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Week 14 (22. -28.01.2018)!
I did eat sugar at work and I am not sure if this was a great idea. I think I'll stop doing this except someone brings something homemade.
I also failed my Coffee goal. I felt like it wasn't worth it because the headaches seems to be not correlating. I think it was the 8giurs of staring at a screen and I got used to it know. Because the headaches didn't come as I started drinking more coffee. But I keep my eyes open and watch my reaction. All in all it wasn't a great week because now it starts to get harder and my ideals and dreams go back a bit and routine comes into the picture. I am still very lucky with this job but I'll need to work on my discipline that such weeks stay exceptions. Connected wuite a bit with a coworker at a lunchbreak and I feel like I start to understand the social structure of my work team. I am determined to be a positive person and impact the team in beneficial way. It seems to work so far. I almost finished another audiobook and doing quite a good job at listening to my wife and using my time at home to the fullest.
After some delivery issues my new laptop wasn't shipped and I got a refund. I don't have time right now to programm or do anything productive so I don't need it and will safe the 700€ to invest in some machinery at home. I'll also start to invest 300€ and try to learn by doing. I think I'll need to know more about money after I read rich dad poor dad. Because I want to be financially indepent. For this goal I need to be great at work, climb the latter and know how to invest my money profitiably. So this will be the start of this knowledge part. Could be a fun hobby too.
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Week 5: 29. January 2017 - 04. February 2018
Results
Coffe only after 4 Pomodori (failed)
cold showers (check)
10 PU / 12R / 20S (check)
Pomodori min 50 (failed/31)Next week
cold showers
every two days times upper body (2*12 PU / 3*5 R)
every two days core and Legs (60 sec planks / 60 sec hipraise / 20 lunges (each leg))
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Hey don't be sorry if you don't feel like commenting somewhere else. This side is for you. This is your journal. It is cool if you want to help others and comment on their pages but it is also cool if you don't. This is the nice thing about beeing a part of this community. Do what is good for you and people will not be hurt. Your only responsibility here is your own detox.
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These times are never pleasant. But it can be very helpful if get challenged emotionally. This will help you to know yourself better if you take the time to think about why you are reacting this way.
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12 hours ago, Mhyrion said:
Storm. I have been pushing this away for far too long. Now I've finally stepped up it's been a flood of emotions, confusion, fear and insecurities. I indulged in the comfort of nothingness, books, food, hot showers and sleep to be at least mildly comfortable and distracted. I can't blame me.
Today is back to business whether I like it or not, even with a storm razing in the back. It hasn't been really smooth sailing so far, but keeping busy with work and chores is a distraction on it's own.
Hey I hope you'll be able to whether the storm. What ever it is.
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Always makes my day if I can help someone with a few lines of written advice.If it includes bringing people to pour cold water over the heads: even better
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Btw. The topic starter Badge is really usefull for oversight. Good idea.
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11 hours ago, zeke365 said:
Days 139-144
It will be 21 days this Sunday since I have been doing this routine of mine with no media expect weekends which means it breaks the habit I hope of being online all the time.
Now starting Monday I will be focusing on improving my health that goes beyond exercise and eating healthy so I can feel better about myself. Some you may ask why I did not focus on that first well that because in the past when I did I never went through with it and probably would have not focused on my goals as I m now. I decided to work on my goals first so I have something established this month before going to health that way I can keep going and finding new ways to improve myself.
The second thing I have been considering though I m not sure I really want to do it is add news to the no media detox. The reason being is to get my focus more on reality rather than fantasy. That why I m considering it but what are your thoughts about adding it in there. By the way, it would only be a news app I have not going to the website per say that is still off limits and quite enjoying myself not having media as a distraction.
Facebook will be open temporarily so I can get info on something but it only allowed in the group I know of anime Atlanta weekend other than that I cant do anything else. Once I have the info I need then it will go completely blocked again.
