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  1. And one thing I want to write to myself, which I can read up again when I go to rough times: Dude, you knew it would be tough. Continue to do what you are doing right now. You created this routine so you get better, feel better. Follow this routine and everything will get better by itself, you dont have to change anything. Stick to the routine, everything will get easier then, the routine is the solution. Just keep doing it for a few more days and you will see.
  2. Wow 16 days already passed since my new start. The total abstinence from the pc in general was a really good idea. This was the very first time I did this for multiple days, and it worked like it should. However there were some other things in real life which let me procrastinate once again and even after a bunch of days I didnt learn anything for the university once again. Sad! What can I do better this time? The hard days were definitely there but I pushed through some of them, but I didnt make it for a longer period of time, sadly. Like always, you allow yourself 1 not allowed action, although its a small one, and you repeat that every day since you allowed yourself yesterday already etc... You know the drill. So I really have to push through the first weeks without any excuse. Other than that my plan is once again the same. One more thing I want to do this time is a counter here. I remember in my very first LOL detox I had that 1/90 days counter and added also some small things like studying, programming etc. that worked great. Thats why I will do this too now. 1. Studying, 5 Hours per day 2. No PC Usage, this means no youtube, browsing, social media, netflix, I mean literally nothing, I only want to study with it. 3. Training 4. Eat healthy 5. Brush teeth's(how much can you procrastinate that you even have to add this to a list!) However - the only point which really matters is Number 1. And its the toughest one for me since ever. Always failed to built that routine... The reason of so many problems in my life. Maybe THE reason that I procrastinate so much, since I feel overwhelmed. Thanks for reading, I wish you guys good luck on your journeys 🙂 Gonna start the counter 1/90 tomorrow hopefully.
  3. Alright gonna restart this. Its not like the last months and years were totally unproductive in terms of what people think someone at my age should do in their lives. I made what everyone speaks about, but all that doesnt change the fact that I am not doing what I am supposed to do. The biggest problem since all this started is my med school. I just cant push through somehow. I made progress but its faaaar away from what ‘normal’ people do. I am totally willing to invest 10+ hours into learning sessions, if I could. But the procrastination destroys every ambition I have. The procrastination is the reason for all of my problems. I can just sit on my bed doing nothing all day along, it does not have to be something digital(games, youtube/netflix, social media...). I see the same problem in a lot of journals - many of us can quit games/youtube etc. for good - its hard yea, but we can do it. The real struggle starts then when you actually want to get your things DONE. And you cant just block procrastination like you block certain websites etc. I started to procrastinate literally in the same moment when the work overwhelmed me(last year of highschool, had to get the best grades possible to enter med school). The moment I would adjust my lifestyle(eg quitting med school) I probably would have no procrastination problems anymore. Currently I have a lack of motivation to do the simplest things, all because I am feeling overwhelmed from med school. Thats why this time I want to focus on what I want to do instead of what I not want to do. Not doing certain things are the basics of course, because they will inevitably stop you from breaking out of procrastination loop. My goals: - Doing at least 10 Promodoro-Cycles per day for med school(that means 5 Hours of learning), will try to start slow in the first 2-3 days then increase - Workout everyday(ofc some rest days here and there according to the plan) And a lot more, which I dont mention for now, because I want to start with these two things. After a week or so I can expand it. I will start right now after posting this with my study session. Then later gonna block literally everything on my pc which isnt necessary. The block-sites thing works really great for me(you guys should try it). I know I will feel reeeeally bored/bad for a long time until I adjust to that new routine but thats how it works.
  4. Keep it up mate 🙂 A thing you mention in a lot of posts is that you need to plan your day to be productive but sometimes you dont do that in the mornings. Why dont you do that the evenings before? I think that would be a better approach.
  5. Just wanted to say that your process is kinda normal. I read a lot of journals here over the years, and almost everyone who quits games (even with success) doesnt straight go to fulfilling their goals now. Its more like you described it. Quitted -> feeling like shit -> 0 motivation and of course no discipline to fulfill your goals -> laziness Most important thing: Dont think ‘hey this is useless, I waste all my time doing nothing AND feeling bad!I could also game in that time and at least feel good’ -> this will lead to an endless cycle where you never escape from stage 2(eg getting your work done). So definitely keep distance from gaming etc. even sitting on your bed doing nothing is better than that. From high dopamin gaming to zero-fun-studying is a big jump. But going from laziness to studying is much easier. Try promodoros and choose one specific timeframe in the day where you will start to do your work for x hours. Start slow and expand it slowly. Built a habit, this takes several months. Remind yourself that it will get easy AND fun suddenly, out of nowhere. You just have to wait and endure.
