we trust, or we will believe on everything we see (downside). A sensor would probably believe on what the coach is saying and get motivated by him. This is what I would do, probably.
  3. Hey Travis! Glad to see you're still around! Always happy to read that someone is improving their productivity! Evernote is simply amazing! Interesting, The Secret Weapon was more or less what I've been doing, but I didn't learn it from there! If you want to give a boost to productivity, I totally recommend the Dayboard chrome extension. It asks you for 5 tasks to be done through the day when you first open the chrome web browser. I've been loving it. Regarding what happened in the workout, I guess you're more intuitive than observing, which is okay. In such cases, I guess it's only a matter of time until you build up some trust to the coach.
  4. Hey Matt! Great idea on writing out what you learned during each day! Tips for CV/Interviews? Set up a LinkedIn account if you haven't one already, read about it and pimp it out. It's really useful to make you more known, if you do it well. Maybe set up a cool personal web page! For Interviews, I guess it just comes with practice. If you go to job conferences and talk to people who already work, you'll get used to it and you'll be much more relaxed in interviews. But from what I've seen, the first thing Human Resource looks in a CV is the last professional experience (which you might have none, they will look to your university then) and then they will look into your hobbies. HRs give tremendous importance to hobbies. Be proactive! I'd argue that the most happy students are the most connected ones, but I can see your point of view
  5. hey SpiNips! Glad to see you're still kicking I know I'm late, but Happy Birthday! Yeah, the chocolate idea might work out! Be sure to try with other kind of rewards too! Having a planning routine works wonders! One tool that I've been using lately is Dayboard. It's a chrome extension that asks you for 5 goals for the day. I'm loving that tool, to be honest, you should try it out! Listening is a really important skill! Most people are constantly waiting for their time to speak, without listening to what others are saying. And it's very easy! Dale Carnegie spoke highly of it.
  6. Hello folks! Damn, there's been a while since I last came here! Glad to see the forum a lot active! I just saw the most recent video, the interview with Richard Kuo, and I remembered to come here and post something for you guys First of all, I don't really know if I made the entire 90 day challenge, but I was probably very close. Yes, I started to play again, BUT, just like Richard, in moderation. Basicaly, I've been so much occupied that I only play video games when I actually don't have anything else to do, which is like once (2 hours playthrough) every 3 or 4 days, more or less. And I gained the ability to control the time I play. Something I've been developing since the last few years. I still think that I should be doing some other thing besides gaming, but it's like a reward for the ton of work I've been doing. Only after the work is done - delayed gratification. What have I been doing? I did ALOT. I am now one of the top students in Telecommunications Engineering ( I was before in the lower 50%), one of the most active mentors (freshmen and foreign students) with regular meetings, collaborating on an inovative project with a company, launched and maintained a blog about productivity and self-growth with a new post every week (with a 5 posts buffer), read atleast 1 hour everyday and probably I am going to be one of the first university's ambassadors. Got an exclusive interview with the CTO of the only music streaming service in portugal for a project, got a mentor (the professor I spoke about in the previous posts), did the most part of other projects alone ( too much work for the other colleagues it seemed) and was trusted by a professor to receive and take note of students' self-evaluation of a project. What is the most important thing to get rid of gaming? Read! Read a lot. I'm so much amazed as I changed so much since I first started to read. I mostly read non-fiction, but I am now reading non fiction through the day and fiction before bed. I think that if you read, you will have a much bigger awareness of everything you do. Read books, blogs, articles, watch TED videos, etc... Also, I advise to focus a lot on self-growth. Yes, read self-help books. But good ones, like the ones Cam recommended such as The Power of Habit. Amazing book, just finished reading it. Made so much sense. Yes, self-help might sound cheesy, but you must know that you can change A LOT. And that there's a lot out there that you don't know. Stay busy and stick with it. Once you have the habit going, you won't have the time for gaming. I will try to read your threads soon, I promise!
