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    Habit building books

    The power of habits Atomic habits 7 habits of highly effective people Bryan Tracy books(it's about self-improvement, though) The compound effect by Darren Hardy Best ways to track your habits: Use an app like "Loop Habit tracker" For Android and be sure to use a reminder and enable the sticky notification feature. "Goal Tracker" is also a good app for Android. You might want to check out other apps on your own. Use a notebook. It's going to take more time.
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    Help me, Walk Away.

    OK don't think bad about yourself. I just wanted 2 things to happen with this action: 1. Thinking bad about video games which makes them less enjoyable and removes the "Reward" part of the habit or at least makes it more subtle. 2.Taking this matter seriously. Most people who are addicted to something don't quit just because they don't take it seriously. They don't want to come out of their comfort zone or take any action. That's why sometimes you have to talk to yourself and make your EGO feel the pain.
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    Help me, Walk Away.

    Hi, that was a real introduction. It's gonna help us help you (I know I suck at writing.) First of all, try to decide if you're going to quit cold turkey or step by step and slowly. Congratulations, you already have a goal(Going to that school of yours). So you want to focus on that goal and ways to achieve it. Start tracking your time; Finding out how you spend those 24 hours will help you a lot. What do you usually do when you're not playing video games? If you want to quit cold turkey=> You have to find a way to make it impossible to play. Don't use your willpower. So many people nowadays talk about willpower and stuff but IMO only two things play a rule in our life: Environment and motivation. So start thinking about how you can deprive yourself of your gaming platforms. Rent them or present them to someone else. Just don't give them to your parents: Parents are kind, they can't control us or help us quit bad habits because they fear they might hurt us. I don't know how you're going to do that and you'll have to find that on your own. But the best way to quit and start studying for your goal is 1. Making gaming a lot harder or even impossible. 2. Imagining video games are the worst and the most disgusting, gross, awful things on earth. Try to think very low on video games and even gamers. Whenever you start playing tell yourself: "You're pathetic. You're a loser. You can't achieve anything in your life. You look awful when you play video games." Or have your parents say those words to you. (But as I said, they're kind!!!!) Trust me, this will work. 3. Hiding your consule(s) or your platforms whenever you stop playing. 4. Start making new friends and meeting people who have the same goal as you do. Break up with your gamer friends or anyone who is wasting your time 5. Make video games boring. Whenever you start playing, multitask. For instance: Listen to audio books or put your textbooks in front of you. Stick some notes to your monitor or tv about your courses or even curse yourself and write it on those notes and stick them... And in the end, hire someone to help you quit. Even if it's someone you know. Like, give someone money to just slap you in the face when you start playing. Talk to a counselor. That's all I had to say....
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    From the beginning

    Hi Richard. I'm glad to meet you. What platform do you usually play your games? Where do you play video games at your house? Are most of your friends gamers? What do you usually do when you don't play video games? What do you want to achieve 1 year from now? What do you want to achieve 5 years from now? What about 10 years from now? Who do you want to be in your life? How do your parents usually describe you? And why the hell are you still living with your parents when you're 25? (Sorry just kidding....) What are your hobbies other than playing video games? And how healthy do you think you are? How regularly do you exercise? What type of exercise? When do you wake up in the morning? How much do you sleep during the day? Answer these question and I will help you.
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    Amir's daily Journal

    Hi everyone I'm Amir. An 18-year-old student from Iran. I just wanted to quit gaming so... I googled it, and found here.😁 I certainly believe this is a great place to track your progress and achieve your goals and of course quit wasting your time on video games. I have 4 rules from now on: 1. No video games. 2. No video game activity including streams, walkthroughs, reading about video games or watching any particular video about it. 3. Study at least 10 hours (Because of my professional goal which is entering medical school.) 4 Not to watch TV series/animes/movies: This is unrelated to video games but still a very bad habit. So this is day #1 let's see how it goes.
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    Amir's daily Journal