  6. Read a bunch of your journal posts and I think you are doing pretty well mate! Its pretty interesting, since we share a lot of things, I was also addicted to Lol, I am also studying medicine. For me it all started after the final year of school, same like you after that exam, because of all the stress. I kept playing and playing, even when the med school started. I literally learned 0 hours in the first year. I dont need to explain what that means in med school, you know it yourself. Struggling since then to get back up. Sad thing is I never got back to that old me in highschool, but still trying(somewhere you mentioned that you want get back to your old-self, thats why I mention it). I keep procrastinating although I quitted Lol for good. This is also something I think you are doing great. You didnt just stop Lol you actually try to get work done(eg your long learning sessions) Definitely focus on that. Will follow your journal from now on, might get some good tips for myself too 🙂
  7. A thing which I see every time when someone is quitting games, is that it leads to nothing if you dont limit or quit internet usage in general. I feel like 90% of the people here have an internet problem in general and not just a gaming problem. Its the procrastination while getting some dopamin peaks whereever its possible. It was the same thing for me literally. Although I didnt touch games since years, it doesnt matter when I also dont stop youtube etc. Your very first goal must be to be productive. Because thats your goal, right? Getting that degree. Of course after that you cant think ‘hey I did some work now back to games’. Because this leads inevitable to the fact that you relapse in the next days(‘one game then I start again’) After all those years I think the only way for some people is to really rebuild their whole day. 90 Days of building up a total new routine and completely forget about the old habits. Not staying infront of that pc, not be at home much in general if you are not studying etc. Since thats so hard, many people keep relapsing over and over again
  8. Hm it depends how it affects ur life. I could read all day and it would affect my life in a bad way. I would focus on productive things first, after that do what you want(but no addictive things like games which destroy your routine)
  9. Ah nice to hear its going good! You start university or what are your plans now?
  10. Hey man, well you made a GREAT step to come here (again?) to talk about it and stop the process of getting near to relapse. I am basically in the same situation, 3-4 years out, now again this ‚hey why not‘. That all happend for me step by step, I relapsed on some other things and the more you fail the easier it gegs to fail even more and to think its ok. League is basically the last thing I stop myself to do but its the most important thing to stay away from. The reason for all of this is that I have some problems in rl again. Maybe u too? Otherwise I would probably not have these cravings.
  11. Hi, yea I know Ali and my learn system is basing on his videos(Google Sheet not Anki, but its basicslly the same). I only do repetition all day, I know that medicine is 99% memorizing that stuff. It does work but I need a lot of time. I cant really say whether I am slow or fast, because some of my ppl in the university are saying they have to learn 8-12 hours daily, others are only on 3 hours etc. But basically I cant keep up my learning routine of 4-6 Hours daily sadly due to procrastination. But I think that procrastination is also coming because the learning is so difficult for me because its so much things to memorize..
  12. Hey, Good luck on your way! I read your posts and I think its good that you try it over and over again to get to the right path. It seems you are trying very hard to stay away from games, which is obviously good, but I see that those pretty common problems of replacing it with browsing and other stuff hit you too. I think you should try to focus on filling your life with other things, making alternatives. It makes it much much easier. Try things which are easy to get better in, so you stay on track. I always tried new things but it was so hard to succeed in these and thats a bad thing for ppl who are trying to getting out of that totally gaming focused life. For example if you like football, then dont join the next football club full of pros. Rather play with some newbies so you feel good while doing it. I mention that because you said learning peogramming etc is boring after some time, which is true. With the time you can do harder things again. When I stopped gaming, it was really important for me to stop watching gaming content too. Because its like hanging out with alcohol addicts in a bar although you want to stay sober. Stay far away for that
  13. Hey guys, I know gq now for some years, at start I was facing a huge addiction to gaming. I could fix it immediately when I started to do these daily journals. The first 90 days went good. I know many people are suffering from these gaming addictions much, and they relapse over and over again. Since I doubt that these people are ‚weaker‘ than others, I think this addiction is different to everyone. For me gaming was easily fixable, because it wasnt the real problem. Which leads to why I open this new journal. My problem is the procrastination itself. I am a Medical Student and I have to study much. Even 6 Hours per day lead not to a big success which leads to more procrastionaton. I really want to finish Med School with success thats why I want to change my procrastinating. I do everything most likely something at the PC but It could be anything. So my goal is to stop that and start to actually getting my things done. Not just med school, I want to do many things but I tend to be too lazy -> too much PC instead and imaging how it could be instead of starting. Tomorrow I want to start with my studying again. Then I want to setup again a 90 days detox plan, filled with activities + learning routine, which I will post here. I hope gq can help me again to fix this problem now and hopefully forever. As always I will read postings here(even that I could do for hours instead of learning lmao) to get new ideas how to improve my strategy since many here are having the same problem. Thanks for reading!
  14. However: Good learning day today! I wish I could be so productive every day. Ill try to keep it up.
  15. Yes, everyone suffers at procrastination BUT some people doesnt get negativ effects from it that fast like others. Lets say you live alone and you have a job. The only thing you have to do is to go to your job and to earn money. Rest of the day is basically free. Sure, you have other goals/hobbys. But hey? What happens if you dont go after them? Nothing. So its okay for them to waste their time on xy. An other guy may have kids or family on which he has to take care of or other things so he cant allow himself to procrastinate. Of course you can always say ‚if this subject doesnt motivate you enough then it isnt yours!‘ that makes it pretty easy. Like you always miss something and thats why yoi get addicted to things. I really doubt that tbh. It simplicities this whole case totally. You totally miss the fact that many subjects are not nearly equal to your job later. I can hate the university but love the job later. Just because you hate to do sport and instead you browse in the web, you shouldnt do sport? No you have to do it although you dont like it because you like the result(eg health) So I think you got it that there are some holes in your argumentation I guess. But thanks for the post It helped me to think about my hobbies again. Personally I think I really love them but for me that doesnt leads to the point that I do them frequently. I like to make music -> but the way to do good music later is tough, you will play bad first but you keep going because there will be a time in which u will be better and then you are proud of you that even in the hard time where you hated it you still did it.
