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Hi Mark welcome to the forum! Great job on taking the first step and detaching yourself from your Xbox and Destiny. I agree with what @Piotr said. Sit down with your wife and explain what your trying to do and gain her support. It's always easier knowing that she will have your corner. Also don't beat yourself up too bad, it happens to everyone, whether it's food, gaming, drugs or alcohol we all have our drug that we use to detach from reality. Sometimes they can overshadow our daily lives and become too much to handle. All the best and don't forget to start your journal

Day 66 - Start Of A New Day It's the start of another new day and I'm feeling good. I spent the majority of yesterday just thinking about life and how my brain works. I came to the conclusion that my own brain can only handle 2 tasks at once, but when I focus on those 2 tasks I tend to smash them and succeed. So from now on until the end of the detox It's just work and game detox. Today I'm planning to do quite a bit of video editing and perhaps a bit of writing thrown in. Lets see how this goes and how this experiment of mine goes Just a short entry for today. What I'm Grateful For: Waking UpCaffeineInternetToday's Agenda: Video Edit at least one video.Write 1k words.Keep up to date on social mediaPerform Research

Good job Ross & Welcome, It seems like you have a great reason to give up games. All the best

Cheers bro Day 65 - Going To Enjoy The Day The past couple of days I've done pretty much nothing apart from watch YouTube and Netflix. Is it because of the weekend and I'm still in relaxation mode? Who knows. All I know is that I need to knuckle down and get back to working and the fat-loss. Today will be the last day that I totally chill out and I'm just going to enjoy the day and not fret over things I haven't done. I think this is the main point to establish. Even though I'm off track, I just realign myself tomorrow and get back to business. I can do these things, I've proven it to myself with anxiety and the game detox. I have the sort of personality that enjoys completion and perfection. The trouble with this is that if I start a series or a game I tend to stop at nothing until that series or game is completed. I need to tap into that ability and apply it to my work and personal growth somehow. Hmm. The 90 day detox has worked...so I may need to write down an end date or something to complete the things I need to do. I've said to myself that I would lose fat in 90 days...but not really a set amount. That's my task today then. I shall write down attainable goals for my fat loss and bit like a game and aim to smash them by a certain date. But yeah I'm binge watching Sons Of Anarchy at the moment...I'm seriously thinking about just reading a synopsis on the ending so I don't need to watch anymore. I probably wont though lol, I only have 2 seasons to go anyways. I'm currently sitting here just daydreaming and watching the birds and sun shine down on the bush outside. I may just go back through my journals soon and see how my feelings and emotions have gone. I need to actually use my brain and focus on myself for once instead of other people's tasks and problems. Instead of doing what other people have done to lose weight, earn money and succeed I need to figure my own way to do it. I know the way my brain operates is totally different to other people's and i need to channel it somehow! I may do it in this journal actually. My Mrs is out and it's quiet so I'm able to think. I know for sure that my mind operates best when I'm using my focus on 2 solid things. If I try to establish any other sort of routine or habit I tend to burn out and crash. Thinking back over my life, this is definitely true. Such as when I had a full time job. I would put all my energy into my job and my relationship and thus would neglect friends and fat loss. Once I crashed and burned, I would become demoralized and become depressed. So I perhaps need to make a list of things I'm currently doing, what I'm meant to be doing and things I want to do. Then perhaps split each habit I want to establish into a goal and time frame, in such a way that doesn't clash with my other habits and willpower/focus related goals. I've always tried to do everything at once and haven't once split up things into different time frames. This should also counter my boredom. (I tend to get bored of something easily) Current Things I'm Doing: Game Detox (End Date 30.05.2016) Things I Should Be Doing: Working Learning Spanish Losing Fat Now I've split the tasks up, I need to pick something to go aside the game detox. I know I need to work, so I may just have to focus on that until the detox ends and then swap in losing fat and give that an end date. Once the losing fat end date has been reached I then swap over to learning Spanish as by then my fat loss routine should have taken hold. Hmm...wow think I'm on to something here I know for definite that if I give myself an end date for a goal, I will always strive for perfection like i have with the game detox. As long as I don't overload my willpower and focus I believe this will work...actually i don't believe I know it will work! Beginning from tomorrow on-wards I shall be focusing on 2 main things that allow myself to grow in a certain way. Working & Game Detox will grow my willpower and financial status. I have to play the long game and I need to pace myself. I have to stop comparing my middle to someone else's end. There will be a point where I have a ripped body with 10% and where I can speak Spanish, Chinese & French and I'm rolling in passive income from my online business. For today though I need to focus on 2 things at a time and make sure I grow each day! Wow this has been a long entry...when I get in the writing groove I don't stop haha What I'm Grateful For: Game DetoxSilenceMusicThe SunMy BrainMy WillpowerToday's Agenda: Plan my life properly.RelaxContemplate my lifeFat Loss Section - Day 24 As stated in the previous paragraphs this fat loss section will not be happening until the game detox is over. It will be started from day one again and It will be done properly! After the game detox is done, this journal will primary be for fat loss and other self-improvement goals. P.S: Congrats on getting this far if you read all of my journal

