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My favorite game is life.
Rabbit hole refugee.
Addicted on live.
Im in the middle of the ultimate game. (Back: It feels so real!)
In reality their is no bonus-life
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You seems to struggle with a few things I struggled to in the past. A great book on the topic which helped me immensely to clarify my thoughts is "Models" from Mark Manson. You can check his website to see if you like his style and if he makes sense for you. Take this example article (https://markmanson.net/the-secret).
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Congratulations on deleting the Accound. I gave mine away to a friends little brother even before gamequitters. Still quitting lol was the turning point in my life. Away from gaming from 6am until my wife got back from work and telling her I studied. Away from this version of myself.
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Two things. Social dinking can eb a problem. Especially if your not used to it. The problem is that your decision making is getting worse the more your drink and it easy to losse control (that is the fun part also). I would advice you to stay with low percentage alcohols (like beer and wind) and drink plenty of water on the side. This way it easier to se the point where you should stop but still feel drunken.
Towards the nofap thing I am not so sure abeut the benefit of it. I think it can be helpful to know that masturbation is a want and ot a need. You'll don't need to do it. It is just a habit. But to ban masturbation for eternety seems a bit rush. In my opionion it is important to ban porn out fo your life because it gives you this fast dopamine rush. Masturbation itself if it is done in the context of taking care of yourself and actually feeling what is going on with your body can actually be helpful to your own sexuality. I think even if you doing a nofap counter for some time I would advice you to limit it to a set period and then find a healthy way to do it without porn. Atleast that is my experience with it and I was missusing porn all the time in the past.
Also good job on beeing more social. This is important. you social system aorund oyu keeps you healthy and happy.
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Feel free to share your podcasts if you want some feedback. Good job on producing an episode even if you feel unproductive.
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Hey good job on sticking to your comittments and reaching out to find other people. You say you don't want to have only casual conversations and that you need some time to feel comfortable around new people. It seems like it is hard for you to open up and to let your emotions through. But you have the desire to change that and you did take action to change it by reaching out to all these sites and searching for connection.Whilst it is good that you search for opportunities to meet new people I would ask you to try to be more open with the people around you. BE more social with them and try to share your feelings in a way that they understand what is going on with you. Don't get me wrong: in my opinion this is quite a challenge. If I could give you any advice from my distant point of view, I would say focus on the way you behave in social situations. Try to aim for friendly, open and optimistic. Try to be interested in what's going on in their life. Try to find the hidden treasures in the experiences of the people around you. If you can do this it will be easy to find interesting beautiful people everywhere. If you then move away or find a group of like minded people it will be easy to get to know these new people because you learned that everyone has interesting storys to share.
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Great Video wich summs up what I learned about Focus in the last 2 years. It isn't mine though. Especiallay the Priority list was a new technique I'll try out.
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Week 14 (22. -28.01.2018)!
I did eat sugar at work and I am not sure if this was a great idea. I think I'll stop doing this except someone brings something homemade.
I also failed my Coffee goal. I felt like it wasn't worth it because the headaches seems to be not correlating. I think it was the 8giurs of staring at a screen and I got used to it know. Because the headaches didn't come as I started drinking more coffee. But I keep my eyes open and watch my reaction. All in all it wasn't a great week because now it starts to get harder and my ideals and dreams go back a bit and routine comes into the picture. I am still very lucky with this job but I'll need to work on my discipline that such weeks stay exceptions. Connected wuite a bit with a coworker at a lunchbreak and I feel like I start to understand the social structure of my work team. I am determined to be a positive person and impact the team in beneficial way. It seems to work so far. I almost finished another audiobook and doing quite a good job at listening to my wife and using my time at home to the fullest.
After some delivery issues my new laptop wasn't shipped and I got a refund. I don't have time right now to programm or do anything productive so I don't need it and will safe the 700€ to invest in some machinery at home. I'll also start to invest 300€ and try to learn by doing. I think I'll need to know more about money after I read rich dad poor dad. Because I want to be financially indepent. For this goal I need to be great at work, climb the latter and know how to invest my money profitiably. So this will be the start of this knowledge part. Could be a fun hobby too.
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Week 5: 29. January 2017 - 04. February 2018
Results
Coffe only after 4 Pomodori (failed)
cold showers (check)
10 PU / 12R / 20S (check)
Pomodori min 50 (failed/31)Next week
cold showers
every two days times upper body (2*12 PU / 3*5 R)
every two days core and Legs (60 sec planks / 60 sec hipraise / 20 lunges (each leg))
pomodori 50 or more-
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Hey don't be sorry if you don't feel like commenting somewhere else. This side is for you. This is your journal. It is cool if you want to help others and comment on their pages but it is also cool if you don't. This is the nice thing about beeing a part of this community. Do what is good for you and people will not be hurt. Your only responsibility here is your own detox.