  7. Hey Zala! I know that you're going through! As a guy living with 3 gamers, I felt the peer pressure to go back to gaming. All the suggestions they say to you is to make you back to where you were. They don't mean any harm, it's just to recover the balance (can't find a better word atm). Watching movies for me it's way better than gaming. Atleast in the beginning. It's not as addicting! And if you start to watch some documentaries instead, even better I will state again that you should get into new things just to get your mind off of gaming. I really like Cam's suggestion of going out of home early. Try to go for a minute walk and add another minute each day. Hang on in there. We're here for you! There are some periods that you really have doubts about what you're doing and it's very important not to think about it. You are in the best path you can be right now.
  8. Sorry for not posting here, but I've been really into building my blog, watching videos, mentoring, planning a project with a company and studying. I basically stopped doing anything which isn't useful for me and for people around me. No TV, no facebook, no games, nothing. I'm glad to see you guys around here I didn't give up on my journal! But I've been doing it in my physical one. It's much easier for me to write there, I tend to stay away from the PC as long as I can, lately. I've been feeling very happy, grateful, much more aware of things, optimist and full of energy! The blog is one of my main focuses now. I even wrote a small ebook (in portuguese) based on a book I've read to give it for free for people who will subscribe to it. I found something in writting. I'm not very good at it, but I've been enjoying it! And I can see that developing this skill is important and it's been fun! I will check you guys out next time I'll come here! Keep on the good path folks! It's the best thing you can do for yourselves.
  9. ?Thank you, Joe! He goes really deep indeed. And just think that this wasn't even meant for other people to read, only to himself... ?Hello Tom, great to have you here! I'm glad you liked them! I study engineering, but I like philosophy a lot and also some other areas Seneca is one of my next philosophy reads! I don't know buddhism that much, but it's very interesting if it has some common knowledge!
  10. Hey folks! I just finished reading "Meditations" and I've got to say that this is one of these books that you have to read every 6 months. The first time you read it will be hard, because you will have to reflect upon each entry. i guess the next times I'll read it again it will be faster. Just to make me aware of its knowledge. The book has teached me a lot about mastering my emotions and how and why to cease the day. I'd say it's life changing if you really look into it. Totally recommend it to everyone. What I've learned: Not to let anger, pain and envy take control of me;That most of my worries and pain are only there, because of my judgements;(Not learned, but really understood) That life is very brief and that we must live it with a set of values;And more.Here are the quotes that I found more important to me: - "You should take no action unwillingly, selfishly, uncritically, or with conflicting motives... Let the god that is within you be the champion of the being you are..." - "When circumstances force you to some sort of distress, quickly return to yourself. Do not stay out of rhythm for longer than you must: You will master the harmony the more by constantly going back to it." - "This should be your practice throughout all your life: When things have such a plausible appearance, show them naked, see their shoddiness, strip away their boastful account of themselves." - "If someone can prove me wrong and show me my mistake in any thought or action, I shall gladly change. I seek the truth, which never harmed anyone: the harm is to persist in one's self-deception and ignorance." - "Imagine you were now dead, or had not lived before this moment. Now view the rest of your life as a bonus, and live it as nature directs." - "When you have done good and another has benefited, why do you still look, as fools do, for a third thing besides - credit for good works, or a return?" - "In every contingency keep in your mind's eye those who had the same experience before, and reacted with vexation, disbelief, or complaint. So where are they now? Nowhere. Well then, do you want to act like them? Why not leave the moods and shifts of others to the shifting and the shifted, and for youself concentrate wholly on how to make use of these contigencies? You will then use them well, and they will be raw material in your hands. Only take care, and seek your own best good in all that you do. Remember these two things: the action is important, the context indifferent." - "Perfection of character is this: to live each day as if it were your last, without frenzy, without apathy, without pretence." - "Everything has come into being for a purpose - a horse, say, a vine. Does this surprise you? Even the sun will say, 'I came into being for a purpose': likewise the other gods. For what purpose, then, were you created? For your pleasure? Just see whether this idea can be entertained."-------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Day 9 of Meditation and Day 10 of the Funniness exercise: Wow, this meditation was hard! Really focused on my breathing this time. Drifted a lot, but I managed to return to myself and focus on my breathing. The funniness exercise was hard. I drifted quite a bit in the end of each exercise... My mind is fighting me D: Gratefulness (10th day) I'm grateful for: 51. The insights that Marcus Aurelius shared; 52. Having more books to read; 53. Having a lot to do; 54. Starting to master my emotions; 55. Weekend!
