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    The last 3 days have been amazing. 1) My anti-depressant and ADD medication have kicked in and everything feels so much easier ๐Ÿ˜ƒ 2) My two greatest sources of anxiety, uni graduation and job-hunting, have both started to seem like clear and actionable goals. The crucial key to both of these improvements was the self-knowledge that I gained at my current psychiatrists and their developmental disorders group. As it turns out, there are people/organisations out there whose entire job is to help out people like me, who are having a hard time as ASD/ADHD young adults. A happy spiral of [ self-knowledge -> better at seeking help -> even more self-knowledge ] has taken off. Feeling a lot of positive momentum now.
  2. No-one can be perfect all the time, we all have our bad days and bad weeks. Keep smiling, even amidst a mess๐Ÿ˜
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    This coming Saturday is day 90 of my "no gaming / video binge / porn" streak. Recently I've been feeling like not much has changed, but reading some of my older posts I have to admit there has been substantial progress. Well I'm still depressed & in my room most of the time, and once again a game is on my mind quite a lot. That doesn't change. Maybe this too could start changing bit by bit, now that I have a steady rhythm seeing my psychiatrist, and have connected with my university's student support centre. On top of that, on Friday I am seeing my new prof at university, as a preparation for my return to campus in October.
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    UBlock Origin is neat. Edited most of this post out because it was a lot of whining.
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    After my first ever 2-day hiking + camping trip at Oze National Park, I'm surprised at how much my body could do and how little fatigue I feel now. The highlight was walking down some frighteningly steep paths to see the Sanjo Falls, an enormous and gorgeous waterfall that we had to ourselves. A great big thanks goes to my best friend, who lent me shoes & rucksack, and carried all of the heavier equipment to make my rucksack lighter. Games were unexpectedly on my mind quite a lot. It turns out distinctively beautiful nature reminds me of the game's various playing areas. I found myself keen to play the game again, genuinely interested to roam the magnificent locations once again, which was a feeling I hadn't felt for a very long time. The addictive behaviour has become enticing again. A positive sign that my brain is reverting to its normal excitement levels! ๐Ÿ˜ (I searched the web a bit for some nice screenshots, and found them quite underwhelming.) Addiction recovery, as I understand it now, is 1) letting the behaviour's excitement return, and then 2) ignoring it. From here on, it seems the new challenge is the ignoring. Glad it isn't looking like much of a challenge.
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    Recently I am feeling less and less inclined to post in this journal. This is probably a good thing, because it reflects how much support I have found outside of my room. I will keep attending my ASD/ADD communication training group, and see my psychiatrist every other week. I can also keep discussing my situation honestly with my family and dear one. And then I have my university's student support room. All this support I could find because I admitted myself to be a severe gaming / internet addict and took a year off uni. After 8 months away from school, I am increasingly confident about my being able to graduate in some form. It's probably too early to start saying thank-yous, because my addiction / depression is not fully gone. I will continue posting from time to time, but not very frequently, let alone daily. Edit: Maybe another reason is that my most pressing issue has shifted from addiction to communication malfunction. This forum is GameQuitters, not DevelopmentalDisorders.
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    My gaming / YouTube / porn abstention is nearing the end of week 8. I'm almost out of the woods in terms of DeltaFosB accumulation ๐Ÿ˜‡ I'm feeling stronger and mentally balanced, and looking at my physical journal entries around Feb~March, I can't believe how depressed this person was. Going for a easy hiking + camping trip with an old friend the coming week, which invitation I would have definitely turned down in February. It's bliss to be feeling like my body could do something. It would be even greater bliss to allow myself to be mediocre.
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    @Ambassador Watched it! The final remark was really sweet. "Maths" could be replaced with any difficult & important thing:
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    @Ambassador That's okay, I have a website blocker on so I can't access bingey websites anyway. I need to borrow somebody else's PC to watch that video, which I haven't yet.
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    Thank you @AssellusPrimus for the beautifully comprehensive hacklist. I usually don't like self-improvement stuff, but this one rings like a open-tuned dreadnought guitar. I would love to be able to honestly hold my brain's peculiarities as a gift. I have 4, 5, 7 sorted and am currently working on 8 in the brilliant Kon-Mari method ๐Ÿ˜Š Nice to have a list to tick off.