    Hello everyone. the reason why I haven't been updating this post was that I was busy and my Internet was blocked... So in the last two months, I completely changed my lifestyle... I started jogging every day. Sleeping 3 hours a day. Studying 10-14 hours a day. And not playing video games or watching ANY movies or youtube. Here's what I've learned. When you want to quit a bad habit the best way to do so is to make it impossible to do it. That's what I did, I used block site on chrome to block Youtube, Instagram and Twitter and also all movie-related websites. I blocked Blocksite using a completely random password. And then I blocked Gmail on my laptop to avoid recovering that password. I also had to block Gmail, Instagram, and Youtube on my Android smartphone. I used an app called "App block" to do that. This app had a utility called Strict Mode in which you block the settings on your phone so that you can't uninstall App block. You see I COULDN'T watch Youtube. I COULDN'T watch movies anymore. I couldn't waste my time. For video games, I did an interesting job. Whenever I was finished playing I promised myself to delete that video game. And we don't have a really strong internet so I had to go out and have someone install that video game on my PS4 again. That made playing video games so hard that I had to quit. For exercising, I was putting on some weight so I HAD to lose weight to be healthy, So I made exercising a little more fun by Listening to energetic music every time I wanted to exercise. Also, I jogged for only 30 minutes every day. I lost 13 pounds in only 1 month. HAHA. Bottom line, you want to quit a bad habit, make it harder. You want to start a good habit: make it easier and more fun. For more information read this book: Atomic Habits. Once I got past that initial craving, now I think I CAN play video games in moderation. I want to try it again. Maybe by playing 1 hour every day. With one difference, I will unplug the PS4 every time I finish playing and put it in the closet. In that way, it is harder to play and less likely to become addictive. Good Luck everyone. Tell me what you think and how you've been doing recently. Bye.
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    Should we quit everything?

    Hi everyone. So we all know what bad habits are like: They ruin your academic performance/work, relationships and basically your entire life if you don't deal with them soon enough. Just like video games. And when you actually try to replace them with something else-even if you succeed- the other habit ends up ruining your life as well. So my question is: If we are addicted to video games, should we quit every technology? If we're addicted to youtube, should we disconnect the internet? Or actually, take another step and sell all of our devices and spend the money on something else? What do you think? Are these huge steps necessary?
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    Amir's daily Journal

    Day #20 Day #19 I'm going to use my own temple. Did I play any console games today? No Did I play any mobile games today? No How much have I used social media(Twitter/Instagram/Youtube) 2H 23M Youtube 54M Instagram How many movies/Tv episodes have I watched? How much time? I watched 12 angry men. Did I exercise? Nope. How many hours have I studied? 4 hours. Did I watch any video game streams? Trailers? Videos? Yes. for about 2 minutes.
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    Amir's daily Journal

    Day #19 I'm going to use my own temple. Did I play any console games today? No Did I play any mobile games today? No How much have I used social media(Twitter/Instagram/Youtube) 44 minutes on Instagram. How many movies/Tv episodes have I watched? How much time? I tried to watch Aladin animated movie but I didn't finish it. About an hour. Did I exercise? Nope. How many hours have I studied? 4 hours. Did I watch any video game streams? Trailers? Videos? No. Fortunately.
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    Amir's daily Journal

    Day #18 I separated my studying place from my bedroom. I lock myself into that room from the morning till the night. I'm gonna work hard. My motto is, work hard or you die. There is no average. If you go for average, you'll have Nothing.
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    Amir's daily Journal

    Day #17 I successfully replaced my gaming habit with tv shows and movies. Now I'm not playing games at all. But I'm just watching stuff all the time. 😐 This has to stop. I don't care if I replace it with studying or exercising or anything else. I just have to stop wasting my time on movies.
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    Amir's daily Journal

    Day #16 good day. Can't type so much because I'm sleepy. See you tomorrow.
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    Amir's daily Journal

    Day #15 I am not feeling any urges to play videogames but I watch a lot of movies and tv series which is taking up all of my time. I need to start quitting that too. In fact, that's even a stronger bad habit than video games. Any of you guys having the same problem?
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    Amir's daily Journal

    Day #14 Hi, I'm back from the trip. I don't count these two days because I played a little bit of soccer video game with my family and it was fun. I wasn't trying to do it or craving for it. I didn't actually enjoy the playing part but the talking and being with my uncle and cousin part.
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    Who’s playing in moderation?

    First of all. For multiplayer games. I'm not going to be able to play in moderation at all. I just start playing Battlefield and 16 hours passes. I forget to eat/drink. I just want to headshot other people with my shotgun (I'm very good at that LOL). That happens for most single player games as well. Because nowadays most video games own a leveling system like AC Odyssey Or Origins or god of war, mgs5.... Which is very addictive and makes you spend hours in a day to level up and be able to get another skill or buy a new weapon. So in my opinion, playing video games can not be done in moderation. It's whether a 1 or a 0.
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    Amir's daily Journal