Yup agreed

Day 64 - Nothing Beat The Sun-Rising I had no idea what I've been missing out on all of these years. It's beautiful. The way the sun rises up over the horizon and casts a different sort of light than the afternoon variant it casts. With the birds chirping and the sound of silence, it's so relaxing and I can now see why people love waking up at this time. I'm used to slumping into bed at around 3-4am and thought I enjoyed being a night owl because of the silence. I would wake up the next day and be behind everyone else in the world. The feeling of getting up before anyone else in the country and making a start feels ten times better than what I was doing before. Yesterday wen't okish. I didn't game but i didn't learn Spanish, workout or eat the way I should have. This is the trouble with a weekend off. I tend to become stuck and it takes a lot of willpower to reestablish the healthy routine I was in. I'm not sure what I'm going to do today but i feeling the urge to game creep in slowly, so i'm going to think of something quickly to do to stop the urges. What I'm Grateful For: SunriseBirdsMy WillpowerSongsToday's Agenda: WorkResearchPlanFat Loss Section - Day 23 I need to get back on track somehow, suppose I should just do it instead of thinking about it.

I was kind of already joined up considering I'm nearly at the end of my detox haha. This will be my last full month of the 90 days...I'm feeling awesome to be honest! I will remain committed to not play video games of any kind.I will continue to smash my goals and strengthen my willpower even more!I WILL lose 4 pounds by the end of this month.Good luck all

Hi Piotr and welcome! Good job on taking that big step forward to start engaging and an even bigger congratulations on reaching day 57! Now we can all spur you on to nail the last stretch

Welcome Sahil You're not alone here friend! Start your journal and start to focus on your feeling and yourself. Even though it helps to have friends to help you, sometimes we have to start the journey on our own before people start to see you are for real. If things get bad we're all here to talk Best of luck!

Welcome Matt Good to have you here!

Thanks guys , another plus is that I'm now in a decent sleeping pattern which is good. I wake up at 5am now, so instead of being a night owl im an early riser. Day 63 - Business As Usual It's around 6:24 in the morning and I just had a shower. It's nice to wake up, relax, shower and feel energised! Before this routine I would either get woken up or I'd wake up feeling groggy and have to rush to get stuff done. Even though I would have the hours from 12pm-4am I still don't get the work done that I would like to because of distractions. Waking up at this time allows me to relax and get at least a solid 3 hours of work done before the Mrs gets up lol. Anyhow. Yesterday went ok...even though I did have a lot of cravings to play games. I just thought of why I'm doing this detox and I'm doing it for myself and no one else. If I played a game now whilst on the last stretch, I would be just sabotaging my efforts and everything I've done so far. I've learnt so much during this detox about myself and I'm sure I will learn more. Today my plans are simple and will be shown in my daily agenda below. I hope everyone has a fantastic day! I will pop back on later after I've edited my video and help around the forum a little bit. What I'm Grateful For: The morning sunshineMy strengthMy willpowerLifeCaffeine Today's Agenda: Edit & Upload VLogResearch On Twitch WorkLearn Spanish for 15 minutesWrite In JournalRandom Work TasksExercise for 23 minutesWater and feed my BonsaiFat Loss Section - Day 22 Back onto a more mindful eating and exercise regime today, I've had my fun and it's now time to lose some more fat. I'm starting with my 23 minutes bike riding each day again and sticking to the intermittent fasting.