I personally found it refreshing to not watch the news for a longer time. There are a lot of tings in politics which takes you mind in a place where you are afraid/angry/sad without the possibility of chaniging much. I am definitely for trying to change the world but how can I do this if I don't even have my shit together? So I'll focus first on this and if I am in a good place I'll check the news again more closely and find a way to imporve the world. But I don't know how news influence you personally. I would ask myself: Does it help me to reach my goals or does it hinder them? In doubt just try it out for a week and watch it closely. You're surely get a feeling about the right thing to do then. Go with that feeling.
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On 19.1.2018 at 6:14 PM, BigOlBeartic said:
Update .: I don't want to go to bed with the 2H wasted. I know its friday but I just feel terrible that I wasted that time. I'm gonna be up 2 more hours, programming/studying to make up for it.
Discipline is a good thing but don't push yourself to far. Some balance is important. THink of yourself as two persons. One is the rational thinking one who wants to achieve great things and break bad habits. THe other one is your primal identy who wants his needs met. He wants dopamin , oxytocin and other hormons which make him feel great. None of the two persons should dominate the other, because it doesn't work that way sustainable. If you rational self is wipping your primal self all the time in submission it will take over and you will break your commitements to yourself and hurt yourself. The best way to reach anything is in my experience to let them work together.
You need fulfill your primal needs in a constructive way (need dopamine? Cold showers/excercise can help, feeling alone? Phone with friends or family). Think about the ways gaming/watching tv helped you in the past and find positive ways to fill this void. Here is a video from cam about this subject :
Building new habits is a process which takes around around 66 days if what I have read and experienced is true. That's why you'll need a sustainable process at first and then you will slowly but inevatible progress in the areas you aim to progress in. One habit at a time. So don't beat yourself up if you don't become an awesome coder/artist/student/lover in 3 months. Aim for big goals in a timeframe of 5 years. In a timeframe of 3months stopping gaiming and forming new positive habits instead is a great goal for itself.
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On 19.1.2018 at 6:10 AM, BigOlBeartic said:
I switched my major to something i like, started at a new university last year, and I'm doing by best to stop gaming. I got a part time job and also started volunteering and I'm joining a club soon. I'm finally also growing past my bad mentalities and gaining self confidence. I decided I would start to keep count of the days I go addiction free, and I wanted to join a community to help me along so here I am.
Welcome and great job at taking responsibility for your life. It easy to blame others or your environment. It took me personally a long time to make this step in my mind. We can't control our outcomes in life but we can sure as hell influence the propability of good or bad things happening to us. You are doing things to put weight on the right side of the scale and this is awesome. If you accept this and keep doing stuff to improve your life instead of self sabotating yourself, your self-esteem will raise almost as a side effect. You can be proud of yourself if deliver the best input you can give at any given moment. The output or the actual results of your actions may vary, but you can always be proud of your effort.
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8 hours ago, stablish said:
Done.
My admin be praised! Thank you
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8 hours ago, BigOlBeartic said:
Interesting journal, and I'm wishing you the best of luck! Why force yourself to have cold showers though?
They make me feel great afterwards, they train my self-discipline and they are good foor my dry skin.
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Week 4: 21. January 2017 - 28. January 2018
Results
one coffee a day (check)
cold shower if I shower (check)
10 pushups+10rows+20 squats / a day (check)
Pomodori (41)Next week
Coffe only after 4 Pomodori.
cold showers
10 PU / 12R / 20S
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Week 13 (22. -28.01.2018)!
The 3 month mark went by and nothing happened. I still think sometimes about eating a few sweets but it isn't dominant or needed and I'll keep it that way in the future. This week I only drank one coffee a day at work and took almost all showers cold. Work was more productive then the first week but there is still room to improve. I also did my push-ups, rows and squats which seems to be a good start of a high intensity routine I#ll develop over the next month. Basically circling between some exercises and doing 2-3 circles. Right now 1 circle a day is enough. I have no time and no big desire for porn and feel pretty good about me for now. I am thinking about experimenting with coffee as a reward for a 4 Pomodori Session. Because I really like the taste off my cappucino and it would result in around 3 of them a day which is a good amount of coffeine for me without beeing excessive. All in all it is an exciting and productive time. I feel like life finally arrived after beeing on hold for too long at university and with playing games.
