Ikar

I like it too and I will probably use it for my bachelor thesis. I plan to continue the studies afterwards, but it's hard to tell what happens next 🙂

I actually backed up my diary here by downloading every page of it. I suppose you can do the same 🙂 I think the main thing is to find a girl who is interested in chatting with you at least a few times and to revisit and fact-check topics you care about from different angles. You don't need to explicitly ask her out for a date to recognize if she's interested or not.

Day 359: I worked on my GIS project for uni, watched a Peterson video, worked out, did a bit of Forex and went out for a walk the girl again to chat. Day 360: I read and then I visited my friend who works in the finance and we set up and appointment the next day regarding a long-term investment plan. I visited my grandma and my brother and I played card-games in the evening. Day 361: I visited my friend regarding my long-term financial plan, we finalized it and got it up and running. I cycled on my bike, had a quick workout outside and read. I had a webinar in the evening about psychology. I didn't manage to work on my GIS project though. --- I think these times are one of the more trying on my psyche ever since I quit gaming. I think it's a good test though, whether I can keep myself together and stay true to myself. If she's truly intrigued in me, that is all I got and it's the best way forward anyway.

I think it is, unless you plan to write daily/professionally. I might actually want to write daily, as I am writing my full biography and plans for the future. You can show the blog to friends as well later on too and perhaps they can identify with it too. I was being a bit cynical with not being original, but after all, we can't know something we haven't been told. Human = genetics + environment.

I'm happy I started my blog, even though it sometimes feels like I am writing something I identified with elsewhere rather than producing something extremely original. I generally only write when I feel motivated/inspired, but it's better than nothing. I feel like I either do something daily OR almost never 😄 Ironically, I was able to find a girl on the dorms that intrigues me I wouldn't have met otherwise thanks to the quarantine. Life's strange.

Day 358: I watched a thoughtful video, finished the book I was reading, did Duolingo, took a walk, shopped at the grocery, watched a bit of Jocko Willink, planned my next week, worked on my blog, did a bit of Forex, read an article about late X early specialization in life and had a good workout.

It is the same for me with Russian, but luckily I have some Russian-speaking people around me on the dormitory, so I sometimes listen and talk to them. Duolingo is good for getting the hard knowledge of the grammar/vocab, but it's still necessary to get out there and use the language actively.

Day 357: I did Duolingo, some paperwork, checked my mails, read, visited my parents, had a chat with my neighbors and had a light workout.

Day 355: I worked on my blog, did some Forex and watched a related webinar, watched a light-hearted theater play, went for a walk and played desktops until night. Day 356: I did Duolingo, cycled to a shop, relaxed outside, took a nap, went for a walk, read, cleaned my room. I went on a nice date in the evening, so I'll see what comes out of that. I'm vigilant.

Day 354: I worked on another article for my blog, played football, did a bit of Forex, set up Mozilla Thunderbird and sorted out my computer desktop. I also finished watching the fourth season of "The Expanse" and I think the third season was the best one 🙂

As for Prague itself, I dislike it. It is based on the fact I've only ever been there when it was related to one-day work trips and it's 3-4 hours travel from my native Silesia. Czech ethnicity is a tricky thing, because while Czech is a Slavic language, a lot of people in Bohemia have German ancestors and their facial features are different. I feel good about the fact I am a white Slavic Czech and I wouldn't trade it. I might need more context/more direct questions to answer you properly though.

@Erik2.0 Here's an interesting thought. Part of being honest is posting recent photos/bio of you and who you are now. I think if I watched anime for an hour a day, I'd include it in the description that I like anime. If I watched it for 3 hours a day, I think a photo showing some related activity (e.g. a drawing of anime characters) would be warranted. If you like to watch TV for 5 hours on weekends, put in that you love watching series X, Y and Z. If it scares/disgusts someone, so be it. But it's part of you and you have to be honest in a smart way about it, so you get the matches you deserve. I'm using it myself and I like it. I think if there's one disadvantage of it, it would be that you can enter only separate photos rather than your whole dating profile at one and it's up to you to figure out the chemistry between photos that shows the story you want to tell about yourself. In other words, you might be quite attractive on a gym photo, but I think it's almost always going to score less on trustworthy/smart. I also think if you want to be serious about getting a profile up, you need someone to help you snap a few photos of yourself. I agree here 100% on both. Yeah, every time I see a profile like that I think to myself: "Well fine, you are 20 and beautiful, but is there anything else to you than that? Every other girl looks as good as you do."

