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My Goal is to Write Every Day to this Journal

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I have watched this video:

 and this man told that if i want to stop play in video games I must write every day to my journal. So I decide to do this. My goal is to write to this journal every day.  It's not easy because I don't know English very well and every sentence is a lot of time for me. Yes I can write this journal in Russian and it will be more easy for me but I think that hard work is a good work. So I will know English better. Maybe this journal will help me to stop play in video games and I will know English better. 

 

 

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2 day:
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I uninstalled all games yesterday. It's very easy. But I can install them again. So the main goal is not install them again (it's not easy). But I want to say that I did not play yesterday, I did not visit any useless website, I worked yesterday all day and it was nice. So I hope that today I also will not play I hope that I will not visit any useless websites, I hope that I will open only useful websites for my life and I will not waste my time for useless things. This is my goal to this day.

Also I want to watch some videos and I want to read a book about addiction. If I want to be free from addiction I must know more about it.My second goal is to watch and to read something about addiction.
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Update:

I watched this video about addiction to games:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X9LetLmpRBc

And the main things form this video:
1. One of the first principle that makes you a man is the ability to make a good decision. My decision is to stop play in video games and to stop read and watch useful information. If I can do it I'm man.
2. The second thing is action. I want to do some action. I want to do only useful for me things.
3. Video game is really sad because they're basically just escaping into this fantasy video game world but we need to live in real world. Only real world can test our bravery and our honor and our integrity.
4. The thing that separate the men from the great men is perseverance. If you want to be the great men you have to have extraordinary perseverance. I need to have extraordinary perseverance to quit from games and useful information from websites.

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Update:

I have read some information from this book (Adam Alter "Irresistible")

"It’s hard to exaggerate how much the “like” button changed the psychology of Facebook use. What had begun as a passive way to track your friends’ lives was now deeply interactive, and with exactly the sort of unpredictable feedback that motivated Zeiler’s pigeons. Users were gambling every time they shared a photo, web link, or status update. A post with zero likes wasn’t just privately painful, but also a kind of public condemnation: either you didn’t have enough online friends, or, worse still, your online friends weren’t impressed. Like pigeons, we’re more driven to seek feedback when it isn’t guaranteed".

 

So the main thing is we became pigeons. We don't want to play but we play.

 

"The act of liking subsequently became the subject of etiquette debates. What did it mean to refrain from liking a friend’s post? If you liked every third post, was that an implicit condemnation of the other posts? Liking became a form of basic social support—the online equivalent of laughing at a friend’s joke in public. Likes became so valuable that they spawned a start-up called Lovematically. The app’s founder, Rameet Chawla, posted this introduction on its homepage:
It’s our generation’s crack cocaine. People are addicted. We experience withdrawals. We are so driven by this drug, getting just one hit elicits truly peculiar reactions.
I’m talking about Likes.
They’ve inconspicuously emerged as the first digital drug to dominate our culture".

So it's important for us not to visit useless websites. We are not pigeons.

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Hello kef777!

Doing this purely on willpower is difficult.

I recommend using website blocking software like ColdTurkey or Freedom.

Like you mentioned, random feedback is a fiercely addictive thing. Getting the right tools does not make you a lesser man.

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Posted (edited)

hello Kef!! welcome!

Stay strong! I am here rooting for you! It will not be an easy journey, but when you reach the destination, u will know its worth it. 

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day 3
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I did not visit any useless website yesterday. I did not play yesterday. I like it. But it's only 2 days. I can install game again and I can visit useless website again. It's important to concentrate every day. My main goal today is not visit any useless website and I don't want to play today any second. My second goal is to watch something about addiction and to read something about addiction.  Knowledge is power.

It's important to find a new hobby. Sometimes I will be bored. It's normal. So I decide to sleep more often (my new hobby) and I decide to do something for ecology (my new hobby) (Yesterday I took  photos of the animals and plants in my park). My park will be changed other people (my government) and I fear that some animals and plants will die. So I want to make a lot of photos of the animals and plants in my park  and I want to send this information to ecologists and maybe my government will listen to this ecologists and we will save a lot of animals and plants.