@Hitaru @stablish @Cam Adair Can someone of you plz change the title of the journal into "Journal (10/2017 - xx/xxxx)" ?
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Hey there. We all relapsed at some (or several points) while quitting. The changes are all ready happening to you. You see that it isn't really a relaxing activity to play videogames (or atleas tit wasn't for me). It is more something really engaging to surpress anxiety. A thing you could ask yourself is if you really need more relaxation or just a better pruprose for what you are doing. I personally always though I need jsut to relax after a few hours of work. But lately I started a new job and have a newborn son and I am happy doing active things most of my time wiht no real breaks (besides commute and time with my son, where I have to keep him happy ;). If I do a lot of things just because we should do them or because we want to reach some unclear goal which doesn't really mean a lot to us it hard to sustain motivation. I get bored and feel sluggish. This goes away if I feel like I am progressing in things which are important to me. I am getting better at my new job, I am getting better at helping my wife and son, I am getting better at beeing productive. These things are important to me and for my self esteem and I think about how I can do even better every day. This keeps me motivated and focussed.
You will have other priorities but make them clear towards yourself. If you know where you're aiming at (even if this changes over time) it will get easier. I don'T mean the end of the detox but more generally in life. What do you want? What makes you feel good about yourself? How does your dream life look like? It is ok if it isn't socially correct or would make your parents blush because you want jsut to have sex with beautiful women all the time. It is ok if it is alittle vain because you'll want to have status, be rich and famous. Just realize what you really want with out judging it. Then your priorities will fall in place over time.
Here is an article about that theme: https://markmanson.net/life-purpose
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Hey there seems to come up a lot of shit for you lately. It is always you. It isn't always your fault, you definitely don't are guilty all the time but it is always your choice of how you react to other things incluencing you. This seems rather harsh but it is empowering because your behaviour is changeble in opposition to the people around you. Also life is a btich an will always through challenges at you. That isn't just that is jsut reality. But challenges give you the opportunity to face yourself and your behaviour and how to improve them.
This was more a general philosophical rant but I can relate to your situation with your girlfriend. As I started here I was really focussed on myself and how to improve me. I asked myself what is good for me? WHat can I do to become a better person? This wasn't all abd but gone to far. My wife started to be feeling left behind.
Try to talk with her if you both have calmed down and look behind your first reaction on her anger. Most people doesn't just get angry towards people they love because they are assholes. They are feeling hurt. I am sure there is an issue behind this which just isn't clear to you. Maybe she feels alone in her own struggles now that you spend more time thinking about yourself. Maybe she has something entirely else on her mind. Maybe she jsut had a bad day and didn't eat enough. There are so many reasons. Be interested in what it is what's bugging her. Not just that you can fix it but because you want to know and understand her.
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After I read your entry's i got the feeling that a meditation practice could help you a lot. It will be hard to sit and do nothing for you. This will focus you. Give it a try with headspace.com or something similar. I think especially for those with an overachiever tendency this can help put things into perspective.
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Nice job. Micro controller knowledge will be important in current jobmarket (especially here in germany with all the "intelligent" cars), Cool thing that you learn to sue them at university. This will serve you well.
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Detox: 16.10.2017 - 16.01.2018 (Porn and unproductive Youtube added for last month)
Week 12 (15. -22.01.2018)!
Tomorrow I will have done the 3 months of no sugar.
Results:
- weight loss of 7kg (83 ->76)
- accumulated more knowledge about nutrition and saw that crap food is crap food, how delicious it may be.
- 1 month without porn
What now?