  16. When I read my last post, its pretty much the same but a bit worse. Exams are coming and I really have no clue what I have done all the last month. I am so slow when I start to llearn. Getting tired all the time, need very much time to understand things. Its like I am now 2 years in Med School but still didnt find a good working system on which I can rely on However there is still the problem with keeping up the learning routine. Its so freaking exhausting to keep it up. These times are so tough, especially when I see how easy other peoples life is, without a stressful degree as their target. I cant even remember the times when I woke up without having kind of a pressure or struggle. Its still much youtube and other stuff in the internet. I guess those things, doesnt mattet how much I reduced them, forbid a reset of my dopaminsystem. Like it will always be tough if I cant get away from that, because my brain is so adapted to easy dopamin. I mean doing your work is such a good feeling but still this isnt a reason to start. Its dumb, but thats how the brain works. So my goals are now to keep my learning routine back up and especially BEING ACTIVE when I start to study, not like just read in the book without trying to memorize it. I need also to build up other hobbies again, although its tough to do that after a full learning day. So I am gonna learn 6-7 hours now and Ill see
  17. Struggling right now. Really I am not sure how to fix my problem with learning. Sometimes I cant learn properly due to some other important things. That would be no problem but sadly even when I am free I tend to be a bit lazy. Today I could just have gone to library to study, but I decide to stay at home and work there, because I wasnt in mood. This happens sometimes. At holidays when I dont have classes its different, because I am not that exhausted at weekends. I think everyone understands that. So, how to fix that? I guess I need to get back to a proper morning routine which can even help to get out of bad mood. Like having a shower, eat a good breakfast etc. Any tips there? I tend to want to change everything at once, like eat healthier, more sport, more studying etc. but that doesnt work. Changes are slow but have to happen steadily.
  18. Grind at library definitely is way better than at home. So it is okay so far, I hope I can go on like this.
  19. Good session yesterday, but I am always thinking I am learning too slow -> wrong. But when I speak with my guys at university there doesnt seem to be a right way. Everyone just grinding whole day to somehow make it. Some guys lie and say they dont have to learn much, but at the same way they always say ‚wow its so stressful‘. Yea so its weird I want to trust more into myself and just do my work and stop thinking whether there isnt a better way to study. But I am simply never sure, because maybe there is one... Tomorrow university opens again and I am usually learning at the campus. So i feel today a bit like making a day free and tomorrow ill start the normal grind(I am very used to learning in a library etc. at home its always tough to concentrate)
  20. Plan: learning now 1-2 Hours, maybe after that going buy some food for later and then I would like to learn till 7-8oclock
  21. Short but good learning session I want to start early tomorrow so I dont have to learn into the night. Learning early is way better
  22. Hello, I decided to open this journal, so I can log my daily work routine. I hope it somehow gives me more ‚pressure‘ to do my work. Right now I feel a bit bad in opening this journal although I should learn. But tbh I would just watch youtube, so there is no reason not to try this journal thing out! Little introduction: My gaming history goes pretty way back. World of Warcraft at young age, some Age of Empire too. Later I started with Runescape. Most addictive game was basically League of Legends. The time I started with League was in very intense time at school. Worked hard to get into medical school. Although I played much I got into it. Absolutely great feeling. I quitted LoL already for a long time now. I dont miss it, its a very good feeling to have quit it. Whats the deal now? Well, I cant really work with internet on a ‚healthy‘ base. I can still just grind the whole day in front of it. I still watch very much on youtube etc. instead of doing what I am supposed to do -> feeling bad. I want to do the things I really want to do. My medical school. I want to do my learning. And after that I want to do several other things which are making me waaay more fun than watching youtube. But you all know... internet gives fast and easy dopamin. Other things more on a long time base. However I am sure about what I really want to do with my life. Isnt that already something? I think yes and thats why I should be happy at least for that.(I need to be happy about more things in my life, which I always tend to say about ‚ah thats no achievement thats nothing special‘ I speak about simple thing like having a house, having food etc. but also huge goals which I fulfilled like getting into medical school.) I know what I want to do. But next question: Can I do that? We all have goals, but not everyone can make it. Thats normal. So can I make medical school? I think yes. But I have to take myself as I am. Maybe I am not a work machine, but I can settle things so Its working anyway. I can study 1-2 years longer till I get my degree, which is fine for me. My huge goal is not to be extrem successful(like getting best grades), my goal is to do my working routine(= reduce meaningless things) Everything else is not in my hand. So I want to work now concentrated 2 hours. Ill write after it whether It worked out good.