Day 62 - Wow, Busy Weekend! This has been the first time since the detox begun that I've missed an entry. For a good reason too im glad to say. Friday I traveled to the south of England to visit the Bovington Tank Museum for Tiger day with 3 other friends. This was a massive milestone for me, because it was the first time I had been away from family and my fiancee. I've been so crippled in the past and in my teenage years because of Agoraphobia, this was a major step in my journey. I managed to tick two things off of my bucket list too and that was to: Hug My favourite tank and visit the Bovington tank Museum.See Stonehenge.I have done more things in the past 4 days than i have in the past 10 years of my life. To say im over the moon is an understatement! The next for me in my journey to beat Anxiety is to visit another country on my own and perhaps with a couple of friends. By the weekend's discussion it could be Germany. I had hardly any sleep over the weekend due to loads of factor's and this normally makes my anxiety worse. For some reason though it wasn't higher at all, perhaps not even there. So today's Bank Holiday Monday for the UK and im just going to use today as a research and relaxing day. I'll will jot down my objectives for this week also, so I know what im doing each day and what my main goal is for each day. The only downside to the weekend is im itching real bad to play games =/, so that's not good i just need to keep busy. Actually this brings me to something I was thinking about over the weekend whilst traveling. When I come to the end of my detox I may try twitch streaming and add that to my passive income streams. My logic is that if I class gaming as work of such, that my subconscious mind will recognise this and kind of limit the amount. If i can also generate money whilst doing something that's fairly fun to do, then that's great. I'll ponder this thought over the following weeks and see what conclusion I come to. Twitch gaming in the grand scheme of things is in it's infancy and It could be good to become established now. What I'm Grateful For: Great FriendsHistoryMy ConfidenceMy JourneyYouTubeInternetSpicy FoodCarsToday's Agenda: Lots of Research.Plan the week.RelaxFat Loss Section - Day 21 Even though I devoured quite a bit of crap food over the weekend and downed a lot of alcohol, I only put on 1 pound. This was perhaps due to the amount of walking I did lol! But anyways back on the health regime tomorrow and smash my next fat loss goal.

Day 58 - Wisdom Tooth...Ouch! Yesterday I woke up feeling like I've been punched in the mouth an it got worse throughout the day. Last night I couldn't get to sleep because it hurt so much and I ended up falling asleep around 5am, so not good. Today I'm taking it easy and I've allowed myself the next few days off from exercise and not going to be too strict with my food (ill still keep track though). Today I've spent most of the day just planning for tomorrow's trip down south to the Bovington Tank Museum. I'm going to try and get some good footage for a VLog or two and hopefully get a video uploaded for Monday. It'll be based around the tanks obviously and majority of the time me talking about my Anxiety. (I have/had agoraphobia) But yeah it'll be fun to test my anxiety levels. I like to challenge my anxiety so i know I'm in charge and the anxiety isn't. Show it who's boss I might possibly be a little bit later with my journal entry tomorrow because I wont have WiFi until we reach the hotel. Here's my article I wrote if anyone's interested - http://falkysolutions.com/gaming-negatives-are-games-bad/ What I'm Grateful For: Mum & DadMoney That I ReceivePainkillersToday's Agenda: RelaxGet Ready For The WeekendLearn SpanishKeep On-Top of my social mediaFat Loss Section - Day 17 Everything has been going fine. The next 2 or so days im not going to being strict but im still going to keep track and make sure I don't wreck everything I've done.