I changed over the last few months. My habits changed too and I am still working towards the goal of becoming the man I want to be. In the looks department this means building muscle (around 10kg of muscle) and getting a personal style. In the character department I want to be more strenuous, more expressive wiht my emotions on a personal level and motivating and risk taking on a professional level. I want to be fine without any substances (Coffee I am coming for you!) and keep a cool head if things get hard. I want to stay off porn. I want to be a better friend and take care of my family and the people who are important to me. I want to create finally a working software product and finish things I start.
I want to do a lot. Eating a lot of sugar for the dopamine high isn't me anymore. I'll eat sugar again if someone put a lot of effort into a dessert but otherwise I will evade it. I will drink the next 3 months (until 15.04.2018) only one coffee per day and finish my basic alexa app in the next two weeks (until 29.01). I'll also will do some sort of excercise 2 times a week. I'll start by doing 10 push-ups and 10 table-rows and 20 squats every day. after two weeks of this conditioning I'll start break days and increase the volume. Then I'll add pull-ups and dips. The goal for 15.04.2018 is to be doing workouts of 3 sets of 20 wide push-ups, 20 wide rows, 5 pull-ups , 5 dips and 10 pistol-squats.
@Hitaru Can you change the title of the journal into "Journal (10/2017 - xx/xxxx)" ?
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Week 3: 13. January 2017 - 20. January 2018
I started a knew job as a Consultant and work primarily at a computer. This makes working with pomodoros both easier and more important.
This week I had 34 pomodoros in 5 days which is ok but in this setting not good enough. I want reach 10 P per day. I'll log the P-count as productivity measure every week friday and post here the results without further comment for later reference.
All in all I felt pretty energitized last week but too much coffee left me with some headaches. This brings me to my agenda for next week:
one coffee a day / cold shower if I shower / 10 push-ups and 10 table rows every day (want to ease into a daily training habit)
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On 10.1.2018 at 4:29 AM, TheNewMe said:
Hey all,
Haven't posted on here in a loong while (sorry about that :/)! The truth is that shortly after my last post I ended up relapsing and gaming for about 2 straight days, then on and off for about another week. By the end of the relapse, I was back to square one again--horrible sleep schedule, filthy room, behind on my studies, boxes of junk food all around me. Square one, after being so close to making it out of the hard part of the detox.
What snapped me out of the trance was the realization that my life had degraded to the point of utter shit, that I had a big test coming up in less than 150 days that I had barely started studying for, and that if I didn't get my shit together immediately I would fail my test and be stuck a loser forever. That thought drove me to start up my 90 day detox again.
The good news is that this second try at 90 days has been far easier than the first. I'm already wrapping up Day 12, and so far I've been able to consistently stick with this schedule without too much difficulty:
6:30: Wake up
6:30-7:30: Light cardio (jog, basketball, etc.) and breakfast
8:00-9:35: 95 minute study session
9:35-9:45: 10 minute break
9:45-11:15: 90 minute study session
11:15-11:45: 30 minute break
11:45-13:15: 90 minute study session
13:15-13:25: 10 minute break
13:25-14:55: 90 minute study session
15:00-17:00: Gym
17:00 onwards: Shower, Review, Clean, Break, Bed
22:00: Lights out
Weird schedule I know, but specifically designed to mimic the 7.5 hour long sausage fest that is the medical school entrance exam.
Anyways that's about it for this update, hopefully this new detox is able to stay intact until the exam (at the very latest). Now that I've finally made it to Day 12 again I'll try to update daily once more.
Welcome back. Don't be sorry. You don't owe anyone of us anything. Seriously don't feel bad about it.
Pretty much everyone who made it through the detox relapsed at some point. If you have the experience and realized how life is if you don't take care of your commitments to yourself you really starting to change. This is worth a lot. A relapse can also show you what was going wrong the last time. It can help you to ask yourself what is the reason for my behaviour and this is always a great thing to do.