  11. Did a post but when I posted it, a friend turned off the router and I lost the post. I can't write it all again, don't have time But I have it in my head. Sorry for not posting in your threads, but I've been too busy... Which is nice in some way. Day 8 of Meditation and Day 9 of the Funniness exercise: Gratefulness (10th day) I'm grateful for: 46. 47. 48. 49. 50.
  12. ?Yeah, this is very true! Mainly if you're in something with a few students. You can create a good connection with them Thank you for the information, Chris! ?So true! If you do something that you don't love, you should do something different right away. There is always a way to do something different while trying to find another passion. Well, engineering isn't something that I love BUT it's something that I can do whatever I'm in a bad spot. And it is also a good thing to be, because you can go to very different paths with it
  13. Nothing special today. i had a coffee meetup with my mentored freshmen and a friend of mine. 3 out of 4 showed up, i guess the other one didn't show up, because of the course's dinner that happened yesterday (heard he was a party animal, that explains it ). Me and my friend said several tips to them and also gave them some motivation about what they are able to do once they finish the course, etc... Day 7 of Meditation and Day 8 of the Funniness exercise: Ahhh the meditation felt really well! I just felt much more grounded after doing it. Returned to look for funniness! Found some today and got some laughs. Gratefulness (9th day) I'm grateful for: 41. Free WordPress Themes; 42. Having interested freshmen to be mentored; 43. Having so much free time today; 44. Reading properly again! 45. Feeling so much grounded.
  14. Thank you! I did really feel accomplished! Now my group has to do even better in the final project and presentation (in December). But this presentation was also important (20% of the final grade), and to be honest it was more just to score points with the professor. I wanted to show him that we worked hard and that we are good. Took notes about some minor weak points he stated and they won't happen again in the last presentation in December.
  15. Just watched the video. You showed the point in a very simple an non complicated way, which was very nice! I only understood that the games kind of hack you by giving you purpose, instead of you going through your own path and choosing your own purposes (the latter is ofc harder). A guy can pass his whole life playing videogames thinking that he was accomplishing things, but in the end he will probably say that he didn't really accomplish anything in his life after all. The idea of myself saying this sincerely TERRIFIES me. I don't want to be that guy and I don't wish it on anyone... Since I stopped gaming I had this purpose that I loved to learn. I don't ever want to stop learning at any point in my life. And it has indeed kept me focused in it, instead of doing other stuff. I'm starting to get another sense of purpose, but I still have to learn more stuff to do it yet. I heard that finding your life purpose is like going through the layers of an onion. When you think you found a life purpose you are in a certain layer. After you will probably find that you were wrong and that there is another one that you think it is your Life Purpose, and you are in the layer under the previous one. If you do this, you will be closer to your true life purpose, the core of the onion. But this path is almost lifelong. But as you said, that's why we have to have life purposes in a timeframe (within a week, month, year), so that it's easier to go through the onion. I'm glad that you are going to write a book! I believe that you're going to do a great one! Great video as always
  16. Hell yeah! I needed a video about this! I ordered "The Big Leap" which is about this topic and I am so excited to read it. I can't watch the video now, but I will watch it tomorrow and say what i think of it! Thank you for the video!