I don't watch gaming content mate, the other day was the first time i watched any sort of game play in around a month lol. I do tend to watch a lot of fitness, eating and comedy videos though lol

Day 57 - Feeling Chilled Out Today is going to be a short journal entry (I'm saving my words for my article I'm writing today lol). Anyhow. Yesterday went great. I smashed the exercise, diet, Spanish, work and it felt pretty good. Before I come to write this I started on my article. So now I have no excuses not to work. After I finish writing this, I will be going straight onto writing and I'm doing what I said yesterday and that's to get straight to work. Oh yeah Game update...I've been getting quite a few urges to play games recently. I think this is because my mind is focused on resisting foods, exercising and sticking to the new healthy regime I've set up. I'm really exercising my willpower muscles lately It's coming up to the two month mark I'm feeling pretty good , the last month of the detox I'm going to try and allocate the willpower to my work and see how that goes. What I'm Grateful For: SilenceThe SunCold DrinkToday's Agenda: Learn SpanishExercise For 23 minutesWrite In JournalStart On Latest Article.Fat Loss Section - Day 16 Everything is on track at this moment in time. I just need to remain consistent, have patience and trust the process. I'm planning to lose 2 pounds this week so I may drop my calories by around 100 tomorrow on-wards. I'm currently at 2280 calories to lose weight...in fact I may actually drop it by 200. but if i carry on losing I'll keep it the same for the moment. I had a really good session on the bike and increased my time to 23 minutes. I want to eventually go up to 30 minutes a day of moderate intensity. That should be a nice sweet spot for fat loss. obviously combining this with weights.

Aaaah cold showers I can do in my sleep Day 56 - Personal Development Is A-Okay! In regards to fat loss and other areas of my life I'm starting to make head-way for once. I'm losing a steady amount of weight and I lost another pound for this week so far. The only trouble is that because im focusing on my fat loss, game detox and Spanish, I'm starting to lack on the work front. You see I have the type of personality where I do very well at a task when I focus on it...the only trouble is I can only really focus on one or two and then other areas of my life start to fail. My psychiatrist actually pointed this out on my evaluation when I was seeing him and my Councillor for my anxiety a while back. For example when I was working my full time job at a company I struggled to lose weight and do pretty much anything else. This was because I put all my focus on work and my relationship Now I'm not in my full time job and have freedom to do what I want...I'm now focused on my game detox and fat loss and as expected my work is falling behind. I don't mind this happening as in my eyes personal health is better than money. Eventually though I would like what I'm doing to become more of habit so I can start focusing on work again. Sometimes I really hate my brain lol... Anyways today I want to at least do some work with my other personal tasks. After I write this im going straight on my main computer to edit some videos clips. I may have to start going straight to work once waking up because lately I've been getting up, writing my journal and then becoming distracted by other elements. Yeah that's what im going to do. Wake up. Grab drink and go straight on my computer to work for an hour or two, then when that's done I know I've at-least had 2 hours of work done which will be a lot more than im doing now lol. Ill see how that works out for tomorrow on-wards. What I'm Grateful For: WhiskeyAbility to writeMy Fat LossWaterToday's Agenda (In Order Today): Edit & Upload My VLogExercise & Lift WeightsOrganize Computer Files & Maintain Social MediaLearn Spanish For 15 minutesPlan tomorrow's AgendaRelax & Reflect on my dayFat Loss Section - Day 15 My fat loss journey is going well so far. I weighed in this morning and I lost another pound which is awesome, but i'm not recording it down. These daily weigh-ins are more about progress rather than status updates and it seems I'm on the right track Well apart from the aforementioned things, nothing else to report on. Cya folks soon

Day 55 - New Week, New Adventure Another Monday. Another week. After today I plan to knuckle down and crank out a few videos and one blog post before Friday's trip. I'm struggling to find words to write down today for some reason...oh yeah. Yesterday went alright in regards to diet and learning stuff. I watched a 2 hour long video of Hearthstone yesterday for a willpower test and it went really well...i had fun without any craving so that's good. What I'm Grateful For: ParentsChromebookStuffToday's Agenda: Relax with parentsLearn SpanishGo on Bike when I get inPlan out the week and tank VLogs.Fat Loss Section - Day 14 Weight: 19.1 Stone My fat loss in theory is going well. I've stuck to my eating plan and schedule and I've been below my calories everyday. I weighed myself officially today and I've lost a pound since my last official weigh in. So far so good, just have to remain consistent