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    That sounds like a silly kind of hell. And I agree I think I live in one of those ๐Ÿคฃ And oh is that a Matt Parker video? I'm on a YouTube abstention but I do love Matt. Maybe I'll make it a cheat video tonight. Thanks for the recommendation. The thing is, yesterday I was shit by accident, and I did keep my head up, but also noticed my heart was crying like a grown up baby. I'm going to tell that insecure baby what you @Ambassador and @Phoenixking have told me today. Thank you!
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    My psychiatrist pointed out ADD in me, which means I have ASD, ADD and NPD. I'm honestly feeling totally relieved about myself, knowing that I'm not a shithead devil, and each major flaw in me has its place in medical care.
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    @Phoenixking I know that's right, at least right on paper, but I never felt like it was okay. My damaged core self-esteem makes improvement look like hell.
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    I hate being shit at things. I always choose to not try a difficult looking thing, but make the choice subtle so that even I don't realise my own sneaky avoidance. When I am accidentally shit at something, under my indifferent mask I am shaken and crying, and I make a subconscious vow to never try that thing again.
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    Went to see my cousin who now lives in the countryside. Their house doesn't have internet or TV signal, which apparently was a deliberate decision by my aunt. So my cousin's entertainment is the river just outside, the lake Sagami, some CDs & DVDs that they own, and radio (also a few tv recordings that he plays over and over). Spent a Saturday with them, talking, watching his favourite band's live DVD, cooking, and juggling. It wasn't a blast but it was a restorative experience.
  16. Laughed hard at that. That must have been great. I'm weirdly inclined to say a hilarious gig is worth foot pain, but as your foot seems to be in a really poor state, please take good care. I'm sure nobody gets pissed off over such an appropriate police call. Good luck on the cleaning up but be really careful about your foot!
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    Feeling gloriously peaceful again. At least this euphoria feels better than a sob.
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    That great feeling last morning faded away as the day went by and I was feeling a sob in the evening. Maybe I should be the most careful about mood swings. Keep them manageable.
  19. You remind me how grateful I am for what Cam has created. When it comes to addiction, knowledge is the most powerful & radical cure. Without Cam's work, I might still be without this knowledge - deep in depression, swinging blindly between addiction's heavy gloom & withdrawal's fierce stress. Just saying "I am a gaming addict" made so much fall into place for me. I'm hoping the forum will be of great help to you too! Good luck๐Ÿ˜Š
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    I'm feeling really good today. This is the best I've felt in the morning for a long while. Looking back at this post, I see what I need to be careful about. 1. The right amount of exercise really makes me feel great. Only the right amount is very very little! 2. Maybe ejaculate once a week and keep it at that. I masturbated on Monday but still feeling full of energy today. 3. Being open to family has really helped. Even if they are acting impatient, explain my situation patiently. And then they may or may not listen, it doesn't really matter. 4. I have a modest action plan for my recovery, so that's rid me of any guilt. I am changing what I can change. 5. Having low confidence isn't bad in itself. Maintaining the "Beginners' Mind" in all situations is the key to bringing happiness to people & myself. 6. Having an argument with that person somehow attracted a new potential friend to me. The world is clearly not full of douche-bags, so I should keep speaking my mind.
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    ASD communication training was really great. The conversation is patient-lead, so need to bring notes on what my communication-related struggles are. Listening to somebody with similar struggles felt very unsettling. Now I look back there was much common ground to be explored, but I kind of shut myself off.
  22. Glad you're alive and well ๐Ÿ˜ƒ I hear being sick as a foreigner in Japan can be quite expensive, tough luck for you there. My counsellor gave me this exact piece of advise just today. One thing at a time.
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    The university counsellor pointed out a bipolar-like manic tendency in me, and advised me to work on things one by one, instead of phoning every support quarter all at once. I'm amazed at how brilliant & helpful this was. Decided to focus on the ASD communication training + seeing the psychiatrist every other week for now.
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    The weather was exceptional today. Went to the park and let my body soak up the sunshine. Feeling content and peaceful.
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    My urge to game is pretty much non-existent. I suppose I'm quite a lucky addict, in that the kind of game that I liked to play is rapidly disappearing from the market. *mild trigger warning (because I talk about a genre) Even the one I was playing until this February - March wasn't really perfect to me: The sexualized female characters were getting really annoying. Being picky about unnecessary gender bullshit can help if you're quitting games.
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