What a long post full of interesting ideas. You should get a blog up as I have. Back before when I was at the military uni (some 3 years ago), I was reasonably productive when I was living at the dormitory with others, but I slipped into doing nothing all day when I was coming home for the weekends, because that's how I learnt to live throughout high school. There's a ton of it and I like to research this area. I am going to get around posting a blog article about relationships eventually, so I am sure some of it will resurface there.

It's "Taktika a strategie v lásce" by Miroslav Plzák, so I am afraid you have to start learning Czech 🙂

Thanks! The same goes to you from me 🙂 Day 353: I wrote, read, had a call about suggestions for my IG, went for a business meeting, visited my grandma, did a bit of Forex, exercised a bit and played chess in the evening.

I'm currently reading a book about this. It says something along the lines that attractive (for women it is initially more focused on their physical appearance, for men it is more about how competent they seem in what they do) people tend to be more promiscuous than unattractive ones who cling to loyalty/single partner out of fear of having to find someone and going through the ordeal again. The good news is that these two categories are not necessarily given for life. I think historically game addicts (averagely young males) are planted firmly into the unattractive category, so it makes sense for them/formerly us to proclaim "loyalty at all costs/ONSs are horrible". But I am beginning to see the point of having more options. Having the option to have an ONS, but also knowing that there is something greater than that. I wonder that perhaps you needed just that experience to realize that. I think the golden middle-ground here is "loyalty - AND hard earned". And that starts with the individual. Do you want a girl that exercises regularly and keeps in shape? Make sure you exercise regularly and keep yourself in shape. Be someone you would like to date and don't sell yourself short. Peterson's great. His words at the beginning helped me to get where I am at now.

I mean, except for discovering my ex about two years ago, I can't say I got much further than you myself, at least in the past year. I believe this is what keeps me going on the dating apps. I think I have the dynamics of it figured out, even if I can't take advantage of them under quarantine. I think the main one is to be selected rather than to select. Overall, it's just a matter of time before I start going out on dates regularly.

Day 350: I visited my parents, read, took a walk and did some minor maintenance in my room. Day 351: I had a call with my friend regarding our plans for Forex. I read, took a walk, played football and had a party in the evening. Day 352: I did a bit of Forex, went for a walk, read, took a nap and wrote.

I'm using the template I used the last time. 7/3/20 - 6/4/20 "L" will stand for the (last) plan for this term. "T" will stand for done this term. "N" will stand for the plan next term. Books: L: I got "The Red and the Black" from Stendhal and "Beyond Good and Evil" by Nietzsche. T: I finished "The Red and the Black" from Stendhal. I am currently reading "Tactic and Strategy in Love". It describes all the common types of intimate relationships and I find it practical, helpful and truthful. N: Finish "Tactic and Strategy in Love" and start reading "Rich Dad Poor Dad" by Kiyosaki. English - Personal + Business: L: I think I want to bond my personal progression together with my business progression. The idea I would study some obscure English grammar or did tests on the Internet just seems foreign to me. I'll just keep on doing what I've been doing up until now. I'm gonna get my webpage up by mid-March. Word. It's already 50% done anyway. I am also going to spam more mails, even though I think everybody knows that I exist in this area at this point. T: Sadly, all the English social gatherings that I could attend got cancelled and the courses got either cancelled or delayed as well. I got the website up and running, as well as my business cards and banners. N: I have an interview coming up and a plan to cooperate with one of my friends in the business during the summer. Family: L: I think it's true to say that I find my family members more dear when I am more detached from them by living on the dorms. I get to see them just enough to be caught up on what are they up to. I think it works that way for most relationships, except for when people live together. T: Business as usual. I don't think anyone is freaking out. N: Maintain the relationships as they are, I'm happy with them as they are. University: L: Stick to doing assignments ahead of time. There's one bigger one coming up. Otherwise it's fairly smooth sailing during the semester. T: There's been a few webinars I attended, but so far there is just one big assignment due in a month. N: I'll try not to be stupid and get it done in a week or two, so I won't have to worry about it. Being social: L: I am creating more connections and deepening current ones. I like the consistency of that. I can still be a bit sheepish at times though. I like to both talk to others and watch them. I'm vigilant. T: I think while my time spent being social took a hit, it wasn't as big as I expected it to be. I just meet people in smaller groups and play desktops. N: Hard to say, given the current circumstances. Exercise/movement: L: I did the same pull-up, sit-up and bike routine all month. I'm gonna get into some mobility workout too, because I would like to be more flexible and less prone to injury. I put in some more exercises to mix up my workouts, as well as some stretching. I think I want to make my workouts even more diverse. T: I exercise in my room now, though for lesser periods of time than before, but I also take walks into the nature more. I try to get both in during the day. N: Hard to say, given the current circumstances. Russian/German: I am still on track on Duolingo (204 days streak). Forex: T: A friend got me into trading currencies online two weeks ago and on average, I've been able to spend an hour a day on checking this out. I got the basics of it and so far I fare well on the demo account. I also like the intertwining of it with personal development. N: I wrote my friend that I am willing to put some 10 hours a week into educating myself on the topic and I'm confident I can manage that. He wrote he is going to help me out hone my IG if I am going to delve into marketing later on. Women/dating: L: I'm currently talking to a few women. I get myself out there on a regular basis. I'm finding out what I like and what I do not like. It could be that I am still perhaps too rational and shy about this, but I am getting better. It's like entering the swimming pool with a descent. I feel more comfortable initiating conversations with men overall. Be cool with whatever the outcome is. That's how I learn. T: I am on the dating apps, but I'd prefer just normally going out to meet women. I will probably keep them around after the quarantine is over as passive scanners. I think I have this game and trends figured out. N: Be cool with whatever the outcome is. That's how I learn. Projects/misc finished last month: business - got the materials website (100%) Projects/misc upcoming this month: money - forex gun license - on hold, quarantine get GIS done - university Thoughts, ideas and additional comments/gratitude:

I think the beauty of the relationship is that you can't really know yourself in that regard up until you actually are in the relationship. Even if you unknowingly only wanted to have sex in the relationship, it beats having multiple sexual partners at the same time in the long run. It depends on your experience on how much are you going to get swayed by human instincts that are juxtaposed to the rationale. I also think that if the woman you're going to have is as happy as you are about getting into the relationship together, you're going to get what you need for the future and she will become your best friend.

The issue with the all-out lifestyle focused just on one thing is that once that thing goes away, the chance that it's going to drastically change your current lifestyle is very high. In that case, it doesn't even matter if it's something we love or hate. Going to work or to school or gaming for some 30-50 hours a week is quite an investment of time and identity. More than a year ago, I think about 90% of my identity could've been defined by my relationship with my ex and gaming. I think nowadays there isn't a single thing that I do that would define me from more than 20% or that I would consistently invest 20% of my waking hours into. I don't think I even want to though, I like how diversified my personality is nowadays. One of the things I miss is that borderline insane relentlessness to just finish a secondary task and go back to the primary one (gaming) immediately without delay. I think we have to give ourselves credit for what we do though. In my case, I wouldn't say I am "average", I just do a bunch of different things and I wouldn't know which one to start writing about 😄 As for things I like doing, I found out life has mysterious ways in getting me into them regardless. I can't reason myself into doing something new, it's intuitive for me. Either by randomly pondering about it for a couple of times or as a logical continuation of what I'm doing at the moment already.

Before it's about "right or wrong", it's about "compulsory or voluntary". We can quit gaming altogether and survive. But we can't quit eating, drinking or breathing altogether and survive. I like to put sexuality there as well, but notice I didn't write "masturbation" per se; I think there are ways to express that energy other than masturbation itself, but I don't think it can be completely replaced.

Day 348: I worked out, read, took a walk, did Duolingo and visited my friend. I helped him sort out some stuff in his flat and I took some of it he no longer needed. Day 349: We finished the cleaning process, I cycled back and played desktops in the evening. --- Since I had a few sleepovers in the past week, it made me realize that it's important to cultivate the ability to be "alone" together, even if the person is visible to you literally the whole day. I think it's a successful cornerstone of any long-term relationship where people share their quarters.

I think the idea here is that sexual release is indispensable and the only real question here is how I want to do it, not if I want to do it. It's the same with eating or drinking. Not drinking anything is bad. Drinking two liters of soda is fine. Drinking two liters of water is even better. I'd argue there is not a lot of these basic categories that everyone needs to get done, but they are extremely hard to set straight once they somehow got "contaminated". I believe some people might enjoy it, but it's hard to be realistic with goal setting, check-boxes and whatnot. Perhaps I can get my daily tasks done in 4 hours and feel miserable, but I can also get them done in 6 hours and feel great that I took them on slower. I think it's more important to watch the whole "vision" or big picture of my life. Some goals might even have a random factor thrown in. I can work out every day for the next year, if I really want to. Whether I can find a girlfriend or make a million dollars is not that 100% anymore, but it's generally better to still put some efforts towards these goals and to search for opportunities. While I do have a schedule, I mostly write there what I did rather than what I plan to do. I also prefer slower starts to my days, picking up the pace during the afternoon.

I made backups of my diary on my desktop. I also already compare the months to each other 🙂