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  1. @Kiki @indie_rok — My passion, and most important project right now, is addiction research. I've been studying, reading books, experimenting, creating products, etc. about overcoming addiction for a while now. And I'm getting deeper in it over time. As one sub-project in this, I'm currently working on contributing to GameQuitters upcoming new resources, so I'm very excited about that. I am convinced I have something unique to contribute to this field. I'm no formal scientist, but I read and research a freaking lot, and I have a very peculiar set of interests and skills. I think by combining cognitive psychology, philosophy, mindfulness, modern personal development, and other fields, a fresh perspective on overcoming addiction could be developed. And I'm working on it. I'm all about knowledge convergence. I'm not trying to discover anything amazing. I'm just trying to learn every single bit that humankind has discovered about addiction, and condense that knowledge a little bit, into something more clear and actionable.
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    Day 6!

    Hey dirkj3, good stuff! Keep it up! I've read The Slight Edge and I enjoyed it. Books I'd recommend about short-long term gratification, the best I've read is The Willpower Instinct, by Kelly McGonigal. Without a doubt. Another great book on that subject (although not as awesome as the previously mentioned) is Switch, by Dan Heath.
  3. Cool cool! Going back into games is neither "right" nor "wrong". I just recommend that you ensure to make the decision honestly, instead of being tricked by the addiction. ? I don't know if the need to feel powerful is something truly worth pursuing, but hey, every person with their own decisions!
  4. Day 7. All good. The book I'm reading about quitting smoking is hilariously relevant to quitting videogames (and possibly other addictions too). Yesterday I spent some time planning some projects and goals for the next 3-6 months, and I realized that (for me) this is the most important resource for quitting addictive behavior. I can't remove games and simply leave a void in there. But I cannot fill the void with standalone activities that I deem "productive" either (I see this often in the forum... picking up an activity like learning a language, working out, etc — That is great, but, in my case, not enough). The void is just much bigger than that. So... what I need is a project I'm passionate about, something I can focus on at any time. Something I'll look forward to when waking up. If not a life purpose, at least one project I'm in love with. I will do my best to keep this in mind every day, work hard towards my goals, and ideally, experience a state of Flow more and more often. I'm thinking that quitting videogames for its own sake, is possible, but hard. But devoting passionately to a project I'm truly passionate about, to the extent that I will barely have time or energy to play games... that seems more fulfilling, and also easier! ? I realize this is not a magic solution, but might be a good approach to try. Focus more on what I'm adding to my life, instead of working hard at removing videogames. It's similar to improving your diet: It's highly recommended to add more healthy foods. You'll mitigate cravings, you'll feel less hungry, you'll feel better, etc., and junk food will have less and less appeal over time. Perhaps the same could apply here.
  5. This is super inspiring. ? ? ? ? Great job on deleting every game in your phone! Regarding watching anime... I guess that's only a problem when you binge-watch, right? Perhaps try to put a daily time limit to yourself? You know, as our parents might have done when we were little. It can sound silly but if you are determined to stick to your limits, it should work. I'm assuming anime is not as "addictive" as other things such as videogames, so you might be able to control it with willpower alone. If you find you cannot control it, then yes... it might be better to stop anime cold-turkey for a while. Regarding your creative struggle... well.. that's part of the creation process. Your drawings are AMAZING. And I partially agree with your instructor, that story is crucial, but I also agree with @J(e)RK, in that drawings alone can be enjoyable and even convey a feeling or a message on their own. I relate to both points of view because I've been on both sides of the dilemma when I produced music, a while back. In the end... it's really up to you to decide what aspects you want to focus on, what skills you want to practice and improve, and, most importantly, to decide why you draw. Just know that if you want to improve your story-writing... you can do it. Practice it every day. Search online for ideas on how to do improve. Join communities about that. Etc. You can do it.... IF you want. ?
  6. Day 3. All good. My best friend, despite knowing I'm taking a break from gaming, asked if I wanted to play some PUBG. He wasn't pushy, he was more like surveying if I wanted to play a little bit in moderation. I said No and that's it. It felt good. I didn't tell him "I'm not gonna play EVER AGAIN", because... well... I know addiction mechanisms fairly well (at least, mine). I know false quitting. I know the trap of "getting addicted to say I'm gonna quit". I'm just gonna do my very best, trying to stay clean as long as possible. I'm not gonna say I'll make it to day 90; but I definitely think I'll break my last streak of 7 days without games this time. This time I have a few new, fresh tools: 1. The finnish concept of Sisu. 2. The inspiration from reading Ender's Game. 3. Deeper knowledge about addiction mechanisms (Delta FosB accumulation, reading a book about quitting smoking, re-reading The Addictive Brain, etc). 4. "Commonplacing", a really helpful technique to take my research on addiction to a new level; but also to keep it fresh and actionable. 5. Of course... Gamequitters content and community! I didn't leverage this last time I tried to quit games. Quick reminder to myself: For a slight moment I thought of gaming in moderation. The thought is veeeery slowly starting to creep in. NO. I am 100% sure that I do not want to play videogames, not even moderately. And, most important of all: I know very soon I'll try to trick myself into believing "I can play with moderation". Don't fall for it. Also, note to myself... Stop bitching and SELL YOUR FREAKING GAMING RIG. GOGOGO.