So I like my new hobby (ecology) because I do something important and it's important to be more often on nature. I want to see nature more often.

My new hobby is a programming. I use Python to write a program in artificial intelligence. Sometimes I'm bored but sometimes I'm so happy and I have a lot of joy that I can write interesting programs. But if I play in video games I lose this happy. If I play I want only to play. I have this joy to programming only if I don't play. 

I have found this 3 new hobby (I will sleep more often if I bored, I will do something for ecology more often and I will see nature nature more often if I'm bored and I will write the programs in artificial intelligence more often if I'm bored). I hope that I will have a lot of joy to this things and I hope that this hew hobbies will be more interesting for me than gaming and visit useless websites). I hope that my new hobbies will help me to overcome the addiction.

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Update:

 

Important information from this video:

1. Need to be free 90 days from gaming

2. Gaming gives the same type of dopamine rush and it's actually called rapid dopamine release

3.If you play in video games really intense your brain is changing. You don't want to play in games but your brain want to play.

4.Real life can be absolutely amazing, real life is more interesting than gaming.

5. If you play in video games really intense your brain will change. You will not have a lot of joy to real world. It's normal.

6. If you play in video games really intense you became hyper-reactivity to gaming which basically means that gaming is a lot of fun and everything else is boring

7. The third change is willpower erosion

8. 90 day detox will help you to came back. Your willpower will improve.

9. 90 days in enough time to start decent progress.

 

I want to be free 90 days from any games and from any useless websites. It's my goal. I don't want to visit any useless page in Internet 90 days and I don't want to play any second in any games. My willpower will improve.

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Update:

This is interesting information from book (Adam Alter "Irresistible" )  : “Many casinos use ‘luck ambassadors.’ They sense that you’re reaching your pain point—the moment when you’re about to leave the casino—and they dispatch someone to give you a bonus.” These bonuses were either meal vouchers or a free drink or even cash or gambling credits. Bonuses are classified as “marketing” rather than a way of changing the odds of winning, so regulators turned a blind eye. With a new dose of positive reinforcement, gamblers tended to continue playing anew, until they reached another pain point after a series of losses.

It's really interesting information. I think that any video game also try to give you positive reinforcement.

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16 hours ago, 16030669g said:

hello Kef!! welcome!

Stay strong! I am here rooting for you! It will not be an easy journey, but when you reach the destination, u will know its worth it. 

Thank you for good words. I failed a lot of time tried to be free from games and I hope that this attempt will be better.

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day 4

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I did not play yesterday, I did not visit any useless website. It's nice. I wrote a program in Python for machine learning. It's nice. I did not have a lot of passion to it but it was interesting for me to write programs. Also I wrote a letter to prosecutor's office to protect my park. I have a lot of passion for this. I think that my rights have been violated and the prosecutor will make decide.

 

My goal today is not play to games and my second goals is to read something and to watch something about addiction

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Update:

important thoughts from this video:

1. If I stop play in video games this can be the greatest catalyst of my life.

2. I can relapse quickly after. So I must be very concentrate on my goal to stop play in video games and to stop visit useless websites.

3. If I stop play video games I'm feeling a sense of loss. I trying to cover up the sense of loss but if I am not careful I can very quickly relapse. So it's important to be very careful.

4. Sometimes it will be not easy for me. I will feel depression or something like that and  I will want to play in video games. These stages aren't always linear and they can be a bit up and down they can weave in they can weave out. It's normal.

5. If I feel depressed some days that's okay. I'm forming a new identify. It's normal. I can feel this void because gaming was filling it. I was a gamer. It can still mean something to me. It's normal.I will make a new version of myself. It's okay.