It is really impressive that you stick to that hardcore schedule and it shows that you are really motivated from your goal and your dream. I would advice you to think about some measurable success criteria where you can see if your knowledge of the subjects really improves. Maybe there are test exams which you could go through (topic wise after you studied for a topic)?
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On 9.1.2018 at 10:11 AM, tirEdOrange said:
I think I will turn at this point and use this talent for myself, as I did a long time ago and reject others. I was so happy when I broke out of Isolation and was able to bring joy, hope and fulfillment in other peoples lives, to see them develop and leave behind their void.
Truth is that there are probably only a handful of people worth investing my heart and soul in... at least that's what I hope. If I would only rely on my experience so far then I would say that I haven't met any of them... except maybe 1 person.
During the last 2 months I've lost 3kg, studied hard, stopped to drink and smoke at all. I gamed excessively and from one day to another I stopped because I realized I just hit rock bottom and that if I don't make it through the next months that I will fall into oblivion... maybe for the rest of my life. And it's fucking hard to maintain these changes.
And yet,.... after all these experiences I still hoped that anyone that remained with me would help me out... would lend me a hand to get out of my void.
But no one came, even when I asked. Sad. Instead I get stabbed in the back again by a person I respected a lot during the last years... during a condition like this.
I'm. Fucking. Done. With. People.
I always wanted to be the superhero... turns out I have to be the Supervillain to survive through this mess of betrayal and selfishness.
Maybe one day things will change and I can open up again but until then I will embrace everything that I am right now and elevate it into something better. I don't believe in people anymore.
Hey great job on your improvements over the last months. Stopping to drink and to smoke is hard.
It isn't selfish or bad to invest your energy in your self and only the people who enrichen your life. You are the only one you have to live with for the rest of your life. So never stop to care for yourself. Only if your able to take care of yourself and to set clear boundaries with people influencing you in a bad way you are able to open up and help others. You need a fundation to build a house. Often I helped people because I want the validation we get from them and was hurt if they don't delivered. This is not healthy at all. I decided to build myself up and make a strong fundation so I can serve other people (for example my family) because that is who I want to be. Not what they want me to be. The results may look similar but internally this is totally different.
In the end you are alone. It is your responsibility to take care of you. This isn't depressing if you really look at it. It is liberating:
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9 hours ago, ChewyChickenBones said:
Waiting to start my colonoscopy and endoscopy. Thank you all for your support. I am nervous as hell.
@Cam Adair Thank you for creating Game Quitters.
Best of luck. I hope everything is fine!
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1 hour ago, Michael Lee said:
Working at a coffee shop helps a little with the always tired. Anyone have any suggestions for the constantly tired. I had 8 hours of sleep which is 2 more than normal. I've also had my skis tuned up for the first time this year, I have decided to try and be more active again hoping it will help out.
This can be a problem. I would advice you to go systematically through following questions.
Do I drink enough fluid (water/tea/coffee)? Aim for a minimum of one glass of water (0,2l) every waking hour.
Have I eaten enough food? Try to eat things which last for while.
Did I do something which made my heart rate go up today? (Otherwise you are often sluggish and not tired at all)
Is nothing psychological taxing draining my energy?
Do I have enough pauses in the day (usually not the problem if you have regular working pauses where you don't work concentrated. But there are some workaholics here so I added it)
Do I have an active project for myself where I feel committed and can work towards? (This helps ton with motivation and energy level)
If you can answer all these questions with an yes consider to check yourself at a doctor. Some things easy to medicate like a lack of vitamin D or thyriod problems are common reasons for being tired all the time. So check them out and point your doctor towards the right tests if they don't do it from themselves. But usually the top suggestions will leave you energetized and you don't have to worry about being ill or depressed.
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Great Video wich summs up what I learned about Focus in the last 2 years. It isn't mine though. Especiallay the Priority list was a new technique I'll try out.