  7. Day 2. All good. Today I made sure I'm unsubscribed from any gaming-related content: Youtube channels, subreddits, etc. I feel amazing. These past days without games have been incredibly productive. Before this, I wasn't even playing that much... but staying clean is not so much a matter of getting more free time, but rather, a cleaner, more focused brain. Quick reminder to myself: REMEMBER. The trap is the temptation to play in moderation. Yes, it could be possible to do it, but I've decided to mitigate the risk and NOT try it. I do not want to play in moderation.
  8. Day 1. All good. Actually I haven't played games for something like 4 days. I uninstalled all my games a few days ago and I haven't played since. I've been incredibly productive today. Quick reminder to myself: REMEMBER; I will eventually rationalize playing again, I'll make an excuse about how I can play in moderation. I have to be extremely careful with this. I don't want to play in moderation.
  9. Adding to the great link Cam posted... I'd also suggest you check this out: http://www.movemequotes.com/buddha-getting-insulted/ — It might seem offtopic, but bear with me. You'll see why I share it with you. Also, to put things more bluntly: do a small mental game... pretend you were given a huge bag full of expired, rotten food. Do you really want to accept it, and have it around your house? At the very least, I'm pretty sure you don't want to eat it. You might feel guilty for the other person to have invested all that money in the food... but that was their choice, their mistake. You have no reason to get food poisoning because other person spent money. Back to your situation, I'm pretty sure the gift-giver doesn't want to cause you trouble. If possible, perhaps explain the situation and offer to give it back. If not, just sell it, donate it, whatever. Perhaps they'll understand. Perhaps not. As Cam's link says: A few might get offended, and that’s okay. Good luck!
  10. Day 0. (When quitting a negative behavior, I don't like counting the first day: it's dangerous to fall into "fake quitting") Allright. After a lot of lurking in here, I've decided to give this I try. I've studied a lot about addiction, but I don't want to fall into the trap of getting overconfident or cocky. It's just intelectual knowledge. I might know many common traps and mistakes when trying to quit something, but that doesn't make me immune to them. So I'll be mindful and careful with that. I'll start going through the Respawn content and I'll do my best to get this done. (I've tried it a few months back, but I wasn't really determined to achieve it). I know for a fact the first 6-7 days will be easy peasy. I've done it many times, zero games for a week. But after that, it gets exponentially more difficult. I'll still be careful not to fail in the first week, but I want to remind myself to be particularly mindful after that initial period. Quick reminder to myself: Deplete that motherfucking Delta FosB accumulated in your nuccleus accumbens. Fix that goddamn brain!
  11. Welcome to the community! Wow, those parts I highlighted hit home. I actually know getting rid of my gaming rig would be the best thing I could do for my life right now. And yet I keep postponing it, making the excuse that I could play in moderation. I think I'll set a deadline to donate or sell my rig too. When do you plan to do it? Maybe let's set a group deadline!
  12. Hello Misha, welcome to the forum! You can do this!!! I was also into Dota. There's a good side of quitting it: You won't have to deal with toxic teammates any more.
  13. Hi there! I'm Ignacio, from Argentina, and I'm 28 years old. Long time-lurker here (I've signed up for Respawn in April 2017 but never really completed it fully). I'm extremely passionate about cognitive psychology and neuroscience, specifically regarding addiction, depression and anxiety. I've been studying these subjects on my own for the past 2 years or so (reading books and following the latest scientific studies). I've never dealt with depression nor anxiety myself, but I have my own personal addiction problem. My gaming addiction is "on the mild side", I often feel like disconnecting and storing my gaming PC, and not play for a week or two. It's like a mini-reset. BUT... I realized this gave me a false sense of security. These mini-resets ARE NOT a full 90-day reset. Only after 90-days free of gaming I'll be able to objectively see my true relationship with games. So... no matter if my problem is relatively mild, it's still a problem. I'll work to fix it. I'll go through the Respawn program again. (I was planning to help translate it to Spanish too, so this is perfect: I can make/review translations as I go through it!). Re. my goal: I love creating digital products and services, I've been doing it for a while, and I'm sure gaming is currently a big productivity obstacle. I could create 10x more if I didn't play games. Not necesarily because I'm gaming all the time, but rather, because many times I tend to funnel (or rather, waste) my creativity and energy into games. Godspeed, and papa bless!
  14. Day #7 Monday. Woke up around 11am. Had a pretty moderately productive day. Beginning the week, I resumed my gaming detox, this time it will hopefully last more than 1 week. I'll make sure to continue checking the video resources on this site and browse the forums a bit more. Hopefully that will help. I noticed two things: 1. The difficult part is not avoiding games, but conjuring up the will power to do the productive things I want to do instead. i.e. usually when gaming I was escaping some task. 2. Compulsive gaming is fun in the moment, but then makes me feel like crap, hinders my energy, productivitiy and mood. So: I should take more care of my future self rather than my current state. I really feel like playing games right now. -- edit: I ended up watching some Game Quitters videos, checking out another module, and I'm going to start reading "The Slight Edge" (I had bought it in 2014, and never read it. lol!) edit: Hmmm. Forcing yourself to do your productive tasks actually makes you feel great.