Yeah definitely agree with this, I know every time i have a cheat day i normally have a binge week afterwards and this is what normally screws a diet up for me. So I need to address this for the future and maybe just have one cheat meal instead of a day. Day 54 - Emotions Are Now In Check After an emotional low yesterday I feel a lot better today, which is great. ? I'm back on the healthy eating track and feeling better. Yesterday I managed to get more than i imagined done. Today I plan to chill out and plan my week ahead, I'm thinking of exercising today or not...if i exercise today, that would mean I've exercised everyday this week I may just exercise just because that would be the first time I've exercised for 7 days in a row. I will come to that decision when my exercise alarm goes off lol. Apart from planning the week and such, i haven't got much to do today. Oh I may do a Vlog plan for Friday and Saturday because on Friday I'm going down to the Bovington Tank Museum with some friends for Tiger Day on Saturday. We're making it a weekend thing. These are my clan mates from World Of Tanks and it's going to be testing my cravings when I get back lol. Anyways it should be fun. What I'm Grateful For: FriendsMy bedOxygenGravityTurtlesToday's Agenda: Plan StuffRelax & StuffMaybe Do Some Exercise StuffRead Stuff(Gotta love those Sunday goals loool) Fat Loss Section - Day 13 Back On track with everything which is awesome. I done an early weight check to see where I was before my official weigh-in and I should be on track to lose 1-2 pounds tomorrow which is good! I may exercise today to make sure so I'm 80% certain i will do the bike today.

Yeah this is exactly how im approaching it and i totally agree with everything you've said. I feel a bit better now since I've read through people's journals and somehow i've managed to go on the bike for 20 minutes and read a chapter of my book Now im about to play chess with my mate who's come over. I'm glugging down the water as we speak and I'm allowed to eat in an hour lol. Yeah I've definitely starting to recognise the inner workings of my brain and becoming more present since meditating and doing this game detox. Thanks for the tips dude

Yeah start with getting rid of the extra monitors and de-clutter a little a bit. I keep my PC because it's useful for video editing and other RAM intense apps. It's all down to preference though, if you need the cash go for it.

Hi and welcome back since being on my game detox, im starting to find out lots about myself and one of those things is I'm starting to find out is I may have a addictive personality. I'm an all or nothing kind of guy and you may be too. That's something you need to figure out for yourself and your friends may not have an addictive personality. All the best and don't forget to start your journal as this helps alot

Day 53 - Finding It Hard I've had a good couple of weeks, but for some reason today I'm finding it pretty hard. All I want to do is play a game and then eat a shit tonne of junk food. I can't pin-point whether I'm lonely, depressed or bored...perhaps all three. I know I want to finish this detox so I'm not going to derail...but im seriously struggling with fat loss at the moment. In the past I would normally eat my troubles away, I'm the proverbial emotional eater and sometime's games would help me to not over-eat. The games would be a buffer, instead of eating I would just hop on a game and forget everything. I'm sitting here writing this with Jeremy Kyle on in the background, hungry because I can't eat for another 3 hours and bored. On top of that I seem to be the only one to contact my friends, so meh. I'm going to have a look through the journal's soon and see how other people cope with their feelings. My willpower is holding up at the moment, but if this is going to be occurring frequently I want to know how to beat it instead of winging it. What I'm Grateful For: My FianceeToday's Agenda: Learn SpanishResearchFat Loss Section - Day 12 Finding it hard and struggling to cope with the diet all I want to do is eat. Need to overcome this obstacle to achieve what I want in life.