6. I need go around and be with nature. Nature has the ability to heal me and heal my spirit.

7. I need to be connecting with other friends. I must being social. I need spend my time with friends. I need call them on the phone. And I will call my friend. I agree with that.

8. I need to be one day at a time be in nature. I need make sure that I'm social. I agree with that. I think that this good thought.

8. I move from one chapter my life to another chapter of my life. It's nice. That is beautiful.This is an opportunity to learn more about myself. I will feel alive

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Update:

"You start playing because you want to have fun, but you continue playing because you want to avoid feeling unhappy" this is quote from book. I agree with that. It's nice quote.

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I did not play yesterday. I did not visit any useless website.I did not visit any useless page in Internet. It's nice. I like it. I had a very big passion to my park yesterday. My park has some problems. I see fires every day. I see a lot  garbage everyday. It's really bad for plants and for animals. No one try to do something to change situation. I wrote many letters to my government to do something but no one did something to improve situation.

Firefighters extinguished fire in the park yesterday.

I had so big passion to change situation. And now very important people will read my letters again in government in my city and in government in capital of my country. Also procurator will make some decision. I hope that he will write a fine to people who do nothing.

I'm waiting now decision from procurator, from some people in my city in government and from some people in capital of my country in government.

My passion yesterday was so big that I slept only 6 hours. I could only think about it. I want to change situation. I want to protect green plants and animals from fires and from garbage.

My goal today is not play in video games and not to visit any useless web page in Internet. My second goal today is to read something and to watch something about addiction.

I was so happy yesterday that important people decided to read my letters again and analyze this situation again. I need to wait 30 days (important people will  analyze this situation 30 days).  My passion was so big, so big.

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Update:

Important things from video:

1. People are unhappy, and they want to escape into the virtual world.

2. We are nobody in the real world, and we want to become important person in virtual world. We want to be hero but real heroes overcome with difficulties, but do not run away from the difficulties in the virtual world to find escape. We are not hero if we run away from the difficulties.

3. If we run away from difficulties, If we play,  we become antisocial, we become weak. We need to learn to overcome with difficulties. If we run away from difficulties, we become anti-heroes.

4. We play to be heroes but we become anti-heroes. It's truth this addiction.

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Update from book:

Quote: "Historically most gamers have been men, but the gaming world has begun to appeal to women and other underserved groups. In fact, in August 2014, women over the age of eighteen became the largest demographic in gaming". It's interesting.

"Time called the game one of the fifty worst in inventions of all time"

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day 5

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I did not play yesterday,. I did not visit any useless web page in Internet. It's nice. I have great passion to my park. Some people think that big passion is a good but if you have big passion you can think only about it. It's not easy to work it's not easy to do something. It's good but it's as also bad.

I'm glad that I'm abe to have so big passion inside. It's nice. You feel a lot of energy, a lot of desire to do something inside your body.

If you have a lot of passion you live in this world.

I had a lot of passion to video games a lot of years.

I'm very glad that today I have passion to something else.

My goal today is to not play in video games not to visit useless web sites. and to read something from book and to watch something about addiction.

I think that if you are gamer it's important not to play but to find your new passion. Your new passion is the best heal thing.

I want to tell that I don't want to watch something about addiction and I don't want to read something about addiction but I need to do this. It's a pill, and I have to drink this pill every day because I can play in video game again and it will be bad for my life.

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Update:

Important thoughts from the video:

3 steps to stop Stop Mindlessly Browsing The Internet

1. "Choose new activities". I agree with it. It's obviously.

2. Engagement > Entertainment

3. Sit with urges

I don't agree with it. I think that the most important thing to Stop Mindlessly Browsing The Internet is to stop to visit useless web sites at all.

Mindlessly Browsing The Internet is an addiction. If we want to overcame addiction wee need to stop do this addiction at all.

So we must stop to visit this useless web sites. We need to concentrate on that every day. But I'm agree that we need to find new activities. But I think that useless websites are addiction. You can not visit them only 1 or 10 times every day. You will do it a lot of time or you can stop to do that at all. You have two choice.