  17. Hey guys! I just came from the presentation! The professor final words were "In general, your presentation was very well made!"! I guess that you guys know what my reaction was We are like the only group he said something like that (atleast from 1-2 years from now)! The other groups were very surprised of his reaction. My group and I were so happy that we had to go to the nearest bar and drink a beer ahahah! This definitely gave me more excitement to go through with my blog idea. Unfortunately it will be in Portuguese, because I want to become "a local expert" in the theme I'm going to talk about. I think it will complement very well with engineering too! Days 6 and 7 of the Funniness exercise: I really focused on this presentation and I had to go to bed late and couldn't meditate in the morning, because there were people already wandering through the flat when I wake up (I have a steady sleep time of 7:30 hours), so I really lacked in meditation and I missed it. I will come back to it tomorrow! Did the exercises, but didn't work to try and see funniness in the things around me. I was too focused on the presentation Gratefulness (8th day) I'm grateful for: 36. Kicking the presentation's ass; 37. The useful critique from the professor; 38. Being motivated; 39. Being happy; 40. The amount of tutorials around in the Internet!
  18. Not much to report today. I've been working hard on a presentation I have to make this Tuesday with 4 other guys. I want this to be the best presentation of this semester, because it's worth it. The professor who is going to evaluate it is the one with the most connections in the University and he's a very, very serious and critical type of an engineer. I've heard that he almost (or did) people cry (others very, very angry) after the presentation. What I told my buddies is that we will grab a notebook and write all his critics in the end and not contest him. I think he does a humbleness test. And I do want to learn from him. No point on fighting it. I'm ready for it. Day 6 of Meditation and Day 5 of the Funniness exercise: This meditation session was 98% conscious! I didn't feel I was drifting. Not much to report on the funniness side, since I spent all of my day working on the presentation and spending some time with my family (at home, sadly..) Gratefulness (7th day) I'm grateful for: 31. Spending some quality time with my family; 32. Being ready for the presentation; 33. Loving soup; 34. Having dogs to play with; 35. Living in a peaceful country.
  19. ?Thanks! Well, maybe I should return and do a 1 photo per day challenge or something... Self-deprecating humor works if you really do it over the top! But I find other kinds of humor better. I already did 3 months of no gaming before, so I already know what to do and it is easier to return to the path. Life is indeed much better. Life is the ultimate video game
  20. I've been thinking on making a wordpress blog. I don't know about what it is going to be about, but I'm learning how to use the platform. Will probably be of use later on. I'm finishing "Meditations" and I have to say this is one of these books I will read once or twice a year just to ground myself. I have been feeling so grounded since I started reading it.. And I only have one next book to read. It's "The How of Happiness" by Sonja Lyubomirsky. So it is time to order more books! I ordered: HookedThe Slight EdgeThe Power of HabitThe Big LeapThinking, Fast and SlowOutlines of PyrrhonismSo I will have some material to make me entertained for some good weeks! Day 5 of Meditation and Day 4 of the Funniness exercise: My mind drifted quite a bit in the last 10 minutes, but was nice overall. I keep saying that the funniness exercise is hard! It's 30 minutes of you doing it every day. It requires a lot of willpower to go through with it. Noticed my speech rhythm 2 times today and corrected it. Gratefulness (6th day) I'm grateful for: 26. Being able to read reviews of everything nowadays; 27. Stopping to worry about certain things; 28. Finally having a good and working bedtime routine; 29. Being able to vote; 30. Being able to travel large distances in such a short time.
  21. You're having some great insights! Imagine what things you had done in these 1-2 weeks if you kept gaming the way you did. Nowadays, society is almost completely controlled by negativism. It's all about sharing tragic/sad news, creating worthless conflict, gossiping about other peoples' lifes, etc... That's why I blocked my facebook feed and stopped watching/reading the news, because there is nothing to learn from there. Making fun of people that don't play well, for example, is something that people who only think on petty things do. If you are starting to notice such things, you already are in a nice path Good thing you're working on your caffeine intake and sleeping! Contrary to what most people think, sleeping well results on more time for you (and health ofc). Caffeine is something we can live without, but a cup of coffee a day doesn't do any harm, I'd say I just didn't understand how some colleagues of mine could drink 5 cups of coffee per day (the tiny cups). Blogging is exactly what i was looking into too! Yeah Wordpress is by far the better choice. I see that you do like writting so it could do wonders to you! It isn't just by meeting new people online, it's about finding your tribe. People who think like you and agree on following you and your ideas. Pretty cool stuff!