    Day #13 Gratitude journal I'm grateful for: My curiosity. I just found out that this is the key to academic success. Being able to buy books that can change my life. All the time and opportunities I have right now. One amazing thing that happened/I did today I decided to do something new but I'm not sharing it with you guys before it's done. Workout/run No, sorry. But It's going to start next week. Meditation I should learn how to do this! Visualization I can be a very successful and strong doctor if I work hard right now. Daily affirmation I'm getting stronger every day. Getting to bed before 12 pm Nope. I'm writing this at 12:09 Weekly Goal(s) Studying and reviewing biology. (did it but not enough) Brushing my teeth twice a day. (done by now) Using dental floss once a day. (done by now) Taking a shower every day. (done) Monthly Goal Making studying a habit. Brushing my teeth twice a day. Not running away from practice exams. Studying 8 hours for 30 days in a row. 3 Month Goal Finishing all the books for the big test. Not being moody. What went well today: I decided to go on a trip to my hometown with my family. I was a little depressed for finishing "Friends" show in the last couple of days. But now I'm back to normal. What I could have done to make my day better: I could have used less social media. What I will do differently tomorrow: I will take tomorrow's practice exam. No matter what.
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    I feel like a failure.

    Hi, start telling us how you feel and share your progress, even if you relapsed, start again. Don't be afraid, quitting something especially when you're addicted to it and you use it to run away from real life can be very hard. But it is possible. Good luck.
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    Amir's daily Journal

    Thanks, Vera, it means a lot.
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    Amir's daily Journal

    Day #12 Gratitude journal I'm grateful for: Nothing. I suck. One amazing thing that happened/I did today No amazing thing happened today. Workout/run no Meditation no Visualization no Daily affirmation Don't suck. Getting to bed before 12 pm I did it yesterday. Weekly Goal(s) Studying and reviewing biology. Studying 10 hours for just one day. Brushing my teeth twice a day. Using dental floss once a day. Taking a shower every day. Monthly Goal Making studying a habit. Brushing my teeth twice a day. Not running away from practice exams. Studying 8 hours for 30 days in a row. 3 Month Goal Finishing all the books for the big test. Not being moody. What went well today: Just today's exam. What I could have done to make my day better: Not to waste the whole day. What I will do differently tomorrow: I will try to control my anxiety.
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    Onlysoul

    I totally have the same experience so many times during the day. I think about my childhood and I come up with infinite embarrassments. They come to my mind and make me want to cry. That is probably the most important reason why I got addicted to so many things. Because I didn't want to feel embarrassed/anxious anymore. That is a really bad feeling. But I really like your attitude: "Life is not easy. But we can do amazing things when we are disciplined." Keep it up, you can do it.
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    Amir's daily Journal

    Hi, from now on, I'm going to be using this temple for my journal. Hope it works. Day #11 Gratitude journal I'm grateful for: Making good friends in the library and having a designated place to study. My parents for being so patient and selfless about me. Being able to quit and forget everything about gaming. One amazing thing that happened/I did today I watched the last episode of "Friends" and it made me cry. Workout/run I walked around a park 2 times. Meditation what???? Haven't done that... Visualization I thought about a time when I'm fit and successful and have really good relationships. Daily affirmation My strength is greater than any struggle. Getting to bed before 12 pm Weekly Goal(s) Studying and reviewing biology. Studying 10 hours for just one day. Brushing my teeth twice a day. Using dental floss once a day. Taking a shower every day. Monthly Goal Making studying a habit. Brushing my teeth twice a day. Not running away from practice exams. Studying 8 hours for 30 days in a row. 3 Month Goal Finishing all the books for the big test. Not being moody. What went well today: Walking and studying biology. Not playing video games is becoming a strong habit. What I could have done to make my day better: Sleeping earlier yesterday and waking up earlier today. What I will do differently tomorrow: I will wake up at 7 o clock and study 8 hours. Maybe at home, maybe in the library.
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    Amir's daily Journal

    Day #8,9 and 10 hi guys. I've been going to the library for studyig. It really helps me concentrate. For a reward, I watch one or two episodes of Friends every night. It's very funny, entertaining and romantic. If you feel depressed you must consider watching it. After deleting everything from my PS4 I haven't played yet. And that's very good 😊👍👌
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    Amir's daily Journal

    Day #7 Today was a little bit better. I studied a little bit. But I was still watching friends. I keep coming up with great ideas to improve my life but I don't have enough willpower or consistency to put them into action. I'm afraid one day I might be running out of creativity. So I need to start new habits and change my life. OK maybe that studying 10 hours wasn't necessarily a good idea and I need to start with small achievements and actually be happy about them.
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    Amir's daily Journal

    Day #6 same as yesterday. In fact, I've been watching Friends for the first time. And you don't know how much it made me laugh 😂, so I don't regret it at all. I was happy and that's enough.
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    Amir's daily Journal

    Day #5 Same as yesterday.
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