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These times are never pleasant. But it can be very helpful if get challenged emotionally. This will help you to know yourself better if you take the time to think about why you are reacting this way.
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12 hours ago, Mhyrion said:
Storm. I have been pushing this away for far too long. Now I've finally stepped up it's been a flood of emotions, confusion, fear and insecurities. I indulged in the comfort of nothingness, books, food, hot showers and sleep to be at least mildly comfortable and distracted. I can't blame me.
Today is back to business whether I like it or not, even with a storm razing in the back. It hasn't been really smooth sailing so far, but keeping busy with work and chores is a distraction on it's own.
Hey I hope you'll be able to whether the storm. What ever it is.
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Always makes my day if I can help someone with a few lines of written advice.If it includes bringing people to pour cold water over the heads: even better
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11 hours ago, zeke365 said:
Days 139-144
It will be 21 days this Sunday since I have been doing this routine of mine with no media expect weekends which means it breaks the habit I hope of being online all the time.
Now starting Monday I will be focusing on improving my health that goes beyond exercise and eating healthy so I can feel better about myself. Some you may ask why I did not focus on that first well that because in the past when I did I never went through with it and probably would have not focused on my goals as I m now. I decided to work on my goals first so I have something established this month before going to health that way I can keep going and finding new ways to improve myself.
The second thing I have been considering though I m not sure I really want to do it is add news to the no media detox. The reason being is to get my focus more on reality rather than fantasy. That why I m considering it but what are your thoughts about adding it in there. By the way, it would only be a news app I have not going to the website per say that is still off limits and quite enjoying myself not having media as a distraction.
Facebook will be open temporarily so I can get info on something but it only allowed in the group I know of anime Atlanta weekend other than that I cant do anything else. Once I have the info I need then it will go completely blocked again.
I personally found it refreshing to not watch the news for a longer time. There are a lot of tings in politics which takes you mind in a place where you are afraid/angry/sad without the possibility of chaniging much. I am definitely for trying to change the world but how can I do this if I don't even have my shit together? So I'll focus first on this and if I am in a good place I'll check the news again more closely and find a way to imporve the world. But I don't know how news influence you personally. I would ask myself: Does it help me to reach my goals or does it hinder them? In doubt just try it out for a week and watch it closely. You're surely get a feeling about the right thing to do then. Go with that feeling.
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On 19.1.2018 at 6:14 PM, BigOlBeartic said:
Update .: I don't want to go to bed with the 2H wasted. I know its friday but I just feel terrible that I wasted that time. I'm gonna be up 2 more hours, programming/studying to make up for it.
Discipline is a good thing but don't push yourself to far. Some balance is important. THink of yourself as two persons. One is the rational thinking one who wants to achieve great things and break bad habits. THe other one is your primal identy who wants his needs met. He wants dopamin , oxytocin and other hormons which make him feel great. None of the two persons should dominate the other, because it doesn't work that way sustainable. If you rational self is wipping your primal self all the time in submission it will take over and you will break your commitements to yourself and hurt yourself. The best way to reach anything is in my experience to let them work together.
You need fulfill your primal needs in a constructive way (need dopamine? Cold showers/excercise can help, feeling alone? Phone with friends or family). Think about the ways gaming/watching tv helped you in the past and find positive ways to fill this void. Here is a video from cam about this subject :
Building new habits is a process which takes around around 66 days if what I have read and experienced is true. That's why you'll need a sustainable process at first and then you will slowly but inevatible progress in the areas you aim to progress in. One habit at a time. So don't beat yourself up if you don't become an awesome coder/artist/student/lover in 3 months. Aim for big goals in a timeframe of 5 years. In a timeframe of 3months stopping gaiming and forming new positive habits instead is a great goal for itself.
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On 19.1.2018 at 6:10 AM, BigOlBeartic said:
I switched my major to something i like, started at a new university last year, and I'm doing by best to stop gaming. I got a part time job and also started volunteering and I'm joining a club soon. I'm finally also growing past my bad mentalities and gaining self confidence. I decided I would start to keep count of the days I go addiction free, and I wanted to join a community to help me along so here I am.
Welcome and great job at taking responsibility for your life. It easy to blame others or your environment. It took me personally a long time to make this step in my mind. We can't control our outcomes in life but we can sure as hell influence the propability of good or bad things happening to us. You are doing things to put weight on the right side of the scale and this is awesome. If you accept this and keep doing stuff to improve your life instead of self sabotating yourself, your self-esteem will raise almost as a side effect. You can be proud of yourself if deliver the best input you can give at any given moment. The output or the actual results of your actions may vary, but you can always be proud of your effort.