  22. ?I'm glad if I can encourage you guys with my journal The mind room? Sure! I read this in the book "Psycho-Cybernetics" by Maxwell Maltz. Most of the things that the book covers are about teaching you how to redirect your mind to solve problems and how to maximize the problem solving. Basically you want to know exactly what your problems are (and the theory behind it) and then not worrying about them so that you can get them solved quickly. If you are stress free, your subcounscios mind will do better. For example, a pianist playing a very complex tune. He's not using his frontal cortex (conscious thoughts) to think in every moment what's the next key to play. If he did that he just couldn't do it. It's the subcounscious that's doing it. You can do it, because he already studied and practiced it. Also, if he's stressed he won't play it as well too. So the "mind room" is a technique to apply whenever you don't have nothing to do. Like being in a bus, in a queue, before a presentation, etc... You imagine yourself climbing stairs with the thought that you are going to enter your mind room and leave all your worries out of the room. Then you reach the end of the stairs. You open the door and when you close the door everything goes silent. You can't hear anything, worry about anything. This is your own particular space and noone can bother you there. And you just stay there examining it, relaxing. You can design that room! Design it in a way that makes it look very comfy and relaxing to you! For example, my room has 3 of it's walls full of books, one of those walls has a fireplace and a chair facing it. On the other side of the room, the wall is basically a whole window with a view to a colossal mountain peak, full of snow. I can see the clouds underneath it, so I'm very high. Almost like my room is suspended in the air. The floor is basically a carpet. And more things.. Harry Truman did it. 'During the last days of World War II someone commented to President Harry Truman that he appeared to bear up under the stress and strain of the presidency better than any previous president, that the job did not appear to have aged him or sap his vitality, and that this was remarkable
  23. I'm tired of living every each day just for living it. I always felt that way when gaming, but I always thought that it was the way of life. I couldn't be more wrong. I'm very happy that there are a lot of new guys joining in and giving that much important first step! I am reaching to the conclusion that maybe I shouldn't go fully into engineering when I finish my masters. I don't want to be stuck in an office 8 hours a day! I want to work on something while I can travel around. I don't want to be stuck on a single place. What can I do? I have to examine this further... I consider myself to be creative! I play the saxophone and had (it's inactive) an youtube channel dedicated to it. I did some noobish photography and won a couple of big competitions (macbook pro in a national competition and a lumia 1020 on a London competition), but I don't do it anymore. I filmed and edited some noobish short-films just for the heck of making them! So much stuff I can do, but it SEEMS that I don't have the time for it. I can resume my photography hobby... can be nice. I also did a bit of work on a unity game of an idea I had. It was a puzzle game. But it's stopped. ALL of these things stopped, because I returned to gaming. ALL of my projects stop, because of gaming. This cannot be repeated again... The question is, what can I do with this?... Flickr link for the curious: https://www.flickr.com/photos/fotoverissimo/ Day 4 of Meditation and Day 3 of the Funnyness exercise: Was more aware during the meditation, but had quite some wild imagining/thoughts. I'm starting to see more funny things showing up! And random conversation starters that seem to work. I know it's still in the beginning, but it is helping me to return to when I was funnier (maybe before entering university?). Noticed my speech rhythm 3 times today and corrected it. Progress! Gratefulness (5th day) I'm grateful for: 21. Joining this great community; 22. Having the liberty to choose paths for life; 23. My friends respecting my decision of stopping to play videogames; 24. Having so much stuff to do; 25. Being able to help others.
  24. ?^This! Just a fascinating book! Totally changed the way I saw myself and what to aim for. Deida sure knows his stuff.
  25. Hey Travis! Congratulations for stepping out of the shadows, so to speak Hmm finding a new activity is something worth your time. You can check Cam's hobby ideas or in other places! Maybe take some time to be alone and think about what you need to improve on and work from there until you reach a hobby that works on that. I don't know Keep us posted!
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