Thanks gresa and haha, I would be impressed if you read my whole journal! I have a tendency to write a lot each entry Day 52 - Creative Title To Detail What You Will Read Ahead I had an epic cheat day for the first time in a couple weeks yesterday and It didn't feel as good as I thought it would. I would guess it's probably because my body is starting to detox from the crap I've been eating, which is fantastic. Today I have some video editing planned and various other activities, so should keep me nice and busy. I currently have disturbed blasting whilst the Mrs is out But anyhow a short one for today! I woke up later than normal so i need to get moving on stuff. What I'm Grateful For: Disturbed & SlipknotMy own spaceThe Bin menToday's Agenda: Film Monday's VLogEdit and Publish Today's Solution VideoWrite in journalLift weightsexercise for 20 minuteslearn Spanish for 15 minutesFat Loss Section - Day 11 I had a major cheat day yesterday and didn't really enjoy it but oh well. I got all my cravings out of the way and now it's time to crack on with the fat loss! I need to work hard for my next weigh in ! I may not be publicizing my results to everywhere, but it's the fact I want it for myself and I want to smash my previous weight goal. I think this is the point everyone needs to reach before they can truly start to see change in their life. Before I was doing it for other people and for other people's reactions...now im doing it for my own reaction if that makes sense? Anyways, need to go, catch you all later. Much love! x

Day 51 - <Insert Title Here> My arms ache and It's cheat day! (every cloud and all) I plan to do a little bit of work today and exercise on the bike. Then I need to do some brainstorming for my work schedule in the upcoming weeks. Nothing major to report though; just business as usual. I had quite a few game urges yesterday come to speak of it, perhaps it was because all the game trailers i kept coming across on tv etc. The new Hearthstone expac and the new WoW movie etc. Oh well these little challenges build our willpower so I say bring them on What I'm Grateful For: Recliner SeatThe Local Kebab VanMy Razer Kraken HeadphonesMy willpower, strength and perseverance.Today's Agenda: Learn 15 minutes of SpanishExercise for 20 minutesWorkSomething, something, dark side.Fat Loss Section - Day 10 Managed to stay under my calories (just about yesterday) the Mrs cooked dinner without checking the calories of a part of the meal and lets just say it was really the best haha! This week I plan to increase my cardio to 6 days anyways so hopefully this should account for any calories I've missed. (im not counting my exercise calories too.) But yeah just got to remain consisted and hang in there. I weighed myself today again and put on 2 pounds, but I was expecting these due to weight fluctuations anyways and my official weigh-in isn't until Monday anyhow. Going to go and fill the bird feeders up and then either work or learn some new stuff! Cya soon guys and girls.

Day 50 - Slow & Steady Wins The Race My journal is a bit later than normal and I've done the majority of what i needed to do today which is good. Yesterday went pretty well and I finished all my goals apart from reading a book. This morning I took an awesome walk with my fiancee to the shop in this sunny weather and checked out my parents house whilst they are away on Holiday. I brought the shopping home and had a weights session and went on the bike afterwards. My diet has been spot on and I plan to do some language learning after dinner, which will be in around 15 minutes. But yeah, I'm feeling stronger, lighter and more focused! Here is the blog I wrote yesterday - http://falkysolutions.com/gaming-benefits/ It's about the gaming benefits (even though they can be counter-productive I don't regret the years I did spend on them, we just need to learn moderation!) You will all pleased to know i will be doing a gaming negatives post perhaps next week hehe...(I will mention game quitters there a couple of times and link this site, hopefully we can get even more members!) What I'm Grateful For: InternetIce Cold WaterThe Beautiful Sunny WeatherThe Cool Breeze Coming Through The WindowFruit Today's Agenda: Take walk to shop for fruit and milk.Write In JournalLift WeightsPerform Cardio on bike for 10-20 minutes.Learn Spanish for 15 minutes.Read one chapter of 4 hour work week.Fat Loss Section - Day 9 Everything is going fantastic. I'm planning to weight myself Friday to guage where I'm at. I've exercised every day so far and stuck within my calorie deficit. Slow and steady wins the race! (anyways time to eat I'm hungry!)