The most important thing is to visit only useful pages in Internet.

I think that this web site is a useful.

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Update:

"In a classic paper, marketing professors Dražen Prelec and Duncan Simester showed that people will pay up to twice as much for the same item when using a credit card rather than cash. Credit cards, like slot machine cards, hide all feedback from a spender, who has to keep track of his own gains and losses instead. ” This is a quote from a very interesting book about addiction Adam Alter "Irresistible".

It's interesting quote.

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I did not play yesterday, I did not visit any useless page on the Internet. I was happy yesterday, because I felt the sea of passion within myself. My goal today is not to play games and not visit useless video sites.

The most important thing - I was happy yesterday. I was happy without games and without useless sites. I was happier than when I was playing games and was uselessly surfing the Internet.

My goal today is not to play in any video games and not to visit any useless web site. My second goal is to watch something about addiction and to read something addiction.

I think that now I'm happier, because I do not feel guilty, that I spend my time on useless things.

If you find something interesting and useful, then it is interesting and there is no sense of guilt.

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Update:

5 Books You Must Read To Help You Quit Playing Video Games

 

1. "Power of of Habit", I already read this book, so it's not new information for me.

2. "The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life" by Jeff Olson

3. "HOOKED" by Nir Eyal

4. "In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction, Winner of the 2009 Hubert Evans Non-Fiction Prize"

"Dr. Mate, who for twelve years practiced medicine in Vancouver’s notorious Downtown Eastside – North America’s most concentrated area of drug use, begins by telling the stories of his patients, who, in their destitution and uniformly tragic histories, represent one extreme of the addictive spectrum. With his trademark compassion and unflinching narrative eye, he brings to life their ill-fated and mostly misunderstood struggle for relief or escape, through substance use, from the pain that has tormented them since childhood".

Maybe I will read this book.

5. "Gorilla Mindset: How to Control Your Thoughts and Emotions and Live Life on Your Terms"

"Mike Cernovich's mindset techniques have helped countless men and women improve their health and fitness, develop deeper personal and romantic relationships, and take control of anxiety and worry, and make more money.

Cernovich knows everyone can live a life previously unimaginable by taking control of their mindset".

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Update:

"FarmVille and other Facebook games were successful in part because once you were hooked they never let you go" this is quote from book.

 

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I did not play yesterday. I did not visit any useless web sites yesterday. It's nice. It was easy. I don't use any program to do that. I like my new hobby more than playing games. I do not need to force myself. I am glad for the new changes.

Yesterday I decided to record voice birds in my park. I bought new microphone for birds. I did it because I want to know which birds live in the park. It was interesting to use  microphone for birds. It was more interesting than playing games or visit useless web sites. To record the voices of birds and to discover them is something new for me. It is always more interesting to do something new than to repeat the old bad habit.

Also I walked in park I saw nature It's nice. It's more interesting than sitting alone at the computer.

Today my goal is to read something about addiction and to watch something about addiction. I don't want to do that but I must do it to overcame my addiction. Also my goals is not to play and not to visit any useless web site.

P.S.

It's very interesting to record the voices of birds

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Update:

Important thoughts from the video:

1. The problem with video games is that it constantly rewards my brain for achieving nothing.

2. If we play we are just wasting our life

3. Video games are specifically designed to hack my natural reward

4. The most addicting games constantly bomdard us with rewards.

Update from book:

Quote:

"Which of the following steps in the chain below would you expect to make people happiest?
Step 1: Desiring something (food, sleep, sex, etc.).
Step 2: Wondering whether that desire will be satisfied.
Step 3: Having the desire satisfied.

Step 3 is the obvious answer. It’s the step that frustrated fans when The Italian Job, Serial, and The Sopranos ended without resolution, and it’s the reason we bother with steps 1 and 2 at all".

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