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8 hours ago, stablish said:
Done.
My admin be praised! Thank you
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8 hours ago, BigOlBeartic said:
Interesting journal, and I'm wishing you the best of luck! Why force yourself to have cold showers though?
They make me feel great afterwards, they train my self-discipline and they are good foor my dry skin.
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Week 4: 21. January 2017 - 28. January 2018
Results
one coffee a day (check)
cold shower if I shower (check)
10 pushups+10rows+20 squats / a day (check)
Pomodori (41)Next week
Coffe only after 4 Pomodori.
cold showers
10 PU / 12R / 20S
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Week 13 (22. -28.01.2018)!
The 3 month mark went by and nothing happened. I still think sometimes about eating a few sweets but it isn't dominant or needed and I'll keep it that way in the future. This week I only drank one coffee a day at work and took almost all showers cold. Work was more productive then the first week but there is still room to improve. I also did my push-ups, rows and squats which seems to be a good start of a high intensity routine I#ll develop over the next month. Basically circling between some exercises and doing 2-3 circles. Right now 1 circle a day is enough. I have no time and no big desire for porn and feel pretty good about me for now. I am thinking about experimenting with coffee as a reward for a 4 Pomodori Session. Because I really like the taste off my cappucino and it would result in around 3 of them a day which is a good amount of coffeine for me without beeing excessive. All in all it is an exciting and productive time. I feel like life finally arrived after beeing on hold for too long at university and with playing games.
@Hitaru @stablish @Cam Adair Can someone of you plz change the title of the journal into "Journal (10/2017 - xx/xxxx)" ?
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Hey there. We all relapsed at some (or several points) while quitting. The changes are all ready happening to you. You see that it isn't really a relaxing activity to play videogames (or atleas tit wasn't for me). It is more something really engaging to surpress anxiety. A thing you could ask yourself is if you really need more relaxation or just a better pruprose for what you are doing. I personally always though I need jsut to relax after a few hours of work. But lately I started a new job and have a newborn son and I am happy doing active things most of my time wiht no real breaks (besides commute and time with my son, where I have to keep him happy ;). If I do a lot of things just because we should do them or because we want to reach some unclear goal which doesn't really mean a lot to us it hard to sustain motivation. I get bored and feel sluggish. This goes away if I feel like I am progressing in things which are important to me. I am getting better at my new job, I am getting better at helping my wife and son, I am getting better at beeing productive. These things are important to me and for my self esteem and I think about how I can do even better every day. This keeps me motivated and focussed.
You will have other priorities but make them clear towards yourself. If you know where you're aiming at (even if this changes over time) it will get easier. I don'T mean the end of the detox but more generally in life. What do you want? What makes you feel good about yourself? How does your dream life look like? It is ok if it isn't socially correct or would make your parents blush because you want jsut to have sex with beautiful women all the time. It is ok if it is alittle vain because you'll want to have status, be rich and famous. Just realize what you really want with out judging it. Then your priorities will fall in place over time.
Here is an article about that theme: https://markmanson.net/life-purpose
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Hey there seems to come up a lot of shit for you lately. It is always you. It isn't always your fault, you definitely don't are guilty all the time but it is always your choice of how you react to other things incluencing you. This seems rather harsh but it is empowering because your behaviour is changeble in opposition to the people around you. Also life is a btich an will always through challenges at you. That isn't just that is jsut reality. But challenges give you the opportunity to face yourself and your behaviour and how to improve them.
This was more a general philosophical rant but I can relate to your situation with your girlfriend. As I started here I was really focussed on myself and how to improve me. I asked myself what is good for me? WHat can I do to become a better person? This wasn't all abd but gone to far. My wife started to be feeling left behind.
Try to talk with her if you both have calmed down and look behind your first reaction on her anger. Most people doesn't just get angry towards people they love because they are assholes. They are feeling hurt. I am sure there is an issue behind this which just isn't clear to you. Maybe she feels alone in her own struggles now that you spend more time thinking about yourself. Maybe she has something entirely else on her mind. Maybe she jsut had a bad day and didn't eat enough. There are so many reasons. Be interested in what it is what's bugging her. Not just that you can fix it but because you want to know and understand her.
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After I read your entry's i got the feeling that a meditation practice could help you a lot. It will be hard to sit and do nothing for you. This will focus you. Give it a try with headspace.com or something similar. I think especially for those with an overachiever tendency this can help put things into perspective.
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Nice job. Micro controller knowledge will be important in current jobmarket (especially here in germany with all the "intelligent" cars), Cool thing that you learn to sue them at university. This will serve you well.
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